The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many guys with low sex marriages or whose wives never initiate convince themselves that their wife initiating would transform their life and self-esteem. Here is why that is 100% wrong.  I give you the actual reasons why women initiate within monogamy (they aren't ONLY to make you happy, don't worry) and why those reasons will never get at the core issue that underlies why you want her to initiate.  I also discuss the reality of being with a higher sex drive woman, which differs from the fantasy. And here's the link to my event with Dad Starting Over, hope to see you there! https://shop.dadstartingover.com/th-avoidant-wife-11-29-2022?fbclid=IwAR043rShhfiNt0X4Zy1XplNsJ7PAPYopidn3acMOlLDHrUutwYHhkeA4Oj8

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Tough love from your favorite wife whisperer! Is that shit trademarked?  Can I trademark it?  This and other burning questions will be addressed in the episode.  Also why your wife's sex drive reflects on you, spoiler, it doesn't. 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I spoke about this on a previous podcast, but more and more people contact me every day saying they want to start therapy but their spouse is reluctant.  Here are some more ways you can motivate your partner to try couples therapy!! The excuses that I counter include: we have no time, we have no money, I don't want to feel bad about myself, it will be a waste of time, and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A lot of guys call it a "bait and switch" when their wives don't value sex anymore, but it's really an empathic rupture!  This language can be transformative in helping your wife to understand your perspective about sex!  Listen and learn, grasshopper.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why to examine your parents' relationship to better understand your own! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ When you watch TikTok or Instagram/Facebook videos, is it intimacy porn?  E.g., are the dudes really romantic and loving, or are the women lounging around smilingly, delighted by their husbands' mere presence? This stuff can be even more insidious and harmful to your marriage than real porn, especially if you're not thinking critically about it.  Listen and learn! 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why to examine your parents' relationship to better understand your own! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Why would anyone not want to drive a BMW? Listen to the answer to that burning question and more on this episode. I explore the conflict that arises when partners have very different belief system around money and class, where these beliefs originate, and how to come to a middle ground!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why to examine your parents' relationship to better understand your own! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I work with increasing numbers of female breadwinners and their husbands, and I discuss how this dynamic impacts attraction!  Spoiler: you don't have to out-earn your wife for her to be attracted to you!  Listen for what you DO have to do!  PS This idea came from a commenter on my most recent TikTok live so follow me on TikTok! Here's the video: https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom/video/7164401528713809198?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7126166917792957998

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why to examine your parents' relationship to better understand your own! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Women like to say men are thinking with their penises or slaves to their biology, but EVERY MAMMAL IS A SLAVE TO ITS HORMONES and here's why this is the case for both sexes!  Listen to this if you feel you are deeper than just your biology but your husband is an animal.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores how to figure out your wife's full love potential by checking out her relationship with the kids! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you lost your job, is that the time for your wife to watch HGTV compulsively and fantasize about redoing the house?  What if it was "only an outlet"?  Learn why this means your porn habit is not very useful for your marriage or your mental health... or just being a kind and ethical dude.

Delve into the intriguing 'gentleman eunuch' concept, where kindness often masks deeper issues in attraction. Discover how societal pressures can lead men to suppress their sexuality, inadvertently attracting partners with low sexual interest. Explore the vital dynamics of sexual expression and the necessity of open communication in romantic pursuits. Learn why misrepresenting one's sexuality can sabotage potential connections, and understand the importance of clarity in consent and physical intimacy. This engaging discussion sheds light on improving relationships and genuine connections.