Even Here, Even Now: A Needy Podcast with Mara Glatzel

Send Mara a quick text love note here!I recently received an email from a Needy listener who wrote, “We’re taught that being mean to ourselves will make it better. But it hasn’t worked. One day we’ll unlearn it…maybe.”So in today’s episode, I’m talking about our combative relationships with ourselves, and how we can unlearn being mean to ourselves by practicing self-trust.Tune in to hear more about…Why being mean to ourselves doesn’t help us growWhy self-trust is the antidote to self-crueltyMy new vision for trustworthiness, where we don’t compare ourselves to machinesHow to develop a relationship with yourself that allows your humanity in, rather than holding your humanity at bayWhy failure is important for developing self-trustMaking space for the grief that comes when you unlearn what you’ve been taughtThis is a tender episode that’s great for anyone who struggles with their inner critic. Listen in if you want support unlearning negative self-talk, turning toward yourself with grace, and accepting your needs.Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How do we find our way forward when we don’t have role models or road maps?In today’s episode, Nicole Antoinette joins me to discuss how she cultivates a perpetual conversation with herself. Together we explore the pressure to conform our creativity & our careers to societal expectations, the guilt that arises around meeting our needs, and the release of letting something end.Nicole Antoinette is totally obsessed with the question of how we close the gap between what we say we want and what we actually do—without being assholes to ourselves along the way. She works as a community-funded writer (Wild Letters) and podcast host (The Pop-Up Pod), and facilitates a variety of retreats and co-working groups. Offline you can probably find Nicole in the mountains—she's a long-distance hiker with 4,700 miles of experience who loves nothing more than sitting in the dirt and eating her favorite snacks after a full day of putting one foot in front of the other.Tune in to hear more about…Cultivating community and digital intimacyStruggling to find role models for honoring desire and working differentlyHaving honest conversations with ourselvesLearning to quit negotiating with our needsAccepting how our needs shift and changeChampioning more graceful endingsHang with Nicole:Find Nicole on InstagramVisit Nicole’s websiteListen to Nicole’s podcast, The Pop-Up PodBuy Nicole’s new trail journal, What We Owe to OurselvesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Courses, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!How can we have energy for the things we want to prioritize without burning out because we’ve prioritized too many things?In today’s episode, I talk about making sustainable commitments and how to decide what to devote your precious resources to. This is an invitation to say no more often, and a lesson in how to identify your priorities so saying yes feels better than ever.I also get really honest about why I re-committed to the Needy podcast after a year-long hiatus, and how I’m applying these lessons to the return of the show so it can be sustainable now and in the future.Tune in to hear more about…Three signs that a commitment is unsustainableHow to figure out what to say no to & what to say yes toThe magical thinking that we can do everything (hint: we can’t)Identifying what you need to make good on your commitmentsThe Needy podcast hiatus & our recent comeback (now with more support!)Your invitation to join The Needy Podcast Inner Circle!This episode also marks the launch of The Needy Podcast Inner Circle! If you love this show and want to support me in producing it sustainably, please consider making a one-time or monthly donation of any amount to join the Needy Inner Circle. You’ll get delicious treats, discounts for future offerings, quarterly Q&As with me, and more as thanks for your support. Join now and receive instant access to the recording of my beloved workshop, Your To-Do List Makeover. Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review.Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Where are you in the journey from maiden to mother to mature feminine? How do you know where you are or want to be?In today’s episode, Sarah Durham Wilson joins me to unpack her evolution from maiden to mother and share how she tends to her needs as she creates rites of passage for women all over the world.Sarah Durham Wilson is a women’s Rites of Passage Leader and Writer. Her offerings are rooted in Archetypal Mother work and resurrecting the Rite of Passage from Maiden to Mother. She has taught courses and led retreats for thousands of women over the past decade and works with private clients. Her first book, Maiden to Mother is out with Sounds True Publishing in June 2022.Tune in to hear more about…Longing for the rest and the play of mysteryMothering & re-mothering our children, our creations & our selvesRites for passage for moving from Maiden to Mother to Mature FeminineMara’s affirmation “I am the woman for the job”Honoring your capacity as a human and a motherThe challenges of the book-writing process & the music that nurtured our booksControl & spontaneity in our daily routinesMeeting our needs to heal our woundsLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!The Needy podcast is back! A year since our last episode! HI!!Do you ever find yourself thinking “I’ll do that that thing I want when the world gets back to normal…” Or “I’ll finally create my book/podcast/business when my life isn’t so messy…” Or even “I’ll spend time with my spouse once our kids are out of the house…”?In today’s episode, I talk about how all-or-nothing thinking gets in the way of fulfilling our needs. I break down why postponing our dreams until the timing is right or the situation is better or the opportunity is perfect will never bring us the life we want. And I talk about how to begin doing what is doable, so you can have the life you want and need now, not when things are more convenience/easy/better/perfect.Tune in to hear more about…What all-or-nothing thinking is and how it harms usThe many ways we compartmentalize our lives and defer our desiresHow to quit “wouldn’t it be nice…” thought patternsHow to figure out what you need & do what’s doable todayLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Making decisions that are right and true for ourselves can feel like a sticky, uncomfortable process. What does it actually look like to go through the emotional ups and downs of deciding to live life differently than anyone you know? Today’s guest, Cait Flanders, is here to share her experience. She is normalizing what it looks like to opt-out of traditional expectations and live a creative and intentional life. Cait Flanders is the author of Wall Street Journal bestseller, THE YEAR OF LESS. Described by Vogue as “a fascinating look into a living experiment that we can all learn from,” it has been translated into 10 languages, and sold more than 190,000 copies. Her new book, ADVENTURES IN OPTING OUT, is a field guide to opting out of expectations, changing paths, and leading a more intentional life. Powell’s Books says it, “offers a sturdy and flexible framework to navigate whatever path you are currently on.” In our conversation, Cait shares all about her experiences of opting out, growth and learning through experimentation, and working through the fear of trying something new. Whether you’re on the precipice of making a change or have walked this path many times before, Cait’s insightful stories will broaden your opting-out plans.Tune in to hear more about:Why it’s not so simple to choose differentlyHow to be less precious about your process, even though you don’t know where it will take youWhy a contemplation period before opting out can feel longer than you think it should (and why that’s totally normal!)The squirmy process of actively standing up for yourself and your decisions Navigating relationships as you opt in to the life you wantWhy you don’t need a “big picture” vision for your life to live more intentionallyAnd why you’re never too small (or young, or old, or alone, or whatever) to make big decisions for your own lifeLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Do you routinely set resolutions for yourself in January, only to completely lose track (and steam) by March? Does it feel like 2021 is FLYING BY and you've been considering waiting until 2022 to finally get down to creating the life you've been wanting for yourself? Do you keep pushing your care off to next week, hoping it will be better, but that time never seems to come? This episode is for you. Join me to dismantle the cycle that keeps your goals in limbo and your care relegated to the very last spot on your to-do list (if it appears there at all). Traditional resolution and goal setting doesn't include mechanisms that account for your humanity and daily needs. We are not taught how to make tandem commitments to ourselves rooted in WHAT WE NEED in order to make good on our promises. Instead, we are urged to push through and work harder -- only to get us stuck in deep bouts of burnout. Today's episode describes a different model for being in relationship with yourself and your desires, so that you are able to stop focusing on things that don't matter and start fueling your self-trust through consistent, inspired action. Tune in to hear more about…What setting resolutions on January has to do with diet cultureHow to stop internalizing your exhaustion as personal failureThe steps to cultivating living, breathing goals that grow with you over the course of the yearWhat self-trust has to do with taking empowered action in your life Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!As a recovering people-pleaser myself, I am so delighted to bring you my conversation with Johanna Bogart. Johannah is an internationally recognized coach for people pleasers, certified in trauma-informed care and by Erickson Coaching International. She studied sociology and comparative sexuality studies at the Ohio State University while managing projects for Amnesty International and Greenpeace. She’s worked as a Therapeutic Recreation Specialist at a foster care agency in the Bronx and as an Advocate Counselor in Brooklyn. Her work offers a unique blend of practical tools, spiritual integration, and social justice framework so that you can unhook from everything that has power over you and live as a sovereign being. In today’s episode, Johanna shares all about navigating the world as a (recovering) people pleaser, the tension of both wanting to protect ourselves and wanting to be seen and known, and the power of claiming allegiance to yourself. We jam on about how people pleasing, perfectionism and codependency keep us small and from having our needs met -- even though (and especially) because they are valiant attempts to get our needs met in our relationships. Tune in to hear us explore what belonging to yourself can truly look and feel like and micro steps for becoming aligned with your truth.Tune in to hear us explore:What belonging to yourself can truly look and feel likeNavigating your vulnerability armor and how to stop being a damsel in distressTelling the truth and renegotiating relationship contractsAllowing people to really know you and support youHow you may be in a codependent relationship with yourself (and questions to ask yourself to shift from enabling to empowering)A micro step for becoming aligned with your truthHow to stop being hypersensitive to how other people feel (hint: your feelings are yours, theirs are theirs)Love Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Today’s conversation with Tunja Morton is close to my heart. As someone who comes from a family of teachers, and after the pandemic year teachers endured and all they’ve made happen, I know intimately how needed Tunja’s work is. Tunja is a life coach for educators, but the core of her work is about deepening self-care for your own well-being and enjoyment of your life. For the past 25 years – Tunja Morton has been an educator. She is a Milken Award-winning National Board Certified Teacher, life coach, author, and advocate for school staff self-care and overall wellbeing. Tunja’s superpower is holding safe spaces for those who are ready to explore and express what they want their lives to look and feel like. She believes in giving yourself permission to live that life without apologizing or attempting to explain it. Tune in to hear more from Tunja about:Self-care practices, which include choosing a guiding word of the year, 4 pillars of “ways of being” and keeping a joy listHer daily practices for living her 2021 word of the year: NourishHow to get started with your own joy list (especially if the thought of one sparks potential for disappointment)Ways in which prioritizing a “culture of care” in the workplace supports everyoneHealing imposter syndromeAnd the clarity and courage she brings to creating the life she lovesLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.

Send Mara a quick text love note here!Do you believe that being an adult means muscling through, doing hard things, and putting your needs on the back burner? Have you been ignoring your body in the name of scratching just a few more things off of your to-do list? Today's episode is for you. One thing is clear, the concept of "adulting" needs colossal rebrand. Tune in to hear me dispel this myth once and for all and teach you how do show up for what matters to you most in a way that is sustainable and, dare I say, ENJOYABLE. That's right. You can do the damn thing and ENJOY IT. Today's episode will show you how befriending yourself, honoring your personal energy rhythms and cycles, and tending to your perfectionistic expectations will support you in experiencing radically more pleasure and joy on a daily basis. (Yes, even when you are folding your millionth load of laundry or doing your taxes.)Tune into today’s episode to hear more about…Retiring your exhausting habit of muscling through to get things doneHow getting to know yourself better helps you plan for yourself betterRedefining what success means to you (and tending to your wildly perfectionistic expectations!)Honoring the season of life that you are inHow prioritizing pleasure, joy, and celebration is energetically regenerativeLove Needy? Pretty please subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and leave a rating & review. Really love Needy? Join the Needy Podcast Inner Circle! Special treats, discounts, quarterly Q&As and more for a one-time or monthly donation of any amount. Exclusively for folks who love the Needy podcast. THANK YOU.Winter Camp is open! Join me for five weeks to reclaim yourself with weekly experiments, cozy craft-alongs, fireside sessions, and a community of excellent humans who get it. This isn't another obligation on your to-do list, it's permission to finally put yourself first without the guilt spiral. Doors close Friday, January 9th. Claim your seat at maraglatzel.com/winter-camp.