Earn Your Happy

  My book tour is coming to a close with one event left in Phoenix, and I have to say that I’ve fallen in love with being in rooms surrounded by so many amazing people and learning from them as well. As you’ve heard in other episodes, I’ve found new takeaways from each stop – but so many reoccurring themes as well.   Another overarching topic is about taking things personally. Getting through this, of course, has a lot to do with mastering our mindset, but it helps to understand what it feels like before you get there.   Question: If you didn’t take things personally, what could you do in your life? I’ve asked this question at my book tour stops and the answers are endless, but the most common response? “I could be happy.” Whoa!   You see, when we worry about what other people think we’re putting ourselves in our own form of prison. Don’t stifle your truth just to please someone else. I highly encourage you to ruffle feathers, share your opinions and share who you authentically are at your core.   “If you’re not upsetting people, you’re not living in your truth – you’re living in fear.”   Be yourself. Stop people pleasing. Make some waves. I know this is a hard thing to do, but it feels SO good. Trust me, I’m a people pleaser through and through, but by sparing other people pain, you’re only adding more pain to your life.   “Freedom and truth are the opposite of suppression and resentment.”   Does this mean you’ll never take something personal again? Heck no. It is a constant practice of self-love and you will learn how to release it more quickly. It’s also one of our best teachers in life that helps us develop more compassion and understanding from where other people are coming from.   So the next time someone offers their opinion and you take it personally, make a conscious effort to release, forgive and move on…and live a happy life.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Why we need to stop taking things personally Living authentically and in your truth Why it’s an ongoing self-love practice to not take things personally   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club. Join us at the Phoenix book tour stop! Head to LoriHarder.com/phoenix and grab a ticket before it’s sold out!   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am so excited to have my good friend, Gabby Bernstein back on the podcast today along with my husband Chris! We are talking all about how's Gabby's courses have impacted my life and how you could get the same coaching from her.  I am also giving away some seriously amazing bonuses when you join Gabby's Spirit Junkie Masterclass! Get all the details and learn more at www.Loriharder.com/Gabby Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.  

  I’m still on my book tour, and it means the world to me to share the room with so many amazing women. And while it’s a massive dream come true, it’s also forced me to make some massive perspective shifts when it comes to traveling, speaking, signing books and taking pictures. I’ll be honest, it can be a lot for this introvert who is prone get to getting anxiety! But once I’m able to slow down and change my perspective on it all – there’s no way I wouldn’t do what I’m doing. It’s just all about changing the way we view things.   One question I pose to my book tour audiences is, “what’s stopping you from connecting in different relationships?”   “In order for things to change, we have to change how we’re viewing things.”   Whether it’s your body, career or relationships, it is imperative that we shift our perspectives before anything can happen. We need to shift into how we want to feel.   It’s amazing how this small little thing (OK, not always the easiest task), can give you tons of energy back. No matter what you’re feeling anxiety around, change the lens you’re viewing it through and see how you can make it easier. There could be a different (and better) way.   Do this, and you’ll be on the fast track to changing your life.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Shifting your perspectives Why the way we view things may be preventing connection What Lori’s book tour is teaching her   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

 I’m in New York this week having just wrapped up my stop in Boston for the book tour and it was another magical night. It’s so great having conversations with other women – especially those who have or are reading the book and are looking to connect with other women, too! It’s also super interesting to see what common questions are popping up between book tour stops. One common theme that’s coming up, both at the book events and online, is how people are afraid to take leaps and try new things – they feel stuck. Personally, I know I’m wasting time when I start asking myself a lot of questions and stop taking action. All of the what if’s, stalling and procrastination – anything to prevent me from doing anything that might bring me some sort of pain. Does that sound familiar to you at all? “We get stuck focusing on the pain instead of the motivation.” But here’s the thing (and I have to remind myself of this daily), we don’t come out of the womb knowing what to do. Take riding a bike… can you imagine if as a child, we just kept thinking about the pain of the fall, scraping our knees or bumping our heads? We would have never ditched those training wheels! Instead, we imagined how free it would feel to cruise around. So, take back your power. Quit focusing on the fall. Focus on the freedom. And don’t look back. --In This Episode Lori talks about:  Why people feel like they’re “stuck” Taking back your power Why we need stop focusing on the pain and focus on the good  Resources: Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori HarderNow available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  You’ve likely heard it before, but I’ll say it again… This thing called life can be so, so challenging. With lots of new situations popping up for me and speaking to audiences that I normally wouldn’t talk to, I’ve determined that getting through it all has to do with mastering my mindset.   Because when you put yourself out there in a new and vulnerable way, you’re not going to be supported by everyone. You’re going to have those people who judge you or say unkind things to you because you’ve “changed” or perhaps it’s someone who wishes they were doing what you’re doing. Always remember that it’s not about you – it’s them.   “The more you shift into the person you know you were meant to be, the more you change.”   When we allow fear or the opinions of others to get into our head, we are stopping ourselves from living the life we were meant to live. It’s a choice to tune into the small minds or let them fall away. I’m not saying they won’t affect you at times, but you must always return to that place of love and happiness within yourself.   Decide what matters and whose opinions are valuable to you. Personally, when I am living in my authentic power and truth, nothing else matters besides what my Creator and my family think (in that order).   “We are radically responsible for our own energy.”   So, determine what brings you back to that place of love and happiness – in all you do. I find that I’m able to drown out of the noise by bringing in more good (creating, dancing, writing surfing etc.). What helps you?   Whatever it is, know that we need you to show up in whatever makes you unique. Don’t let anyone else try to tell you different. YOU get to live this life exactly the way your Creator intended and that is pure bliss.   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Mastering your mindset Determining what and whose opinions matter to you Living the life you were created to live   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/       Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I cannot tell you how surreal and exciting it all still feels to see so many of you building your tribes and sharing your takeaways, stories and photos with me about A Tribe Called Bliss (ATCB). I think I have a bruise from regularly pinching myself to confirm that this is indeed still real life. ;)   One common theme I’m seeing so far among my ATCB readers is how it’s giving you permission in all areas of your lives. Permission to do the things you want to do. Permission to be fully you. Permission to forgive yourself. Permission to have the conversations you need to have. Most importantly, it’s giving you permission to release the old stories about yourself that simply aren’t true.   Witnessing this has also spurred me to find areas where I can give myself a bit more permission in my own life. Because lately, I’ve had to accept that I’m just not going to be on top of everything and things are going to slip through the cracks. Book tours are no joke. It takes a whole other level of energy and time management… and saying no. And in order to do this, I’ve had to give myself a whole lot of self-love and grace.   “We’ll never get to where we want to go without massive grace and love.”   It’s times like this when we need to ensure we’re creating fierce boundaries and focus on saying no. Saying no can be so hard, but it is imperative for self-preservation during our busy seasons. Otherwise, our “good” may never turn into our “great.”   “Give yourself space for the true, authentic gifts to come through.”   Thank you all again so much for your support of me and my book. I know this is a recurring ask, but if you love the message of this episode or of ATCB, please share with a friend or leave a review so we can reach our goal of 1 million tribes!   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   Giving yourself permission in all areas of life Creative boundaries and saying no A Tribe Called Bliss   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am so thrilled to have my soul sister, Danette May, back on the show today. Not only was she the one that initially introduced me to the idea of a mastermind (hello, A Tribe Called Bliss!), but she’s one of the most authentic people I know. If you want to hear more about her story, please be sure to check out the resources for our previous episode (her journey thus far is incredible).   Today, we’re talking about her upcoming event, The Rise, and how it helps women make authentic connections by allowing them to be their authentic selves. Danette shares so many soul-shaking experiences and insights – all focused again on connecting with yourself to step into your highest purpose. Her wisdom is so relatable and I honestly could listen to her all day long.   I hope you enjoy our conversation and hopefully, we’ll both get to see you at her event in October (details in the Resources section). --    Question Highlights: What made you want to host The Rise event? Where did you come from – when did your soul speak to you, what did life look like and when did you first take action? Why did your soul sign up for this event? When you think of your event, what are some of the things you want to have at the event? What can you tell those who are feeling called to go? What does it mean to see yourself? If you had to name three things that you think makes someone transform, what would they be? What has having a female connection in your life done for you? Why do events have the capability to shift your world? What is something you want people to know about the work you’re doing with The Rise?   In This Episode We Talk about: Connecting authentically with others by being authentically you What Danette did when fear hit her surrounding The Rise event Soul contracts The cellular remembering of your power What happens when you don’t listen to your soul Showing up so you can see yourself Speaking the truth to your soul The power of events What true, raw sisterhood means to Danette What Lori will be performing at The Rise event And so much more…   Quotes “If you’re not unraveling, you’re not growing.”   “Movement is like cleaning out the cobwebs of your soul.”   “You get to choose your environment.”   “If I can love myself and get into my own radical self-acceptance, I’ve got a best friend for life.”   “Your self-love is your biggest work.”   “Rise within so you can rise up.”   “You get to be happy just because you exist.” --  Danette May is a motivational speaker, #1 best-selling author of seven health and women empowerment books, celebrity trainer, and mother. Danette is the founder of Mindful Health, LLC, a platform that reaches hundreds of thousands of women around the world. Danette stars in some of the top-selling fitness DVDs sold worldwide, is a top magazine\ model, and a frequent guest on national TV, Access Hollywood, Hallmark Home and Family, CBS, among others. Danette has a deep passion for peeling back the layers of women’s light and empowerment through healing foods, healing movement and a healing mindset. She loves transforming hundreds of thousands of women around the world by helping them gain the knowledge and inspiration to love the bodies they LIVE in and love the LIFE they live! Resources: TheRiseDenver.com The Rise Event • Denver, CO • October 13-14, 2018 IG: @thedanettemay Danette’s last episode on Earn Your Happy - Episode 20: 3 Life Lessons to Create Big Shifts Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

I am still feeling the energy of my first book tour stop last night at Wanderlust in West Hollywood. I can’t even begin to describe the energy that filled that room. And if you were there last night, thank you so much for being there and for supporting me and my book. The event was proof that this book really is creating a new way to connect, support and see each other and ourselves in a whole new light.   Can I tell you a crazy story about this particular venue? Four years ago, before this book was even a glimmer in my eye, I was there for Gabrielle Bernstein’s Spirit Junkie book launch. I had a lot of fear going into this event, and felt as though I wasn’t “good enough” to hang around this group of people – but I remember also being super excited and happy to be there. Long story short, it was amazing and I found myself sitting on the floor and dreaming of the day I held my own book launch event there. Let’s just say it’s quite clear that manifestation works!   This book tour stop (and I anticipate all the others will feel the same way) reaffirmed that all women are looking for deeper connections with female friends. People are done with the games of jealousy, comparison and fear, and are ready to create authentic connections. Everyone is eager to take their relationships from superficial to deep in order to create the safety net we all so desperately need.   I hope I get to see you at one of my upcoming stops for even more magical connections! And regardless if you’re able to attend, if you love my book or this podcast and feel called to do so, I would be so grateful if you shared my book with other women. My goal is still a million tribes and I can’t do it without you!   -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   The new way of connecting, supporting and seeing each other and ourselves The safety net that having a tribe provides A Tribe Called Bliss   Resources: Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/  Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

  The day is finally here! My book is officially out as of yesterday and honestly, I just don’t have the words to describe all the emotions I’m going through. This is definitely the best I’ve ever felt, but there certainly were days where things definitely felt challenging. But let me tell you, everything I’ve went through to get to this point was worth it!   So today, I have a simple message and it’s that we can’t fully experience the good of anything without enduring the challenging or dark moments. This is why when we reach where we want to go – wherever that is – that we really take time to feel GOOD and celebrate it!   When we know there’s always going to be a balance of dark and light or good and bad, we can begin to look forward to each and every day. Stop resisting or avoiding the things that make you heart sing and just go for it – regardless of the outcome. This is how our soul wants us to show up in the world (and everyone else wants to see it, too).   “Your joy elevates the world.”   So take a minute and really reflect, what are you holding onto that’s blocking the things you desire? Now, take a moment and figure out one small step that will help you toward it. Better yet, tell a friend or your tribe of women who support you.   Speaking of tribe… have you gotten my book yet? If you have, I would love if you shared with me what resonated with you (so far). Also, in order to reach my goal of ONE MILLION tribes, if you feel called to do so, it would help so much if you could rate and review the book online so more women find it and create their own tribes as well. And if you haven’t gotten the book, no worries, you can still get a copy at a bookstore near you or by visiting one of the links in the Resources section.     -- In This Episode Lori talks about:   The dichotomy of dark and light and why we need it Why the most important relationship you have is with yourself A Tribe Called Bliss   Resources:   Go to ATribeCalledBliss.com to find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club   A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Now available at loriharder.com/amazon or ATribeCalledBliss.com   Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/   Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.

Today is an extra special interview with my husband, Chris, as he’s interviewing me on MY book, A Tribe Called Bliss. And it releases officially tomorrow, May 8! Gah! I am so excited! So many of you have already gotten your copy and I cannot wait to see it in the hands of a million more (manifesting!). Chris asks me questions today all about the book – why I wrote it, who it’s for and how it can help you get your message out in the world with the help of a supportive tribe. I cannot wait to see the ripple effect this book creates as I truly believe that it will be a new way for women to support each other (and themselves at the same time) in all that they do.   Thank you all so much for your support! If you buy the book and love it, it would mean so much to me if you would write a review, share and/or gift the book to someone else. Cannot wait to hear all the epic tribe-building stories – so please be sure to share them and tag me @LoriHarder on IG! --      Question Highlights: Why did you write A Tribe Called Bliss? How did you write this book with your background/upbringing? Who is this book for? How did you get yourself in the position to tell your personal stories? Could you have written this book had you not mastered tribe? Who are some of the people in your tribe that got you through? Will this book help people find their tribes? What effect has tribe had on your earning power? Can people make more money if they create a tribe like you? What are you most excited about with your book release?   In This Episode We Talk about: Lori’s book-writing journey – how and why she wrote A Tribe Called Bliss Why this book is for anyone in any type of relationship Becoming the person that will attract your desired tribe Clearing your stories How tribe takes you from transition to transcending in a fun and accelerated way Lori’s tribe/mastermind and how they’ve supported her (and vice versa) How tribe opens up a new dialogue between women Why you need more than just a partner to talk to How tribe and wealth go hand in hand Tribe and philanthropy How tribe pays you back – both financially and personally And so much more…   Quotes “You’re not going to get where you want to go without trying and failing.”   “If you want more you’ve got to learn how to show up more unapologetically you.”   -- Resources: ATribeCalledBliss.com Special Training on The 7 Sacred Agreements with purchase of the book for a limited time. Upload a screenshot of receipt (scroll toward the bottom of the page or Click Here) and you will receive access to the training. Buy A Tribe Called Bliss (releases May 8) Find out the latest on Lori’s book tour and join the world’s biggest tribe book club A Tribe Called Bliss by Lori Harder Available at loriharder.com/amazon Join me on the A Tribe Called Bliss Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1571018952966750/ Check out my website at loriharder.com. Follow me on social media @LoriHarder on Instagram and Lori Harder on Facebook.