The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about how to truly care for your wife! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Women are generally far more invested in the day to day decisions of childrearing than their husbands, and this is okay and pretty normal. I suggest letting her take the lead on where Johnny should go to school and which soccer team he should play for, because she cares more and her self-concept is more tied to the children.  However, there is a definite exception, which is when your wife is consumed by anxiety and she doesn't allow the kids to do much of anything.  We will discuss how and when to take the initiative on expanding your kids' lives and horizons and when to step back and allow her to be the default parent.  Also covered: how to tell if your wife likes being the default parent even if she says she doesn't.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about how your wife may plan to be a far more involved grandmother than you expect! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ In my practice, I often see people who regret not having more sexual experiences. I wrote a post all about late bloomers, or people (usually men) who feel embarrassed that they waited longer than others did to have their first sexual experience. There are also other experiences that men and women regret not having. If you are single, this post can help you clarify your own desires in this arena, and if you are unhappily married, this episode may help explain some of your dissatisfaction, and provide clarity on what you feel you are missing and why.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about how your wife may plan to be a far more involved grandmother than you expect! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I've never seen this to be accurate.  If you're dissatisfied enough with your sex life for it to be a recurring complaint, it's never all about sex.  Usually this complaint means you feel misattuned, constrained, and resentful.  Listen for why it's not "just" sex and why this complaint is often the canary in the coal mine and predicts overall marriage dissatisfaction sooner than later. 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about how your wife may plan to be a far more involved grandmother than you expect! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some guys think every married couple is having sex on the kitchen table after the kids are asleep except them.  Hell to the no, and this episode explains why this is normal... but also why it's normal to do this before kids and a red flag if you never do.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is When Child Centered Marriages Work! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ So many parents in this day and age find hanging out with kids to be a sacrifice, as it is always so child centered. Here's another approach called stop doing shit you hate with your kids.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is When Child Centered Marriages Work! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ As Lewis Carroll said, "In the end… We only regret the chances we didn't take, the relationships we were afraid to have,and the decisions we waited too long to make.” This is definitely what I see in couples counseling!  Everyone acts like people regret sexual experiences they had.... in therapy though, I hear just as much regret about sexual experiences NOT had! Here's a great episode for my single listeners and parents of young adults who judge their decisions, and a better way to understand your own regrets.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is There Is No Way To Be A Loving Husband While Not Doing Chores! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some people who tend a bit toward narcissism believe this.  It's some bullshit and is sabotaging your relationships and ability to evolve as a human.  Here's why.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is There Is No Way To Be A Loving Husband While Not Doing Chores! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some people think that Highly Sensitive People are averse to sex because of their issues with sensory overload. Au contraire!  And here's why.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your rigidity/anxiety is harming your relationship with your husband and kids! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Semen retention is a big topic on men's social media, but it's not really backed by science.  It is however a great commonsensical way to have a better sex life in various ways.  In this episode I discuss that while she should get off in every encounter, you may not have to, especially as you get older.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your rigidity/anxiety is harming your relationship with your husband and kids! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some men say that women want a servant versus a partner. They often say this is because of their own relationship, usually sexless, where their wife says she has an acts of service love language and also wants to make all the decisions. They think this may be the norm. Fortunately, this is not a usual situation, and is not representative of a healthy relationship dynamic. How does this dynamic arise and how is it different from a loving marital partnership?