Earn Your Happy

My guest today, yogi and wellness coach, Koya Webb, personifies the word love. We were fortunate enough to chat in person, but I know you’ll feel her warm energy through the recording as well. And with a platform that encourages people to “love yourself, love others, and love the planet,” it’s no wonder.   Raised in small-town Tennessee, Koya was counting on athletics to get her out into the world. Unfortunately, right at the time of a life-changing conference meet, she suffered a stress fracture in her back. Devastated, she heeded the advice of her counselor and took up yoga and breath work to help her rehab. Even though her first yoga class was anything but easy, Koya was in love at first breath. In fact, she found herself completely rehabbed in 6 months and went on to win a conference event the following year.   Also during that time, Koya learned to slow down and listen to her body. Today, she credits this practice along with yoga, meditation and maintaining a plant-based diet for the high-vibing life she lives every day.   Koya offers so much valuable insight into living a vegan lifestyle (or just dabbling in it), and if you get one thing out of our conversation it would be to stop and truly tune into what your body is saying. You never know what it will tell you if you pay attention.   --   Question Highlights: What is most exciting for you in your world right now? What is your upcoming book about? What was your life’s big pivot point? How old were you when you first started listening to your body? What would you tell people if they’ve never let their feelings lead them? Where should people start? Does being vegan ever bring up challenges for you? Are there practical ways to start dabbling in a more plant-based diet? What is the most impactful thing that’s shifted for you since becoming plant-based?   In This Episode We Talk about: Koya’s yoga teacher training course Koya’s upcoming book Changing your frequency from fear to love Why yoga and meditation help connect you to your soul How a stress fracture in her back led Koya to discover yoga and breath work The importance of listening to your body and slowing down when it feels called to How Koya practices what she teaches in her teacher training The benefits of plant-based diet Why online-bought food carries a higher vibration How Koya navigates eating when out vs. at home And so much more…   Quotes “Yoga is the perfect tool.”   “You can’t love others to the detriment of yourself.”   “You can thrive and have a lot of energy, gain weight or lose weight on a plant-based diet.”   “Wherever you are on your journey, you are loved.”   -- Koya Webb is an internationally recognized yoga teacher, personal trainer, holistic health and wellness coach, author, motivational speaker, and professional fitness model revolutionizing the holistic living landscape. She is the creator of Get Loved Up, a platform that encourages people to “love yourself, love others, and love the planet” by practicing environmental sustainability, plant-based nutrition, and mindful movement. Resources: KoyaWebb.com IG: @koyawebb       @GetLovedUp FB: https://facebook.com/koyawebbonline YouTube: Fitness, Food and Fun or Koya Webb   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

The other night I went to a Soul Cycle class despite the voice inside my head that told me I didn’t want to go and didn’t have the energy to move my legs that fast (can you relate?). But after coming off of my three-week vacation, I was struggling. My re-entry back into “reality” has been tough.   Thankfully my Soul Cycle instructor gave me the wake-up call (or question) that led to a shift.   “What is a gift you could give yourself right now that would make your day or life better?”   I actually surprised myself with the answer…an attitude adjustment. Whoa, seems a bit harsh, huh? But here’s the thing. Now is not the time to take it easy on myself. I’ve still got a lot of things I want to do. And one of those things, was getting back into the groove with my podcast interviews.   I had a ton of resistance around my scheduled interviews this week, but once I remembered how much I enjoy talking with such incredible humans, I changed my tune.   “Sitting in resistance is a choice.”   Sitting in resistance was not serving me. It was time to lean in and start asking myself questions instead. What would it look and feel like if I was back in the groove of things? What if I let go and enjoyed it? What would that look like?   “If it’s something you’re choosing to have on your plate because you want it there, you can let go of the resistance.”   I realize that letting go can be hard and it takes a lot of thought. Trust me, that has been me for the last week. But just start small by asking questions – don’t force it. You’ll find that once you start envisioning all the good things, your energy will increase, too. Resistance, while sometimes helpful, only sucks your energy away. Let’s do the opposite by ramping up your energy instead and watch as more shows up.   I hope this message prompts you to take a moment today to figure out what you need the most, move through resistance and lean in.  -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Discovering what you really need to give yourself Why Lori gave herself an attitude adjustment Letting go of resistance and leaning in   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I just wrapped up my three-week trip traveling through Europe and phew – it definitely rocked my world! Yes, the experiences were amazing, but as a person who loves her rituals and who has habits that are deeply engrained, it felt a bit daunting at first. If I would have taken this trip five years ago, I would have left 20 pounds heavier because I would have just given it the all-or-nothing approach. Anyone else?   The difference of taking this trip now? Even though my life was tipped upside down in terms of bedtime, food, drinks and activity, I made a conscious effort to figure it out. In order to do this though I had to give up the belief that it would be impossible for me to feel good and happy.   “In order to change a habit, you have to change a belief. And in order to change a belief, you have to change a habit.”   Spoiler Alert: I feel amazing! “Control freak” Lori went on a vacation of her own! And it’s all because I figured out how to let go and surrender.   Here are five things that help me change a limiting habit or belief”   You have to believe that whatever you’re desiring is possible for you. For me, it meant applying an abundance mindset to everything. I don’t have to eat ALL this amazing food or have multiple drinks because I know there will be more tomorrow and I can have some then, too. Gather evidence of why it’s possible. Look at the people and culture around you. Why can’t this be possible for me? Gather evidence of how you’ve been lying to yourself about the other belief to keep yourself safe. Look at why you’re afraid to believe something is different. Surrendering can be scary, but sometimes certainty can be worse. “Surrender opens the door to something that changes your life.” Do that new thing/habit/belief for as long as you need to until something shifts. It won’t happen overnight, but don’t stop just because it’s uncomfortable – keep at it.   I challenged myself the entire three weeks I was gone, but as I stated above, I feel great – and I ate and drank what I wanted and walked a ton. Will I keep up with the late suppers, nights and overall structure? Maybe about 30% to allow myself a bit more freedom, but my new rule of thumb?   “If it feels good, explore it.”   I encourage you to do the same by challenging your beliefs and doing it until you feel a shift, too.     -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   How Lori busted through her habits and beliefs Figuring out the art of letting go and surrendering Five things that go into changing a habit or belief   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I had such a blast talking with Lauryn Evarts and Michael Bosstick, the hosts of The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER show, in person! While commonly known for their podcast, I quickly learned about their other endeavors that created the foundation of where they are today and how various parts of our journeys are so similar. In this episode, you’ll hear about how this power couple met (and came to work together), the ins and outs of branding and why community, patience and adding value is key when trying to grow your business or brand. With all this valuable content, it’s no surprise that they’re now passionate about helping others grow their platforms, too. There are so many takeaways in this episode and I can’t wait to hear how you implement them! -- Question Highlights: How did you two meet and how did you get started doing what you’re doing now? Have you always worked together or when did you start? What are your income streams right now? How do you know when it’s time to move onto the next idea/project? What were some of your huge failures that were necessary to get you where you are today? Where would you direct people to go when building their brand? How much of your decisions and lives depend on intuition and making sure your “self” is being taken care of? What are some of your favorite podcasts? How do you seek out relationships in your life that feel intimidating in order to help you level up? What’s going to have to change in order for you to get to the next level?   In This Episode We Talk about: How Lauryn and Michael got to where they are now Why there’s so much intention behind their podcast Applying a reverse triangle structure to a person’s business, being patient in growing your business outward Comment pods Lauryn’s focus on community Building successful brands Execution boards – what they are and how Lauryn uses them The importance of brand consistency Providing value to the end user (inspire, entertain and educate) Lauryn’s non-negotiables Passive multi-tasking and productive self-care Michael’s reading habits Work/relationship balance Scaling individual abilities And so much more…   Quotes “If you’re doing everything, you’re doing nothing.” – Michael   “Create a compelling future.” – Lauryn   “It’s all about working backward to get where you want to be.” – Lauryn   “If you’re not constantly looking to learn and develop your mind, you’re going to get stagnant and stall out.” – Michael   “Be willing to take the leap and stop second-guessing yourself.” – Michael   “Take the leap because you can always go back.” – Michael   “Focus on the end goal – be a visionary.” – Lauryn   -- Lauryn Evarts Bosstick is the creator of The Skinny Confidential, a blog, book, podcast and Youtube channel. Lauryn helps women live their best lives by sharing everything from wellness & beauty to business & real life tips. The Skinny Confidential is all about having kale in one hand and champagne in the other.   Michael Bosstick is a brand builder and entrepreneur. He is the CEO of Dear Media, a podcast production company highlighting women's voices. Michael is also the co-host of The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER Show with his wife Lauryn where they interview experts on topics ranging from fitness and skincare to business and addiction."   Resources: The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER Show TheSkinnyConfidential.com IG: @theskinnyconfidential DearMedia.com IG: @michaelbosstick   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  It comes as a shock to many that before I wrote my book (and sometimes during the process) I’d never seen myself as a writer. I had no previous background; I just knew I wanted to write a book. However, any time I had that thought, I quickly inserted a “but I’m not a writer.” Now that I’ve published my book, I realize that my internal dialogue was clearly trying to steer me wrong.   So today I want to talk about the difference between the things we say in our mind and what we really are. It’s time to call out those things we want to do, but never do because our minds offer up an alternate story as to why we can’t. Using writing as an example, “I want to write a book, but I’m not a good writer.” Guess what? Neither was I and that’s why you find really good editors, writing coaches and other skilled people to help you through it.   “Remove the ‘buts,’ and become the person you know you are.”   You are not meant to do everything on your own! No one does it on their own. I personally have a team who helps with all my day-to-day tasks (and so many other things). Focus on your strengths and let others help you by using theirs too.   Furthermore, it’s OK to be a beginner again. Just because you don’t know how to do something, doesn’t mean it wasn’t meant for you. It will be uncomfortable but If something resonates with you, it’s because it is you. And that my friend is what makes you pure magic.   I hope this message spurs you to go after your passions and step into who you truly are despite the doubts swimming in your head. The world is waiting for you!   Before I go…I’m so grateful for you all and have one small request. If you feel called, it would mean the world to me if you’ve read my book to leave a review and rating on Amazon. You are the reason my book is reaching so many women around the world and I want to keep this tribe momentum going. Thank you so, so much!   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Calling out the stories in your head Being a beginner again Why you need help to fulfill your true purpose   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  I feel that energy is the most valuable commodity – and how awesome is it that it’s something we can help control? So with that in mind, what are you giving your energy to today?   Ever notice that when you’re feeling low energy or tired that the things that seem big, scary or stressful seem even bigger, scarier or more stressful? When this happens, we know we’re not supporting that habits that keep us fully energized.   While talking at the gym the other day with my friend, Mark Karpenko, he told me that we’re all only given 100 watts of energy a day. Wow. Only 100 watts and often they’re not being spent wisely.   Sometimes we’re not waking up at 100 watts for a number of reasons. Whether it’s because the kids were up late or a relationship is weighing heavily on our hearts, or perhaps we’re just taking too many things personally – our energy is being drained. The good news?   “We can always change something.”   Get more sleep. Move your body or meditate. Eat better foods. And sometimes the most difficult (but often most helpful), be mindful of who you’re spending your time with. Don’t give up any of that wattage to things that don’t support love and your true talents and gifts. Be quick to forgive and let the small stuff roll of your back.   What will you give a “watt” about today?   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   How lack of energy magnifies any worries or problems we have Ways to increase your energy Giving a “watt” about the things that serve you and our purpose   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Today we’re talking about who you have to become in order to start creating, manifesting and maintaining relationships in your life. Not long ago, I had a desire to hang out with higher-level friends. Now, don’t get me wrong, the friends I had at the time were great friends, but I was looking for something a little deeper.   I wanted to have a true tribe of people who had a more expanded mindset, financial thermostat, bigger goals and no limits on their beliefs or possibilities. And it wasn’t just about fitting in because we already know how awesome we are.   “What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as who you become by achieving your goals.”  – Zig Ziglar   It’s about adding value and contributing to the relationship on equal levels. If you’re someone who has already up-leveled, you’re no stranger to people contacting you and wanting to “pick your brain” or have coffee and talk business. While it may be flattering, you know it’s not something you want to commit to until you see what they can bring to the table to. It’s not personal when you politely decline (or someone declines your invitation), It’s about finding those people who expand your mindset, don’t question what’s possible and cheer you on.   “Be someone who they want to connect with.”   One important distinction… don’t change who you are at your core to fit in with someone who isn’t a great match. Just be the most authentic version of yourself! At first, I honestly thought I had to be an expert on the science of self-development principles, but I found that it wasn’t true. Depending on the group or situation, I actually added value in a variety of ways, such as being goofy, holding space, listening or giving advice. So just do YOU! Be authentic, find out who you are and be a person who adds value.   I know it’s not always easy to put yourself out there to new groups of people. OK, it can be downright scary sometimes. But do it anyway, because the things that bring you the most joy are often hidden underneath fear and resistance. -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Who you have to become in order to hang with higher-level friends Bringing value to the table (50/50) Stepping into your truth and authenticity   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  It’s always a good day when my friend, Mastin Kipp, is on the show because I always learn something – and our recent conversation was no different.   Today we’re talking about how trauma – of all kinds – can hinder the building of tribes (love that we both believe in the power of tribe) and how we can take the steps to build a life and business without anxiety. You know the saying, “your vibe attracts your tribe?” Well, Mastin and I discuss on how even your tone of voice, facial expressions and hand gestures can do the same.   Mastin is one of the most authentic, value-offering people I know because he loves his work and isn’t afraid to dive deep and get to the root causes that are often times emotional. I resonated with so many of things Mastin talked about and I can’t wait to hear what you think.   Be sure to check out what his amazing Claim Your Power Live event is all about in the resources section (special discount for my listeners)!   --   Questions Asked in This Episode: What does “trauma” mean to you? What happens when people isolate themselves? What are you having people do after they’ve pinpointed who they are? What are some of the tools you use as a high performer? And more!   In This Episode We Talk about: Different types of trauma Why emotional trauma work is so important Different defense mechanisms (mend & attend and withdrawal/evolutionary impulse) Why regulation is necessary and why you can’t self-regulate How trauma disrupts the building of tribes Channeling anxiety into high performance Being calm in the presence of threat Adaptive survival behavior How facial expressions, hand gestures and tone of voice impact marketing Mastin’s three primary modalities vital for stress-free high performance (functional medicine, energy medicine, and functional coaching) Why Mastin believes in events De-traumatizing through emotional experience Mastin’s “Claim Your Power Live” event And so much more…   Quotes:   “Name it, claim it, heal it and feel it – then you can start to rise.”   “There’s no such thing as bad behavior, it’s just adaptation behavior.”   “Environment trumps belief.”   “The issues are in our tissues.”   “Environment produces possibility.”   --   Mastin Kipp is an American entrepreneur, best-selling author, and renowned public speaker. Mastin is the creator of Functional Life Coaching™, an innovative, unique and accelerated approach to creating lasting personal and business change.   Mastin is recognized by coaching industry contemporaries and luminaries like Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Arianna Huffington, Caroline Myss, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Aviva Romm, M.D. (Yale Integrative Medicine) and Georgetown Professor Cal Newport as a thought leader in accelerated life transformations and personal development.   Mastin’s company, under his own name, is a successful international personal development company that helps people create rapid change, discover and connect to their life’s purpose, and live their lives to their fullest potential.   Mastin’s methodology, Functional Life Coaching™, differs from his peers and predecessors in that it focuses not just on rapid behavioral change, but uses a systems approach to efficiently identify and dissolve the root cause that is impeding optimal human progress and success.   --   Resources:   Claim Your Power Live Event July 12-15, 2018 in Orlando, FL Get a discounted ticket at ClaimYourPowerLive.com/lori   mastinkipp.com IG: @mastinkipp FB: facebook.com/mastinkipp   -- Checkout my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Today I’m in Phoenix for the last stop of my book tour, but I recently decided that I may attempt another round later this year because I’m having so much fun with them. Sure, we talk about some pretty serious stuff, but we get to laugh with each other while we do it – and that is SO fantastic! It’s so gratifying to see another dream of mine come true. And if you’ve been following me for a while, you know this dream didn’t happen overnight.   Speaking of which, while going through some of my social media posts the other day so I could get a feel what’s resonating most with people lately, I found a post about dreams that hit a major chord.   “When you ask for something, when you really want something, you gotta know that it’s not getting delivered in its final form. It’s like going to IKEA, picking out your favorite kitchen and furniture to fill your house and saying, “Yeah, that’s pretty! I love it! I want it! I’ll take that!” Then going home to a pile of confusing parts you have to put together yourself only to realize you don’t own any tools and your dog ate the instructions. Yup, that’s how your dreams get delivered – they show up one day at your door as a pile of lessons that you do not yet have the skills or tools to navigate. That pile of lessons, tough relationships and lack of skills serve as your opportunity to figure out how to be resourceful and become the person who can handle building and maintaining the dream. Yup, I have a love-hate relationship with IKEA and building my dreams, but I sure enjoy who I’ve become as a result of figuring out the messes and overwhelm when I realize it’s all gonna be beautiful on the other side.”   Dreams don’t just magically appear – as much as we wish they did. It’s about getting resourceful and finding others who can help you toward them.   “The only thing you need to do is take the action.”   You don’t have to have all the answers right away. You don’t have to be “ready.” But when you’re shooting for your dreams you’re also going to be in a constant state of testing and figuring out what works…and what doesn’t. It’s not going to feel good all the time and you may feel a little crazy at times, but that’s not a bad thing. Experiencing the bad helps us appreciate the success that much more.   So support your dream. For me, I love my podcast. I love talking with other amazing humans and learning new things. However, I don’t love the scheduling, editing, posting, and that’s why I have an incredible team that helps me with it. So if you’re saying, “I love this, but not this,” find a way to change your perspective about your dream. How is this not-so-fun part helping you achieve your dream?   “Be willing to feel lost on a daily basis. Security is not real.”   You’re never going to feel ready, but keep reframing, changing your perspective and never give up. Me personally?   “I don’t stop until I create what I wish existed.”   Just go with it! Take action (big or small) and make your wildest dreams come true! -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   What dreams look like when they’re delivered How to support your dreams (get resourceful) Taking action before you’re ready   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/    Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  It is such a massive honor to have today’s guest, Andy Frisella, on the show today. He is such an inspiration to me and I encourage you to listen and hold onto each and every single raw and honest word he speaks. As a successful entrepreneur in the sports supplementation industry as well as a wildly successful podcaster, Andy LOVES what he does every day because he’s changing people’s lives. But this wasn’t always the case. A once self-professed fat kid eating Dorito’s who never completed anything, Andy realized he needed to make a change ­– even if that meant getting uncomfortable to do it. Andy shares his journey with us and opens up to tell us how being stabbed radically changed his perspective on the world and how it also accidentally got him into business. Now he’s able to use his business and platform to make an impact and help others. While you won’t hear Andy mincing words over any naysayers, you will hear him telling it like it is. If you’re looking for permission to do the same and also cut out the negativity in your life, look no further – Andy is walking permission to be REAL.   --      Question Highlights: What do you tell people whose backs aren’t against the wall… How do they get there? How does the Law of Attraction work for you? What do you do when you feeling like you’re going downhill (fear, doubt etc.)? Growing up, did you feel like there was more?   In This Episode We Talk about: Andy’s journey from a fat kid eating Dorito’s and not finishing anything to the success he is today The “zero option mentality” Getting uncomfortable to continue growing and evolving How Andy is driven by negativity/the dark side Being resourceful with your energies and motivators Transferring negativity and pain into productive things that help other people How Andy came back after being stabbed in the face and how it helped him connect and boost his business The Law of Attraction Looking for miracles Building a business around purpose vs. making money The Powerless Method (ep. 107 of The MFCEO Podcast – https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/win-the-day-with-andy-frisella-mfceo107/id1012570406?i=1000377906163&mt=2) Eliminating the negative people who aren’t contributing positively in your life And so much more…   Quotes “Even though it feels good now, it’s not going to feel OK 10-15 years down the road.”   “Creating progress takes a conscious effort to be uncomfortable.”   “I store the negative stuff inside and turn it into productive action.”   “It’s not about having all the resources. It’s about being resourceful with what you have, and that includes your energies and motivations.”   “Almost everything can be turned into something good.”   “It’s not something we choose to happen, it’s something that’s happening to everybody – they’re just not realizing it.”   “If you want to be great at what you do, make a business built around a purpose vs. being built around making money.”   “Fill your boat with propellers – not anchors.”   -- One of the world's leading authorities on customer loyalty and company culture, Andy is a proven expert at building both brick and mortar and online direct-to-consumer retail businesses from the ground up. He has made a career out of creating over the top customer experiences. In addition to serving as CEO of 1st Phorm International, Andy founded and runs five other businesses; Supplement Superstores, Alpine Sports Products, Carbon Fire Nutrition, Paradise Distribution, and 44Seven Media. Andy is also an author (for both adults and children), speaker, and the host of The MFCEO Project, a top-rated personal development and business podcast.   Resources: AndyFrisella.com IG: @andyfrisella The MFCEO Project Podcast Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.