The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is whether everyone should try therapy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people drink "to relax" or "to have fun" but don't recognize how much alcohol impacts their mental and emotional health.  If you're always a little bit drunk or a little bit hungover, there's a tremendous negative effect on your clarity of mind, ability to connect and communicate with your partner, and alcohol is a depressant overall. Listen to this episode if you think that alcohol doesn't really impact your relationship, sex life, job, mood, or more.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about generalizations about "all men" or "all women." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many men in my practice are still dealing with the fallout of having been a “late bloomer” sexually.  Even if they are in a happy marriage and it’s years or even decades after highschool, there are still lasting ramifications of having thought that you are inadequate, unattractive, or a “loser.” This podcast discusses this issue, how it affects men and how to move forward!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about generalizations about "all men" or "all women." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people will not initiate divorce because they don't want to be the "bad guy" or start a conflict.  However, avoidant partners in particular often end up much happier alone, without the emotional/sexual demands of a relationship to stress them. Coparenting often is much better suited to their personalities as well, as they are often frustrated by their inability to fully focus on work or hobbies when always with the kids. This reframe may be useful if you want to leave your avoidant partner but are staying together out of guilt!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about generalizations about "all men" or "all women." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sex isn't like food and water, but some people think that means it's not a need at all. This episode distinguishes between wants and needs in our society, wants and needs in relationships, and how to frame sex in a healthy way within the larger context of your life and marriage.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about generalizations about "all men" or "all women." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sexual compatibility doesn't mean that you both agree to have sex twice a week. It is a qualitative, not a quantitative, concept, and one which is hard to describe for many.  Thankfully, I've never met an idea that I can't talk for 15 minutes about, so hopefully this episode can help you articulate what you may be looking for in a sexual partner in order to feel attuned and fulfilled long term.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about generalizations about "all men" or "all women." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ This is an area where pursuer-distancer (aka preoccupued-avoidant) dynamics are extremely relevant.  What are healthy boundaries for this?  Who wants to share access and who doesn't, and why?  What do healthy couples generally look like in this regard?  All this and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the cult of "self-care" and when it just means plain old selfish. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If your sole contribution to the dysfunction in your marriage is, by your own account, that you are "too nice," this needs to really be explored. This sort of job interview answer aka cop out is at the root of a lot of unresolved relationship issues. Listen and learn!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the cult of "self-care" and when it just means plain old selfish. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people make a mistake in thinking that sex always falls into the "physical touch love language" bucket. Instead, thinking of it as an act of service can be a useful reframe for many, and this doesn't mean it has to be joyless "duty sex" either!  Listen for a paradigm shift on this topic!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is on the cult of "self-care" and when it just means plain old selfish. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked about midlife crises and how to prevent them. I see a lot of these feelings in my clients, and here's what they do and don't mean, and whether they are necessarily all bad.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What's "feminine energy" according to social media coaches?  What can you get from this idea and what needs to be examined more deeply?  All this and more on today's episode!