This Tantric Life with Layla Martin

Shownotes   Why the archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother Why rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen How the feminine archetypes impact dating and relationships Why we choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us Mel’s best advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone   Bio   Mel Wells is a world-renowned 7-figure love and leadership mentor for successful female entrepreneurs. She empowers women to create the love lives and intimacy they deeply crave by fully understanding and embodying their feminine power, unlocking their wild magnetism and irresistible energy. Mel also mentors ambitious, spiritually driven women to scale their businesses by harnessing the power of their feminine energy and unique superpowers. Through her work, Mel helps women thrive in both love and leadership, embodying their most authentic and radiant selves.   Timestamps   00:01:33 - Guest introduction 00:04:29 - The archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love 00:07:34 - Why we think of feminine energy as less powerful 00:08:04 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:09:56 - Mel shares about the relationship that sent her into a deep portal of reflection 00:13:22 - If his energy isn’t pursuing you, he’s disqualified 00:16:32 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:17:16 - Mel and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:20:25 - Men go after what they want 00:21:38 - If he’s not moving towards you, it’s not your job to figure it out 00:25:47 - Rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen 00:26:02 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:28:34 - We choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us 00:31:40 - Mel explains the feminine archetypes and how they impact dating 00:35:33 - Why it’s important to listen deeply to your universal path 00:39:23 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss 00:43:04 - Finding delight in wherever you are on your dating journey 00:46:40 - Never discount the possibility of being fully chosen at every stage in your life 00:48:19 - You can be a female entrepreneur AND be filled with life and magic 00:51:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification  00:54:18 - When you mother your partner, he will show up as a child 00:54:54 - The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother 00:57:46 - Mel’s advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone 01:00:47 - A practice for switching from the Huntress archetype to the Queen 01:02:01 - A practice for shifting from the Mother archetype to the Lover 01:03:27 - Conclusion  

Shownotes   The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume How radical love is different than self-sacrificing What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship   Bio   Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what stands in the way of lasting change – and how to meet those blocks with presence, compassion, and courage. His work is deeply rooted in Internal Family Systems and a profound curiosity about how people evolve.   Before turning his focus inward, Ryan was the founder of Raaka Chocolate, a Brooklyn-based bean-to-bar company built on transparency and ethical sourcing. But his truest calling lies in the inner landscapes: the quiet, tender spaces where real healing happens. His path has been shaped by deep inquiry, spiritual practice, and a love for the moments when people reconnect with the truth of who they are.   Ryan believes transformation doesn’t have to be a battle – it can be a remembering. He’s most alive when exploring the alchemy of change, the courage it requires, and the unexpected grace that can come when we stop striving and start listening.   Timestamps   00:01:16 - Guest introduction 00:06:02 - Ryan shares how he and Layla met 00:07:35 - Going from small and scared to big and free 00:07:59 - Where Layla was at in her life when she met Ryan 00:11:48 - Where Ryan was at in his life when he met Layla 00:12:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:13:11 - Friendship turns into strong attraction 00:13:47 - Ryan describes he and Layla’s first kiss 00:16:20 - Why the sex didn’t initially work for Ryan 00:19:33 - Ryan learned to hold all parts of Layla 00:21:11 - Layla’s first experience with somatic therapy 00:23:00 - Layla credits Ryan for being deeply present for her healing journey 00:24:33 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:26:00 - Layla’s desire to find the real Tantra 00:27:19 - Ryan and Layla gave each other spiritual names 00:34:05 - Layla and Ryan discuss their experience with sexual healing 00:39:01 - Why we have to take full responsibility for our actions and impact on others 00:41:48 - How to be present with intensity and pain 00:41:57 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:42:55 - Ryan and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:45:57 - The feedback Layla gave Ryan as their relationship ended 00:48:17 - Layla healed and opened her sexuality before healing and opening her heart 00:51:15 - Ryan shares what he learned from the end of the relationship 00:54:55 - Layla shares one of her favorite stories about Ryan 00:56:08 - How radical love is different than self-sacrificing 01:02:18 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery 01:03:59 - Layla and Ryan share their experience with an open relationship 01:09:10 - Ryan shares what signaled the end for him 01:17:38 - What Layla learned from the end of the relationship 01:19:20 - What Ryan learned from the relationship 01:21:08 - One of the saddest parts of trauma 01:24:32 - Ryan’s favorite parts of Layla from their relationship 01:27:41 - Conclusion  

Shownotes   What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause   Bio   Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science.  She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy.  As a practitioner of sexual tantra for 13 years, her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful - and she has a particular passion for elevating women in their midlife portal to enjoy the most wildly succulent phase of their lives.   See www.EvaClay.com  Timestamps   00:01:00 - Guest introduction 00:04:02 - Eva shares the story of her first hot flash 00:06:20 - The medical model around perimenopause and menopause 00:07:59 - What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known 00:09:19 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:11:00 - What we offer the world when we’re in menopause fundamentally shifts 00:14:49 - The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause 00:17:38 - Why women who prioritize pleasure have a more easeful menopausal process 00:19:44 - The mindset that allowed Eva to have lovers in perimenopause 00:21:47 - Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife 00:24:46 - How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause 00:25:56 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic 00:26:39 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:29:03 - Eva shares her love story 00:32:21 - Eva and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC 00:33:52 - How ketamine helped Eva move into a deeper state of body acceptance 00:35:38 - How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause 00:38:23 - Eva’s experience with hormones 00:39:34 - Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause 00:40:31 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss 00:42:15 - Why it’s never too late to start these practices 00:46:00 - Menopause isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you feel 00:47:28 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure 00:50:16 - Menopause: you are in full bloom 00:51:03 - Conclusion  

Dr. Nick Brüss, a leading psychedelic therapist and researcher, shares his expertise in healing through psychedelics. He discusses Internal Family Systems therapy and how it complements psychedelic experiences for deeper self-discovery. The stigma surrounding psychedelics is dissected, emphasizing their potential as catalysts for love and healing. Dr. Brüss also highlights the importance of preparation for psychedelic journeys, revealing insights into the transformative power of these substances in confronting trauma and fostering emotional awareness.

Nina Lombardo, a mentor in conscious intimacy and sacred feminine practices, shares insights on the true essence of femininity and the power of surrender. She discusses how surrender in relationships fosters intimacy and growth, contrasting it with submission. Nina emphasizes the importance of navigating energy dynamics compassionately and explains how understanding these concepts can enhance sexual connection. With practical tips on embracing femininity and maintaining vitality, this conversation is a treasure trove for anyone seeking deeper intimacy.

Shownotes   The science behind nervous system imprinting in childhood The importance of going through both concealing and revealing cycles in life How Layla knew there was something inside her worth fighting for The power of turning your pain into medicine Exactly what led Layla to the Tantric path How to break free from the story that we have to be special to be worthy Why the theory of Tantra is nothing compared to the actual practices Bio   Layla Martin:   Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe.    Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology.    Layla’s programs have taught over 12,500 women, men and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness.   Layla has shared her work with over 150 million people and 500,000+ subscribers through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. Her top-rated podcast, This Tantric Life, has reached over 1.3 million downloads.    Jess Magic:   Jess Magic is a “heARTist”, a soul-stirring songstress, a ceremonialist and a muse for today’s generation of visionary leaders and change-makers.   As a transformational facilitator and musical storyteller, Jess creates compelling invitations for people to interact with life from an open heart. In a world where so many are longing for deeper levels of connection, authentic expression and intimacy, Jess uses her humor, music, movement practices and storytelling to effectively weave a "spell" of love and connection that reveals relatable aspects of the human experience that penetrate and crack open the hearts of those who are touched by her presence.   Jess weaves together like-minded communities from San Francisco to Bali and beyond, offering her virtual Free Your Voice programs, Permission retreats, Gospel of Love Brunches and Soul Salons.   Her work has been seen in The New York Times and The London Sunday Times and has supported thousands of men and women from all walks of life in overcoming the shame, fear, and self-judgment that have inhibited their ability to discover, experience and express their feelings, their creative expression and their capacity to create intimacy with themselves and others. Her signature saying is “We don’t sing to be good. We sing to be free."    Learn more about Jess’ work on her website. Timestamps   00:01:08 - Introduction 00:02:55 - Layla shares about her relationship with her father 00:06:39 - Your early years are when your nervous system is imprinted the most 00:09:24 - Layla explores her early relationship with her body 00:11:21 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com 00:12:38 - How Layla knew there was something inside her worth fighting for 00:15:22 - Turning your pain into medicine 00:19:13 - The decision Layla made as a result of her early sexual experiences 00:21:34 - What Tantra means to Layla 00:22:43 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples 00:26:44 - What led Layla to the Tantric path 00:29:00 - Layla shares the story of her Om tattoo 00:38:25 - The world we’re creating is a reflection of our consciousness 00:39:40 - It’s a human right to heal your pain 00:39:53 - Light up your body and sex life with MOOD SEX MAGIC™ 00:42:39 - Layla explores the role of the Priestess Temple in modern day 00:48:22 - The importance of rebuilding sacred spaces 00:53:08 - Can you heal so deeply you can eventually feel grateful for your pain? 00:54:21 - Discover your sexual and relational potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality 00:56:37 - What Layla sees as the path forward toward healing 01:02:19 - We’re all in a process of remembering 01:05:10 - The story we’ve internalized that that we have to be special to be worthy 01:09:03 - Your heartistry is not a vocation, it’s about a vibration 01:12:31 - The theory of Tantra is nothing compared to the actual practices 01:16:18 - Conclusion  

Discover four sacred rituals to boost intimacy and connection in your relationship. Challenge the myth of perfection with practical ways to foster gratitude and effective communication. Explore the significance of expressing love through rituals and learn innovative practices to enhance your sexual experiences. Dive into eye-gazing and erotic massages to create a supportive emotional space. These insights aim to break down barriers and enrich your partnership, encouraging a deeper, more fulfilling connection.

Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, a renowned relationship expert with a PhD in Social Psychology, shares her insights on building enduring love. She discusses the concept that 1+1 can equal 3 in relationships, emphasizing collaboration over searching for a perfect partner. Dr. Nasserzadeh introduces six essential ingredients for lasting love, highlighting empathy, communication, and mutual respect. Her unique 'soak together before you sink together' method promotes intimacy and compassion, while practical tips on emotional well-being enhance relational health.

In this engaging conversation, Emmy Award-winning entrepreneur Natalie MacNeil explores the intersection of technology and intimacy. She recounts her first experiences with cyberdildonics and discusses how technology can enhance pleasure across distances. The duo dives deep into the evolution of relationships, touching on constellation relationships and the importance of self-love in contemporary connections. They also ponder the impacts of VR on sexuality and the need for genuine human emotion amidst technological advances.

In this engaging discussion, Jess Magic, a transformational facilitator and ceremonialist, shares her insights on viewing life as a sacred ceremony filled with meaning and connection. She emphasizes the importance of emotional healing and humor in navigating life's challenges. Jess unpacks the concept of the 'Lineage of Lovers' and how vulnerability enriches our experiences. Tune in for tips on embracing intimacy, overcoming self-judgment, and the transformative power of rituals that foster deeper connections and personal growth.