Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

Albert Einstein is said to have once said, "We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them." And I believe that to be true when it comes to issues in marriage and that's why marriage coaching is so helpful. It raises the level of thinking or the intelligence in the relationship so you can see what's going on. Over the years, I've had the privilege of coaching over 100 individuals and couples; last week alone I coached 10 couples or individuals and I helped them raise their level of thinking in their relationships. I do all of my coaching through my program and it's called Next Level. Next level is my affordable coaching program, designed specifically for busy couples on the go that want to take their intimacy to the next level. You get access to a ton of content, videos, courses, and workshops I've developed over the years to you also get access to a private podcast that's not available anywhere except for members of next level. I also give our Next Levelers an opportunity for private one on one coaching as well. And today I have permission to share with you a part of a recording of a recent private coaching session that I did last week with a wonderful couple Andy and Stephanie, which by the way are not the real names to protect their identity. Andy and Stephanie have been married for about 30 years and have recently been pushing themselves to grow together sexually. It's been exciting and scary for them at times. Listen to how Andy and Stephanie confront themselves in real time and get clear in their mind around how they can think about certain concepts and how it leads to deeper intimacy in their relationship. Now, most of my coaching sessions like these are an hour long, but I've cut it down for brevity sake for this podcast, but I still think it carries the main gist of what coaching can really be like, so you can see yourself and how coaching can really help you in your relationship if you'd like to join me and over 100 other members that are in next level. The doors are now open just for another week, it's $49 a month per couple with no long term contract. It's a really, really good way to accelerate your growth in your marriage and I hope I get to work with you there. Check it out here!

Holy smokes, this episode is jam packed with so much goodness and truth bombs. You’re about to hear Tony and I get a bit vulnerable as we share some of our mistakes and lessons learned about growing more emotionally mature in our relationships. Ever accuse your spouse of being a narcissist – or at least being myopic or only seeing their side of things without taking you into account? Well, this episode is for you. Ever desire a stronger emotional connection with your spouse? This episode is for you too! Tony Overbay is a licensed marriage and family therapist from the Bay Area of California. He’s the host of the popular podcast called The Virtual Couch. In his practice working with thousands of couples, he’s noticed how crucial emotional maturity is, and how “narcissism” (which he explains is emotional immaturity) plays a role in the way we relate to ourselves and others. He goes on to explain how to wake up to it and steps we can take to be stronger within ourselves and our relationships.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Live Workshop on Feb 22: How to Have an Orgasm (and have better orgasms) Next Level Waiting List: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Mutual pleasure is an important ingredient of a good sexual relationship. The pleasure we get from sex facilitates bonding, joy, and makes sex way more fun! Orgasms are probably one of the most pleasurable sensations we can experience. However, generally speaking, women have a harder time reaching orgasm than men do. There are many theories as to why this is the case. It can be distressing for a woman who wants to experience an orgasm in sex yet struggles to get there. Many people forget that reaching orgasm is a learned behavior. It’s not as effortless as it seems like from movies or magazines. Although orgasm is a natural reflex to sexual stimulation, it’s a skill to be learned – much like learning how to ride a bicycle. It's something that we learn how to do, and it might come easier for some people than others (no pun intended). I'm always inspired by accounts of men and women who work really hard to close the pleasure gap in marriage. They show investment in each other and commitment to building something wonderful both enjoy and want to be a part of. Today I got to interview a fantastic woman named Ashley who overcame many hurdles to experience more pleasure in her sexual relationship with her husband. After 5 years of heartache from trying all sorts of things, including spending a lot of money on high-end sex toys, she was ready to give up trying. She shares what shifts happened within her that finally helped her learn how to orgasm, and how amazing things have been since then. If learning how to orgasm has been a struggle for you or for someone you love, here’s a good opportunity for you. On February 22nd I will be putting on a live coaching workshop about learning how to orgasm or how to have better orgasms. This is the workshop that Ashley refers to in this interview. Sign up today on our website.  If you’re interested in working with me to take your intimacy to the next level, I’ll be opening the doors for registration again to my program called Next Level at the end of this month! Get on our waiting list to be the first to know when it opens.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us  

This episode is going to be a little more explicit than our usual episodes, but I think that's okay. We get to talk about squirting and female ejaculation, which has a lot of interest thanks to the internet.  But it's also an amazing experience that couples can enjoy together, and attests to God's grand design in our bodies. And I love it because it adds more layers of mystery and fun to your sexual experience. Reinforcing the idea that you can know someone and be married to them such a long time, and yet discover new things about each other that are both very erotic and sexual and can be really bonding.    For more great content like this, check out the following resources: Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

Communication and marriage is a big deal. And many couples tell me they wish their communication was better. Many men approach intimacy in marriage differently than women do, and each person in the marriage has their own fears and insecurities as well. And in fact, I think it's the way we deal with our insecurities or how we manage them, that often triggers the fears or insecurities or vulnerabilities in the other person. And what this does is it sets off this reactive cycle. We try to cover our insecurities. We say something that triggers our spouse and what they say triggers our vulnerability and round and round it goes, and often what's said isn't the same as the message that was received, which opens up the doors to more hurt feelings and misunderstandings. I met today's guest through one of my team members that has participated in her excellent mentorship program. Her name is Ramona Zabriskie. And she's spent the last decade of her life dedicated to helping women succeed in their marriages. She's a mentor to hundreds of wives, and she's full of all this folksy wisdom, like what you'll get to hear today, like "Five Lies We Tell Brides" and Teaching "Knights to Knit." In today's episode, you'll get to meet Ramona's five Crazy Ladies (and I'm wondering which one you relate to the most!), we talk about why husbands and wives don't listen to each other, and most importantly, you'll hear what Ramona believes are the steps to building not only just a good or great marriage, but a grand marriage as well.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

I've observed from my own experience and coaching other couples that we often get in our own way of having the love and passion that we could experience in our own marriages. Sometimes we're just too focused on whether or not our spouse is reciprocating the love we think we're offering. In other words, we reduce love and marriage to be transactional. I love this interview that I have with Dr. Corey Allan because he talks about really powerful questions to ask oneself: “Would I want to be married to me? and “How am I being towards my spouse right now?” I think those two questions can guide us through a lot of the transitions and difficulties and also guide us to creating a more passionate and intimately connected marriage.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us

The older I get and more experience I gain, the more I’ve come to appreciate my eroticism as a part of me. I haven’t always been this way though. In all of its good intentions, sometimes people internalize the heart of the purity message by being void of sexual feelings or urges, as if it’s a virtue to not have any sexual thoughts or feelings. The reality is that just as we are spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical beings, we’re also sexual beings. We can grow sexually as we grow spiritually.  And my sexpert guest on the podcast today describes exactly that process of growing erotically (or sexually) as we grow spiritually. Her name is Brandi Harris. She’s a licensed marriage therapist that is also a Christian and helps individuals and couples grow sexually. She’s also a mother of three and has created a program for parents on how to talk to their kids about sex too. And as a bonus for our listeners and followers, she's offering 10% off with the code GETYOUR23.   For more great content like this, check out the following resources: March Couples Retreat Tickets: https://getyourmarriageon.com/couples-retreat/ Next Level! waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/next-level/ Men's coaching program waiting list: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us    

Are you a "nice guy" or married to a "nice guy?" "Nice" isn't to be confused with genuinely kind and caring. By nice, I mean one that hints around at what he wants from his wife, but doesn't really ask for it in case she doesn't want to either, or that it might upset her or that he might be disappointed later. So a "nice guy" is just never really direct about what he wants, doesn't really own it, and his emotional center seems to be revolve around his wife rather than taking ownership for his own feelings. This is also the type of person that goes the extra mile for his wife, but has ulterior motives in it, and when he doesn't get what he wants or when it doesn't kind of pan out the way he wants, even though he never clearly expressed what he wanted from the beginning, he feels cheated. My guest today is Brian Wagstaff. Brian is a member of my next level coaching program and a graduate of my men's coaching program. Brian is a successful entrepreneur and has a wonderful family and a recovering "nice guy." Today he shares his journey of recognizing his nice guy tendencies, the struggles he faced in his marriage, what changes he had to make, and how he made them, and how his marriage and intimacy is tremendously better today than it was before.   Other Resources: Men's coaching waiting list Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon

Are you ready to take action, to take charge of your relationships, and make this year different and better than any other year you've ever had? I'm going to show you how coaching can get you out of your ruts and habits and find more clarity and growth in your life and marriage. And I'll show you how our exciting new program can help take your marriage to the next level! Next Level Register here between January 1-8 Attend the webinar on January 4 for more information Coming up in 2023: Feb 1-14: Sextimacy challenge - Increase your intimacy and win cool prizes. Watch your email and social media for more info. March 23-26: Intimately Us Couples retreat in St. George - Romantic yet intensive 3-day, 3-night event designed for couples to draw closer together intimately, have fun adventures, win door prizes and receive top-notch coaching. June 9 (6-9): Virtual Lovemaking Retreat - Watch your emails as the date gets closer for more info.

There are four fundamental questions we seek in our intimate relationships: Am I safe? Am I loved? Am I enough? And do I matter? How we go about answering these questions is the basis for how we learn to love and be loved in our marriages. Loving another person well is a practice. It’s something you keep at trying over and over, and learning to get better at it. The more conscious we are\ about the way we’re loving and seeking love, and implementing good practices, the better we can become at healing and thriving in our relationships. Today’s guest is Lair Torrent, a licensed therapist that specializes in couples work. He’s the author of a fantastic book called The Practice of Love: Break Old Patterns, Rebuild Trust, and Create a Connection That Lasts that I’ve read and recommend.   Other Resources: Next Level! waiting list Men's coaching waiting list Intimately Us Couples Retreat Website: getyourmarriageon.com Instagram: @getyourmarriageon Fun and sexy app for married couples: Intimately Us