285: How Temperament Shapes Desire, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage (And Why You Can't "Fix" It)

Most couples spend years trying to change the very things in their spouse that will never change — and then feel frustrated, discouraged, or disconnected when nothing improves. Or they wonder why their attempts at connecting intimately fall flat.

In this episode, Dan sits down with Dr. Denim Slade, creator of the C.O.R.E. Temperament model, to talk about something deeper than personality: temperament — the unchanging emotional wiring that shapes how we love, connect, and experience sex.

You'll learn:

• The difference between personality and temperament (and why it matters)

• The four core temperaments that emerged from Dr. Slade's research

• Why each temperament experiences sex, desire, and intimacy differently

• How misunderstanding temperament creates unnecessary sexual tension

• What healthy vs. unhealthy versions of each temperament look like in the bedroom

• How to stop fighting what won't change — and start amplifying what already works

By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of yourself, your spouse, and how to build deeper emotional and sexual intimacy by working with your wiring instead of against it.

Resources and Events

• Dr. Slade's free episode worksheet
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