Relationships Made Easy

Dr. Abby Medcalf
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Sep 28, 2021 • 1h 4min

161. Forgiveness is a Choice: Interview with Dr. Robert Enright

Did you know that forgiveness is a choice? In this week’s podcast episode, I interviewed Dr. Robert Enright, the man Time Magazine calls “the Forgiveness Trailblazer” and author of the book that changed my life, Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. We’re digging into Dr. Enright’s evidence-based forgiveness model, what it means to forgive, and why you would want to forgive someone in the first place. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/forgiveness-is-a-choice-interview-with-dr-robert-enright/ Sign up for my Forgiveness Masterclass here: https://abbymedcalf.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/6 Here are some links from Dr. Enright: The International Forgiveness Institute: https://internationalforgiveness.com/ The International Forgiveness Institute offers free forgiveness measures to assess adults' forgiving others, forgiving the self, group forgiveness, and children's forgiveness of others. Check out their free forgiveness scales here: https://internationalforgiveness.com/product-category/Forgiveness-Research-Tools/ Learn more from Dr. Enright on his blog, “The Forgiving Life,” at the national magazine, Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-forgiving-life Grab Dr. Enright’s books here: Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope: https://www.amazon.com/Forgiveness-Choice-Step-Step-Resolving/dp/1557987572 The Forgiving Life: A Pathway to Overcoming Resentment and Creating a Legacy of Love: https://www.amazon.com/Forgiving-Life-Overcoming-Resentment-Lifetools/dp/1433810913 More background on Dr. Enright:  Dr. Robert Enright holds the Aristotelian Professorship in Forgiveness Science within the Department of Educational Psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, is a licensed psychologist, and co-founder of the International Forgiveness Institute, a not-for-profit organization dedicated to the dissemination of knowledge about forgiveness and community renewal through forgiveness. He is the unquestioned pioneer in the scientific study of forgiveness, having published the first empirically-based journal article on person-to-person forgiveness in 1989. He has been called "the forgiveness trailblazer" by Time magazine and is often introduced as "the father of forgiveness research" because of his 36-year academic commitment to researching and implementing forgiveness programs. Dr. Enright is the author or editor of seven books and over 150 publications centered on social development and the psychology of forgiveness. He pioneered Forgiveness Therapy and developed an early intervention to promote forgiveness: the 20-step “Process Model of Forgiving.” His latest endeavors include forgiveness education for students in various world communities (for example, Iran, Israel, Monrovia, Northern Ireland, and the Philippines) and Forgiveness Therapy with those in correctional institutions, those who are without homes, and those who engage in road rage behaviors. ___________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book     Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Sep 21, 2021 • 31min

160. When You Feel Angry and Don't Know Why

Sometimes it’s clear why we’re feeling angry but a lot of the time, we react angrily to something and later think, “Why did I get so mad?” or maybe you’re noticing an undercurrent of anger and resentment in your day-to-day life or that you seem to get mad way too easily. I’m going to go out on a limb and say this: If you’re noticing that you’re feeling anger, resentment and frustration on a daily basis, there’s something you need to fix. Today I’m going to teach you the 5 real reasons you’re angry so you can make some real changes. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/when-you-feel-angry-and-dont-know-why-5-reasons-why-youre-feeling-angry/ Grab my FREE Standards and Expectations Quicksheet: https://abbymedcalf.com/when-you-feel-angry-and-dont-know-why-5-reasons-why-youre-feeling-angry/ Blog: https://abbymedcalf.com/when-you-feel-angry-and-dont-know-why-5-reasons-why-youre-feeling-angry-2/ ______________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book     Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Sep 14, 2021 • 32min

159. Got Family Stress? How to Not Get Triggered by Family

Are you dealing with family stress? Lashing out at your mom for that condescending thing she said? Feeling guilty that you’re avoiding your dad because he drives you crazy? Today you’re going to learn my top 3 tips on how to not get triggered by family stress so you can find joy and peace in your relationship with your parents and siblings. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/got-family-stress-how-to-not-get-triggered-by-family-2/ Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit here: https://abbymedcalf.com/got-family-stress-how-to-not-get-triggered-by-family-2/ Blog: https://abbymedcalf.com/got-family-stress-how-to-not-get-triggered-by-family/ _____________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book     Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Sep 14, 2021 • 32min

159. Got Family Stress? How to Not Get Triggered by Family

Are you dealing with family stress? Lashing out at your mom for that condescending thing she said? Feeling guilty that you’re avoiding your dad because he drives you crazy? Today you’re going to learn my top 3 tips on how to not get triggered by family stress so you can find joy and peace in your relationship with your parents and siblings.   _____________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book     Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Sep 7, 2021 • 39min

158. How to Stop Overthinking and Let Things Go That Bother You

How do you let things go that bother you? How do you stop overthinking -- going round and round in your head? Maybe your partner hurt you or you’re worried about paying your bills or maybe you’re freaking out about COVID and the Delta variant and you distract yourself for a bit, only to find all those thoughts and worries crashing down on you an hour later. Today I’m going to teach you a simple, evidence-based technique to help you move from anxious and upset to serene and content in just a few minutes (really!). Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-and-let-things-go-that-bother-you-2/ Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit right here: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-and-let-things-go-that-bother-you-2/ Blog: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-stop-overthinking-and-let-things-go-that-bother-you/ ______________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 31, 2021 • 27min

157. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do When a Family Member is Creating a Toxic Environment

What do you do when an extended family member is creating a toxic atmosphere at family gatherings? How do you draw boundaries and feel seen and heard when dealing with toxic family relationships? I'm going deep on this question in today's episode! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-what-to-do-when-your-partner-avoids-difficult-conversations/   _________________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book   Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 24, 2021 • 32min

156. Ask Dr. Abby: What to Do When Your Partner Avoids Difficult Conversations

Are you finding it hard to trust and connect with your partner because they avoid difficult conversations or lie to you about how they're really feeling to avoid upsetting you? Then today's show is for you! I'm answering another question from a listener with this exact problem and giving my top tips for creating connection! Full Shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-what-to-do-when-your-partner-avoids-difficult-conversations/ ____________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book   Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 17, 2021 • 56min

155. Overcoming Insecurity and Silencing Your Inner Critic

Feeling insecure and not good enough leads to you talking some serious smack to yourself, leaving you feeling anxious, crappy and even jealous. Research shows that your insecurity and all that disapproval inside your head not only hurts your physical and mental health, but it also negatively impacts how both you and your partner feel about your relationship. When you become more secure you’ll silence your inner critic and improve all your relationships (really). Today I’m teaching you the 7 signs of insecurity and my top 5 tips to overcome insecurity so you can quiet your inner critic. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/overcoming-insecurity-and-silencing-your-inner-critic/ Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/overcoming-insecurity-and-silencing-your-inner-critic/ Blog post: https://abbymedcalf.com/overcoming-insecurity-and-silencing-your-inner-critic-2/   _____________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/   For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book   Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 10, 2021 • 29min

154. Ask Dr. Abby: I Feel Unloved and Not "Good Enough." Is This a "Me" Problem or Is My Partner Causing It?

This week we’re doing an “Ask Dr. Abby” episode, where I respond to a question submitted by one of YOU! This week, someone wrote this: “Dear Dr. Abby, I’m feeling unloved and unappreciated or not good enough in some way. Is this a “me” problem, or is my partner causing it?” Stay tuned as I dive deep into issues of feeling unloved and unappreciated in our relationships and what it really means when we’re feeling “not good enough.” Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-i-feel-unloved-and-not-good-enough-is-this-a-me-problem-or-is-my-partner-causing-it/ ---------------------------------------- Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/ Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Aug 3, 2021 • 55min

153. The 5-Step Process to Effective Communication in Any Relationship

Are you ready to improve your communication in all aspects of your life – with your partner, at work, with your family and friends? If I could boil down everything I’ve learned in the last 30 years to have great communication in both your business and personal life, it would be what I’m teaching you today. In this episode you’ll learn my five-step process to effective communication in every relationship (which will surprise you, for sure). Grab the FREE Align Your Conscious Mind Guide here: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-5-step-process-to-effective-communication-in-any-relationship/ Shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-5-step-process-to-effective-communication-in-any-relationship/ The Complete Guide to Effective Communication in Every Relationship: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-complete-guide-to-effective-communication-in-every-relationship/     ___________________________________ Subscribe today to get my weekly thoughts, best practices and funny stories (you won’t believe my life!). This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book   Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my courses (some are free!): https://abbymedcalf.com/shop/   Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AbbyThriving LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving YouTube: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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