The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the cult of "self-care" and when it just means plain old selfish. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people make a mistake in thinking that sex always falls into the "physical touch love language" bucket. Instead, thinking of it as an act of service can be a useful reframe for many, and this doesn't mean it has to be joyless "duty sex" either!  Listen for a paradigm shift on this topic!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is on the cult of "self-care" and when it just means plain old selfish. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked about midlife crises and how to prevent them. I see a lot of these feelings in my clients, and here's what they do and don't mean, and whether they are necessarily all bad.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What's "feminine energy" according to social media coaches?  What can you get from this idea and what needs to be examined more deeply?  All this and more on today's episode!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People leave me nasty comments on TikTok and other platforms when they disagree with me or possibly just for kicks. Some nice people in my Facebook group were upset on my behalf and I figured it could be useful to some people to hear how I deal with this (and how I teach my kids to deal with it). Listen and learn for the foolproof way to ensure everyone likes you!  And why this maybe isn't the healthiest goal.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Couples fight over money all the time.  Why?  One reason is different values about material possessions and what they signify. This builds on my podcast about when one partner wants to jump to a higher socioeconomic class and the other doesn't. There is no "right" way to live, and this episode can help you understand your partner's perspective on "stuff" in a new way!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People tend to equate high sex drive with physical touch love language.  While most men truly have both a high sex drive and a high need for other physical touch, not all men are this way. Also, the differences between these concepts can explain why some women stop having sex after the honeymoon phase and others continue (although almost all women decrease in frequency to some extent). Understanding the distinctions can help make sense of your relationship and cultivate empathy and perspective!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People get very upset with their partner when they have worked hard to change, but the partner weights all their behavior equally, including from longer ago before they started working on themselves. This episode discusses this phenomenon and how to rethink your partner's and your own change so that you can have a happier relationship! Note that a client taught me about the sliding window concept in computer science :) Included: why trauma memories have their own weighted coefficient, how to resolve empathic ruptures, and more! From Mathworks.com: "The exponential weighting method has an infinite impulse response. The algorithm computes a set of weights, and applies these weights to the data samples recursively. As the age of the data increases, the magnitude of the weighting factor decreases exponentially and never reaches zero. In other words, the recent data has more influence on the statistic at the current sample than the older data. 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you are a member of my private Facebook group you will already know what I think about this article (https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/just-because-youre-bored-with-sex-doesnt-mean-you-cant-masturbate?fbclid=IwAR1D8cPj9ur8nMANAHhpIv-lHKExNXUfZxsngHmvHT6dlBQa8CRp2ImpWos) but if not hold on to your hat because I hate this article and think it epitomizes everything selfish in our culture!  Women should not be laughingly masturbating for self-care while they have sexless marriages WTF people!! Listen for my rant!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What does adoring mean, why do men marry women who don't adore them.... and how to act adorABLE so you up your chances of adoration!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked this question and it's complicated!  Listen and learn if and how you can have opposite sex friends as a married person. I cover boundaries, red flags, and more!