The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for the next paid episode on sacrifice for your partner, and also join my private Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom! When clients tell me about their early relationship in couples counseling, it can be extremely informative. Learning about the first date, first time in bed and when they knew they loved each other can help me understand the underlying expectations/structure of the relationship, what each partner may be yearning for currently, and how to change things for the better!  Listen for more! This is a good one to discuss with your partner! Link to my book:  52 Emails To Transform Your Marriage: https://amzn.to/3MNZQaU 100 Date Night Questions: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2014/09/26/100-date-night-questions-time-want-feel-closer/

Obviously your job is going to be more secure, more fulfilling, and a more significant source of self-worth if you are NECESSARY to the company.  So why don't people take the same pragmatic approach when it comes to marriage?  I'll give you two reasons: people don't want to do a objective self-inventory, and people have an idealistic self-sabotaging view of love/relationships.  I also touch on attachment, pursuer-distancer, dynamics between stay-at-home and primary breadwinner spouses, and more! PLEASE SUBSCRIBE if you love my podcast! :) https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe

In my secret group (join! https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/), someone started a thread about what's the most important thing to you in a relationship, and I said that one of mine is shared sense of humor!  My husband makes me laugh a lot and this is important to me.  This episode elaborates on that, and includes why women in particular find it so important that they find a partner funny.  Please subscribe to get 30+ paid episodes! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And if you subscribe, send me in some voice messages on Anchor (https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/message) so I can put your voice question on my podcast and answer you! 

The podcast explores the emotional toll of jobs like doctors and therapists, leading to burnout and detachment. It discusses the impact of emotional labor on personal emotions, strategies to address burnout in helping professions, and balancing work and home responsibilities. The effects of emotional disconnect and burnout on job performance are also highlighted.

A reader on Medium (follow me there: https://medium.com/@DrPsychMom/membership) read my article Men Need To Think Their Wives Are Hot (also a podcast here) and asked what about when women stop trying to be attractive?  Of course people of both genders stop trying, and I will address both separately; today is women and men will be in a paid episode next!  Subscribe so you don't miss it! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Listen so you can hear how truly simple it is to trick your husband into thinking you're hot even when you feel like an aging sloth!  lol Links: Men Need To Think Their Wife Is Really Hot For Things To Work: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2021/05/01/men-need-to-think-their-wife-is-really-hot-for-things-to-work/ and the podcast of that: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1YT9ayMLpfKUXYfVoXHzpA?si=3dkmaK02Q767GgcsksMUHQ&nd=1

This is a tongue-in-cheek episode title because only in today's hypervigilant parenting culture would anything that I say be deemed controversial!  But if you want to be forewarned, some of the craaaaazy things I say here include: bodies maintain homeostasis, children emulate parents, and infinity options aren't always best!  Thanks for the suggestion for this podcast from a subscriber, and please subscribe to hear more of these hard hitting un PC topics :) Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  Join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom

A subscriber in my private group (which you should join here: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom) asked this question and it's a good one.  "Fake it till you make it" has a bad connotation but it is actually one of the most productive ways to self-improve according to behavioral activation theory, which I explain in this episode!  I examine the interplay between emotions, thoughts, and behaviors, and give you examples about how to intervene at each level to lead to associated changes in the other two... and what to do when depression or other issues prevent this feedback loop from working as well as you wish it would. Subscribe if I add value to your life with these podcasts and to hear all the paid ones, including ones you've missed that are moved into paid!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe 

Inlaw issues are a major driver of marital conflict, but in this episode I help you see why they aren't the deeper issue, no matter how self-absorbed and off-the-wall they act.  You can learn to actually bond over this topic, and I describe multiple reframes that allow couples to genuinely put the marriage first and present a united front.   People that this podcast applies to may also be interested in joining my Adult Children Of Dysfunctional Families therapy group starting Fri 5/6/22! And if you want to hear all my past and upcoming paid episodes, over 25 episodes now, please subscribe here: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Link: Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families group: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/adult-children-dysfunctional-family

By reader request.... the gray rock method! I teach my 12 year old in real time how to gray rock.  She pretends to be a 32 year old woman hosting her awful mother (me) for Christmas... I try and try to get her but she deftly avoids my drama via the gray rock method! If tween can learn this, you as an adult can learn it too! Link: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2021/12/12/how-to-gray-rock-your-difficult-family-members-or-co-parents/

Someone in my private Facebook group that you should join ASAP (https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom) asked for an episode on what to do when you can't move past resentment about a past empathic rupture. Sometimes this even occurs when the person who hurt you has apologized already. In this episode, I discuss your path forward, and what I have observed is at play when this happens to my clients. Subscribe if these podcasts add value to your life! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Link: Empathic Rupture podcast: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/episodes/Empathic-Ruptures-What-They-Are-And-How-To-Resolve-Them-e1f37uu