Men, Sex & Pleasure with Cam Fraser

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Dr. Caroline Heldman. Dr. Heldman is a professor of Critical Theory & Social Justice at Occidental College in Los Angeles. She is also Executive Director of The Representation Project and a political commentator for Spectrum and CNN International. Dr. Heldman has published six books on gender justice and politics, and her work has been featured in numerous documentaries, including Miss Representation and The Mask You Live In. She co-founded the New Orleans Women’s Shelter, the Lower Ninth Ward Living Museum, End Rape on Campus (EROC), Faculty Against Rape (FAR), and led the End Rape Statute of Limitations (ERSOL) that successfully abolished the time limit on prosecuting rape in California. She is the Board President of the TEP Center, the first Civil Rights museum in New Orleans, and the Chair of the Board of Alturas Institute, a non-profit fighting for stronger democracy. Key points: - Dr. Heldman introduces herself - Levels of social justice advocacy - The impact of pornography on sex - Why we need to educate about porn - Sexual objectification - Selling body dissatisfaction to men - Body image issues and fatphobia Relevant links Caroline’s Instagram: @carolineheldman Caroline’s website: https://drcarolineheldman.com/

This quicky is a throwback to episode 43 with Kristopher Lovestone. Listen to that episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3UIOto5GmrCxlhYJA6thbD?si=otEL3dgZQHy698pTFFX0RQ&nd=1

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Luna Matatas. Luna is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches 30+ sexy skills topics; including threesomes, BDSM and sexual confidence. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise. Key points: - Luna introduces herself - “Peg the Patriarchy” - Men’s desire to dominate - What do we mean by dominance? - How to explore power play - Tips for concerned men - Tips for interested couples Relevant links: Luna’s website: https://lunamatatas.com/ Luna’s Instagram: @lunamatatas

This is a throwback to episode 42 with Jeff Abraham from Promescent. Listen to the full episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0RQobYuSFabSEtMsgwA3b5?si=UD2jRjWISP2aV4hltf6J3g

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy. Lauren is a licensed psychologist and AASECT certified sex therapist. She has been a sex and relationship specialist for 10 years. Her work focuses on helping individuals, couples, and partners improve their relationships, both emotionally and sexually. Lauren’s mission is to support people in creating relationships that are more secure, joyful, and fulfilling. The two of us discuss the topic of her new book, Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships, which, as the name suggests, is all about how couples can work through the challenges presented by discrepancies in their respective libidos.   Key points: - Lauren introduces herself and her book about desire and libido in relationships - The importance of inclusivity when discussing libido differences - Why couples seek help for varying levels of desire - Libido discrepancies over time - Emotional challenges and feelings of disconnection - Misalignment and societal expectations   Relevant links: Lauren’s Instagram: @drlaurenfogelmersy Lauren’s website: https://drlaurenfogel.com/

Quicky #39 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 11: #41 The Mother Archetype: Holding Space for Men (with Karis Topkin) Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Karis Topkin. Karis is a mother, a lover, and a healer, helping people to reclaim their pleasure and heal their traumas, allowing them to follow their own heart-led path and create a life that feels deliciously good, connected, and rooted in pleasure and wholeness. Karis and I talk about her work with men in South Africa and the hands-off sexual healing modalities that she uses in her conservative community. We also discuss strategies for holding space for men, allowing them to open up and release emotions by embodying the Mother Archetype. We close with a brief discussion about sexual energy and pleasure across the lifespan.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Andrew Daniel. Andrew is an award-winning and international bestselling author and director at the Center for Cinesomatic Development. His Cinesomatics® workshops are held internationally from New York to London, Tuscany to Switzerland—helping professionals see the elusive patterns that hold them back. This methodology leads the world in cinematic movement diagnostics and advanced intuition development integrating approaches from embodiment, shadow work, therapy, and spirituality. His book, Awaken to Your True Self, is a gold Nautilus Book Awards recipient and #1 Amazon bestseller in the US & UK. In his early career, Andrew coded a particle and physics engine by the age of 18⁠, used by top Fortune 100 companies over the 7 years of his software business. His first teaching work, Holistic Sex (Mindvalley, 2014), provided the world with a new paradigm that bridged the divide between sexuality, spirituality, and the sexes. Andrew is also an advisor for the Alan Watts Organization. Key poins: Andrew introduces himself What is Cinesomatics®? Observations about male clients Men hold tension in their body Fear, vulnerability, and anxiety Moving the body to release trauma Practical advice for men Relevant links: Andrew’s website: https://andrewdaniel.org/ Andrew’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@andrewdaniel 

Quicky 38 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 10: #40 Squirting, Pegging and Sexual Pressure (with Lola Jean) On episode 40 of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Lola Jean. Lola is a Sex Educator, Mental Health Professional, Wrestler, Domme and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo.) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve. Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. Lola offers a variety of classes and talks to help people have better sex with themselves and each other like Pegging, Squirting, and Libido Awakening. A variety of paid and free options of classes and talks, plus a podcast with The Reluctant Sexpert: ‘⁠Is Our Love ___?⁠’, there are a variety of options to indulge. Lola and I talked about squirting, pegging, rimming, and broadening your definition of sex. We also spoke about the pressure both men and women feel to perform sex a certain way.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Anisa Varasteh. Anisa is a Clinical Sexologist, the Director of Relate Sexology, and the President of the Society of Australian Sexologists (SA/NT branch). Anisa provides therapy to individuals and partners as well as consultancy and training on mental health and sexuality related topics to clinicians and organizations. She is passionate about her work as a sexologist as she has the privilege to be part of people's journey to discover and re-discover what is fulfilling, meaningful, and pleasurable for them. She has worked with couples, individuals and people in multi-partnered relationships to support them with their relationships, sense of identity, sex life, and explore how they can connect with their authentic self. When she is not at work she is probably writing, hiking, watching lengthy art-house films or discovering new and exciting places around the world. Key points: Anisa introduces herself Misconceptions about BDSM Defining BDSM and kink Traumatic vs therapeutic experiences Exploring kink alone Introducing kink to a partner Relevant links: Instagram: @relatesexology Podcast: Sexplicit Website: www.relatesexology.com Course: https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink

Quikcy #37 is an excerpt from Season 3 Episode 9: #39 Debunking Myths About Men and Sex (with Sarah Hunter Murray, Ph.D.) On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I have a great discussion with Sarah Hunter Murray about the most common myths surrounding masculinity, sexuality and men. Sarah holds a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph and is a Registered Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She is the author of the book "Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men, sex, & relationships." I loved Sarah’s book and the research she presents in it. We talk about that research as well as her observations about men in relationships. We also explore some practical advice for men and their partners to help overcome the myths and stereotypes that may be hindering them in their relationships.