The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten
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Clinical psychologist Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (DrPsychMom.com) discusses relationships, sex, family & parenting with no BS. Unpopular opinions: don't overfocus on kids, physical touch is the most important love language, and marriage issues are due to BOTH partners. Therapy/coaching with me or my team: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. NOT medical advice. Email samantha@drpsychmom.com
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Clinical psychologist Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten (DrPsychMom.com) discusses relationships, sex, family & parenting with no BS. Unpopular opinions: don't overfocus on kids, physical touch is the most important love language, and marriage issues are due to BOTH partners. Therapy/coaching with me or my team: bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. NOT medical advice. Email samantha@drpsychmom.com
Join my secret FB group for talk about relationships, sex & more: https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom!
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Jun 10, 2023 • 19min
Do You Think Your Husband Asking, "What Can I Do To Help?" Is A Burden?
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For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
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Some women say their husbands asking, "What can I do to help?" means that these men aren't doing enough "emotional labor." In reality, the women may be struggling with untreated depression/anxiety. Decision fatigue and other fatigue are endemic to depression, and if you find it extremely hard to tell your husband what you need him to do (in a dynamic where he is doing at least half if not more of the home/childcare), then it's probably not his fault in the way social media would have you think. It is the fault of depression, and recognizing this is half the battle!
Jun 6, 2023 • 16min
The Unique Relationship Issues Of Men In IT
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
One common type of guy who comes into couples counseling is a guy in IT. Who is this guy and why does he frustrate his wife? And what can be done about it? All this and more on today's episode of your favorite podcast!!
Jun 2, 2023 • 19min
When Your Boyfriend Prioritizes Everything Else Over You But Tells You He Doesn't
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about why to stop shaming your partner for their desires/fantasies!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
When you are dating a guy who prioritizes work, friends, and hobbies over you, this doesn't tend to get better after marriage. Listen when he tells you that he doesn't think he is doing this... here is what it means! (No, he's not gaslighting you.)
May 29, 2023 • 17min
When Your Wife Is Only Fun When She Drinks
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
From Facebook group member question (join the group, everyone!)... what if you only get fun, hot sex, and a fun wife for that matter, when she's drunk? What does this mean, and then what do you do if she quits drinking? More common issue than people think, especially people who ignore my repeated plea to watch the movie When A Man Loves A Woman!
May 27, 2023 • 16min
What Women Think About Angry Men
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
Some men think that their anger issues are no big deal because women want them to be alpha, right? This episode discusses how angry is about as far as you can get from alpha, and what women really associate male anger with. This episode may explain why you don't get laid, as do honestly at least half my episodes.
May 25, 2023 • 21min
When Your Wife Keeps Shooting Down Your Dinner Ideas
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about anxiety in kids and how it relates to untreated parental anxiety!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
A woman not being able to decide what to eat for dinner and shooting down her husband's suggestions is a relatively common dynamic. This is very frustrating for men but they are playing a part by buying in to this ridiculousness. Here we discuss the roles of people pleasing and the cult of preferences in this phenomenon. Note: you only get this happening when BOTH people are people-pleasers and conflict-averse.... so you're not an alpha male dealing with an indecisive female like you may want to believe.
May 21, 2023 • 19min
When You Feel Masculine Because Your Girlfriend Says You Want Sex Too Much Or She's Worn Out
Many young men feel that it's a positive, flattering testament to their virility and even their penis size when their girlfriend says she just can't have sex as much as they want it. This is okay if she bows out after a few times a day, but if you've only been dating a little while and she can't do it more than a few times a week because you're "too big" or "too much" for her... this isn't the good sign you think it is.
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
May 19, 2023 • 18min
Don't Complain About Doing Stuff That You Would Hope To Keep Doing After Divorce!
Many women complain about the "emotional labor" of picking the kids' extracurriculars or choosing their doctors or organizing and decorating for holidays... but then BEG to do this stuff after divorce because they actually really want to be in charge of it. "Know thyself," a key precept of the DPM show, is discussed in depth vis a vis this issue. Included: why complaining about shit you would actually want to do after divorce is a bad decision, why it's okay to be in charge of stuff if you admit you want to be, and, as a special PS, the only analogous example I could think of about when men act this way about marriage vs divorce.
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea!
For my secret Facebook group, go to Facebook.com/drpsychmom and click on blue subscribe link!
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
May 17, 2023 • 23min
Don't Tell Your Husband You're A Good Wife To Him When You Mean You're A Good Mother To The Kids
In the large majority of cases, a man feels completely not married when he receives no/low physical affection or intimacy. This episode discusses how inaccurate it is to think, "I'm a good wife, we just don't touch because I'm so tapped out from being a good wife in so many other ways." Those ways are called PARENTING primarily, and you mean you're tapped out from being (what you think of as) a good mother. As we see after divorce, there is really very little equivalency between good wife and good mother! Listen for more.
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about the stupid man cold idea!
For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
May 13, 2023 • 14min
Should You Merge Finances, And How Do You Make Joint Decisions About Money?
Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about touchless marriages!
For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/
For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/
For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist!
Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ
I was asked by a Facebook group member to discuss how couples should decide how to split household finances given a disparity in income. Money is a lot like sex in that fights about it are never only about the topic at hand. Instead, fights about money are usually about intimacy, autonomy, and more, as I will discuss in this episode!
