The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when people have implicit "rules" about what is allowed to be shared with the therapist in couples therapy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I did an episode on when your boyfriend won't go down on you. This one is even worse!  Run run run run. And here's what to do if it's a husband who's saying this.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when people have implicit "rules" about what is allowed to be shared with the therapist in couples therapy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Often, female followers comment that there are many women who do "everything" in the home, but no men that do.  This is patently untrue, although if you have been raised to view men as "useless," then it can feel very true.  In this episode I discuss men who do "everything" in much the same way that some women do (e.g., https://www.drpsychmom.com/2014/10/23/reader-q-husband-adhd-ruining-marriage/).  Often, just as women are ashamed to admit when they are the higher libido partner, men are ashamed to admit when they do the bulk of the childcare/housework because this is counter to traditional gender narratives and make the men feel as bad about themselves and and their partners as women do when they are the sexual pursuer. This episode can help to validate men in this situation while also helping other listeners interrogate their implicit gender biases.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when people have implicit "rules" about what is allowed to be shared with the therapist in couples therapy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many of my clients who on the path of divorce (starting with separation through a completed divorce) struggle with their loss of close friends.  I have not spoken to any divorcing people who have not shared that they have either had conflict with or entirely stopped speaking to at least one family member or close friend due to their divorce. Why does this happen and how can you work through it? And you can read more about this here: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2022/02/04/why-you-lose-friends-after-divorce/

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why your partner isn't going to try to make you happy if you never actually act happy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I got a great question in my secret FB group (join!) about how much "help" is actually enabling a depressed partner to remain depressed. Covered: my own personal experiences with depression, behavioral activation theory, codependency, overfunctioning, and more!  

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why your partner isn't going to try to make you happy if you never actually act happy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Telecommuting saves a lot of problems but creates one big one- that it exacerbates attachment issues in some couples who think differently about spending time together.  In this episode, I discuss how couples have different ideas, hopes, and expectations about working from home together and how these different views can hurt the relationship.  How can you better understand each other's perspectives on this issue and perhaps come to a middle ground?

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why your partner isn't going to try to make you happy if you never actually act happy! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If your husband can't do anything for himself and you think this is cute and makes you feel needed, let this be your warning: you are very unlikely to continue to think it's cute and to want to feel needed in later life. Marry a man that can take care of himself in a way that you respect, and if this sounds difficult, it's time to think about the role models you saw growing up and your self-esteem issues.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when you don't like how your wife dresses! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ There's a lot of positive reasons that your wife wouldn't want to do this!  Listen to hear them and, on a macro level, what you have the right to ask for vs what you don't within a healthy and loving relationship.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when you don't like how your wife dresses! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Get out of this situation immediately. If you need more deets, listen to the episode!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Why My Advice To Have Sex With Your Husband Differs From Religious Advice To Have Sex With Your Husband." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I get two types of guys dissatisfied with a partner who is less sexual than they would like: those who are still having regular sex and those who are not.  These two types of situations are quite different. You need to consider the role of acceptance in a mature and healthy relationship, whether in the sexual arena or anywhere else! Listen for more.  Especially relevant for menopausal women's husbands.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Why My Advice To Have Sex With Your Husband Differs From Religious Advice To Have Sex With Your Husband." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Often, people ask me what "normal" or "healthy" relationships look like, because they grew up in dysfunctional homes observing unhealthy marriages and have no idea. Admitting you don't know is the first step to growth and change!  Here, I give an overview of what a healthy sex life looks like for a monogamous married couple.