The massive opportunity-costs you are blind to every time you self criticize, how habitual self-criticism creates insidious patterns of self-sabotage and 3 simple steps to be high-quality in all areas of your life WITHOUT self-criticism. This is the second episode of the trilogy on self-criticism iceberg. Ready to liberate yourself from perfectionism prison? If you want to know how to work WITH YOUR brilliant perfectionistic brain, feel as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside and live unapologetically true to who you be + what you value Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Here's where you start  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Is your Self-Criticism only getting worse? Overthinking a million ways you suck your mind's go-to? If your self-criticism cycles JUST won't quit, it's not bc you need more self-compassion, self-love or a less tragic childhood. It's simply bc you're focusing on the wrong problem and by misidentifying your problem, you're missing out on all the super simple solutions. That silliness ends NOW. Discover the 8 undercover forces driving your self-criticism cycles AND exactly how to solve each one.If you're DONE with self-criticism holding you back + want to remember what playfully proud of yourself feels like and gain lifetime skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, calmer + more resilient  Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Sumptuous, science-backed solutions designed specifically for YOUR perfectionistic tendencies. Get your stress-free start today at  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 212 Timestamps00:00-Identifying WHY You Self-Criticize02:46-The ROOT of Self-Critical Pattern No. 105:10-How ADHD Feeds Off Self-Criticism07:20-Why Am I So Hard On Myself? SOLVED09:55-When Your Career Demands Your Self Critic11:45-Solutions That Actually Work for Overly Critical Achievers13:25-Criticizing Yourself to Create Change16:45-Hyper Critical Power Dynamics18:33-How To Stop Beating Yourself Up Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:Campos, R. C., Holden, R. R., Caçador, B., Ana Sofia Fragata, & Baleizão, C. (2018). Self-criticism, intensity of perceived negative life events, and distress: Results from a two-wave study. Personality and Individual Differences, 124, 145–149. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.12.004Ferrari, M., Ciarrochi, J., Yap, K., Baljinder Sahdra, & Hayes, S. C. (2022). Embracing the Complexity of our Inner Worlds: Understanding the Dynamics of Self-Compassion and Self-Criticism. Mindfulness, 13(7), 1652–1661. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12671-022-01897-5Thakur, N., & Baumann, N. (2022). Breaking the anxious cycle of self-criticism: Action orientation buffers the detrimental effects of a self-critical personality style. Journal of Affective Disorders, 301, 30–35. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jad.2022.01.014  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

How raising your standards solves the perfectionistic tendencies that've been holding you back. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Brian who was exhausted from being everything to everyone while pulled in a million directions and how making this ONE swap immediately created a cascade of less stress, more presence and legit enjoyment in his dynamic life.Whether it's spending quality time with your family, stop dreading the guilt you’ll feel on vacation or dealing with the pressures of being excellent at everything, this episode gives you a step-by-step guide on the inner workings of perfectionist brains and how to easily structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU.Why lower your standards when raising them upgrades your entire life? If you're committed to being stronger, happier, braver + more resilient and want the only tools designed specifically for driven overachievers to feel as amazing as their life looks Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Listen to the full episode to learn:Empowering strategies for setting boundaries and honoring your needs without guilt or resentmentHow making a 1% shift in your standards creates a 100% difference in your daily lifeStep-by-step to structure your days around what's most meaningful to YOU Ep. 211 Timestamps00:00-Raising standards for perfectionists = upgrades relationships + focus02:29-Brian's Story: Client Case Study on Changing Life Dynamics04:16-The True Meaning of Raising Your Standards06:15-What Raising Your Standards as a Perfectionist Is Like IRL09:00-The EPIC Framework™ Empowered Presence and Interoceptive Connection11:09-Action Steps to Identify + Attune Your Own Standards13:45-Trying to Control vs Being in Charge15:17-Constantly battling your own unrealistic expectations? Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Exactly how you can end the never good enough cycle right now, for real + for-ever. Plus WHY what you've tried before didn't work +  why this will work FOR you. PERIOD. Why settle for good enough when you could be empowered? If you want the only tools designed specifically for perfectionists to move beyond never enough,  skills that make you stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionistic tendencies, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Ep. 210 Timestamps00:00-Never Good Enough No Matter How Hard You Try01:19-Am I Good Enough03:30-Moving Beyond Inadequacy Fallacy05:12-When is enough is enough06:07-No Wonder You Feel Not Good Enough07:11-The Game Is Rigged So You Feel Inadequate08:20-How Affirmations Erode Self-Trust09:52-Playing a Better Game: Empowered Perfectionism10:55-How to Be Present + Relaxed in a Purpose Driven Life Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981Pannhausen, S., Klug, K., & Rohrmann, S. (2020). Never good enough: The relation between the impostor phenomenon and multidimensional perfectionism. Current Psychology, 41(2), 888–901. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-020-00613-7Sinek, Simon (2020) The Infinite Game. London, England: Portfolio Penguin.   Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

The MOST productive + positive way to quit people-pleasing, ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking, second guessing yourself, constantly seeking reassurance, answering work emails on vacation, over-apologizing. The real reason WHY you haven’t been able to stop despite knowing harmful side effects. Awesome acronym to identity your own perfectionistic landmines + step-by-step how to get relief that elevates you instead of keeps you stuck spinning out. You don't have to white knuckle your perfectionism. And if you feel like you are, I invite you to come coach with me 1-on-1 inside Perfectionism Optimized, where you'll learn how to take charge of your perfectionistic tendencies, which means you'll finally feel as awesome as your life looks and stop trying to control everyone in your orbit. Get your stress-free start today at courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Fear of failure holding you back? Can't stop obsessing over what you should've done better? I'm telling you exactly how to stop being judgmental, drop the fear of failure and always know if you're doing a good job with a way that's more useful, feels better + helps you progress wayyyy faster  Listen to liberate yo self from the cycle of fear and self-consciousness. If you’re committed to being stronger, happier, braver, more resilient and want in-depth personalized support rewiring your perfectionism, Perfectionism Optimized 1-1 coaching is for you! Get your stress-free start today at  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimizedListen to the full episode to learn:How being judgmental is the silent killer of your relationships (esp. with people you love the most)Where sneaky judgment is lurking in your own lifeWhy you’re stuck + how mistakes are the solutionEXACTLY how to legit enjoy failureEp. 208 Timestamps00:00-How Judgment Holds Perfectionists Back02:20-Fear of Failure + Its Dangerous Consequences03:51-Why Am I So Hard On Myself05:26-Being Judgmental is a Protection Mechanism06:33-What Lies Beneath Your Judgment07:30-From Judging Yourself to Joyful Winning09:27-Exactly how to drop judgmental12:22-Trading Contempt for Curiosity + Experimentation14:42-How To 13x Building Your Resilience15:53-Rewiring Your Perfectionistic Patterns From The Inside Out Truth + Accuracy In This Episode Is Brought To You By:Daniilidou, A. (2023). Understanding the relationship between the multidimensional perfectionism and self-compassion in adults: The effect of age. Europe’s Journal of Psychology, 19(4), 371–386. https://doi.org/10.5964/ejop.11981Hitchcock, P. F., Britton, W. B., Mehta, K. P., & Frank, M. J. (2022). Self-judgment dissected: A computational modeling analysis of self-referential processing and its relationship to trait mindfulness facets and depression symptoms. Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioral Neuroscience, 23(1), 171–189. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-022-01033-9Ong, C. W., Lee, E. B., Petersen, J. M., Levin, M. E., & Twohig, M. P. (2021). Is perfectionism always unhealthy? Examining the moderating effects of psychological flexibility and self‐compassion. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 77(11), 2576–2591. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.23187  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Uncover how perfectionism impacts your intimate relationships and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to resentment, Plus the ONE SKILL that makes you 90% less overwhelmed? It's like having the power to predict and avoid emotional meltdowns – for yourself!  Ready to rewire? Upgrade resentment for resilience inside Perfectionism Optimized, the only 1-1 private coaching exclusively made for for driven perfectionists + type-A high achievers with perfectionistic tendencies who want to quit fighting against themselves forever. Melt your stress away starting today over at:  https://courtneylovegavin.com/optimized Referenced In the Episode:Carrying vs Caring In Relationships (Ep. 202) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/lighten-your-load-caring-deeply-without-taking-on-too-muchHow Perfectionistic Brains Work (Ep. 193) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Hurry, it’s your last chance to rewire your perfectionistic patterns in an accelerated 6 weeks with just you + CLG inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Be sure to apply NOW or forever hold your peace! Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 1.0 is closing + retiring forever on Friday February 16, 2024.  Tp get in on this spaceship before it blasts off, go to courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator today.  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry, how to melt away the ruminating and catasrophizing and what to do with all those feelings inside (it's not AT ALL what you think).If you're ready to experience the amazingness that comes with being an empowered perfectionist  and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently cramping your prolificness, you belong inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/accelerator Listen to the Full Episode To Learn:What happens when you get a sucky setback surprise and how to empoweringly rise to the occasion.How to move forward without turning into a robot or constantly beating yourself up over what went "wrong"Where all your power is and how to skip the ruminating about the past or catastrophizing about the futureWhy You want to focus on moving THROUGH your feelings, instead of fixating on what's causing them or why they are thereStrategies you can start using today to stop beating yourself up + handle setbacks with expert-level skills Referenced In the Episode:How Perfectionistic Brains Work (Ep. 193) https://perfectionismrewired.com/episode/will-save-your-sanity-might-just-change-your-life Ep. 206 TimeStamps00:00-When Everything Goes Wrong Despite Your Best Efforts02:02-Understanding Why Your Inner Critic Calls03:20-Accepting Life As A Human = Embracing Adaptability Over Rigid Planning04:39-Ruminating + Futility of Dwelling on Your Past05:32-Power of Living in the Present06:47-The Doritos Analogy: Choosing Better Responses07:39-Debunking the Cause-and-Effect Fallacy08:29-Taking Responsibility for Your Choices09:11-How to Handle Emotions Constructively10:06-Staying Present to Rise Above Challenges11:17-Overcoming the Self-Criticism Trap12:56-Embracing Mistakes and Perfectionist Humanity Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overthinking. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do or PRESENCE with your family, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:The best tool for how to deal with anxiety and overthinkingHow to stop ruminatingA tool that helps your mind chatter slow down, so you're no longer anxious and overthinking SOURCES + CITATIONS FOR EP. 205Russell, J.L. Stuck on repeat: Why do we continue to ruminate?. Synthese 199, 13143–13162 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11229-021-03370-7 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.