127: When Someone Makes You Upset: How to Take Control of Your Feelings

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Do you ever feel like someone else has the power to ruin your entire day with just a word, a look, or a tone of voice? If so, you’re not alone—but here’s the truth: other people can influence your emotions, but they can’t actually control them. The real power lies in how you process and respond.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to control your feelings in healthy, empowering ways—even when someone else makes you upset. We’ll talk about why others can’t control your feelings, how emotional boundary setting can protect your peace, and why highly sensitive people often struggle with carrying the weight of other people’s emotions.

Here’s what we’ll cover this week:

• The difference between cognitive empathy and the lived emotional experience of highly sensitive people.
• Why others cannot make you upset without your consent.
• How to distinguish between your emotions and other people’s emotions so you don’t slip into emotional overwhelm.
• The importance of processing emotions in the body—and practical ways to do it.
• How to set emotional boundaries that safeguard your well-being without trying to control someone else.

When you learn to separate what’s yours from what belongs to others, you reclaim your personal power. Processing emotions in your body, setting clear boundaries, and practicing emotional awareness allows you to move through challenges with more calm and clarity.

Your emotions are your responsibility—and that’s actually good news. Because when you take ownership, you’re no longer at the mercy of someone else’s mood or behavior. You get to choose how to show up, no matter what’s happening around you.

If this resonates with you, I’d love to support you on a deeper level. My one-on-one coaching sessions are designed to help highly sensitive people and recovering people-pleasers set healthier boundaries and feel more grounded in their relationships. My schedule is filling quickly, so be sure to reserve your spot today.

And if you’re enjoying this podcast, please take a moment to leave a rating or review—it helps more sensitive, empathetic souls like you find these tools. Thank you for listening, and I’ll see you next week!