The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Today I have my very first and possibly only podcast guest!  Ralph who created Dad Starting Over gives me his thoughts on men, women, relationships, vulnerability, and of course SEX. Why don't men share their vulnerable feelings with women? What is the metric by which men assess their lives?  And how did Ralph even come up with DSO in the first place (hint: a divorce is involved), nevermind sell over 100,000 copies of his book??  Note that Ralph will be presenting a zoom event with me Thursday May 19 6:30p EST (link below) so please sign up!! Links: Dad Starting Over (DSO) website: https://dadstartingover.com The DSO Fraternity: https://dadstartingover.com/join The “Dead Bedroom Fix” book: https://dadstartingover.com/the-dead-bedroom-fix Our Sexy Monogamy Zoom event: https://events.zoom.us/e/view/dIoXcuCaRZq301apSDMoVg And please subscribe to my own podcast so I can keep bringing you awesome guests like Ralph!  https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe

I answer this question that perplexes so many men by diving into attachment theory and the deepest recesses of your wife's psyche!  Subscribe if this helped you and to hear the next paid episode where I will finally formally explain attachment, which I've quickly referenced in so many other podcasts and which is so integral to understanding your relationship and yourself! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe  And also join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom where a reader's question inspired this podcast in a roundabout way!

Subscribe if you love my content to get access to paid episodes: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe And if you like talking about relationships, psychology, parenting and more with me and group members, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom  Many people are upset with their partners for being the exact type of person that they needed when they were younger and had lower self-esteem. What do I mean by this and how can you tell if it describes your situation?  Listen and learn, especially if you're a guy frustrated with sex or a woman frustrated with emotional detachment. Relevant link: Now That My Self-Esteem Is Better, I No Longer Love My Husband: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/05/21/now-that-my-self-esteem-is-better-i-no-longer-love-my-husband/

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for paid episodes, and separately for private discussion with me and fans, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom This episode explains more about imago theory.  When we have unresolved issues from our upbringing, we tend to find partners that affirm our negative views about love, relationships, and trust.  Listen to understand how you may be unintentionally setting yourself up to fail in relationships and how to stop! Links: Why Do We Pick Partners Who Are Bad For Us: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2017/04/11/pick-partners-bad-us/

Subscribe to hear my paid episodes like the most recent one about daily initiation of sex: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and separately, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom to discuss issues in real time with me and other fans! In this episode, I discuss issues that arise if your relationship started long distance.  More relevant the longer that your long-distance phase was!  I cover intimacy, organization, prioritization, and overall expectation management. Link: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/07/11/when-your-marriage-is-disappointing-or-dysfunctional-after-years-of-long-distance/

Guess what? I've never yet had a woman in therapy brag to me about what an awesome debater her husband is.  Listen to this podcast to see what you're doing to irritate your wife if not outright retraumatize her. Subscribe for the next paid episode on why to initiate sex daily and all my other paid episodes! Links: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2020/04/11/6-reasons-that-your-husband-plays-devils-advocate/ https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/01/15/partner-defensive-lies-little-things-time/

Mother's Day is tomorrow and usually the week after Mother's Day is a garbage fire in couples counseling because the wife is so resentful about the way it went down.  Don't let this be you!  Actionable tips that you can use TODAY to ensure that tomorrow is not a hellscape. You're welcome. Subscribe for the upcoming paid episode on why to initiate sex daily and all my other paid episodes https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and separately, but only if you are a nice supportive person who is smart and loves psychology discussions, join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Links: Gift Guide: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2014/07/17/the-ultimate-guide-to-purchasing-a-gift-your-wife-doesnt-hate/ Husband Says “You’re Not My Mother” and Refuses To Do Anything For Me on Mother’s Day: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2015/05/12/husband-says-youre-not-my-mother-and-refuses-to-do-anything-for-me-on-mothers-day/

By request from a member of my private Facebook group, I present this episode on what to do when you are... "coparenting with different values, so the kids have different rules or expectations at each house. One house eats a certain way, and the other house does not. One house goes to church, the other is an agnostic. One house prioritizes sports, the other does not. One house prioritizes fitness, the other is overweight. How can you explain the differences to children as not to alienate them from the other parent, or keep the other parent from alienating them to you if they condescend to how you do things?" For more discussions of this sort, join my private FB group here: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/... note that this is separate from the subscription you need to hear all my paid episodes: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe Thanks for listening and please don't hesitate to ask me what you want me to cover if you're a subscriber!

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe to hear all my bonus episodes, and join my secret Facebook group where this soulmate discussion happened https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom Do you believe in soulmates? Someone in my private Facebook group asked this, and here's what I think, and how the concept can help you understand your relationship more clearly.  Send to your spouse if you do feel that "click" I talk about with them! Links: Getting The Love You Want: https://amzn.to/3sciTDH

Subscribe: https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe for my most recent paid episode on when sacrifice is healthy within marriage and when it's not! And join my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom In the marriages I see where men put their kids' needs over their wives' needs, this leads to a conflictual marriage that is no good for anyone.  In this episode, I expand on this post (https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/05/03/men-need-to-love-their-wives-as-much-as-women-love-their-kids/) and discuss why marriages usually work better when the wife prioritizes the kids than when the husband does, and how a man stepping back at a certain critical time can strengthen his marriage long term and when the kids are older. I include a super-interesting cheat sheet that helps you figure out how your wife wants to be loved!! This podcast is a post here! https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/05/03/men-need-to-love-their-wives-as-much-as-women-love-their-kids/