Send us a textWe live in a world that doesn’t respect cyclical energy rhythms. And that makes it so hard to sit with the natural contractions that come after periods of expansion.In today’s episode, I talk about how I’m slowing down to process my current contraction & what happens when we try to override these cycles in our lives.Tune in to hear me explore…Macro & micro cyclesExpansion & creating sustainable, titrated momentumContraction & honoring your need to slow downSigns that we’re trying to override our natural cyclesTethering practices to ground you through hard timesThis episode is great for anyone who’s ever experienced burnout. Listen in if you want support feeling safe & trusting yourself while slowing down.LINKS Preorder my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from AmazonLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow do you feel about setting boundaries? Are you worried it may alienate you from friends, family, or loved ones?In today’s episode, Melissa Urban joins me to discuss her journey with boundaries, from learning what they really are to setting them with her close connections. Together, we also unpack how boundaries are kind (not selfish) and make us more (not less) free.Melissa Urban is the Whole30 Co-Founder and CEO, a recovered addict, New York Times best-selling author, mother, podcast host, nature churchgoer, and boundary wizard—in a nutshell. Her latest work, “The Book of Boundaries”, is available for pre-order on her website (linked below).Join us as we discuss:What boundaries really are and how they show kindness to our close connectionsThe importance of setting boundaries with yourself as an act of self-loveNavigating conflict with healthy boundariesAttachment styles in conflictThe importance of re-evaluating boundaries regularly as your life and situations changeHang Out with Melissa:Order Melissa’s Book on BoundariesVisit Melissa’s WebsiteFind Melissa on InstagramFollow Melissa on TwitterLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow do you feel about “quiet quitting”? I love it. And I’ve been encouraging people to quietly quit for years, so I’m happy to see this work make it to the mainstream.In today’s episode, I unpack how to quietly quit your work, your relationships, and your constant attempts at self-improvement.Tune in to hear more about…Why we should rebrand “quiet quitting” as sustainable livingHow to recognize when your work is unsustainableWhy you should quit performing perfection for yourself or other peopleHow to release unrealistic expectationsWhy you don’t need “self-improvement”My wishlist of everything I wish we could all quiet quit right nowThis episode is great for overachievers, perfectionists and people-pleasers. Listen in if you want support quiet-quitting anything or anyone in your life.LINKSPreorder my book Needy from your favorite indie bookstore or from AmazonLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhy do we deny ourselves the grace we offer others? What makes us so “special” that we don’t deserve it, too?In today’s episode, I open up about the depths of my struggle with perfectionism. And I share how I’ve unpacked my ideas of “good work” and “success” to keep doing my work, even when its not perfect.Tune in to hear more about…The idea of “terminal specialness” and why we deny ourselves the grace we offer othersHow perfectionism becomes interwoven with professionalismMy personal Bad Place scenario that’s forced me to reevaluate what “good work” means to meWhy burnout is not a moral failingThe audacity & authenticity of showing up imperfectlyThis episode is great for anyone who feels pressure to be perfect. Listen in if you want support releasing perfectionism and giving yourself permission to be who and how you actually are.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow do we balance hope and despair, expansion and collapse, survival and rest?In today’s episode, Carmen Spagnola joins me to discuss how she cultivates a small and delicious life in the face of collapse. Together we explore the realities of not being able to meet all our needs, what happens when we’re under-resourced (and what happens when we’re ecologically resourced), and the paradigm shifts we need around needs.Carmen Spagnola is a Le Cordon Bleu-trained chef turned trauma recovery practitioner, clinical hypnotherapist, and kitchen witch. As a chef, author, and facilitator, Carmen holds space for renewal amidst turmoil. Her work is an invitation to re-enchantment, soul nourishment, and a deeper and more animistic relationship to the natural world. She provides frameworks and skills to create cultures of collective care in precarious times.Tune in to hear more about…Sitting with your needs when they can’t be metFinding hope & feeling despair in our collapsing worldTaking care of ourselves in survival momentsAttachment theory and how we approach our needsRecognizing yourself as part of an ecosystemHang with Carmen...Find Carmen on InstagramVisit Carmen’s websiteListen to Carmen’s podcast, The Numinous PodcastBuy Carmen’s book, The Spirited Kitchen: Recipes & Rituals for the Wheel of the YearLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textI recently received an email from a Needy listener who wrote, “We’re taught that being mean to ourselves will make it better. But it hasn’t worked. One day we’ll unlearn it…maybe.”So in today’s episode, I’m talking about our combative relationships with ourselves, and how we can unlearn being mean to ourselves by practicing self-trust.Tune in to hear more about…Why being mean to ourselves doesn’t help us growWhy self-trust is the antidote to self-crueltyMy new vision for trustworthiness, where we don’t compare ourselves to machinesHow to develop a relationship with yourself that allows your humanity in, rather than holding your humanity at bayWhy failure is important for developing self-trustMaking space for the grief that comes when you unlearn what you’ve been taughtThis is a tender episode that’s great for anyone who struggles with their inner critic. Listen in if you want support unlearning negative self-talk, turning toward yourself with grace, and accepting your needs.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow do we find our way forward when we don’t have role models or road maps?In today’s episode, Nicole Antoinette joins me to discuss how she cultivates a perpetual conversation with herself. Together we explore the pressure to conform our creativity & our careers to societal expectations, the guilt that arises around meeting our needs, and the release of letting something end.Nicole Antoinette is totally obsessed with the question of how we close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do—without being assholes to ourselves along the way. She works as a community-funded writer (Wild Letters) and podcast host (The Pop-Up Pod), and facilitates a variety of retreats and co-working groups. Offline you can probably find Nicole in the mountains—she's a long-distance hiker with 4,700 miles of experience who loves nothing more than sitting in the dirt and eating her favorite snacks after a full day of putting one foot in front of the other.Tune in to hear more about…Cultivating community and digital intimacyStruggling to find role models for honoring desire and working differentlyHaving honest conversations with ourselvesLearning to quit negotiating with our needsAccepting how our needs shift and changeChampioning more graceful endingsHang with Nicole:Find Nicole on InstagramVisit Nicole’s websiteListen to Nicole’s podcast, The Pop-Up PodBuy Nicole’s new trail journal, What We Owe to OurselvesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textHow can we have energy for the things we want to prioritize without burning out because we’ve prioritized too many things?In today’s episode, I talk about making sustainable commitments and how to decide what to devote your precious resources to. This is an invitation to say no more often, and a lesson in how to identify your priorities so saying yes feels better than ever.I also get really honest about why I re-committed to the Needy podcast after a year-long hiatus, and how I’m applying these lessons to the return of the show so it can be sustainable now and in the future.Tune in to hear more about…Three signs that a commitment is unsustainableHow to figure out what to say no to & what to say yes toThe magical thinking that we can do everything (hint: we can’t)Identifying what you need to make good on your commitmentsThe Needy podcast hiatus & our recent comeback (now with more support!)Your invitation to join The Needy Podcast Inner Circle!This episode also marks the launch of The Needy Podcast Inner Circle! If you love this show and want to support me in producing it sustainably, please consider making a one-time or monthly donation of any amount to join the Needy Inner Circle. You’ll get delicious treats, discounts for future offerings, quarterly Q&As with me, and more as thanks for your support. Join now and receive instant access to the recording of my beloved workshop, Your To-Do List Makeover. Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textWhere are you in the journey from maiden to mother to mature feminine? How do you know where you are or want to be?In today’s episode, Sarah Durham Wilson joins me to unpack her evolution from maiden to mother and share how she tends to her needs as she creates rites of passage for women all over the world.Sarah Durham Wilson is a women’s Rites of Passage Leader and Writer. Her offerings are rooted in Archetypal Mother work and resurrecting the Rite of Passage from Maiden to Mother. She has taught courses and led retreats for thousands of women over the past decade and works with private clients. Her first book, Maiden to Mother is out with Sounds True Publishing in June 2022.Tune in to hear more about…Longing for the rest and the play of mysteryMothering & re-mothering our children, our creations & our selvesRites for passage for moving from Maiden to Mother to Mature FeminineMara’s affirmation “I am the woman for the job”Honoring your capacity as a human and a motherThe challenges of the book-writing process & the music that nurtured our booksControl & spontaneity in our daily routinesMeeting our needs to heal our woundsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show

Send us a textThe Needy podcast is back! A year since our last episode! HI!!Do you ever find yourself thinking “I’ll do that that thing I want when the world gets back to normal…” Or “I’ll finally create my book/podcast/business when my life isn’t so messy…” Or even “I’ll spend time with my spouse once our kids are out of the house…”?In today’s episode, I talk about how all-or-nothing thinking gets in the way of fulfilling our needs. I break down why postponing our dreams until the timing is right or the situation is better or the opportunity is perfect will never bring us the life we want. And I talk about how to begin doing what is doable, so you can have the life you want and need now, not when things are more convenience/easy/better/perfect.Tune in to hear more about…What all-or-nothing thinking is and how it harms usThe many ways we compartmentalize our lives and defer our desiresHow to quit “wouldn’t it be nice…” thought patternsHow to figure out what you need & do what’s doable todayLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Support the show