Quicky #36 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 8: #38 Parenthood and Modelling Healthy Sexuality (with Tamica Wilder) On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Tamica Wilder, a somatic sex coach and muti qualified complimentary therapist with over a decade of group work, facilitation and coaching experience. Tamica leads with passion, embodied wisdom and playful curiosity in all that she does. She believes that our social and cultural narraitives aound sex and embodiment need a damn good shake it! - Never one to shy away from a challenge, she's committed to leading the charge. Tamica is a hand holder, a permission giver and a safe place to land for those serious about re-awakening their sexual spark and living a life lead by pleasure. We talk about Tamica’s work with men as well as the importance of creating safety for men to open up about their sexual concerns. We also discuss parenthood and modelling healthy sexuality for children.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Ruby Ryder of PeggingParadise.com and TheArtofPegging.com. Ruby is a podcaster, blogger, sex worker, sex educator and a published writer of erotic fiction. She has been educating people about pegging for the last 13 years. She moderated panels at CatalystCon East and West, and presented at DomCon LA. Ruby’s erotica is in Violet Blue’s ‘Best Women’s Erotica 2014.’ She also appeared in an episode of Comedy Central’s ‘Not Safe with Nikki Glaser’. Ruby’s mission is to help interested people add one more thing to their sexual treasure chest of choices by teaching them all about pegging, and to do everything she can to encourage more sex-positivity with less sexual shame. She resides in Southern California near the beach, and loves watching the surfers change out of their wetsuits. Key points: Ruby introduces herself The misconceptions around pegging The importance of communication, consent, and comfort  Role reversal, deepening intimacy, and understanding partners Emotional responses during pegging Equipment for pegging Erections, performance, and pleasure  Relevant Links: Ruby’s websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ and https://www.theartofpegging.com/ Ruby’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise

Quicky #35 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 7: #37 The Stigma of Bisexuality & Polyamory (with Zachary Zane) On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I chat with Zachary Zane, a Brooklyn-based columnist, speaker, activist, and sex expert whose work focuses on sexuality, lifestyle, and culture. He has a weekly sex advice column at Men’s Health titled “Sexplain It,” where he answers a diverse range of questions pertaining to masculinity, ethical non-monogamy, sexual insecurities, and the LGBTQ community. He answers questions with actionable advice. As a leading bisexual activist, Zachary has spoken across the country at universities and panels alike, discussing issues pertaining to the bisexual community, sex-positivity, and ethical non-monogamy. He previously had a biweekly column at Bisexual.org that ran for 18 months and also attended the "Bisexual White House Briefing" at the White House (under Obama). Zachary and I talk about the stigma bisexual men face and why mental health issues are greater among bisexual people. We also discussed the stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships, such as open relating and polyamory.

Yael R. Rosenstock Gonzalez (she/her/ella), known as YaeltheSexGeek, is a queer, polyamorous, neurodivergent Nuyorican (Puerto Rican New Yorker) Jewish pleasure activist (a term popularized by adrienne maree brown) who believes that sexual wellness and sexual liberation involve our whole selves. In her coaching and educational offerings she centers identity, values, and social positioning work, playful exploration, and intimacy with self and others. She is the founder of Kaleidoscope Vibrations, LLC (KV), a company dedicated to supporting exploration and creating spaces for individuals to find community and belonging in their identities, and Sex Positive You, which adds to KV's work by centering sex, sexuality, and intimacy. She is the author of An Introguide to a Sex Positive You: Lessons, Tales, & Tips and is a sex writer for The Buzz by Pure Romance. Yael is also currently a Curriculum Strategist, Facilitator, and Coach with the Center for Ethnic, Racial, and Religious Understanding and a Health Behavior doctoral student with the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at IU Bloomington. Her research centers the nuances of identity and power in topics of sex, consent, desire, pleasure, embodiment, agency, and partnering styles with a particular interest in Latines as a population that is underserved within sex-positive work. Key points: Yael introduces herself Internalizing body shaming Our capacity for pleasure Being fetishized by others Fetishization vs Worship Practical tips for exploring pleasure Relevant links: Yael’s website: www.sexpositiveyou.com Yael’s Instagram: @yaelthesexgeek  Yael’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/yaelthesexgeek

Quicky #34 comes Season 3, Episode 6: #36 Hypnosis for Sexual Dysfunction (with Alexandra Holovitz) On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Alexandra Holovitz. Alexandra is a tantric sex coach & hypnotherapist. She is known for her honest, passionate and authentic coaching style. She works with career-minded men helping them to heal, express and empower thought tantra and self-compassion. She believes awakening sexual energy can support you to have deeper connection, understanding and self-acceptance to liberate and come back to your home (your body), REMEMBER your truth as a divine man! Her mission is to heal the world, one orgasm at a time. We spoke about her use of hypnosis for managing sexual dysfunction with her clients, such as erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. We also discussed the practicalities of establishing professional practitioner-client boundaries.

On this special episode of #mensexpleasure, I welcome with my brother, Callum, and we do something a little different. I regale him with a story about British physiologist, Giles Brindley. This is our foray into the history/comedy genre of podcasting. As such, we have a few drinks and a bit of fun. Key points: - Welcome Callum - Who is Giles Brindley? - Visual prostheses and eye experiments - Spinal prostheses and side effects - The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine - Brindley's legacy Sources: Chase, V. D. (2006). Shattered Nerves: How Science Is Solving Modern Medicine's Most Perplexing Problem. Johns Hopkins University Press Kan, J., Aziz, T. Z., Green, A. L., & Pereira, E. A. C. (2014) Biographical sketch: Giles Brindley, FRS. British Journal of Neurosurgery, 28(6), 704-706. doi: 10.3109/02688697.2014.925085 Goldstein, I. (2012). The hour lecture that changed sexual medicine - The Giles Brindley injection story. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 9(2), 337-342. doi: 10.1111/j.1743-6109.2011.02635.x.

Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 5: #35 Taking Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure (with Parish Blair) On today’s episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Sex Goddess and Master Manifestor, Parish Blair. Parish has studied psychoneuroimmunology and practices a variety of healing modalities for over 25 years, with dramatic results of synergy between the mind, body and spirit. As well as offering unique one-on-one sessions, such as Sensual Synergy and Orgasmic Gratitude Meditation, Parish also delivers international presentations, such as ‘Look At What My Pussy Can Do’ and ‘How To Give A BJ With A Heart Full Of Gratitude’. She is also the executive producer of Sexy Spirit TV and the creator of the Parish Blair Love Affair Tour Documentary, which features open lifestyle, swingers and polyamorous couples from 20+ cities in 20+ international destinations with the intention to release judgement and preconceived ideas about our human family.

On this episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Pomma. Pomma does various forms of sex work and is a huge advocate for decriminalizing and destigmatizing sex work. They make educational content about sex workers’ rights in hopes to humanize sex workers and their needs to people and systems who commonly overlook sex workers. It’s very important to Pomma that sex workers’ voices are at the forefront of legislation and conversations that affect their lived realities since they’re often excluded. Pomma likes to keep their feminism and politics intersectional, because, at the end of the day, what affects them affects you, and affects all of us. When they’re not raising awareness about censorship or decriminalization, Pomma is crafting cosplays and traveling for conventions. Key Points: Pomma introduces themselves The importance of sex work “Rights, not rescue” Purity fetish and the sex work heirarchy Decriminalization vs legalization SWERFs: Sex Work Exclusionary Radical Feminists Educating on social media Relevant Links: Check out Pomma’s educational work and socials at their Carrd: Pomma.Carrd.Co

Quicky #32 is an excerpt from Season 3, Episode 4: #34 Go With The Flow: Libido And The Menstrual Cycle (with Kristin Murray Alexi) Today on the #mensexpleasure podcast, I chat with Kristin Murray Alexi. Kristin has a bachelor’s degree in international studies with a focus on women in history, culture and religion, and a post graduate diploma in sexology. She is a certified Yoni Massage practitioner and trainer, and certified Sex Coach and trainer. She also works in the realm of priestessing as well as initiating other womben into this work. Kristin is known for her gentle yet informative and inclusive approach to pleasure-centered sex education. She offers certified trainings, group and 1:1 coaching sessions, online courses, and a fun and educative podcast with Tanishka Tantrika called Love Blood Sex Death. Kristin has been passionate about womben's wisdom teachings and female sexuality from a very young age. She held girls circles at 12 years old and created supportive materials for her teen female peers while going through puberty together. Her main passions are empowering womben in their sexuality through a better understanding of their bodies and female sexual arousal, as well as helping womben to communicate their individual needs to their partners. Kristin and I discuss how the different phases of the menstrual cycle can affect sex drive and how men can better understand their partner’s cycles so as to connect more intimately together.

On this episode of the #mensexpleasure podcast I welcome back a really lovely colleague and friend of mine. Her name is Sarah Martin. You might recall her from episode number 135, where we talked about her research regarding pick up artists. In this episode, we do something a little bit different and discuss a project we've been collaborating on, known as a sexual attitude reassessment (SAR). We talk about the three major assumptions that we see practitioners often make, whether they be sex coaches or therapists or men's work facilitators. So if you're interested in having some beliefs or stereotypes or values about men challenge, this is the episode for you. Key Points: - Sarah reintroduces herself - What is a SAR? - Assumption 1: Men don’t warrant specific consideration as men - Assumption 2: You definitely have unconscious bias when it comes to men - Assumption 3: All the men who are in online communities are basement dwelling, violent misogynists - How to work with men who want to improve their communication skills but choose not to do it - Testimonial from Charles Dubois - The next SAR offering Relevant Links: The Man SAR: https://themansar.com/