Send us a textIn today’s episode, I was joined by Bethany Webster. Bethany helps women to understand and heal their mother wounds. We discussed her new book, Discover Your Inner Mother and how learning to tend to your needs often involves reparenting yourself. In 2013 Bethany Webster published an article entitled “Why it’s Crucial for Women to Heal the Mother Wound” based on a body of work she had been developing in isolation over the course of 15 years. Overnight, the article went viral as women around the world shared it on social media, discussed it with their friends, and began referencing it in new blogs and podcasts. Although work by writers such as Adrienne Rich and Christiane Northrup had touched on the concept of a Mother Wound, no one had yet fleshed out exactly what the Mother Wound is and why it remains a universal experience of women the world over. Bethany’s work addresses a crucial gap in our understanding of women’s psychology and empowerment by comprehensively defining the Mother Wound and how it manifests in women’s lives. Through blending cutting-edge research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany’s work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development.During today’s powerful conversation Bethany shares how to welcome in grief to process the mother wounds that you have. She talks about creating a bank of empathy to break the inherited cycles of pain that we face from our mothers, grandmothers, and great grandmothers. Tune in to hear us explore…How patriarchy has impacted our upbringing and understanding of our own innate worthinessTaking the shame and taboo out of talking about the truth of your relationship with your motherReparenting yourself and making the choice to love yourself when you make mistakes and failBethany’s advice on the two things you can do to start healing your mother woundA note: Upon recording this interview, Bethany’s book, Discovering the Inner Mother was scheduled for publication this July. However, due to Covid-19 that book launch has been pushed back until January. You can currently pre-order her book everywhere books are sold.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textOften learning how to tend to yourself includes learning to embrace your inner child and exploring what lights you up. That’s something that today’s guest Bear Hebert has learned to do as they have explored how to tend to their own needs.Bear Hebert is a radical life coach, social justice educator, and anti-capitalist business consultant with a deep understanding of how capitalism is rooted in white supremacy and patriarchy. In work and in life, Bear actively looks at the intersections of power and privilege and will ask you to do the same, pushing both you and your business in the direction of more liberated moments.In this episode, we explored why being transparent helps to push back against the culture of invisibility, meeting your need for play, and how to find your way back to yourself when you feel lost. Bear shares what the mental load is and why this can hinder us from making seemingly “simple decisions”. They also share brilliant advice for tending to your inner child.Tune in to hear us explore…Setting boundaries that create space for you to take are of yourselfWhy transparency in tending pushes back on a culture of invisibilityHow to find your way back to yourself when you get lostLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textA lot of times, people experience shame when their actions don’t compare with that idealized version of who they’ve imagined themselves to be.Truth bomb: You’ll never be able to meet the expectations that you have for the idealized version of yourself. The idealized version of yourself is just a figment of your own imagination and a result of your social conditioning.In this episode, I talk about managing the expectations that you’ve set for yourself and allowing yourself to be human. I share a story of my book writing experience and how I’ve had to manage my expectations for myself during that process.Tune in to hear me explore…Why managing my expectations of myself has become my #1 act of self-careWhy you need to get in conversation with yourself and be thoughtful about what you ACTUALLY want What you need to do to support yourself while working toward what you wantLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textYour body is a key aspect of your healing journey when you navigate mental health challenges. That’s what led today’s guest, Jennifer Sterling to the work she does as a Registered Dance/Movement Psychotherapist and Holistic Nutritionist. Jennifer is also the creator of Bodyful Healing, an initiative that offers support and resources to Black women living with depression. Having witnessed the adverse effects of oppressive systems on Black women in her community and through her own lived experience, Jennifer has made it her mission to help reduce the stigma around mental illness within Black communities, as well as educate others on the effects of oppression on the body.In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Jennifer about bringing the body into the healing conversation. We explore how she tends to her needs and the importance of meeting yourself where you’re at. Jennifer shares how we can strengthen our relationship with ourselves, why we benefit from making an effort to slow down, and how to make time for pleasure and play.Tune in to hear us explore…How to create safety to explore a connection with yourselfWhat moments of joy and pleasure look like for JenniferHow she finds her way back to herself when there’s a disconnectLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textOver the course of the last few weeks there has been an enormous uptick in conversations about race both online and off — specifically, the systemic, institutional racism that the Black community has faced in the United States for hundreds of years.The recent tragic losses of Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, George Floyd, and Tony McDade have moved this conversation to the front and center for many people, some of them for the first time. This awakening has lead to a surge in humans making commitments to identify and dismantle White supremacy both within themselves and within our society at large. This work is essential AND when committing to it, one must also be mindful to make commitments to their own energy in order do this work sustainably over the duration of their lives.In this episode, I discuss burnout culture as it relates to anti-racism work. Tune in to hear me talk about how caring for yourself will nourish your capacity to show up for the things you value and care about most.Tune in to hear me explore…Grounding, right timing, and taking action with your whole selfWhat a commitment to anti-racism looks like for me, personallyResourcing yourself to sustainably make commitmentsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textLoss is constantly occurring in our lives and in the world around us, and learning how to tend to these painful, grief-soaked, and transformative moments is an incredibly powerful and necessary practice.Here to help us explore and unpack that practice today is the brilliant Lucy May Taylor. As a Death Awareness Educator and Writer, Lucy’s work and words are devoted to transforming the ways our resistance to impermanence influences our willingness to truly get to know ourselves and the people who we care about. Her desire for each of us is to not allow the fear of change or uncertainty to overshadow the magic of belonging that comes when we are able to live, love and be loved as our fullest self. Through her online school Mortal Wisdom, Lucy’s classes and courses guide us to re-center the neglected parts of ourselves, to let go of what no longer feels good, and to stop resisting the necessary transitions that would move us into wholeness.In this episode, Lucy and I discuss how you can begin to rebuild your relationship with yourself. Our conversation covers the wading through our fear of uncertainty, tending to grief, and how to stay with ourselves during our most challenging moments. Lucy explores what it means to tap into uncertainty and why it’s necessary to do. We also talk about how loss affects us and how the occurrence of loss happens no matter what we do. Tune in to hear us explore…What is possible when you allow yourself to tap into the uncertaintySupporting yourself by relaxing into the container of certainty when you need it Digging deep to work towards being in right relationship with yourselfLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textCW: This episode discusses miscarriage and birth trauma.Our bodies hold memories of our painful and traumatic experiences, but the way that you tend to yourself and lean into what you need can help you to heal past wounds. By acknowledging what you’ve been through whether it be grief, trauma, or whatever else that lives within you, you’re able to move forward in a way that feels compassionate and sustainable for you.In this episode, I share a personal story about the birth of my first child, Delphina and how the birthing experience caused me to dig my heels in for the birth of my second child, Freya. This is a story of readiness co-mingling with fear, body memory, and learning to advocate for what I needed — even, and especially, when I was scared. Tune in to hear me explore…My first birth experience and the fear this brought to my second pregnancy and birth experienceHow your body holds all of your experiences and the anniversaries of those experiences within youWhy entering into a compassionate relationship with your body allows you to explore those places where your body has dug its heels inLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhen you think about being in “right relationship” what comes to mind? In this episode, I had the pleasure of being joined by James-Olivia Chu Hillman. James-Olivia (they/them) is a Relational Life & Leadership Coach and a mediator, facilitator, and enthusiastic advocate of necessary, uncomfortable, and life-changing conversations. They work with people who want more joyful connection and less suffering in their relationships with themselves, the people they love, and the world. James-Olivia has a passion for asking questions that make us squirm a bit and point us back to who the fuck we are and what we care about most.Today James-Olivia and I dive into into tending to the ecosystems of a relationship and how to heal from the shame of thinking there is anything wrong with you for loving what you love, wanting what you want, or needing what you need.James-Olivia shares how you can develop the ability to center yourself in your own life and how to voice your wants and needs to those around you. They also share a few steps to support you in becoming more aware of how you’re treating yourself. Tune in to hear us explore…Why (and how) to bring awareness to what’s happening to you in heightened moments The coping mechanism of thinking you can’t be who and how you are while being lovedHow to shift away from codependency and develop a deeper relationship with yourself Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhen was the last time you celebrated something you did? For a lot of us the thought of celebrating wins, big or small, can feel a little uncomfortable. It requires us to embrace our enoughness. It requires us to validate and approve of ourselves — whether or not other people deem us worthy of celebration.In this episode I am urging you to rethink how you celebrate. Take some time and begin to rewrite the rules you’ve made around celebrating yourself. It can be something as simple as getting yourself a fancy cup of coffee or listening to a podcast you enjoy. Take a listen as I explore why you should shift the way you think about celebrations. I’ll be sharing how to validate your experience when things are difficult and how to shift your thoughts around celebrating YOU. You’ll also hear why sometimes you need to lean on yourself to be your own best friend and cheerleader. Tune in to hear us explore…Why people tend to avoid celebrating wins Rethinking the rules you have around celebrating yourselfSmall things you can do to celebrate yourself throughout your dayLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow do you tend to your need for belonging? In today’s age we are all so connected, but there are still so many of us who feel a sense of loneliness and disconnection.In today’s episode, I had the pleasure of discussing belonging with Becca Piastrelli. Becca is a writer, womxn’s coach, and host of the Belonging podcast. She holds space for womxn to explore ancestral wisdom, connect with the earth, and find meaningful and inclusive sisterhood. In this informative and resonant conversation, Becca shares the four areas of belonging and how we often alter ourselves to belong. If you struggle with feeling as though you belong — tune in for Becca’s beautiful permission and advice around how to explore meeting this need. Tune in to hear us explore…How we alter ourselves in order to feel belonging Suffering from being a time bender Why Becca ended up cutting her to-do lists in half How you can begin to explore things you’re curious aboutLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show