The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ My SAT analogy holds!  Listen for why you need to attune yourself to your wife's body OUTSIDE OF SEX if you want her to be attuned to your body DURING sex! So many guys have no idea how to massage their wives and they are really not getting the best sex they can get because of it. Also, if your wife has chronic pain and your way of helping is saying "Oh that sucks," it is unlikely anything else is sucking in your household.  All this and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I saw this meme on Instagram with the words "Lying down with your kids until they fall asleep is not a bad habit. Before we know it, there will be closed doors and independence, and then we will pine for the days when they needed to feel our hand on their back before they felt safe enough to drift to sleep"- Kristen Thompson. I am going to dissect this hypervigilant safety porn for you and relate it to why kids have higher rates of anxiety than ever before (About 11.6% of kids had anxiety in 2012, up 20% from 2007. But during the pandemic, those numbers nearly doubled, such that 20.5% of youth worldwide now struggle with anxiety symptoms, according to a meta-analysis of 29 studies reported in JAMA Pediatrics (Vol. 175, No. 11, 2021).)

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why women want men who have preferences about how they look... until the man expresses any. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If your wife can do everything else in her life with her chronic condition except have sex OF ANY SORT, you owe it to yourself to put your thinking cap on and listen to this episode. And here's the post I mentioned: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/09/16/8-ways-to-support-a-partner-with-chronic-pain/

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why women want you to care how they look but don't like the lingerie you pick!   For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Have you ever deeply introspected about this?  Likely not and that's why you listen to these podcasts.  In this episode we explore this hypothetical and why it can give you great information about yourself and your marriage.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why your wife actually wants you to care how she looks!  Despite telling you that you shouldn't! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Ask I discussed in a recent FB reel, sexless marriages are intergenerationally transmitted. Mothers are usually pretty obsessed with their sons' health and happiness, so this reframe can be very motivating: if your son never sees intimacy in his parents' marriage, he is MUCH less likely to get into a happy marriage one day... and for males, happy = sexually active. Listen and learn!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some people believe that erections are constant and if the guy gets soft, that is "erectile dysfunction" and game over for the whole encounter. This is very wrong but common among guys who have not had a lot of sexual experience and who experience shame around bodies/sex.  Listen and learn about the marvelous phoenix-like erection and how getting soft is a normal part of most encounters for adult men!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I was watching TV and realized that popular media used to show married sex and now it really doesn't.  What do I mean and why does this impact how little sex you're having? Something interesting to discuss with your partner (the idea- don't forward the podcast itself- JFC she already told you to stop). :)  the link: https://www.cdc.gov/media/releases/2018/p0614-yrbs.html

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ There's a lot of text and in person conversation in the early stages of dating.  If you want to avoid dating women who are closedminded and anxious, here's the key word to look out for!  And why this word doesn't help with anxious men (and what to look for instead). 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Your parents may have used guilt trips to keep you close, but this doesn't fly in this current social climate.  Learn how sociological shifts leave you vulnerable to potential estrangement if you allow your preconceived notions about how your adult kids "should" act to inform how you treat them!  The podcast episode that every parent needs- I tell it to you straight as usual and if you deeply absorb this info, it can help inoculate your parent-child relationship against potential conflict down the road.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why people add more and more to their plate to avoid intimacy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ In this episode, I expand on this post: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/08/19/why-do-people-stay-together-for-adult-kids/. Why do people do this, should they do it, what are the pros and cons to you and your adult kids, and more!