The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People leave me nasty comments on TikTok and other platforms when they disagree with me or possibly just for kicks. Some nice people in my Facebook group were upset on my behalf and I figured it could be useful to some people to hear how I deal with this (and how I teach my kids to deal with it). Listen and learn for the foolproof way to ensure everyone likes you!  And why this maybe isn't the healthiest goal.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Couples fight over money all the time.  Why?  One reason is different values about material possessions and what they signify. This builds on my podcast about when one partner wants to jump to a higher socioeconomic class and the other doesn't. There is no "right" way to live, and this episode can help you understand your partner's perspective on "stuff" in a new way!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People tend to equate high sex drive with physical touch love language.  While most men truly have both a high sex drive and a high need for other physical touch, not all men are this way. Also, the differences between these concepts can explain why some women stop having sex after the honeymoon phase and others continue (although almost all women decrease in frequency to some extent). Understanding the distinctions can help make sense of your relationship and cultivate empathy and perspective!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is about when your parents act normal/successful enough that you don't realize how dysfunctional they were until later in life! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ People get very upset with their partner when they have worked hard to change, but the partner weights all their behavior equally, including from longer ago before they started working on themselves. This episode discusses this phenomenon and how to rethink your partner's and your own change so that you can have a happier relationship! Note that a client taught me about the sliding window concept in computer science :) Included: why trauma memories have their own weighted coefficient, how to resolve empathic ruptures, and more! From Mathworks.com: "The exponential weighting method has an infinite impulse response. The algorithm computes a set of weights, and applies these weights to the data samples recursively. As the age of the data increases, the magnitude of the weighting factor decreases exponentially and never reaches zero. In other words, the recent data has more influence on the statistic at the current sample than the older data. 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you are a member of my private Facebook group you will already know what I think about this article (https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/just-because-youre-bored-with-sex-doesnt-mean-you-cant-masturbate?fbclid=IwAR1D8cPj9ur8nMANAHhpIv-lHKExNXUfZxsngHmvHT6dlBQa8CRp2ImpWos) but if not hold on to your hat because I hate this article and think it epitomizes everything selfish in our culture!  Women should not be laughingly masturbating for self-care while they have sexless marriages WTF people!! Listen for my rant!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ What does adoring mean, why do men marry women who don't adore them.... and how to act adorABLE so you up your chances of adoration!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked this question and it's complicated!  Listen and learn if and how you can have opposite sex friends as a married person. I cover boundaries, red flags, and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ My SAT analogy holds!  Listen for why you need to attune yourself to your wife's body OUTSIDE OF SEX if you want her to be attuned to your body DURING sex! So many guys have no idea how to massage their wives and they are really not getting the best sex they can get because of it. Also, if your wife has chronic pain and your way of helping is saying "Oh that sucks," it is unlikely anything else is sucking in your household.  All this and more!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores the effects of getting married when you're "young and dumb"! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ I saw this meme on Instagram with the words "Lying down with your kids until they fall asleep is not a bad habit. Before we know it, there will be closed doors and independence, and then we will pine for the days when they needed to feel our hand on their back before they felt safe enough to drift to sleep"- Kristen Thompson. I am going to dissect this hypervigilant safety porn for you and relate it to why kids have higher rates of anxiety than ever before (About 11.6% of kids had anxiety in 2012, up 20% from 2007. But during the pandemic, those numbers nearly doubled, such that 20.5% of youth worldwide now struggle with anxiety symptoms, according to a meta-analysis of 29 studies reported in JAMA Pediatrics (Vol. 175, No. 11, 2021).)

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one explores why women want men who have preferences about how they look... until the man expresses any. For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If your wife can do everything else in her life with her chronic condition except have sex OF ANY SORT, you owe it to yourself to put your thinking cap on and listen to this episode. And here's the post I mentioned: https://www.drpsychmom.com/2018/09/16/8-ways-to-support-a-partner-with-chronic-pain/