DIVORCING THE NARCISSIST - Full Seminar (Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison, Richard Grannon)

This is a recording of a full seminar dedicated to the topic of divorcing a narcissistic partner, held by three experts - Sam Vaknin, Sara Davison and Richard Grannon.

(00:01) Introduction to the Seminar

(05:33) The Beginning of Sara Davison’s Section: Personal Story

(08:15) The Emotions of a Heartbreak and the Hamster Wheel Questions

(11:32) Divorce Can Be a Great Opportunity if You Decide to Take It

(14:06) Divorce Statistics and the Reasons of Divorce

(15:20) The Stages of Divorce

(20:34) How to Take Control Over Your Life Whilst Going Through the Stages

(24:34) Key 1. Take Responsibility

(26:30) Key 2. Get Clarity

(27:58) Key 3. Take Back Your Control

(29:32) Key 4. Focus on Moving Forward Positively

(33:00) Managing Conflict With Your Ex

(35:59) Quality Question

(38:13) The “Flip It” Technique and the Small Steps

(41:44) Less Bridget Jones and More Sex and the City James Bond

(44:47) Be a Role Model

(46:51) Let Go

(48:56) The Beginning of Richard Grannon’s Section

(51:41) The Codependence is Rooted in the Formative Years

(54:48) You Will Have to Redefine Love to Recover (an Exercise)

(57:36) Reformulating Your Boundaries and Embracing Your Shadow Self

(1:01:48) The Idea That a Codependent Has No Control is Venomous

(1:03:26) The Formation of a Narcissist/psychopath/predator in Brief

(1:07:42) The Trauma Bonding Effect

(1:12:28) Divorcing From Your Internal Avatar of That Person and Coming Out of the Story

(1:15:53) Answering Questions

(1:18:33) The Beginning of Sam Vaknin’s Section

(1:20:40) Interchangeability of People for a Narcissist

(1:25:38) We Are All Narcissists to Some Extent

(1:27:24) You Can Never Really Divorce a Narcissist

(1:30:09) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Vulnerability, Addiction and Trauma

(1:34:14) The Four Foundations of a Narcissist Concentration Camp: Adaptation

(1:35:36) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 1

(1:39:42) Sam Talks About What He’s Discovered About the Victims of a Narcissistic Abuse Part 2

(1:42:15) Why You Need to Discard Malignant Optimism

(1:44:33) You Need to Get Rid of Mythologizing

(1:47:44) Sam Reads His List of Observations

(1:50:51) You Are Grieving and Mourning Five Things, Not One

(1:52:22) Sam Continues With Recommendations

(1:56:44) No Contact With the Abuser

(1:58:55) Who Are the Inverted Narcissists?

(2:02:39) Narcissist as a Child Part 1

(2:04:43) Narcissist as a Child Part 2

(2:08:45) The End