Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell 279: Attachment Styles, Emotional Healing, and Being a Secure Lover in Marriage
If you've ever felt not good enough, feared rejection, or found yourself reacting in ways you don't even understand, this episode is for you. Marriage & family therapist Trevor (Art of Healing by Trevor) explains why so many couples get stuck in cycles of pursuit, shutdown, anxiety, and disconnection — and the emotional transformation required to break free. This conversation is raw, restorative, and deeply practical.
In this episode you'll learn:
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Why fear of abandonment and "I'm not enough" beliefs show up in marriage
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The two classic patterns: people-pleasing pursuer + shut-down withdrawer
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How emotional safety outside the bedroom changes intimacy inside it
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How to work with your inner child to create real healing
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A step-by-step framework for emotional transformation
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How secure partners show up differently in sex, connection, and conflict
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Why awareness alone isn't enough — and what actually creates change
Instagram: @theartofhealingbytrevor Website: theartofhealingbytrevor.com
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