Fix CPTSD Podcast | Psychology and Philosophy in Narcissistic Times with Richard Grannon

What happens when you fall in love? Why is it challenging? How relationships help us grow? (00:39) "I Want to Be in Love" (05:08) Relationship Needs Maintenance (10:31) You Get Crazier (16:02) Right Questions (19:19) Love Deficit Q&A Section (21:30) "To follow a religion is moving back then?" (22:35) "What do you think love is?" (22:48) "Are you still going to be doing retreats in the future... And if so where?" (23:24) "Our mental health and upbringing is also being post idealized in how it should have looked. Everything falls short. Any thoughts?" (24:01) "So we must find peace with our needy love deprived monster?" (26:10) "Is love then, to be more pragmatic than romantic, like arranged marriages?"

There is a lot to breaking the trauma bond but if you understand the key principles and work on some key attributes you will be well on your way!  (00:01) Stating Today's Topic (01:47) What Does It Mean to Be Trauma Bonded? (04:06) How Can You Break the Trauma Bond? (08:46) You Have to Regularly Acknowledge How You Feel (14:41) You Have to Move Away From the Story (15:37) Why You Need to Heal Your CPTSD Part 1 (20:09) Why You Need to Heal Your CPTSD Part 2 (21:22) If You Do the Work, You'll Have Your Results (24:35) Wrapping Up

Reflections about enlightenment and it's connection to codependency (00:01) Stating Tonight’s Topic (02:58) Richard Shared His Thoughts on Enlightenment and Awakening (06:55) Richard Talks About His Experience With Enlightenment (12:14) What is Enlightenment Really? (16:32) Connection Between Enlightenment and Codependency (20:47) Seeking to Ease Someone’s Pain to Ease Our Own, and Why It Shouldn’t Be That Way (25:06) Answering Short Questions (26:49) Is There a Cure for Codependency? (30:24) Can You Induce Codependency in Yourself? (31:33) How to Stop Beating Yourself Up for Being Single (34:10) Is It Arrogant to Expect Infinite and Unconditional Love From Parents? (36:17) Talking About the Upcoming Seminar (41:36) Can Love Work for Two People With Codependency Issues? (43:35) How to Regain Trust in Your Own Judgment Through the Healing Process (47:40) Goodbye

Richard Grannon on how parenting impacted our subconscious and shaped our personality + what can be done about it (00:01) Hello (04:07) Be the Child Again to Think About It (08:58) We Are the Apex Predators on This Planet. Why? (13:02) Radical Acceptance (17:27) You Need to Fight to Get That Brainwashing Undone (21:37) The Best Indication of What Your Next Five Years is Going to Look Like Q&A Section (27:01) "You Are Spartan Life Coach Man, You Feel Sad and Angry?" (31:03) "Please can you go through any more emotional literacy exercises that specifically help the codependent/empath?" (35:02) "How do you connect with the self-sabotaging part that needs healing after the acceptance?" (39:16) "My mother passed 3 months ago and the narcissistic father is living and confused I see, what to do?" (42:07) Stop Emotional Flashback Technique (52:25) "How do I improve communication with others and increase social intelligence?"

Richard shares his experiences and wisdom from teaching self-defense and how it relates to human psychology. "Sad Baby" as an Abused Archetype follow-up: https://open.spotify.com/episode/7kvAiZTeJVgT3DPBPAN2Ay (05:30) Supra State as a mean to neutralize the threat (09:00) Being civilized vs. aggressively defending yourself (11:40) It's possible to unlock animal in you (12:35) How it all connects to trauma responses (14:16) Switching between stress responses (15:18) "Sad Baby" as a widespread personality split

Why we need to forgive in order to heal, how forgiveness is acceptance, how the abuse we suffered can make us better humans, how to deal with rage, hatred and violence plus Q&A relevant to the topic (00:51) Forgiveness (01:55) You'll Never Heal Holding Hate (03:46) Forgiveness is Acceptance (04:55) A Mantra for Reclaiming Your Crown  (05:53) Courage (06:26) Broadening the Philosophical Map (09:15) What is Hell (10:38) Only You Can Save You (11:22) How do you deal with feelings of hatred, rage and revenge towards a toxic person who is no longer in your life?   (13:03) Rage and Hatred is Our Heritage (14:39) Violence as a Part of Human Life (15:38) Evolving Beyond Hatred (17:24) How do you forgive yourself for falling for hoovers and giving the narcissist second chances? (18:32) How did you deal with the loneliness, isolation and cognitive dissonance of knowing that your partner was emotionally and psychologically abusive, while in the outside world they were respected? (20:20) How do I deal with people who don't want to understand that change is happening now that will and should have long-lasting effect on our lives? (21:48) What is the role or use of situationally correct anger in the healing process? (23:59) Is there a way you can recommend breaking off relationships with a parent? My fear is destroying her, but I am aware that her in my life she was destroying me (27:02) Is It Ever Okay to Destroy Your Parent? (31:56) Referring to COVID-19 Situation (34:33) --Live Q&A-- (35:10) "I've witnessed a woman having her purse snatched from her and I froze, not knowing what should be done. How does one overcome the shame of not knowing what to do there?" (37:37) "Do you think there is a rise in passive aggressive people and how do I deal with them when I would rather be outwardly aggressive, cause it's more honest?" (38:41) "What was your experience with "demons/jinns" in a psychedelic trip?" (39:29) "Can seeing an opposite sex therapist heal one's issues with the opposite sex parent?" (40:45) "If you could use a more human term to describe "narcissism" what would it be? Are these people stuck in a frozen stress response?" (41:51) "How do I stand up for myself, without e feeling like I'm being perceived as a bitch, and be a leader without being seen as controlling or bossy?" (44:32) "Over narc is obvious and red flags go up right from the start, what are some early signs of a covert?" (45:01) "When is working on yourself enough?" (45:16) "Is guilt the ego last resort?" (46:49) "Do narcs start arguments more when they see you are in a good mood? Do they realize what they are doing or is it unconscious? Do narcs start arguments more when they see you are in a good mood? Do they realise what they are doing or is it unconscious?" (48:02) "How Would Richard Heal a Narcissistic Personality Disorder " (55:26) "Can NPD be cured with spirituality? " (56:49) "How do I self-reflect on how I may have changed as a result of toxic relationship so that I am not dysfunctional afterwards and can repair my other relationships that have been damaged?" (58:23) "How do codependents know when info-gathering on narcissistic abuse has become avoidance?" (1:01:34) "Do you think the psyche is 'mechanically' coherent, or is it's 'goalposts' moving day to day and you can never figure out its mechanics?" (1:07:18) "When's your book coming out?" (1:08:34) Goodbye and recap 

Why Ayahuasca ceremonies can be dangerous, who attends them and who provides them, what can Ayahuasca do for you and what were some Richard's personal visions and insights (00:06) Disclaimer (03:10) Beginning of the Story (07:10) Spiritual Capitalism at It's Finest (12:35) Childhood Trauma and Ayahuasca Ceremony (18:42) Richard's Visions and Chat With Aya - Part 1 (25:36) Richard's Visions and Chat With Aya - Part 2 (27:18) Ayahuasca's Recipe for Pain and Suffering (28:50) Cows Are Living Beings (31:07) There is No "So That" (34:36) Down to Earth (35:36) Would You Recommend Ayahuasca? (40:54) There is No Shortcut to Spiritual Growth (44:19) Warning Against Frauds and Twats (48:20) What is the Alternative? Spiritual Growth Exercise (52:10) Processing the Pain is Key (57:04) Goodbye

For a codependent, making complaints can sometimes be difficult, but there are a few things you can do now to make it easier (0:01) Disclaimer for the Audience (0:18) Be Your Own Bodyguard (3:20) Being an Objective Solicitor (8:05) Check-in Your Emotions (9:30) Politeness and Business Language (10:21) Logical Fallacies (12:52) Richard's Example of Complaint (14:30) Framing the Interaction (22:00) Self-pity as a Self-indulgence (26:10) Richard's Short Story About His Recovery (31:00) You Have a Right Not to Like Something (33:20) Stop Smiling (Toxic Fawning)

This is a recording of a full seminar dedicated to the topic of divorcing a narcissistic partner, held by three experts - Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon. (00:01) Introduction to the Seminar (05:33) The Beginning of Sara Davison’s Section: Personal Story (08:15) The Emotions of a Heartbreak and the Hamster Wheel Questions (11:32) Divorce Can Be a Great Opportunity if You Decide to Take It (14:06) Divorce Statistics and the Reasons of Divorce (15:20) The Stages of Divorce (20:34) How to Take Control Over Your Life Whilst Going Through the Stages (24:34) Key 1. Take Responsibility (26:30) Key 2. Get Clarity (27:58) Key 3. Take Back Your Control (29:32) Key 4. Focus on Moving Forward Positively (33:00) Managing Conflict With Your Ex (35:59) Quality Question (38:13) The “Flip It” Technique and the Small Steps (41:44) Less Bridget Jones and More Sex and the City James Bond (44:47) Be a Role Model (46:51) Let Go (48:56) The Beginning of Richard Grannon’s Section (51:41) The Codependence is Rooted in the Formative Years (54:48) You Will Have to Redefine Love to Recover (an Exercise) (57:36) Reformulating Your Boundaries and Embracing Your Shadow Self (1:01:48) The Idea That a Codependent Has No Control is Venomous (1:03:26) The Formation of a Narcissist/psychopath/predator in Brief (1:07:42) The Trauma Bonding Effect (1:12:28) Divorcing From Your Internal Avatar of That Person and Coming Out of the Story (1:15:53) Answering Questions (1:18:33) The Beginning of Sam Vaknin’s Section (1:20:40) Interchangeability of People for a Narcissist (1:25:38) We Are All Narcissists to Some Extent (1:27:24) You Can Never Really Divorce a Narcissist (1:30:09) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Vulnerability, Addiction and Trauma (1:34:14) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Adaptation (1:35:36) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 1 (1:39:42) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 2 (1:42:15) Why You Need to Discard Malignant Optimism (1:44:33) You Need to Get Rid of Mythologizing (1:47:44) Sam Reads His List of Observations (1:50:51) You Are Grieving and Mourning Five Things, Not One (1:52:22) Sam Continues With Recommendations (1:56:44) No Contact With the Abuser (1:58:55) Who Are the Inverted Narcissists? (2:02:39) Narcissist as a Child Part 1 (2:04:43) Narcissist as a Child Part 2 (2:08:45) The End

 How to care for yourself, how to prepare for harder moments, acceptance, philosophical approach to suffering in life (0:42) "Mental Health" Simplified (3:22) Check Your Expectations (4:05) Resilience and Adaptivity (5:30) Never in Life There Are 2 Options (7:10) Don't Mask It