Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Send Mara a quick text love note here!You matter. No matter what anyone else does or says. You matter and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to take up this space in your own life.If your needs aren’t being met, you might be getting caught up in a cycle of neediness, where you don’t ask for what you need, your needs don’t get met, and, ultimately, you internalize this as your needs not matter… which prevents you from asking for what you need in the future. In today’s episode, I into into the cycle of neediness that I shared on Instagram and unpack how this cycle further perpetuates itself and our needs being left unmet.You’ll hear about the dangers of internalizing the lie that your needs don’t matter. I also get into the fact that many people are ignoring their very basic needs, taking ownership of your needs, and how to get out of the neediness cycle. Tune in to hear me explore…The false narrative that some people aren’t needyWhy your needs are your responsibilityWhat to do if you’re stuck in the cycle of needinessReady to meet your needs with clarity and consistency? Get on the waitlist for the Tend.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Saying yes to all of the parts of you are and really investing in who it is that you want to be is critical to living a life that is filled with joy. In today’s episode, I had a delicious conversation with Tiffany Han about how to say yes to yourself with a greater sense of ease and grace.Tiffany is a coach, writer, speaker, and podcast host who teaches smart, driven humans how to access and amplify their personal agency so they can say yes to all the things they want to do, be, and say without compromising their standards…or their sanity. As the host of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes podcast, Tiffany is most interested in telling the truth about a life of chasing your dreams—tangles and all. With a penchant for keeping it real, her work focuses on how we can stop over-performing for the sake of the life that somebody else dictates for us and instead start saying yes to ourselves. Throughout her life, Tiffany has said yes to smart things, big things, and seemingly-impossible things, and along the way, she’s learned that the road to a fulfilled life that feels like freedom is paved with bold moves made from deep within our discomfort zones, a vast understanding of ourselves, and a communion with our core values.Our conversation explored how Tiffany got into this work and how she takes care of her own needs. She shares about how she learned to set boundaries around the things she needs, as well as other wonderful gems about moving at your own pace, slowing down inner self-talk, and how her life has changed since she learned to say yes to herself.Tune in to hear us explore…Tiffany’s experience of learning to set boundariesSlowing down inner self-talk and the idea of moving at your own paceHow your agency archetypes are useful for knowing how you show up and what holds you backIf you’re looking for the other RYHSY conversations that we mention during the podcast dance on over to listen to this one is from 2016 and this one from 2019.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!When the shit hits the fan or the pain is too much to bear, we sometimes let our needs fall to the wayside. But, despite the circumstances, you still need to take care of yourself. This care might look remarkably different than your care during regular times, but it is even more important.A lot of people I know and love are grieving right now so I wanted to share my thoughts on taking care of yourself during those difficult times and allowing others to show up for you in those spaces.Tune in to hear me explore…Turn toward yourself when tending to your needsHow prioritizing needs helps you build the energetic blocks to be in conversation with yourself during times of profound griefAllow other people to help care for youMissed the episode on grief with Lucy Mae Taylor? You can listen to it here.Missed the episode where Jennifer Sterling talks about depression meals and other manageable listen to it here.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!In today’s episode, I was joined by Bethany Webster. Bethany helps women to understand and heal their mother wounds. We discussed her new book, Discover Your Inner Mother and how learning to tend to your needs often involves reparenting yourself. In 2013 Bethany Webster published an article entitled “Why it’s Crucial for Women to Heal the Mother Wound” based on a body of work she had been developing in isolation over the course of 15 years. Overnight, the article went viral as women around the world shared it on social media, discussed it with their friends, and began referencing it in new blogs and podcasts. Although work by writers such as Adrienne Rich and Christiane Northrup had touched on the concept of a Mother Wound, no one had yet fleshed out exactly what the Mother Wound is and why it remains a universal experience of women the world over. Bethany’s work addresses a crucial gap in our understanding of women’s psychology and empowerment by comprehensively defining the Mother Wound and how it manifests in women’s lives. Through blending cutting-edge research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany’s work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development.During today’s powerful conversation Bethany shares how to welcome in grief to process the mother wounds that you have. She talks about creating a bank of empathy to break the inherited cycles of pain that we face from our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers. Tune in to hear us explore…How patriarchy has impacted our upbringing and understanding of our own innate worthinessTaking the shame and taboo out of talking about the truth of your relationship with your motherReparenting yourself and making the choice to love yourself when you make mistakes and failBethany’s advice on the two things you can do to start healing your mother woundA note: Upon recording this interview, Bethany’s book, Discovering the Inner Mother was scheduled for publication this July. However, due to Covid-19 that book launch has been pushed back until January. You can currently pre-order her book everywhere books are sold.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Often learning how to tend to yourself includes learning to embrace your inner child and exploring what lights you up. That’s something that today’s guest Bear Hebert has learned to do as they have explored how to tend to their own needs.Bear Hebert is a radical life coach, social justice educator, and anti-capitalist business consultant with a deep understanding of how capitalism is rooted in white supremacy and patriarchy. In work and in life, Bear actively looks at the intersections of power and privilege and will ask you to do the same, pushing both you and your business in the direction of more liberated moments.In this episode, we explored why being transparent helps to push back against the culture of invisibility, meeting your need for play, and how to find your way back to yourself when you feel lost. Bear shares what the mental load is and why this can hinder us from making seemingly “simple decisions”. They also share brilliant advice for tending to your inner child.Tune in to hear us explore…Setting boundaries that create space for you to take are of yourselfWhy transparency in tending pushes back on a culture of invisibilityHow to find your way back to yourself when you get lostLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!A lot of times, people experience shame when their actions don’t compare with that idealized version of who they’ve imagined themselves to be.Truth bomb: You’ll never be able to meet the expectations that you have for the idealized version of yourself. The idealized version of yourself is just a figment of your own imagination and a result of your social conditioning.In this episode, I talk about managing the expectations that you’ve set for yourself and allowing yourself to be human. I share a story of my book writing experience and how I’ve had to manage my expectations for myself during that process.Tune in to hear me explore…Why managing my expectations of myself has become my #1 act of self-careWhy you need to get in conversation with yourself and be thoughtful about what you ACTUALLY want What you need to do to support yourself while working toward what you wantLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Your body is a key aspect of your healing journey when you navigate mental health challenges. That’s what led today’s guest, Jennifer Sterling to the work she does as a Registered Dance/Movement Psychotherapist and Holistic Nutritionist. Jennifer is also the creator of Bodyful Healing, an initiative that offers support and resources to Black women living with depression. Having witnessed the adverse effects of oppressive systems on Black women in her community and through her own lived experience, Jennifer has made it her mission to help reduce the stigma around mental illness within Black communities, as well as educate others on the effects of oppression on the body.In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Jennifer about bringing the body into the healing conversation. We explore how she tends to her needs and the importance of meeting yourself where you’re at. Jennifer shares how we can strengthen our relationship with ourselves, why we benefit from making an effort to slow down, and how to make time for pleasure and play.Tune in to hear us explore…How to create safety to explore a connection with yourselfWhat moments of joy and pleasure look like for JenniferHow she finds her way back to herself when there’s a disconnectLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Over the course of the last few weeks there has been an enormous uptick in conversations about race both online and off — specifically, the systemic, institutional racism that the Black community has faced in the United States for hundreds of years.The recent tragic losses of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, and Tony McDade have moved this conversation to the front and center for many people, some of them for the first time. This awakening has lead to a surge in humans making commitments to identify and dismantle White supremacy both within themselves and within our society at large. This work is essential AND when committing to it, one must also be mindful to make commitments to their own energy in order do this work sustainably over the duration of their lives.In this episode, I discuss burnout culture as it relates to anti-racism work. Tune in to hear me talk about how caring for yourself will nourish your capacity to show up for the things you value and care about most.Tune in to hear me explore…Grounding, right timing, and taking action with your whole selfWhat a commitment to anti-racism looks like for me, personallyResourcing yourself to sustainably make commitmentsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Loss is constantly occurring in our lives and in the world around us, and learning how to tend to these painful, grief-soaked, and transformative moments is an incredibly powerful and necessary practice.Here to help us explore and unpack that practice today is the brilliant Lucy May Taylor. As a Death Awareness Educator and Writer, Lucy’s work and words are devoted to transforming the ways our resistance to impermanence influences our willingness to truly get to know ourselves and the people who we care about. Her desire for each of us is to not allow the fear of change or uncertainty to overshadow the magic of belonging that comes when we are able to live, love and be loved as our fullest self. Through her online school Mortal Wisdom, Lucy’s classes and courses guide us to re-center the neglected parts of ourselves, to let go of what no longer feels good, and to stop resisting the necessary transitions that would move us into wholeness.In this episode, Lucy and I discuss how you can begin to rebuild your relationship with yourself. Our conversation covers the wading through our fear of uncertainty, tending to grief, and how to stay with ourselves during our most challenging moments. Lucy explores what it means to tap into uncertainty and why it’s necessary to do. We also talk about how loss affects us and how the occurrence of loss happens no matter what we do. Tune in to hear us explore…What is possible when you allow yourself to tap into the uncertaintySupporting yourself by relaxing into the container of certainty when you need it Digging deep to work towards being in right relationship with yourselfLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!CW: This episode discusses miscarriage and birth trauma.Our bodies hold memories of our painful and traumatic experiences, but the way that you tend to yourself and lean into what you need can help you to heal past wounds. By acknowledging what you’ve been through whether it be grief, trauma, or whatever else that lives within you, you’re able to move forward in a way that feels compassionate and sustainable for you.In this episode, I share a personal story about the birth of my first child, Delphina and how the birthing experience caused me to dig my heels in for the birth of my second child, Freya. This is a story of readiness co-mingling with fear, body memory, and learning to advocate for what I needed — even, and especially, when I was scared. Tune in to hear me explore…My first birth experience and the fear this brought to my second pregnancy and birth experienceHow your body holds all of your experiences and the anniversaries of those experiences within youWhy entering into a compassionate relationship with your body allows you to explore those places where your body has dug its heels inLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.