Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

This is one of our spicier podcasts! Keelie and Austin Reason from the Love Hope Adventure Blog and Podcast decided to join me today to talk about male pleasure and the importance of emotional connection as a foundation for happy and intimate marriage. 

This is part two of a two-part podcast. Last week, we talked about stage three sex. We introduced this framework of what stages one, two, and three are, and this is a follow-up to that. Enjoy!

Normal people have marriage problems. In this episode, I'll introduce to you my three-stage framework to take your marriage and sex life to the NEXT LEVEL! This is something I'm passionate about. I hope you learn something new!

In every marriage, there’s a person with a higher desire for sex and a person with a lower desire for sex. What are unhealthy and healthy ways of responding to your spouse's desire level? How can you work together as an intimate team to create a marriage that truly has room for both people, to transition from a “me vs you” to a more intimate “us”? These are the questions I had on my mind when I met Amy Langford, a certified life coach, mother of 4, and fellow marriage & sex nerd. You’re about to hear her story about how she learned to handle herself better in the midst of her husband’s pursuit of sexual connection, navigate unwanted pornography use in the marriage, and a way to create space for more sexual desire within yourself, even if you’re the one with less desire for sex.

100 podcast episodes for Get Your Marriage On! Wow! What a ride the past couple years have been.  I’ve had the privilege of interviewing many sex experts. In many of the episodes, I ask them what black belt sex tips they’d give to a couple in a healthy marriage to help them up the quality of connection and pleasure in the bedroom.  I’ve rounded up my favorites from the past 50 episodes (see episode 50 for Black Belt Sex Tips 1.0). This is an episode you're not going to want to miss!  Ready? Let’s go!

Our bodies are absolutely incredible and attest to the marvelous power and intelligence of our great Creator. Our heart beats nearly 100,000 times a day. Our eyes have self-focusing lenses and work in tandem to help us see images in three dimensions. Through our bodies, we can hold loved ones, offer a loving touch, and even participate in creating new life.  Our bodies are the temple of our spirit and the instruments of our hearts and mind.  Despite the miracle of a body, many people struggle with liking their body or struggle with a body that doesn’t function the way they want it to, or just plain ‘ol struggling to be confident in their own skin and size. Sometimes this goes on to loathing ourselves in unhealthy ways, affecting our intimate relationships. Vanessa Oly is my guest today to talk about her journey of learning to love her own body as it is. Her own transformation inspired her to study nutrition, hormones, and fertility. She teaches other women how to embrace who they are and to understand how their body works.

Many of you are in a similar phase of life as we are: raising young children and teenagers, and possibly thinking about having another baby. Conception is an incredible miracle because there are so many moving parts to making it work (no pun intended).  I had the privilege of meeting with a world-famous fertility doctor, Dr. Allison Rodgers a OB/GYN and Reproductive Endocrinologist. and I’m so happy you get to listen to part of what I learned.

Think about the qualities that make you successful in your career: working hard, being the first to show up and the last to leave, and being an achiever. Sometimes very capable and successful people have a hard time in their intimate relationships.  What if the same qualities that translate to success in one’s career or workplace actually work against you in your intimate relationship? Rhonda Farr is a certified Life Coach and works with high achievers on their intimate relationships. I got a lot out of this interview and there was a lot I could relate to. I suppose there are many parts that you’ll relate to as well.

In this episode, Dan shares lessons learned about what it means to love someone well. He discusses reflections about courage and creating an intimate marriage where there's room for two people to thrive. He shares other thoughts from his mother, who passed away from cancer a few weeks ago.

I used to think that a woman’s period was just nature’s way of telling you that you’re not pregnant. But there’s so much more to understanding one’s cycle. Did you know that a woman’s cycle can be broken down into four phases, and each phase has their own superpower? That understanding your hormones and what they’re there for can give you more confidence and energy? And what foods should you eat (and what to avoid) to help support a healthy body and hormone levels?  Ashlee has personal experience with PMS, debilitating period pain, and infertility is what ultimately set her on a journey to learn more about how food and lifestyle affect hormone health, and eventually creating her signature course, Cycle Strategy 101, as well as Exercise and Hormones, and Cycle Sexcess. As you’ll see, Ashlee is passionate about teaching women how to tap into their superpowers by honoring their cyclical rhythms.  Links mentioned in this podcast episode: Wild Power In the Flo Julva