The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many people get very invested in a certain checklist for dating, or scheduling dates only during very specific windows, or anything else that gives you emotional distance from the process and keeps it more businesslike.  Here's why not to do that, and to focus on keeping dating fun... and why you may struggle with this!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many times people ask, when do you know you should divorce?  When is enough enough, versus when can the relationship still possibly be salvaged?  Today I discuss what usually leads to a decision to divorce, as opposed to what may still mean that there's something to work on.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Why is sex like freeze tag and how can this analogy help you moderate your maladaptive expectations about your wife's sex drive?  Listen and learn, grasshoppers, but only if you've ever thought something like, "Why does my wife pretend she never thinks about sex?"

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ You already know I'm going to say that my lawyer clients like to argue and to be right, and that's often accurate, but there are many other personality traits unique to this field.  Here's what I most often see in my practice, who is drawn to lawyers, and the communication style that derives from many years as as attorney that can frustrate partners most.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I work with many CEO's and this is a very unique personality type... for better and for worse.  This is more targeted to the CEO's who invented a product/idea and built a company from scratch versus more corporate types, although I may get to them in a later episode. If you are an ideas/big picture guy, you are the entrepreneurial person that is the focus on this podcast. Here's what may be currently impacting your relationships, what your wife may have to say about you to her therapist, and the major issues that I see when working with these couples! Note: this is specifically about male CEO's as those are 90% of my CEO/entrepreneur clients, but as always, you may find it useful to switch the gender if that's more relevant to your marriage!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ On my Facebook page I posted this article about advice from a therapist to make out with your husband every day, which is great advice, but is unfortunately colored by the negative spin that the author put on it.  This brings me to a larger point.  I often discuss that the manosphere and porn can be toxic for men in that they give men unrealistic expectations for marriage, women, and sex. But the mommysphere can be just as harmful, and here's why! Article I reference: https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/woman-makes-out-with-her-husband-every-single-night-tiktok

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why women hate arguers! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A lot of men and increasingly more women (as 30% of women are now the breadwinners) have to pay child support and even alimony after divorce, and let the fear of how bad this would be keep them in a bad situation. I have NEVER seen a divorced person regret their divorce because of money, as long as THEY made the decision to leave.  Here's why and how to use your divorce as a financial motivator.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why you don't actually have to be happy alone before you can date! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some men don't want to work on rigidity or being what is commonly thought of as "difficult" because they don't realize how this will hurt their chances on the dating market... and also, if they are married, how it lowers the chances of their wife trying hard to change in ways that they want her to change.  Here, we discuss what rigidity looks like and why it only allows certain women to respond to you.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why you don't actually have to be happy alone before you can date! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I have never seen a man come into therapy and ask for more acts of service. This episode can help both partners understand why men don't have an acts of service love language, why women may, and bridge the gap of understanding in order to have a happier and closer marriage overall!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about how to truly care for your wife! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People who say things like, "I can't imagine ever being someone who would do X" or "I just don't understand people who Y" in a judgmental way at are massive risk of ruptures with their spouses and kids.  (For X or Y insert any behavior you don't like, e.g., cheat, be a stay at home parent, stay in a sexless marriage, be religious, not be religious, engage in certain sexual acts, or whatever else.) Closedmindedness is one of the biggest obstructions to true intimacy, because it precludes empathy.  Listen for more about how judging and opining about others, particularly when you've never been in the situation, stops people from confiding in you and feeling close!