Send us a text"Fawning" is the most common stress response among highly sensitive people and people pleasers. In this episode we explore the four F's in the human stress response—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn—and discuss how fawning manifests in behaviors aimed at pleasing others, often at the expense of one's own needs and boundaries.What You'll Learn:-The four F's of the human stress response: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn-How fawning can be identified through behaviors like extreme people-pleasing and conflict avoidance-The impact of seeking approval and over-apologizing on personal well-being-The dangers of ignoring personal boundaries and difficulty in saying no-Strategies to recognize and navigate fawning tendenciesRecognizing the signs of fawning is crucial for breaking the cycle of people-pleasing and developing healthier boundaries. Understanding these patterns can help you reclaim your self-identity and build more authentic relationships.Was this helpful? Don't forget to subscribe to our channel for more! Looking for customized support? Come and work with me! Apply to work with me: https://maryannwalker.life/contact-meConnect with me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/maryannwalker.lifeConnect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maryannwalker.life/Connect with me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@maryannwalker.life

Send us a textWhat if navigating the others discomfort isn't the problem? What if instead  it's learning to manage our own discomfort?So often we believe that the other person is uncomfortable with our boundary because we said it wrong or because it isn't a "good" boundary, or maybe we even tell ourselves their disappointment over our boundary is a sign that they are an unempathic jerk! But disappointment and discouragement happens. Disappointment isn't the problem. Learning to navigate it is. In this episode we talk about the value of acknowledging disappointed and how to navigate it in relationship Wanting to learn more? Come and register for my FREE How to Stop People Pleasing Webinar! Register before April 19th to join and YES!  a replay will be sent out after the event. See you there! https://maryannwalker-life.ck.page/0d3d222d7a

Send us a textMain Ideas: People PleasingPeople pleasers often focus more on how others perceive them rather than their own feelings towards others.Insecurity is one reason people try to win over others, even at the risk of inauthentic living.Constant pressure to meet others' expectations can create anxiety and stress.Unfulfilling relationships result from trying to win approval at the sacrifice of true compatibility.A lack of boundaries and loss of self-esteem are two potential outcomes of seeking external validation.Four Steps to Shift MindsetNoticing Opportunities: Being aware of people with similar interests that are  open to conversation.Approaching with Authenticity: Engaging in genuine interactions based on shared interests.Embracing Uniqueness: Recognizing it's okay to be different and connecting with those who appreciate individuality.Seeking Meaningful Connections: Prioritizing quality over quantity, aiming for deeper, one-on-one interactions.Reflection and Call to ActionReflect on current relationships: Can you be authentic or do you feel the need to compromise to please others?Embrace your uniqueness and seek connections with those who resonate with you.Shift from seeking approval to building self-confidence and enjoying meaningful connections.Announcement: Free "Stop People Pleasing" webinar on April 19th. Click here to register! https://maryannwalker-life.ck.page/0d3d222d7aConclusionEncouragement to prioritize authenticity and meaningful connections, letting go of the pressure to win everyone's approval.The goal isn't to please everyone, but to find those who genuinely resonate with you.ReferencesEpisode 2: You Are Not For Everyone, And That's OK.Episode 42: Part 3: When The Relationship is Complete/Relationship Circles  

The podcast discusses overcoming overwhelm by understanding the brain's reactions. Tips include affirmations for resilience and focusing on solutions. It explores the 'why me?' perspective during tough times and offers insights on growth through adversity. Strategies for embracing positivity and navigating challenges with resilience are shared, along with an announcement for a free online workshop on overcoming people-pleasing behaviors.

Send us a textWelcome back to Inner Work with MaryAnn Walker! We're celebrating Episode 95 today, and I've got some exciting updates and a special announcement.Celebrating Growth: Thank you to all our listeners! We've grown so much, reaching listeners in the US, UK, Canada, Belgium, Taiwan, Ireland, Australia, India, Peru, and beyond! Your support means everything. THANK YOU for being here and for sharing with your friends and family! What's Coming: Expect more engaging guests and deep conversations on future episodes. Get ready for a special 100th episode where I'll interview my daughters on raising children to be free from people-pleasing. Learn from my successes and failures as a people pleasing parent.Reintroducing Myself: I serve the helpers, healers, and people pleasers. I've been through it all - from childcare to energy work - and I'm here to help you find balance and joy.The Big Announcement: Join me for a live virtual workshop on "How to Stop People Pleasing" on April 19th, 2024! It's free, but you do need to register to save your seat. I'll be sharing  insights into why people pleasing isn't just about setting boundaries but also about managing emotions.Register for my FREE online Stop People Pleasing workshop here: https://maryannwalker-life.ck.page/0d3d222d7aTell me about you and leave me a review here: https://forms.gle/8AyatTjeG3L6K9XW9Listen to Episode 67: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2028767/13868399

Send us a textAs people pleasers, we are very good at showing up consistently for others. But we are less skilled when it comes to showing up consistently for ourselves. Take some time today to identify one way you want to consistently show up for yourself and find a fun way to track it!  As we practice showing up consistently for ourselves, it benefits everyone because we aren't as depleted. 

Send us a textIn this episode  we discuss the differences between communicating from a place of emotional calm versus approaching conversations with heightened emotional charge. Examples of Emotionally Charged vs. Emotionally Calm Responses:Emotionally charged: "You're avoiding me to punish me."Emotional calm: "Hey, I'd love to get together, I miss you."Emotionally charged: "You must not like me very much."Emotional calm: "Hey, I haven't heard from you as much lately, what's been going on?"Emotionally charged: "Our friendship doesn't matter anymore."Emotional calm: "I noticed we haven't been spending much time together, is everything okay?"Emotionally charged: "I guess I can't count on you."Emotional calm: "I'm feeling overwhelmed with work, could use some support, are you available?"Reasons for Emotionally Charged Responses:Past Experiences: Previous negative experiences or traumas shaping interpretations.Insecurity: Low self-esteem leading to negative interpretations.Lack of Communication Skills: Not having the skills to communicate effectively.Projection: Projecting fears or insecurities onto others.Defense Mechanisms: Becoming defensive to protect ego.Emotional Triggers: Strong reactions based on past experiences.Cognitive Bias: Seeking and interpreting information to confirm existing beliefs.The episode emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, pointing out that it ultimately boils down to our ability to manage our emotions in order to communicate effectively. Consider instances in your life where emotional regulation might be a challenge, particularly in relationships. By recognizing these patterns, individuals can strive to approach conversations from a place of emotional calm, leading to more constructive dialogue and healthier relationships.Looking for more support?  Come and work with me! Click here to apply now

Send us a textToday I share the story of two monks. Both had taken a vow to not touch a woman, yet they found a woman in need of help crossing a river. The older and wiser monk carried her across. The younger younger monk became angry and accusatory towards the senior monk. "We took a vow not to touch a woman!" The older monk replied, "I left her by the river. Why are you still choosing to carry her?"So often we continue to hold onto things, possibly even ruminating on them, thinking this is productive. Today, I encourage you to leave it behind. Let it be. Leave it by the  side of the river. To read the full article, click here. To work work with me, click here. To connect with me on my other platforms, click here. 

Send us a textAre you telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth in your relationship? Comment like: "I don't like your boyfriend""You abandoned me at the party"& "You are so inconsiderate"Might feel like you're telling the truth, but these statements are actually partial truths. This week we explore how to be more truthful and authentic in relationship by increasing our own emotional maturity, identifying ALL that is coming up for us, and communicating in a way that owns your experience without defensiveness. Are you looking for support when it comes to identifying what your whole truth us? Apply to work with me now by going to www.maryannwalker.life  

Send us a textDo you struggle to say no?  The desire to help comes from a good place. But sometimes, saying yes can lead to resentment or feeling taken for granted.Learning to identify the difference between urgency & an emergency can help. Here are three ways to tell the difference:Urgency: It is time sensitive, but the consequences of not taking immediate action are mild.Emergency: It is time sensitive and consequences of not taking immediate action are severe.Urgency: The consequences of it not being addressed include some inconvenience.Emergency: The consequences of it not being addressed include death or significant injury to self or others. Urgency: The problem could have been prevented with proper planning. Emergency: The problem could not have been prevented or planned for. Want to learn more? Like, follow, and come and listen to episode 84, Saying YES and Saying NO: The Law of Opposites, on my podcast, Inner Work with MaryAnn Walker. Watch or listen on your favorite platform now. Want to listen to episode 84?  Click here: Saying YES and saying NO: The Law of Opposites. Want to work with me or follow me on my other platforms?  Click here!