Send us a textHave you ever taken the time to truly connect with your deepest desires? It can feel daunting to do so, but has the potential to unlock so much delicious goodness in your life. In this episode, I had the honor of interviewing Sarah Flick about her experience of connecting with her deepest desires. Sarah Flick is a psychiatrist, a spiritual director, and a writer. She lives in Texas with her husband Bob and their golden retriever, Scout. She and Bob have one daughter, Katie. Sarah worked in community mental health throughout her career. She has offered spiritual direction for fifteen years, specializing in supporting clergy and other seekers through discernment processes and life transitions. She has led retreats for churches and other entities throughout the greater Houston-Galveston area and beyond. Sarah has received specialized training in mind-body medicine and in spiritual direction. She recently completed Body Positive Yoga Teacher Training with Amber Karnes and is now certified to teach. Sarah is the author of “Desire, Mystery, Belonging: A Love Letter and Spiritual Geography,” an unpublished manuscript in process.In today’s episode, Sarah and I talk about showing up for yourself, answering the call to do something, and how meeting her needs has changed for her over the course of the last 10 years. Sarah is also a Tend alum and, at the end of the conversation, she shares her advice for people who might be considering the program.Tune in to hear us explore…Sarah’s path to learning to connect with her deepest desireThe moments you face after answering the call to do somethingRising up inside of yourself and showing up for what you are hungry forThe doors are currently open for Tend, my 9-month group coaching circle that helps women, femmes and non-binary folks who are looking to move from self-abandonment to self-partnership. Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWe are conditioned to only appreciate ourselves during our ‘highs’ — our expansions when we are completing big projects, pulling off heroic efforts, or securing culturally significant milestones. We learn to associate our value as a human being with these bright shiny moments where we are making things happen in our lives in big, sparkly, wonderful ways. It might be convenient to think that we should work on ourselves enough that we are ALWAYS creating or producing at this level, but it would be impossible to exist in this state of expansion permanently. Gravity teaches us that what goes up… must come down. A huge part of caring for ourselves is learning to plan for the contractions in our lives. In this episode, I talked about the need to normalize our contractions and giving ourselves restoration, space and time after experiencing expansion. This self-care tool is massively important to supporting ourselves to keep moving forward and showing up in our lives. Tune in to hear me explore…Why contraction is a necessary aspect of expansionLearning to say yes discerningly and specificallyNormalizing and planning for your contractionsThe doors are currently open for Tend, my 9-month group coaching circle that helps women, femmes and non-binary folks who are looking to move from self-abandonment to self-partnership.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWe all deserve to trust the bodies we’re in and to feel fully liberated as we are. In this episode, I was joined by Nicola Haggett, a Body Liberation Mentor and Intuitive Eating Coach.Nicola helps you to heal your relationship with food, unlearn body shame, and live your fullest life right now in the body you’re in. She is a professionally trained coach and Body Trust Provider. She describes herself as fat (a word she has reclaimed as a neutral descriptor for her body) and her lived experience in a fat body is an important part of what she brings to her work. She believes that it’s possible to nourish, care for, and build trust with your body, despite living in a culture that tells you that you need to shrink to fit in.In our conversation, we talk about how the system of patriarchy is set up to benefit from our shame. We also talk about why she decided to intentionally pursue “C work”, why we have to learn to honor our own body stories, and how she uses activism as a way of tending to herself. Tune in to hear us explore…What it means to intentionally pursue “C work”How systems of oppression impact how we see and relate to ourselvesPersonal and communal support for humans experiencing fatphobic pandemic rhetoricNicola’s practices for finding her way back into her bodyLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhat are you really waiting for? What is stopping you from starting to take better care of yourself? What keeps you from knowing that you are worthy of care?A lot of times, we bargain and come up with reasons why we don’t deserve care yet. But without caring for your own needs, you will be depleted of energy. In this episode, I talk about energy leaks that are caused by having too much stuff on our plates. Tune in to learn more about emergency self-care vs. consistent, sustainable self-care and how small shifts in how we care for ourselves can create a big impact on the amount of energy we have. Want more about energy leaks and essential self-care? Sign up for my free workshop, Deliciously DoableTune in to hear me explore…Why you can’t keep waiting for your own careThe only two things you can do when you’re in an energy deficitEmergency self-care vs. consistent, sustainable self-careLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textDo you ever struggle to bring up difficult or awkward conversations? Or even if you know you need to do it, you’re unsure of where to start and feel overwhelmed with the thought of it?For today’s episode, I was joined by Michelle Anthony LaCroix. As a writer, program facilitator, and a life-long sensitive person, Michelle aims to help conflict avoiders and other deeply thoughtful folks disrupt the pattern of keeping everyone around us comfortable — so we can explore what it means to show up for important conversations with more bravery and honesty. In addition to sharing practical wisdom about clear and honest communication, her flagship program and communal writing circles create a space where sensitive people can come together to put our people-pleasing tendencies under a microscope, explore our inner landscape, and hold space for the type of communicators we’re becoming — all in community with each other. Michelle’s work is rooted in a deeply-held belief that if more naturally-empathetic people had the tools to navigate their fear of conflict and engage more fully in conversations about things that matter to us, we’d all be better off.She and I dive into the job that we have to show up fully in relationships. We also chat about passive aggression that we sometimes display toward others and how we can dismantle ourselves from passive-aggressive friendships and relationships. Tune in to hear us explore…The price we pay collectively when we aren’t taking up space in conversationHow you’re not responsible for making other people comfortableTaking responsibility for your own passive aggressionLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textFor so many of us, the idea of tender stewardship is a complete paradigm shift. Fully embodying your tender stewardship of your body, life, and relationships is difficult because we’ve been taught that what’s right, best, or good is to be last on our list.In this episode, I talk about the pressures of the never-ending to-do lists and the pain that can come from putting your needs on the back burner.You don’t need to avoid yourself and your needs until you’ve “earned it”. That external validation may never come so you have to take ownership of this idea of tender stewardship. I also explore building a relationship with yourself and how it’s okay to not have a full understanding of who you are yet. Tune in to hear me explore…How tender stewardship gives you more energetic capacity and improved relationships Why it’s okay to not know yourself fully yetHow building a relationship with yourself allows you to show up in community in a way that’s more authentic to youLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textSometimes loving yourself means holding yourself accountable for your self-care, even when you’re too tired or don’t feel like it. This is something that today’s guest, Jessie Harold has discovered in her own life through tending to herself and her needs.Jessie is a coach, women’s mentor and doula who has been supporting women through radical life transformations and other rites of passage for over a decade. Jessie works one-on-one with women and mothers, facilitates mentorship programs, women’s circles and rituals, and hosts retreats and wilderness quests. Jessie is also the author of Project Body Love: my quest to love my body and the surprising truth I found instead, as well as the forthcoming title, Mothershift: Reclaiming Motherhood as a Rite of Passage. Jessie’s work has been featured in Spirituality & Health, Green Parent, Expectful and Explore Magazine. She is also the host of The Becoming Podcast. Jessie lives on the east coast of Canada where she mothers her two children, writes, and tends to her land.We talk about how she incorporates daily rituals into her every day as a way of showing up for herself. She shares the four elements of radical life transformations, why you shouldn’t judge yourself for being “messy” while transforming and how she uses tiny experiments to dismantle rules that don’t serve her.Tune in to hear us explore…Why loving yourself means holding yourself accountable to your ritualsKnowing who you are and learning to learn to trust yourselfWhat she does to reconnect with herself when she’s out of alignmentLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textYou matter. No matter what anyone else does or says. You matter and you don’t need anyone else’s permission to take up this space in your own life.If your needs aren’t being met, you might be getting caught up in a cycle of neediness, where you don’t ask for what you need, your needs don’t get met, and, ultimately, you internalize this as your needs not matter… which prevents you from asking for what you need in the future. In today’s episode, I into into the cycle of neediness that I shared on Instagram and unpack how this cycle further perpetuates itself and our needs being left unmet.You’ll hear about the dangers of internalizing the lie that your needs don’t matter. I also get into the fact that many people are ignoring their very basic needs, taking ownership of your needs, and how to get out of the neediness cycle. Tune in to hear me explore…The false narrative that some people aren’t needyWhy your needs are your responsibilityWhat to do if you’re stuck in the cycle of needinessReady to meet your needs with clarity and consistency? Get on the waitlist for the Tend.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textSaying yes to all of the parts of you are and really investing in who it is that you want to be is critical to living a life that is filled with joy. In today’s episode, I had a delicious conversation with Tiffany Han about how to say yes to yourself with a greater sense of ease and grace.Tiffany is a coach, writer, speaker, and podcast host who teaches smart, driven humans how to access and amplify their personal agency so they can say yes to all the things they want to do, be, and say without compromising their standards…or their sanity. As the host of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes podcast, Tiffany is most interested in telling the truth about a life of chasing your dreams—tangles and all. With a penchant for keeping it real, her work focuses on how we can stop over-performing for the sake of the life that somebody else dictates for us and instead start saying yes to ourselves. Throughout her life, Tiffany has said yes to smart things, big things, and seemingly-impossible things, and along the way, she’s learned that the road to a fulfilled life that feels like freedom is paved with bold moves made from deep within our discomfort zones, a vast understanding of ourselves, and a communion with our core values.Our conversation explored how Tiffany got into this work and how she takes care of her own needs. She shares about how she learned to set boundaries around the things she needs, as well as other wonderful gems about moving at your own pace, slowing down inner self-talk, and how her life has changed since she learned to say yes to herself.Tune in to hear us explore…Tiffany’s experience of learning to set boundariesSlowing down inner self-talk and the idea of moving at your own paceHow your agency archetypes are useful for knowing how you show up and what holds you backIf you’re looking for the other RYHSY conversations that we mention during the podcast dance on over to listen to this one is from 2016 and this one from 2019.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhen the shit hits the fan or the pain is too much to bear, we sometimes let our needs fall to the wayside. But, despite the circumstances, you still need to take care of yourself. This care might look remarkably different than your care during regular times, but it is even more important.A lot of people I know and love are grieving right now so I wanted to share my thoughts on taking care of yourself during those difficult times and allowing others to show up for you in those spaces.Tune in to hear me explore…Turn toward yourself when tending to your needsHow prioritizing needs helps you build the energetic blocks to be in conversation with yourself during times of profound griefAllow other people to help care for youMissed the episode on grief with Lucy Mae Taylor? You can listen to it here.Missed the episode where Jennifer Sterling talks about depression meals and other manageable listen to it here.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show