Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

There’s just something about how you say stuff to another person that can come straight off the truth, like a wind that comes down a mountain. You’re not overthinking, you’re just talking and boom, there it is. Sometimes honestly I don’t really know what I think about something until I talk to someone about it. I’m a big believer in verbal processing. Today I’m sharing 3 ways to get your verbal processing fix–one free, two that you pay for. For those times you need help thinking clearly, you’ve always got these three tools at your disposal!THERAPYZencare websitePsychology Today’s Therapist FinderCOACHESMelody Wilding’s website (executive coaching)Andrea J. Lee’s website (life and business coaching)Brittany Drozd’s website (small business and leadership coaching)My website (although you can email me at kate@katehanley.com or DM me on IG @katehanleyauthor)This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you can tell that you’re not thinking clearly about something it can be so frustrating! So you just try to think harder and that really doesn’t get you anywhere. Here’s what I’ve learned–it’s not trying to think the same thing, just harder, that helps you think more clearly. It’s thinking differently. Which…how do you do that exactly? I’ve got 2 questions to ask yourself that help you do just that. My interview with Andrea about breaking the cycle of angerMy interview with Andrea about separating moral outrage from personal outrageAndrea J Lee’s websiteThis episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is a unique kind of control that a lot of mothers–myself included–display. It's called maternal gatekeeping, where we think no one else (including our partners in parenting) is as good a caretaker as we are. And while it’s understandable why we seek this level of control, it’s also not helping anyone. So let’s see what we can do to loosen our grip.Here’s that Ohio State University study I mentioned. This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Expectations are a real bugger.They make us feel that if things don't happen the way we think they will, there's something wrong with us. But of course, things rarely happen the way we think they will.So how can we start to let those buggers go? Especially when we're not always aware that we have them in the first place. I’ve got a really simple but really powerful mantra for you. This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sometimes there are things that you feel like you've let go, or that you should have let go already, when in truth it still feels like they’re clinging to you, like cigarette smoke gets in your hair and you can smell it the next morning, if you’re old enough to remember going to restaurants and bars where smoking was permitted. Here are three practices you can do in those instances to wash that smoke right outta your hair--three practices that work on the energetic level.This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There are many obstacles to creating and assimilating new habits that help us become better people. I mean, of course, otherwise we would all be walking around as the best possible version of ourselves and wouldn’t that be grand? Here's how to deal with one of the biggest obstacles: backsliding.This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing something that can help you stay on track with your efforts to start a new habit. Best of all, this tip takes about five seconds to do!! It harnesses the universal truth that what you focus on grows, and helps you pay attention to your success more than your lapses. This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s say you’re trying to build a habit of spending 10 minutes a night putting things away and restoring some amount of order to your home. It’s easy to think of that as just a chore, or a box to tick, which is not all that motivating. It’s like eating your lima beans or something else that you hate that you are trying teach yourself to endure. But when you raise your awareness of how those 10 minutes benefit you, your energy shifts, and when you change your energy, you change your results. This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trying to become better is not a reason for feeling bad about yourself. You will mess up. You will backslide. You will completely forget. And it is OK. All you need to do is simply start again.This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s big idea is that because habits are so unconscious and so well-worn, it can take a really big dose of motivation to get you to take action and then to sustain that action. The good news is that I’m going to share a great motivator with you. The bad news is that it is not all that pleasant.This episode sponsored by: NextEVO – Use promo code BETTER to save 20% off your order of $40 or more Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices