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Feb 1, 2024 • 5min

Getting To The Root of Your Overthinking + Ruminating

Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple tool that shows you how to calm your mind from overthinking. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do or PRESENCE with your family, Perfectionism Optimized private 1-1 coaching is how you expand your confidence, make choices aligned with your values and *finally feel* as amazing as your life looks. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Listen to the Full Episode To Hear:The best tool for how to deal with anxiety and overthinkingHow to stop ruminatingA tool that helps your mind chatter slow down, so you're no longer anxious and overthinking SOURCES + CITATIONS FOR EP. 205Russell, J.L. Stuck on repeat: Why do we continue to ruminate?. Synthese 199, 13143–13162 (2021). https://doi.org/10.1007/s11229-021-03370-7 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 30, 2024 • 7min

Why Asking for Help is Harder for Perfectionists

You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode.If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gotta check out my 1-1 coaching for high-achievers with perfectionistic tendencies Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Hear:The 2 ways perfectionists accidentally self-sabotage + how to rise above them immediatelyHow to deal with internal judgment and awkwardness when you're used to being the person people go to for supportWhat to do if you're caught up in "shoulds" and feeling like you're not where you should beResources Mentioned In This Episode:Meeting Yourself Where You Are Not wheere you think you should be (Ep. 187)Holding Two Truths At The Same Time (Ep. 143) EP.204 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-Perfectionism as Self-Advocacy01:22-The Awkwardness of Seeking Support02:08-Learning to Meet Yourself Where You're At04:33-Identifying Areas You'd Secretly Love Some Support06:17-Finding Your Path to Rewire Your Perfectionism  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 29, 2024 • 12min

Overcome Your Perfectionism the Feel Good Way!

Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney courageously shares her story of being tightly wound mom of 3 young girls, addicted to control, teetering on burnout in a prison yard of her own making and magnificently frustrated. Hear how she found the willingness to experiment, let go of control and rewired to become a powerhouse, present parent who's daughters are SO proud of their mom.If you want to make sure crippling perfectionism NEVER CONTROLS YOU AGAIN and want proven, science-backed tools to PLAYFULLY INTERRUPT the perfectionistic habits currently holding you hostage, you gotta check out the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator fast-track. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/acceleratorListen to the Full Episode To Hear:Why you want to find a playground for your perfectionism to come alive.What Whitney did step-by-step to go from a warning label to become a shining example to her 3 kids through redefining her relationship with perfectionism + reconnecting with playRefreshingly practical questions to ask yourself to go from enduring to enjoying your own perfectionistic tendenciesResources Mentioned:Your Resilience Zone™: Part of proprietary EPIC method combining Embodied neuroscience, Presence somatic, Interoceptive Connection, proven to permanently rewire perfectionism and increase playfulnessPerfectionism Leveraged: empowers perfectionists and high-achieving, Type A individuals to take charge of their perfectionistic tendencies and quit fighting against their perfectionism forever using proven neuroscience so you can feel as amazing as your life looks and become the powerhouse you're designed to be.Episode 203 TIMESTAMPS:00:00-From Enduring to Enjoying Your Perfectionistic Tendencies01:48-Overcome Perfectionism Feel Good Way02:53-The Never-Ending Need for Play03:18-Neuroscience and Play in Adulthood04:35-Reconnecting With Your Playful Self05:41-Steps to Create Your Perfectionism Playground06:03-Case Study: Whitney's Journey with Perfectionism07:38-Impact of Perfectionist Parenting on Children09:15-What Cooking + Rewiring Perfectionism Have in Common10:58-Seeking Help to Uncover YOUR Perfectionist Playground11:48-Benefits of the Perfectionism Rewired AcceleratorSciencey Credible Citations Referenced In This Exciting Episode:‌‌‌Kiverstein, J., & Miller, M. (2023). Special Issue: Experiencing Well-BeingPlayfulness and the meaningful life: an active inference perspective. Neuroscience of Consciousness, 2023(1). https://doi.org/10.1093/nc/niad024Parkin, S. (2017, January 4). How Video Games Satisfy Basic Human Needs. Retrieved January 28, 2024, from Nautilus website: https://nautil.us/how-video-games-satisfy-basic-human-needs-236347/Siviy, S. M. (2016). A brain motivated to play: insights into the neurobiology of playfulness. Behaviour, 153(6-7), 819–844. https://doi.org/10.1163/1568539x-00003349 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 16, 2024 • 17min

Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much

You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING.  Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions.  On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or becoming JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire Listen to the full episode to hear:The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growthHow to be empathetic. (the healthy way)Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:Bohns, V., Newark, D., & Boothby, E. (2018, October 8). When do We Feel Responsible for Other People’s Behavior and Attitudes? https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327854931_When_do_We_Feel_Responsible_for_Other_People's_Behavior_and_AttitudesBarrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.Sugiura, Y., & Fisak, B. (2019). Inflated Responsibility in Worry and Obsessive Thinking. International Journal of Cognitive Therapy, 12(2), 97–108. https://doi.org/10.1007/s41811-019-00041-x‌Tangney, J. P., Burggraf, S. A., & Wagner, P. E. (1995). Shame-proneness, guilt-proneness, and psychological symptoms. In J. P. Tangney & K. W. Fischer (Eds.), Self-conscious emotions: The psychology of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and pride (pp. 343–367). Guilford Press.Wiltermuth, S. S., & Cohen, T. R. (2014). “I’d only let you down”: Guilt proneness and the avoidance of harmful interdependence. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 107(5), 925–942. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0037523 Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 14, 2024 • 12min

From Seeking Right Answers to Pursuing the Correct Ones for YOU

Explore why seeking the perfect solution can hold you back as a high performer, how to shift from information overload to pursuing what works for you, and avoiding self-sabotage. Learn about optimizing information absorption, trusting yourself for transformation, and the impact of core identity beliefs on personal growth.
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Jan 7, 2024 • 26min

Perfectionist Unplugged: Enjoying vs Enduring Striving

What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how to playfully let go.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) get customized 1-1 coaching + the EPIC SKILLS that LIBERATE you from intrusive thoughts, self-sabotage and put you back in command. Discover your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services Featured On Episode 200:courtneylovegavin.comPower of Paradox ep. 143Navigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2  Self-Advocacy  Series)Medical Gaslighting + Misdiagnosis (Ep. 3 Self-Advocacy Series)How To Let Go Of Perfectionism (Shame Avoidance) ep. 145 Perfectionism Rewired  Ep. 200 Timestamps:00:00-Striving becomes Self-sabotage04:15-Once Upon A Perfectionist named CLG6:06-Black and white thinking10:38-How to stop overthinking12:22-Embodied Presence Interoception Connection (E.P.I.C. Framework™)13:20-Shifting from Shame Avoidance to Satisfying Success14:42-Practice Makes Permanent15:51-Intrusive Thoughts17:27-Enjoying your perfectionism instead of enduring20:43-Fixed Mindset25:00-How To Feel Good NOW Highly Credible Sources Referenced in This Episode:Boon Chong Ng. (2018). The Neuroscience of Growth Mindset and Intrinsic Motivation. Brain Sciences, 8(2), 20–20. https://doi.org/10.3390/brainsci8020020Dorevitch, B., Buck, K., Fuller‐Tyszkiewicz, M., Phillips, L., & Krug, I. (2020). Maladaptive Perfectionism and Depression: Testing the Mediating Role of Self-Esteem and Internalized Shame in an Australian Domestic and Asian International University Sample. Frontiers in Psychology, 11. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.01272‌Dweck, C. S., Walton, G. M., & Cohen, G. L. (2014). Academic Tenacity Mindsets and Skills that Promote Long-Term Learning. Retrieved from https://ed.stanford.edu/sites/default/files/manual/dweck-walton-cohen-2014.pdf‌Jung, C. G. (1957). The transcendent function.Montano, L. T. (2023). The Relationship of Perfectionism and Peace of Mind: The Mediating Role of Implicit Theories of Intelligence. Psychological Studies, 68(3), 447–462. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12646-023-00739-1‌Moser, J. S., Dougherty, A., Mattson, W. I., Katz, B., Moran, T. P., Guevarra, D. A., … Kross, E. (2017). Third-person self-talk facilitates emotion regulation without engaging cognitive control: Converging evidence from ERP and fMRI. Scientific Reports, 7(1). https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-017-04047-3‌Stiles, W. B., Glick, M. J., Osatuke, K., Hardy, G. E., Shapiro, D. A., Agnew-Davies, R., Rees, A., & Barkham, M. (2004). Patterns of Alliance Development and the Rupture-Repair Hypothesis: Are Productive Relationships U-Shaped or V-Shaped? Journal of Counseling Psychology, 51(1), 81–92. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-0167.51.1.81Stoeber, J., Madigan, D. J., & Lazaros Gonidis. (2020). Perfectionism is adaptive and maladaptive, but what’s the combined effect? Personality and Individual Differences, 161, 109846–109846. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2020.109846  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 7, 2024 • 2min

BACK ONLINE: When Perfectionists Broke The Internet

Big News: Website Is Back! After crashing on NYE and being down 6 days, courtneylovegavin.com is up and running! If you've been trying to get in touch about Perfectionism Leveraged 1-1 coaching, now's your chance! Go to courtneylovegavin.com/contactIf you want to hear all about the hard-earned truths in resilience from this digital dumpster fire week and what REALLY happens when your life goes up in flames but you were supposed to be doing all these other things and you're a perfectionist and you throw yourself a pouty party, listen to episode 200 of Perfectionism Rewired.  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 3, 2024 • 23min

Maybe it's Not Your Fault: Medical Gaslighting

Listen in for an eye-opening episode with strategies for perfectionist self-advocacy, navigating the lethal landmines of mental healthcare, partnering with the right perfectionist practitioner for you in the face of medical gaslighting and getting the care you deserve NOW that sees you as a WHOLE person, not a stereotype with symptoms to suppress.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services Rich Resources Mentioned In This Episode:Complete guide + FAQ about using your health insurance for coaching here: https://courtneylovegavin.com/insurance-cover-coachingDoctor Ready Template: fill-in-the-blank designed to simplify the process of gaining medical approvals. Download your Letter of Medical Necessity to use with your physician here: https://bit.ly/coaching-prescriptionNavigating Advocacy As A Perfectionist (Ep. 1 Self-Advocacy Series)Sunk Cost Fallacy (Ep. 2  Self-Advocacy Series)Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181) Positive Perfectionist Practices To Deal With Medical Gaslighting:Stop Settling For Subpar Support: Raise your standards, refuse to accept quick diagnosis, be criminally curiousSeek Holistic Practitioners Who Understand The Depth of Perfectionism Look for a wellness framework foundation, who seek to understand you as a multifaceted individual, who partner with you instead of their own egoChallenge Assumptions: Be very DISCERNING about diagnoses without a CURRENT factual basis. Ask for evidence and don’t continue to stay with a therapist bc you’ve already spent so much time with themFind a Clinician Who Welcomes Candid Conversations:You want .facilitative, empowering, intersectional and  a professional who nurtures a non-hierarchical, inclusive, safe and transparent environmentOwn Your Capability: Recognize that your inner experience is VALID and advocate for the support and care you deserve. Make proactive moves to be the CEO of YOU and partner with practitioners who align with your values. Highlights inside Episode 199 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Feeling Dismissed? How To Spot Medical Gaslighting02:13-Dangers of Deferring to External Authority02:43-At Risk: People of Color, Women, Non-Binary + Trans03:41-What does gaslighting mean for perfectionists04:42- Obstacles of Symptom Suppression for High-Functioning Perfectionists06:08-Illness vs. Wellness Frameworks + Holistic Approach09:53-Health professionals pathologize, causing hypervigilance and reactivity.10:43-Limitations of Medication in Treating Perfectionism14:22-How to Respond To Gaslighting14:34-IRL Gaslighting Examples: Life Coach School, Lizard Brain, Polyvagal Theory15:12-Perfectionist Powerhouse Serena Williams' Experience with Medical Gaslighting16-13-Practical Steps for Self-Advocacy in Medical Gaslighting17:49-Choosing the Right Practitioner for YOU18:24-Partnering with Perfectionist Affirming Practitioners20:19-Empowering Yourself as CEO of Y.O.U, HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON MEDICAL GASLIGHTING REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:  ‌‌Caron, C. (2022, July 29). Feeling dismissed? How to spot ‘medical gaslighting’ and what to do about it. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/29/well/mind/medical-gaslighting.htmlDurbhakula, S., & Fortin, A. H., 6th (2023). Turning Down the Flame on Medical Gaslighting. Journal of general internal medicine, 38(15), 3426–3427. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11606-023-08302-4Ellenberg, E. (2023). Understanding the impact of medical gaslighting and diagnostic overshadowing on behavioral health treatment-seeking behaviors in adults with chronic medical conditions: A qualitative rapid review: https://doi.org/10.6084/m9.figshare.24534838.v1Farshad Fani Marvasti, & Stafford, R. S. (2012). From Sick Care to Health Care — Reengineering Prevention into the U.S. System. The New England Journal of Medicine, 367(10), 889–891. https://doi.org/10.1056/nejmp1206230Fraser S. (2021). The toxic power dynamics of gaslighting in medicine. Canadian family physician Medecin de famille canadien, 67(5), 367–368. https://doi.org/10.46747/cfp.6705367Friebe, M. (2022). From SICKCARE to HEALTHCARE to HEALTH. Springer EBooks, 23–32. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-031-08191-0_3Mirin A. A. (2021). Gender Disparity in the Funding of Diseases by the U.S. National Institutes of Health. Journal of women's health , 30(7), 956–963. https://doi.org/10.1089/jwh.2020.8682Moyer, M. W. (2022, March 28). Women are calling out “medical gaslighting.” The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/28/well/live/gaslighting-doctors-patients-health.htmlNebeker, C., Weisberg, B., Hekler, E. B., & Kurisu, M. (2020). Using Self-Study and Peer-to-Peer Support to Change “Sick” Care to “Health” Care: The Patient Perspective. Frontiers in Digital Health, 2. https://doi.org/10.3389/fdgth.2020.00002Onque, R. (2022). How to recognize 'medical gaslighting' and better advocate for yourself at your next doctor's appointment. CNBC. https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/01/medical-gaslighting-warning-signs-and-how-to-advocate-for-yourself.html  Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Jan 1, 2024 • 19min

Perfectionist Sunk Cost Fallacy: When Loyalty Becomes Lethal

Discover how the perfectionist sunk cost fallacy could be holding you back and learn how to break free from its grip. From wearing clothes you hate, to staying in relationships or careers way past their expiration date, Sunk Cost fallacy is a lethal landmine for perfectionistic people. Find out if you’re making decisions aligned with your values or loss aversion, sunk cost definition for perfectionists, tricks sunk cost effect plays on you, why its challenging to see your own sunk costs, IRL sunk cost fallacy examples and how perfectionists can stop falling prey to sunk cost suck-i-ness forever.Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from sunk cost fallacy + lethal perfectionism landmines. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/servicesPositive Perfectionist Practices for Removing Sunk Cost Fallacy:Identify Sunk Cost Fallacy: Recognize where you're holding onto investments, relationships, or decisions you would not re-choose for yourself today BC you’ve “already spent so much time, energy, money or effort”If You Want Your Future, Forget Your Past: Stop living in the prison of your past choices and exit to the playground of possibility. Dropping the black and white thinking that persevering = productiveMake intentional decisions that empower you for the rest of your life: Check your choices with your values and pivot away from unfulfilling situations or relationships.Practice Makes Permanent: To progress 100x faster, make the journey funner and strengthen your interoceptive awareness consider working with a perfectionism coachHighlights inside Episode 198 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Perfectionists + Sunk Costs01:51-What is sunk cost fallacy03:26-Shedding the Weight of Sunk Costs04:56-Being Resourceful instead of limiting your resources05:36-Sunk Cost Effect in Unfulfilling Careers + Unhappy Relationships07:12-Why FEELS Smart To Continue Pouring Money, time, effort when you've already sunk09:18-Putting yourself in the victim drama triangle11:10-Sunk Cost With Example Baby Gucci Loafers12:03-Quick Correct Choices with Embodied Presence Interoceptive Connection13:32-when to persevere and when to pivot14:36-Prioritizing your values over sunk costs15:50-No longer a victim to chronic overachieving18:17-Proud of yourself regardless of how much you accomplishRich Resources Mentioned In This Sunk Cost Episode:How I Lost 50 pounds by Being The Worst (Leveraging Perfectionism video)Perfectionist's Guide to Uncovering Victim Mentality  (Part 1)Mamba Mentality vs Victim Mentality (Part 2)Are You Living In The Victim Triangle? (Perfectionism Rewired ep. 181)Starter Perfectionism Rewiring 1-1 Coaching  Pack (steal of a deal)HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES ON SUNK COST REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:  Dijkstra, K. A., & Hong, Y. Y. (2019). The feeling of throwing good money after bad: The role of affective reaction in the sunk-cost fallacy. PloS one, 14(1), e0209900. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0209900Jarmolowicz, D. P., Bickel, W. K., Sofis, M. J., Hatz, L. E., & Mueller, E. T. (2016). Sunk costs, psychological symptomology, and help seeking. SpringerPlus, 5(1), 1699. https://doi.org/10.1186/s40064-016-3402-zSchmitzer-Torbert N. (2020). Mindfulness and decision making: sunk costs or escalation of commitment?. Cognitive processing, 21(3), 391–402. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10339-020-00978-4Schulreich, S., Dandolo, L. C., & Schwabe, L. (2022). Sunk costs under stress: Acute stress reduces the impact of past expenses on risky decisions. Psychoneuroendocrinology, 137, 105632. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psyneuen.2021.105632Tait, V., & Miller, H. L., Jr (2019). Loss Aversion as a Potential Factor in the Sunk-Cost Fallacy. International journal of psychological research, 12(2), 8–16. https://doi.org/10.21500/20112084.3951Zeng, J., Zhang, Q., Chen, C., Yu, R., & Gong, Q. (2013). An fMRI study on sunk cost effect. Brain research, 1519, 63–70. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brainres.2013.05.001‌‌‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.
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Dec 29, 2023 • 13min

When You Get Support & It *Sucks* Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people. Tired of waiting for “things to calm down” so you can FEEL better? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, the ability to fall asleep without obsessing over your to do list or PRESENCE with your family (no more catastrophizing) When you join Perfectionism Leveraged you get customized 1-1 coaching + the SKILLS you've never been taught that FREE you from panic + controlling everything  all the time. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/services Highlights inside Episode 197 of Perfectionism Rewired:00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside 04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback08:11-Being a perfectionist in public09:29-What really matters when support fails you10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead? HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:  Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733‌Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1‌Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776‌‌‌ Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

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