Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

What does white rice have to do with pornography? I know that sounds like a strange question, but stick with me here because this analogy completely changed how I understand what pornography does to our relationships. I'll also share a more compassionate, Christ-centered approach to overcoming pornography habits that doesn't rely on shame or willpower alone. Here's what we'll cover together: • The surprising history of rice and what happens when you strip away the "bran" - and how this perfectly illustrates what pornography does to sexuality • Why shame, hiding, and secrecy actually prevent us from growing and healing • How to embrace your full sexual nature alongside your spouse instead of in isolation • A more nuanced view on sexual imagery, arousal, and discernment that might surprise you If you've been struggling with pornography or if it's affected your marriage, this episode will offer you hope and a more loving way forward. Because here's what I've learned: building a marriage that's deeply nourishing - body, heart, and soul - requires us to understand the difference between empty calories and real intimacy. Let's dive in.   👉 Let us know what you think of this episode in our Free Facebook Group. And don't forget to download the Intimately Us app for more tips, and check out the Get Your Marriage On program for personalized help.

Did you know that two-thirds of heterosexual couples in the United States use lubricant during sex? That number might not surprise you when you consider all the benefits of using quality lube for enhanced pleasure and intimacy. While there are many different kinds to choose from, in this episode I'm excited to introduce you to a new and innovative lubricant that I've been personally using and loving - and I want to share it with you! I'm bringing on Justin and Natalie, the inventors of Evree, for what I'm calling a "quickie episode." This is just for fun because I genuinely believe in their product and want you to learn about it too. Check it out at https://evreesensation.com/ and use code INTIMATELY for 10% off! You might discover a thing or two about quality lubricant and intimate massage cream that can take your marriage to new heights of pleasure and connection! Whether you're new to using lube or looking to upgrade your current routine, this conversation will give you practical insights into choosing products that truly enhance intimacy in your marriage. If you're looking for other ways to enhance intimacy in your marriage, check out the Intimately Us app for fun bedroom games or our FREE CLASS if you're trying to figure out how to overcome differences in desire.    

Discover the art of cunnilingus and its powerful impact on intimacy. Explore twelve essential tips that help husbands improve their technique while fostering deeper emotional connections. Learn about common mistakes to sidestep and the importance of genuine enjoyment in the process. Delve into the anatomical aspects of pleasure and understand how a respectful approach can enhance the experience. Whether you're a novice or looking to refine your skills, this conversation is packed with valuable insights for every husband.

We’re diving into a topic that’s often overlooked—but full of potential for deeper connection and pleasure: the frenulum orgasm. In this episode, we'll cover the following: The anatomy and sensitivity of the frenulum How this kind of orgasm compares to the female clitoral orgasm Positions and techniques to try together Why it helps build patience, mindfulness, and emotional closeness And how to make this a fun, low-pressure experience that builds trust Whether this is totally new to you or you're just curious, this episode offers a gentle, practical guide to trying something new with your spouse that just might unlock a whole new level of intimacy. ✨ Plus: If you're struggling with mismatched sex drives or want help growing your sexual connection, check out our free class!

Let’s face it—if you're married, disagreements are inevitable. And sometimes, those disagreements feel like gridlock. That’s when it seems like there’s no win-win—only one of you can get what you want, and the other has to give in. It can feel like it’s either his way or her way, with no middle ground in sight. In this episode, you'll discover 10 practical steps for having meaningful conversations about the tough stuff—so you can move forward together and build a deeper, more connected relationship. And if one of the challenges you're facing is a mismatch in sex drives, be sure to check out our FREE class. You’ll walk away with real solutions you can start using today—no therapy required.

 Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it. And by the end, you'll know this simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship from a frustrating game of chase into one of genuine connection and intimacy.  A quick note:  I want to try something a little different this summer. We are still publishing episodes every Friday, but once in a while I might drop an extra episode in the middle of the week and sometimes they will be a little shorter. (We'll call them quickie episodes! How fitting, right?!) They're intended to be short, easy, and fun to listen to and teach a principle that you can apply right away in your own intimate relationship to make it better. And this episode you're listening to is one of our quickie episodes. I hope you enjoy it! Check out Intimately Us or the Get Your Marriage On Program to help transform your relationship!

Tanya Hale, an insightful podcast host, joins the conversation to unravel the complexities of male sexuality. They dive into how men's emotional connections intertwine with sexual desire, challenging common myths and promoting a balanced view of intimacy. Listeners will learn about the unique ways men express love through physical affection and the importance of mutual understanding in relationships. The discussion paves the way for richer emotional bonds and a more equitable sexual dynamic in marriage.

Tanya Hale, a dynamic speaker known for her insights on self-identity in relationships, joins the discussion on male sexuality. She unpacks the pressure men face regarding performance and the vulnerability tied to their sexuality. The conversation explores how emotional connection enhances intimacy, and highlights the significance of validation in navigating sexual dynamics. Tanya encourages couples to embrace open dialogue and evolve their relationships, creating deeper connections as they grow together.

In this conversation with Dr. Stephen Snyder, a medical doctor and author of "Love Worth Making," listeners dive deep into the emotional aspects of sex beyond the physical. He presents a two-step framework for enhancing intimacy, emphasizing mindfulness and emotional presence. The podcast discusses 'lazy sex'—encouraging couples to prioritize genuine connection over performance pressure. Real-life stories illustrate how couples manage desire discrepancies, making love not just a checklist, but a satisfying experience that fosters mutual enjoyment.

Dr. Stephen Snyder, a New York City sex therapist and author of Love Worth Making, dives into creating emotional intimacy and fostering desire in relationships. He discusses the importance of sexual feelings, exploring a two-step approach to enhance motivation. Snyder introduces the concept of 'lazy sex' to maintain connection amidst busy lives, and highlights 'simmering' as a way to encourage desire. Finally, he sheds light on the difference between giving and taking pleasure, emphasizing emotional validation as key to satisfying intimacy.