The Dr. Psych Mom Show with clinical psychologist Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Most Men Don't Criticize Their Wife In Bed." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sexual openness comes when you feel you can be vulnerable and exposed with someone who is safe and unconditionally loving.  Here's why your critical nature and demands placed on your wife really end up sabotaging your chance for the warm and open sexual relationship you want.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Most Men Don't Criticize Their Wife In Bed." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some women want to remain married and say they both love and respect their husbands, but don't think the lack of sex in the marriage is a big deal or worthy of the husband being upset. This is a crazy-making way to think, and invalidates your husband as well as leaves him susceptible to infidelity. Here's why.  

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Your Window To Change Is Before Your Wife Hits 40!" For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Some men tell me to tell their wives that it's risky to ignore the marriage while the kids are young, saying that you will reconnect later. The man may be so detached by the time you actually want to reconnect that you will not be able to reach him emotionally at that point.  However, some women genuinely don't care.  Here's how to tell if this is a relevant idea for your marriage or not and what to do in either case.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Your Window To Change Is Before Your Wife Hits 40!" For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Many men and some (but fewer) women don't really understand what "romance" is.  It isn't just buying flowers.  Behind most deep romantic feeling is the idea that your partner uniquely was able to rescue you in some way.  If you've been accused of not being romantic, this is the episode that may give you a lightbulb moment!

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Yes, You're Supposed To Interact With A Soft Penis!" lol! In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !!  Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Women, especially the younger (pre-40) ones are often sad that their partners don't post about them on social media, and then their husbands say stuff like, "Well, I'm a private person" or "Why do you need people to know how I feel about you?"  Here's why she wants this and how to understand it on a new level.  Plus, why I myself post about kids and husband on social media, related to my own upbringing!

If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! She works with individuals and couples virtually. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "Yes, You're Supposed To Interact With A Soft Penis!" lol  In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ If you aren't saying I love you every day then why in the name of all that is holy would you be getting laid?  This is your wife and she wants you to be loving and this is a LOW BASELINE PEOPLE.  Also, if you want more than a cursory perfunctory sex life you need to actually TRY to be romantic.  Here's the wakeup call you didn't know you needed.

Welcome to Season 3 of the DPM Show! If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! She works with individuals and couples virtually. Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! In season 3, more of my episodes will be paid so subscribe and be sure you don't miss any good ones! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ The most common fantasy men express is for a woman to take charge in the bedroom. Here is why and how to do it if you have no idea.

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sex isn't supposed to hurt unless you're into BDSM and it's consensual. If your wife is always "sore" after sex this isn't because you're a studmuffin but because you don't understand the vagina. (Unless there is a medical condition, so, as always, my podcast isn't medical advice- as I say in the podcast description- and you should always talk to your medical provider about all your issues!) Thankfully I am here to remind you what female arousal looks like and doesn't look like- but you really should have already listened to my female arousal episode for some basic education: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lfqxp2ogO7jVNdiDvj8Gg?si=9RRBjFZwSKej3tQMreHa_g.

If you need help with intimacy, I have hired a new sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one discusses how you can and should actually have sex when you're not already feeling close! For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ A Facebook group member asked me my thoughts on a podcast about Christian married sex called Bare Marriage.  I listened to Episode 148: Is Sex A Yes Space For Men and I was preparing to be pleasantly surprised.  Until they said sex should NOT be a yes space for men!  Because "it already is"! What men are these? I haven't met men that consider married sex a sexual yes space or even a sexual maybe space.  If there are men who think they deserve a constantly supply of hot sex against the woman's will, they are certainly a bunch of assholes, but this doesn't remotely resemble the actuality of the dynamics I work with in my practice (including with Christian couples). 

Subscribe if you love the DPM show! https://anchor.fm/drpsychmomshow/subscribe and you'll get all my awesome bonus episodes; the most recent one is "When You Want Your Wife To Change How She Dresses." For my secret Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/becomesupporter/DrPsychMom/ For coaching from DPM, visit https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/ For therapy or life coaching, contact us at www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com. If you need help with intimacy, my sexologist that can work in all states and internationally: https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/heather-ray-certified-sexologist !! Follow me on TikTok! https://www.tiktok.com/@therealdrpsychmom and YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCqLm4xRaUeroBodFc-h4XDQ Sometimes, people are upset with their spouses because their spouses don't ask about their day enough.