Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

With practice patience, determination, and mindfulness men can prolong the pleasure they feel by resisting ejaculation and prolonging their pleasure and orgasm period. So today I wanted to show you that orgasm and ejaculation are actually two separate physiological processes in the body. And how it's the ejaculation that is responsible for the start of their refractory period. And I want to offer you some tips on how to enjoy multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Here are the links to the events and programs mentioned in the episode: 6 Weeks to Multiple Male Orgasms course Next Level waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat   Other Resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us  

There’s a lot of anxiety in our culture around sexuality in general. And within the topic of understanding one’s sexuality, there’s even more cultural anxiety around masturbation. I’ve personally had lots of questions around masturbation, and I’m glad to report that I’m not alone – I get many DMs on our Instagram and emails asking sincere questions about this sexual behavior. I asked Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, one of my favorite marriage and sex experts, to share her insights on the topic. I learned so much from her! Instead of, “Is this particular sexual behavior ok?” there’s a better question to ask instead – which you’ll get to hear in this episode. I also learned the value of self-definition for expanding one’s sexual agency, in other words, gaining your own testimony so-to-speak and committing to living your life with honesty and integrity to your highest and best values.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

There’s no doubt in my mind that there’s a deeply spiritual and emotional aspect to really good sex. When two lovers come together as good friends that want to give and receive pleasure and connect to know each other at a very deep and intimate level, sex takes on deep meaning. Many in American or western culture put a big focus on orgasm and finishing, for good reason: orgasm feels good. Really, really good. However, once in a while, we’re too busy driving to our destination that we fail to see the beauty along the way. Slowing things down, way down, on purpose can bring you a new view of sex and deep intimate connection you may have not noticed before. Today’s guest is Tammy Hill. She’s a licensed family and marriage therapist as well as a professor at Brigham Young University in the family sciences department. She and her husband, Jeff, have 12 children and I lost count of how many grandchildren. She’s studied and taught a slower, more thoughtful approach to sex which is full of awareness and soulful connection, called Tantric sex or Slow Sex, for more than a decade.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

Like many other men, I’ve probably said to my wife maybe once or twice, “I’m always in the mood for sex!” or “Whenever you want it, I’m ready!” Just kidding, I’ve probably said something like that hundreds of times. But I know there are exceptions to “always” being in the mood. In fact, when I’m really honest, there are many times I’m not in the mood. And my wife is even more puzzled when she’s in the mood and I’m not. We’re socialized to think that men should have the higher sexual desire in long term marriages, but “the stereotypical masculine approach to sexual desire is working against heterosexual couples’ intimate relationships, and it’s getting in the way of good sex.” Today's guest is Dr. Sarah Hunter Murray, a sex researcher and therapist who has studied male sexual desire. I’ve read her book, “Not Always In The Mood,” and I look forward to sharing this interview with you.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us March Couples Retreat Tickets: Intimately Us Couples Retreat

We've done several episodes about painful sex in the past, but none of them have been as personal as this one today. You get to meet my friends Bryce and Shannon, who tell their story of how painful sex has really interfered with their relationship early on in their marriage. And I love the story because it's a story of faith. I also really appreciate Shannon and Bryce being really vulnerable and open and sharing specifically the things that help them and also didn't help them along their journey. I love these interviews where  we're not interviewing experts per se, but these are just ordinary couples that are really doing extraordinary things in their relationship, and I'm so grateful that they're willing to share their story with you.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

This episode is for any couple that has struggled with feelings of shame about bodies or sexuality, and has experienced conflict in their marriage around sexual differences. I am so very grateful that Jan Marie and Andrew were willing to come on the podcast to share their story. They were nervous and are private people, so it’s a big deal for them to be open and vulnerable, in hopes that it inspires and blesses a listener’s marriage. I met Jan Marie and Andrew at the marriage retreat we did last October. In fact, they celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary at the event! They’ve been through a lot of turmoil around sex and intimacy in their marriage together, which you’ll get to hear. You’ll also get to hear the tipping point when they’ve found healing and hope in their marriage.  I also want to make a plug for marriage retreats. There’s something special that happens when both of you attend a retreat to refresh and recharge. It’s a time to get on the same page and really connect in new ways. You get to meet other couples too and learn from great marriage coaches. Our next marriage retreat is coming up on March 23-26, and you’ll want to get on the waiting list to be the first to hear about the details. You can join the waiting list here.  For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Announcement: Join the waiting list for the couples retreat in March! For the next few episodes, I want to take a break from interviewing experts per se and showcase real stories from “ordinary” couples who have built extraordinary intimacy in their own marriages. One of the purposes of this podcast is to help as many people realize how wonderful sex is, and although it’s sacred between a husband and wife, there’s so much joy, excitement, expansion of self, growth, light, and connection through sex. It doesn’t have to be such a taboo subject! I’m excited for you to meet the first couple in this series! You’ll get to meet LeAnn and Jeff Austin from Georgia. They share their story about how they grew from a functional sex life to an intimate and adventurous sex life later in their marriage.  They have four sons. Their two older children are married now. Jeff works as an airline pilot and LeAnn recently started a life coach business helping people learn to love themselves and how to build a great relationships with their daughters-in-law. For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples (mentioned in the podcast today): Intimately Us

If someone were to ask you what’s your definition of intimacy, how would you answer that question? And how would you explain to another person how to develop more intimacy in your marriage? Also, how important are communication skills in an intimate relationship? What things interfere with our ability to communicate effectively with our spouses? That’s what Dr. Dave Schramm and I talk about today. Dave and I go way back. He was one of the keynote speakers of my second Get Your Marriage On! Live event back in 2019. He’s a professor of Family Life in the Human Development and Family Studies department at Utah State University. He has his PhD from Auburn University. You can find out more about Dr. Dave's work at drdaveschramm.com. Here is the YouTube video we reference in the podcast: "It's Not About The Nail"

There’s a difference between a functional marriage and an intimate marriage. Some marriage advice people may have received is to compromise to keep the peace between a couple. This advice is great to keep the marriage functioning, but compromising on everything often interferes with creating an intimate marriage.  Today’s guest is Alexandra Stockwell. She’s got a fascinating story about why she became an Intimacy Coach.

This is one of our spicier podcasts! Keelie and Austin Reason from the Love Hope Adventure Blog and Podcast decided to join me today to talk about male pleasure and the importance of emotional connection as a foundation for happy and intimate marriage.