Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell

 Have you ever wondered why your spouse dodges your attempts at affection or how quickly he or she shuts down any of your affection attempts? Or how a simple kiss gets treated like you're asking for something much bigger? Well, in this episode I'm going to explain exactly why one partner who craves affection has a partner that avoids it. And by the end, you'll know this simple mindset shift that can transform your relationship from a frustrating game of chase into one of genuine connection and intimacy.  A quick note:  I want to try something a little different this summer. We are still publishing episodes every Friday, but once in a while I might drop an extra episode in the middle of the week and sometimes they will be a little shorter. (We'll call them quickie episodes! How fitting, right?!) They're intended to be short, easy, and fun to listen to and teach a principle that you can apply right away in your own intimate relationship to make it better. And this episode you're listening to is one of our quickie episodes. I hope you enjoy it! Check out Intimately Us or the Get Your Marriage On Program to help transform your relationship!

Tanya Hale, a dynamic speaker known for her insights on self-identity in relationships, joins the discussion on male sexuality. She unpacks the pressure men face regarding performance and the vulnerability tied to their sexuality. The conversation explores how emotional connection enhances intimacy, and highlights the significance of validation in navigating sexual dynamics. Tanya encourages couples to embrace open dialogue and evolve their relationships, creating deeper connections as they grow together.

Tanya Hale, an insightful podcast host, joins the conversation to unravel the complexities of male sexuality. They dive into how men's emotional connections intertwine with sexual desire, challenging common myths and promoting a balanced view of intimacy. Listeners will learn about the unique ways men express love through physical affection and the importance of mutual understanding in relationships. The discussion paves the way for richer emotional bonds and a more equitable sexual dynamic in marriage.

In this conversation with Dr. Stephen Snyder, a medical doctor and author of "Love Worth Making," listeners dive deep into the emotional aspects of sex beyond the physical. He presents a two-step framework for enhancing intimacy, emphasizing mindfulness and emotional presence. The podcast discusses 'lazy sex'—encouraging couples to prioritize genuine connection over performance pressure. Real-life stories illustrate how couples manage desire discrepancies, making love not just a checklist, but a satisfying experience that fosters mutual enjoyment.

Dr. Stephen Snyder, a New York City sex therapist and author of Love Worth Making, dives into creating emotional intimacy and fostering desire in relationships. He discusses the importance of sexual feelings, exploring a two-step approach to enhance motivation. Snyder introduces the concept of 'lazy sex' to maintain connection amidst busy lives, and highlights 'simmering' as a way to encourage desire. Finally, he sheds light on the difference between giving and taking pleasure, emphasizing emotional validation as key to satisfying intimacy.

Join Amy Langford, a fellow marriage coach who specializes in intimacy struggles, as she dives into the complex world of sexual fantasies in marriage. She addresses real listener questions about the confusion and shame surrounding desires that might clash with personal values. Discover how to communicate these fantasies with partners in a safe space, the importance of collaboration and consent, and how fantasies can reignite excitement in long-term relationships. This engaging discussion offers support for anyone navigating these intimate dynamics.

 One pattern I've noticed about couples with great sex lives over the years is that they make time to be emotionally connected and make room for romance and fun in their marriage. A date night is a great way to do that and to make it easy, I've brought on a guest from The Dating Divas. This website has tons of the ideas for married couples to keep dating in their marriages, and today we're talking about seven sexy ideas for date nights for the summer. (And we even have a cheat sheet for you to access all the dates we talk about in this episode!) *** We hope you're enjoying the International Lovemaking Day Challenge on the Intimately Us app! You have until June 9 to complete challenges and be eligible for prizes!  AND don't forget that you can enjoy the premium version of Intimately Us for FREE on June 9 and 10 in honor of Intimately Us's birthday!

Are there lessons we can learn from those that have gone through marital infidelity and use those lessons to improve our marriages today? I personally haven't dealt with this, but I know of many people that have just experienced the great heartache and the trouble that's come through infidelity in their marriage. So today I sat down with a longtime friend of mine and fellow marriage coach, Andrea Giles. She's experienced firsthand the heartbreaking reality of infidelity in marriage in her first marriage years ago. But she's come through it today able to help thousands of women work through the challenges associated with infidelity, as well as teaching many others how to affair-proof their marriages. Today you'll hear her emphasize the importance of prioritizing truth over peace, being honest with oneself, and creating a relationship where both partners can thrive fully. *** Don't miss out on our upcoming International Lovemaking Day challenge! Join this 9-day challenge to improve intimacy, connection, and fun in your marriage (and maybe even win a prize). All the details are in the Intimately Us app. The fun starts Sunday, June 1!   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

One thing I've noticed about higher desire wives: they feel so lonely. They think they're the only wife on the plane that has the higher desire for sex. They often talk about how they hear about their other lady friends complain about how their husbands are always pursuing them and wanting to have sex with them and how they're tired of that. And the higher desire wives themselves think, "If only my husband pursued me that way....Is something wrong with me? Did I marry the wrong person?" My great friend J. Parker join us on the episode today. She is the author of the blog Hot, Holy, Humorous and a new book called The Higher Desire Wife.  She and I will be discussing these concerns and others expressed by a group of higher desire wives in our private Facebook group. So if you're the wife that's higher desire in your marriage, I just want to say you're very welcome here. There's absolutely nothing wrong with you. And of course, we're gonna do a deep dive on and hopefully answer some of the questions you might in this episode.  News and Resources We have a fun challenge coming up in June on the Intimately Us app--you won't want to miss the chance to earn prizes and get upgraded to the prime membership for free for a few days. So download the app to get ready today. Our men's and women's groups are in full swing and so are closed now, but feel free to get on the waiting list for our next cohort or check out the full program at getyourmarriageon.com/program/   Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.

 In this episode, I'm getting specific with actionable tactics while answering questions about the following: how to grow closer together emotionally overcoming body image concerns as it relates to sex. why women fake orgasms enhancing sexual intimacy with sex toys what the research says about pornography use and its impact on couples  exploring role play in relationships, and most importantly, keeping the erotic energy alive and long-term marriage relationships.  I was a guest on a podcast titled From Mrs to Ms with Andrea. This was a fun, unscripted conversation and with her permission, I'm sharing a portion of that conversation with you today. We need your input! In a few weeks, I'll be doing another question and answer episode specifically on the topic of sexual fantasies as it relates to Christian couples and long-term marriages. And if you have a question you'd like me to prepare for that episode, please reach out to me on Instagram via direct message or send me an email (getyourmarriageon@gmail.com). I'd love to answer it on an upcoming episode. As always, if you and your spouse are looking to take intimacy in your marriage to the next level, check out my Get Your Marriage on Program, or contact me or my team about private coaching opportunities. I'm here for you to help you and your marriage grow stronger and closer and have a lot more fun together intimately. Lastly June 9th (that's 6/9 on a calendar) is a special day! It's the birthday of the Intimately Us app. It also International Love Making Day, and we want to celebrate with you with a fun challenge June 1-9! Download the Intimately Us app for all the info. We're going to have a challenge starting on June 1st, leading up to the ninth. And we have a lot of special prizes and lots of fun for you and your spouse.  Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.