This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships The difference between individual empowerment and relational empowerment Which quadrant of the grid Layla is on and how she got there Why Terry calls our relationships our “biosphere” Terry’s best advice for shifting out of anger and into connection A powerful guided boundary practice to follow along with   Bio   Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author committed to helping you build the lasting, loving relationships you deserve.   The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment.   His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), underpins all of his books, courses and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections – to themselves, each other and the planet as a whole.   A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of “the turnaround guy,” and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed.   To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice and their own relationships.   Terry is passionately committed to empowering us all with the essential relational skills for meaningful relationships.   Learn more about Terry’s work on his website and take his FREE quiz.   Timestamps 00:00:56 - Guest introduction 00:01:12 - What Terry’s book Fierce Intimacy taught Layla 00:05:03 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:05:43 - Terry shares the work that inspired his grid 00:07:00 - Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships 00:09:47 - Why we have a hard time centering our own self-esteem 00:11:21 - Terry gives a real life example of self-esteem 00:15:33 - How to get out of one down or one up on the grid 00:21:10 - Say whatever you have to say, but do it from the heart 00:23:55 - Individual empowerment vs relational empowerment 00:26:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:28:41 - Why Terry believes that our relationships are our biosphere 00:37:54 - Unlock your deepest pleasure with MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:38:42 - Layla reveals which quadrant she is in on the grid 00:46:36 - What allowed Layla’s pain and desperation to finally dissolve 00:48:52 - Terry guides Layla through an inner child exercise 00:57:45 - Discover your sexual potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 01:01:38 - The mysticism of marriage 01:07:55 - How Layla chose to be happy no matter what her partner is doing 01:10:50 - Guidance on how to shift out of anger 01:15:44 - Terry guides Layla and listeners through a boundary exercise 01:20:53 - Take Terry’s quiz to find out where you are on the grid 01:22:08 - Conclusion  

Shownotes Why the cervix alters your state of consciousness How to move through a violation with your cervix What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship The phases of dearmoring safely Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms   Bio Olivia Bryant is the founder of Self:Cervix and creator of the Cervical Awakening Pathway – a profound journey into the body, love and creative power through activating the cervix.    For over a decade, Olivia has explored the cervix as a portal to expanded sensation, deep emotional release, universal love and the integration of sexuality and consciousness.    With a background in sexology and somatic practice, she’s guided thousands of women through transformative experiences that awaken intimacy, pleasure and the multidimensional intelligence of their bodies.   Learn more about Olivia’s work on her website.    Timestamps 00:00:46 - Guest introduction 00:02:07 - How Olivia experienced her first cervical orgasm 00:07:25 - The cervix alters your state of consciousness 00:10:08 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:39 - How Olivia vetted potential partners as a single woman 00:15:20 - You get to be responsible for exactly the kind of touch you desire 00:19:43 - How you move through a violation with your cervix 00:23:33 - How to dearmor the cervix to release pain 00:27:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:30:22 - When we surrender, our primal impulse flows through us 00:34:13 - What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body 00:37:10 - The shadow of yin is a heavy energy 00:41:24 - Cervical orgasm influences the frequency you walk through the world with 00:41:58 - Olivia and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:48:41 - The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship 00:52:45 - No matter where you start, you can reach the deepest self-love 00:53:19 - Discover your sexual and relational potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 00:55:56 - The phases of dearmoring safely 01:02:22 - Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms 01:05:39 - Conclusion Follow Layla! 🌸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelaylamartin/ 🌐 Website: www.laylamartin.com 💌 Weekly Email: https://laylamartin.com/join-list/ 🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/this-tantric-life-with-layla-martin/id1685418994 🎶 Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/72iBpAwMSsTl9zLk8fHMp1?si=9f465574aa114d63 💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements: https://shopmood.com/ 🔥 For Men: Men’s Sexual Mastery - https://hubs.ly/Q01c_Wgx0 🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women - https://hubs.ly/Q01c0SWh0 Disclaimer TRUTH AND LOVE COACHING INTERNATIONAL, LLC – VIDEO DISCLAIMER The information contained within this video is for informational purposes only. We shall in no event be held liable to any party for any reason arising directly or indirectly for the use or interpretation of the information presented in this video. © 2024 Truth and Love Coaching, LLC - All Rights Reserved.

Baya Voce, a relationship repair expert with an MSW from Columbia University and mentee of Esther Perel, dives into the art of relationship repair. She uncovers surprising truths about the happiest couples and the ongoing practice of repair. Baya discusses how modern virtual interactions can impoverish our relational skills and defines critical boundaries in partnerships. She also teaches four essential skills for effective conflict resolution, emphasizing that repair can be learned, enabling couples to rebuild trust and deepen connection.

Shownotes How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul  Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it   Bio Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment.   With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices.   Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton.   Timestamps 00:00:48 - Guest introduction 00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history 00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it 00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society 00:09:56 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences 00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture 00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure  00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access 00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life 00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure 00:42:30 - Explore the magic of  MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir 00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her 00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston 00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything 00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her 00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure 00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life 01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics 01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching 01:08:05 - Conclusion  

In this conversation with somatic educator Steven Jaggers, learn about the transformative power of connection over mere healing. He emphasizes how to articulate feelings through body awareness and the importance of attunement in relationships. Jaggers explains why understanding our internal presence fosters deeper emotional bonds. He also discusses the interplay of breathwork and emotional resilience, revealing how this practice enhances authenticity and connection in intimacy.

This episode features Jamie Elizabeth Thompson, a feminine embodiment teacher and founder of Awakened Woman, who guides women in reclaiming their sensual power. Jamie dives into why many women struggle to access cervical orgasms and shares transformative experiences that merge pleasure with healing. Listeners can follow a unique guided practice, discover methods to connect with their cervix daily, and explore the vital link between cervical awareness and a healthy nervous system, all while embracing intimacy and personal empowerment.

Shownotes   How to use pain to carve out space for more joy The key to re-establishing beautiful orgasmic experiences Layla’s experience training terror into safety in her nervous system The tools that allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma Why some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy How to heal trauma from a resource perspective so it becomes a gift   Bio   Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and has taught over 50,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages.   Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Vogue and ABC. She’s been named one of the top 100 women in wellness to watch and has taught at Apple, Google and Harvard Business School.   A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. Her transformation was so dramatic that she felt inspired to share it with others.   It’s Emily’s mission to help as many people as possible achieve extraordinary benefits – like dramatically reduced stress, anxiety relief and deep, restful sleep.   Learn more about Emily and her work on her website.   Timestamps   00:01:00 - Guest introduction 00:02:00 - Emily shares her experience inside VITA Coaching 00:02:43 - What surprised Emily about VITA Coaching 00:04:24 - Emily shares about the death portal she’s been experiencing 00:06:26- The pain carves out space for more joy 00:07:05 - What inspired Layla to create VITA Coaching 00:10:39 - How to re-establish beautiful orgasmic experiences 00:13:33 - The answer to women being fractured in their power 00:13:48 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:18:49 - VITA Coaching is an understanding of women’s evolution of power 00:19:55 - The reactivation and reunion of sex, heart and spirit 00:21:45 - What has helped Emily remember her own divinity 00:25:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:27:52 - Layla shares her experience training terror into safety in her nervous system 00:30:09 - How the VITA tools allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma 00:32:10 - We have organic pleasure chemicals already in our body 00:33:31 - One of the things Layla is most proud of 00:35:59 - Some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy 00:39:31 - You heal your trauma at the level of consciousness it occurred 00:39:39 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:42:08 - If you love who you are, you can love what shaped you into it 00:45:43 - When you heal trauma from a resource perspective, it becomes a gift 00:46:22 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:47:26 - Layla shares the most touching thing VITA Coaching grads share with her 00:49:51 - Where to find the most outrageous amount of healing and self-practice 00:53:00 - Save your seat for Your Future is Erotic LIVE Event 00:54:12 - You don’t need to be perfect to be a powerful coach 00:57:02 - Why Layla considers it her responsibility to support your success as a coach 00:57:32 - VITA Coaching niche specializations to scale your impact and income 00:58:54 - Join the VITA Coaching Waitlist and unlock the maximum number of bonuses 00:59:56 - Conclusion  

Nisha Moodley, a Devotional Leadership guide and founder of Global Sisterhood Day, shares her insights on female leadership and erotic power. She discusses the importance of embracing one's sensuality as a form of empowerment and how societal perceptions often repress women's leadership. The conversation highlights the need for supportive environments that nurture connection and tranquility, as well as for women to reclaim their identities while balancing nurturing roles. Nisha also touches on the transformative potential of embracing emotional ranges and authentic self-expression.

Tom Slater, a dedicated teacher and the mind behind The Sapience Retreat, discusses the transformative power of relational work in healing. He emphasizes the need for genuine connections to address trauma and enhance personal growth. Tom shares insights on embracing vulnerability, the importance of self-discovery, and the journey of rediscovering one's inner child. The conversation highlights how authentic emotional expression fosters deeper relationships and supports profound healing, showcasing the beauty of integrating all aspects of one's being.

Shownotes   The best and worst sex ideas of 2025 The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic The biggest sexual problems people face Dr. Emily’s take on why people cheat How sex is a multi-layered experience   Bio   Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She’s a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others.   Dr. Emily’s mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.   Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website.   Timestamps   00:00:41 - Guest introduction 00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex 00:04:43 - If you can’t talk about something, then you can’t have an empowering relationship to it 00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT 00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025 00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe 00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman 00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone 00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness 00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human 00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements 00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy 00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic 00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face 00:54:56 - Do people who don’t practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex? 00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you 00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠ 00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat 01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience 01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers 01:20:07 - Conclusion