The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Yes, You're Supposed To Interact With A Soft Penis!" lol! In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !!  Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Women, especially the younger (pre-40) ones are often sad that their partners don't post about them on social media, and then their husbands say stuff like, "Well, I'm a private person" or "Why do you need people to know how I feel about you?"  Here's why she wants this and how to understand it on a new level.  Plus, why I myself post about kids and husband on social media, related to my own upbringing!

If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! She works with individuals and couples virtually. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Yes, You're Supposed To Interact With A Soft Penis!" lol  In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you aren't saying I love you every day then why in the name of all that is holy would you be getting laid?  This is your wife and she wants you to be loving and this is a LOW BASELINE PEOPLE.  Also, if you want more than a cursory perfunctory sex life you need to actually TRY to be romantic.  Here's the wakeup call you didn't know you needed.

Welcome to Season 3 of the DPM Show! If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! She works with individuals and couples virtually. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The most common fantasy men express is for a woman to take charge in the bedroom. Here is why and how to do it if you have no idea.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sex isn't supposed to hurt unless you're into BDSM and it's consensual. If your wife is always "sore" after sex this isn't because you're a studmuffin but because you don't understand the vagina. (Unless there is a medical condition, so, as always, my podcast isn't medical advice- as I say in the podcast description- and you should always talk to your medical provider about all your issues!) Thankfully I am here to remind you what female arousal looks like and doesn't look like- but you really should have already listened to my female arousal episode for some basic education: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lfqxp2ogO7jVNdiDvj8Gg?si=9RRBjFZwSKej3tQMreHa_g.

If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked me my thoughts on a podcast about Christian married sex called Bare Marriage.  I listened to Episode 148: Is Sex A Yes Space For Men and I was preparing to be pleasantly surprised.  Until they said sex should NOT be a yes space for men!  Because "it already is"! What men are these? I haven't met men that consider married sex a sexual yes space or even a sexual maybe space.  If there are men who think they deserve a constantly supply of hot sex against the woman's will, they are certainly a bunch of assholes, but this doesn't remotely resemble the actuality of the dynamics I work with in my practice (including with Christian couples). 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "When You Want Your Wife To Change How She Dresses." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sometimes, people are upset with their spouses because their spouses don't ask about their day enough.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how women often assert themselves against arrogant/condescending husbands by losing attraction to them! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked me this and to some degree it is good advice... but only in one area.  In all others, listening to your gut just means you will be replicating whatever dynamics you learned in a dysfunctional family growing up.  Listen for which area to trust your gut in and what to do when you can't.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how women often assert themselves against arrogant/condescending husbands by losing attraction to them! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Yes, and also within the same relationship at different times!  Attachment style can certainly change based on the circumstance and dynamic, and here's why, how, and how this information can help your marriage!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how women often assert themselves against arrogant/condescending husbands by losing attraction to them! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some guys say things like, "My wife and I only have sex a few times a month and she doesn't want it so it feels mechanical." They want her to somehow fix her drive as though they themselves don't have hormonal and biological constraints around their own drive! An interaction on my Facebook page about order of operations in sex made me realize this could be a very useful analogy for men (and for wives who want to explain their feelings better). Listen and learn! 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how women often assert themselves against arrogant/condescending husbands by losing attraction to them! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The women who say their husbands never do anything are overfunctioners who never say "I can't" and look down on people who do.  Just owning what you can't do can transform your marriage and your anxiety!!