The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love these episodes!!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Expanding on this post, I discuss the overparenting epidemic and how it hurts both kids and parents. Instead of worrying constantly about doing or saying the "wrong" thing with your kids, recognize that you are a person too, with your own limits and boundaries.  Empower your kids to be confident in themselves by stepping back from the role of overprotective micromanager, and watch how they thrive.  Links: Tell Your Kids About Your Work!  Stop Feeding Your Child Fake Praise 

Subscribe if you love these episodes!!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe There's a term in psychology called help rejecting complainer, and it is exactly what it sounds like!  This episode describes this type of communication style, why it is so irritating, how to handle it if your partner or parent acts this way, and what to do if (gasp) you yourself recognize that you are a help rejecting complainer!  I also dispel the myth that it is terrible to try and problem solve when a partner is consistently unhappy. Please subscribe and thanks so much for listening, everyone! Links: What Else Does Depression Look Like? How Growing Up In A Negative Home Can Paralyze You In Adulthood

Please subscribe here! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe As I discuss in this episode expanding on my post Why To Talk About Exes, a wealth of information comes from discussing your past sexual and romantic experiences!  It is silly to talk about families of origin and then just skip over relationship history and expect to understand your partner on a deep level. if you are unable to openly recognize that your partner has seen another set of genitals prior to yours, it may well be stopping you two from having the level of genuine, close connection, in bed and out, that you yearn for. I discuss all the obvious and less obvious benefits of talking about exes, in addition to what people fear will happen versus the reality I observe in my office. Thanks for listening!

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A listener recorded a question for me about dating with a toddler after divorce! I discuss my thoughts about dating as a single parent, and how to maintain a healthy perspective no matter when you choose to start dating or how casual versus serious you are with this new person. The idea that a child will be traumatized by meeting a new friend/dating partner a few times even if it doesn't end up working out is outdated and usually a remnant of a different era of divorce.  If your focus stays on your child and you use my guidelines, dating someone new as a divorced parent (or breaking up with someone) does not have to be a scary event for you or your child. Links: Ex-Wife Wants To Introduce Her Boyfriend Of 3 Months To Our Kids How To Introduce Your New Partner To Your Kids

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  Men and women are on totally different planets with how much, how often and to what intensity level they think about their kids, even if they both love the kids equally. In this episode, I discuss how thoughts about the kids pervade every aspect of the average mom's life, and help her husband understand her on a deeper level and understand how this evolutionarily-mediated phenomenon manifests even (especially?) on date night!  If you discuss this episode with your partner, it can help you understand each other in a whole new way. Links: Men: Here Are 9 Things That Women Really Think About All Day The Stage Where You No Longer Worry About Physical Safety AKA The Renaissance Of The Highly Sensitive Mother  And related... The Young Mother Stage And Why To Come Home Early From Work

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  What is codependency and how does it differentiate from interdependence? So many people use this buzzword, but what does it really mean?  And how can you work toward a healthier relationship where you have boundaries and your own sense of self? Links:  When a Man Loves a Woman (the movie I mentioned!)  Interdependence As A Relationship Goal   Am I Sabotaging My Relationship Because I Don't Want To Confront That He's An Alcoholic  My Brilliant Husband Is Anxious And Refuses Treatment

In a comment about my post My Male Clients Are Doing Much More Housework And Childcare Than A Decade Ago And Their Wives Are Not Happier, a reader asks what we should teach boys about marriage if it's not just to do the housework and help out.  I directly address this, as well as explore the disparity in what parents nowadays seem to teach boys vs girls about self-worth and the need for a partner to respect you. If you don't want your son to end up in a sexless or loveless marriage, there are ways to help him out!  Please subscribe to my podcast and rate me on Apple! Links: Would You Want Your Son's Wife To Treat Him Like You Treat Your Husband? Important Areas of Compatibility 

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe People think that if each person brings 50% to the table in their marriage, they end up with 100%.  Unfortunately, this doesn't work in practice. Instead, each partner has to be committed to delivering 100% in their marriage and fully and genuinely prioritizing their partner's needs.  If both people commit to this approach, which can be particularly difficult if you witnessed a difficult marriage in your family growing up), you can finally have the deeply connected partnership you yearn for.  In this episode, I give you some concrete ways to start executing some changes in your marriage today.  A great one to share with your partner! Links: The Competitive Marriage Why A Loving Marriage “Reparents” You Would You Tell Your Child To Stay In A Marriage Like Yours?

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe In this episode, I go through all the hormonal, biological, and stage-of-life related reasons your libido may be low that have nothing to do with your spouse or your marriage.  If you are or will one day be (or are married to someone who will be) breastfeeding, on birth control, having a period, going through menopause, on any medication, or more, this is the episode to listen to!  You can even hear about how nursing affected my own libido. Share with your partner and discuss which of these you knew about and which you didn't!  Please subscribe if you learned anything and to hear the next episode which will be for subscribers only! Links: If You Don't Track When Your Wife Is Ovulating, You Cannot Consider Yourself A Rational Man I Don't Want My Husband To Touch My Breasts Because I'm Breastfeeding  Why Do Some Women's Sex Drives Decrease When Their Mental Health Improves

Become a Paid Subscriber: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe A reader liked a post on this subject so much he said I should turn it into a book but a 20 minute podcast is a lot quicker!  Check this episode out for a transformative reframe on the topic of sex drive disparities, with helpful analogies that all my sensitive lower-libido listeners can easily empathize with!  Share with your partner to spark a discussion, and if you have not subscribed to my podcast yet, please subscribe!   Link: What Would Your Husband Act Like If He Got All The Physical Affection He Wanted?