"Almost all words do have color and nothing is more pleasant than to utter a pink word and see someone's eyes light up and know it is a pink word for him or her, too." ~Gladys Taber Our words are paint strokes on the canvas of life – sounds cheesy, but it’s true. We create a certain picture with every word we choose, both in thinking and speaking. Our question this episode: what world are we creating with our words? How Can I Say This… is a podcast focused on building connection and community through courageous conversations. Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information and archives at howcanisaythis.com. Your reviews, ratings and shares are welcome and help this community grow! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You’ve messed up. You feel embarrassed, you know what you did was a mistake, and you own up to it. You say you’re sorry. And even though you acknowledge it, the other person still wants to chew you out. They want to make sure you know how badly you’ve screwed up. It feels terrible, and you shut down.Our question this episode: what’s the harm with shaming the shameful?This episode was inspired by a post I read over the break with the clickbait headline, "How Should I Tell People a Shameful Secret About My Dog?" The question itself was interesting, but it was the response the columnist gave that really got my hackles up. I’m not going to be talking specifically about the issue the post brought up, but more about the dynamics that played out on the page that we can all learn from.Learn more about the podcast, listen to the archives, get info about leaving a review, and submit your listener question at www.howcanisaythis.com. Thanks for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Being successful in our professional lives depends on lots of people agreeing on certain principles. Show up on time. Follow through. Take your responsibilities seriously. Respect your boss and your colleagues. But what do you do if those shared expectations are violated? Our question this episode: How do you behave when your direct report behaves disrespectfully and refuses to acknowledge that you found the behavior disrespectful? This episode features a listener question about working with a disrespectful colleague. The ideas I offer certainly apply in a professional setting, but I hope they also might be useful in any relationship where it feels like respect and lack thereof is a problem. I also share a couple of must-listen podcast recommendations if you want to better understand your fellow humans.Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com. Ratings, reviews, and shares always welcome! Subscribe to always receive the latest episodes. Thanks for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The podcast explores the dilemma faced by public figures and professionals on when to publicly speak out or stay silent about personal views. It discusses the impact of sharing content on social media and the potential conflicts it may cause. The chapter also delves into the challenge of deciding whether to bring personal beliefs into a business message and strategies for communicating values without direct statements. It emphasizes the importance of speaking up and encourages listeners to consider a set of questions when deciding whether to share their values and convictions. The significance of openly sharing beliefs and values is also explored while considering the potential consequences.

It’s that time of year, when we look forward to food, drink, and time with people we care about. It’s also when we might dread time with people we care about, because that time is filled with talking, and that talking might go in directions that cause conflict. And no, I’m not talking about debating who will win the big game or which movie you want to watch. While Thanksgiving 2016 was probably the most stressful in recent memory for families and friends with differing political views, the Thanksgiving of 2019 is likely to be a close second.Our question this episode: how can we come together when our views threaten to drive us apart?Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More information at www.howcanisaythis.com. Your reviews, ratings and shares are always appreciated! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Once upon a time, if we were upset or disagreed with a person, policy or decision, our thoughts on the matter rippled out maybe as far as our second- or third-degree connections, but not much further. Things moved fairly slowly, and we could generally trust our information sources. But now, almost everyone, with a single click on the word “post” or “tweet,” can share their thoughts with friends and strangers alike, and we can unknowingly spread misinformation or rumors that have the potential to harm others. And if we take the bait when others post provocative content, any possibility of civility goes out the window. Our question this episode: what are some best practices to help us engage constructively with one another on social media, rather than destructively? Hosted by Beth L Buelow, PCC. More information at howcanisaythis.com. Subscribe to stay updated on future episodes. Your shares, reviews and ratings help spread the word and bring more courageous conversations to the world! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There are lots of mantras I live by, including "I’m open to outcome, not attached," and "I can handle whatever happens." I’ve recently adopted a new mantra based on some recent experiences – experiences that have found me angry and upset – and it’s such a good I have to share it. Our question this episode: what can we do when we’re so mad we can hardly see straight?Hosted by Beth L. Buelow, PCC. More info at www.howcanisaythis.com. You can support this podcast through your ratings, reviews, shares, and subscription. Thanks for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Explore the influence of emotions and communication style on productive conversations. Understand the interconnectedness of knowledge, experience, values, and power differences in shaping conversations. Discover the factors influencing interactions and dynamics of authority, privilege, mood, and physical/emotional state. Learn about the factors affecting conflict resolution and strategies for deescalating tense situations. Connect with the speaker and support the podcast.

Arden Clise, expert in communication and etiquette, joins the host to discuss addressing personal habits without hurting feelings. They explore topics such as confronting table manners, addressing loud talkers in the office, navigating small domestic issues, and dealing with irritating habits and sounds.

This podcast explores how to respectfully address misinformation and personal opinions. It highlights two videos that demonstrate effective ways to disagree without being disagreeable. The discussion focuses on the importance of vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional appeals in influencing others. Positive responses in the comment section and the courage to express disagreement are also explored.