The One You Feed

Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss… His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe What the word “Christ” means for him How God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with them That a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone else The notion of God IN all things vs God IS all things How Christ is a stand-in for everything Focusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of Christ When God hides his face The difference between spiritual darkness and depression A loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in God How distraction doesn’t make you happy God uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beauty Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful How God uses evil for your transformation That Jesus punishes nobody When you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragon The 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honesty Father Richard Rohr Links:Center for Action and ContemplationTwitterFacebookWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setDoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFIf you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews:Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017)Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction  In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss… Her book,  Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction That your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomes How addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addiction The problems with discussion about addiction as a disease Arguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failing Addiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisions Addiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequences How illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequences The complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timing The developmental history that gets you to addiction How the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solution Addiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishment The problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop. What the motivation is that turns people to recovery How addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other way Recovery begins when you start to see that there are other options People with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessness The role of hope and other ways of managing their life Addiction as a coping mechanism The pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feast Wanting vs Liking Different motivational states Addiction as escalating wanting Stimulants and chasing that satisfaction The effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step Programs The role of medicine in a developmental disorder Looking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent. Maia Szalavitz Links:maiasz.comTwitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionPeloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike.  Westin – Westin resorts have wellness offerings that are curated just for you to help you eat, move and sleep well. Explore at westin.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes!Dr. Gabor Mate’Judson BrewerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss… His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life That whether we know it or not, we’re all living questions Keystone questions Shadow questions How he discovered his questions The heart attack that changed his life His shadow questions Asking better questions Competing Commitments Underlying assumptions Alexander Papaderos How if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questions That if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong question Brainstorming questions without answering them Why we don’t ask good questions Catalytic questions that challenge false assumptions How wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questions What if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today? That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enough The danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being right Actively seeking passive data – observing and listening The power of the pause Listening to understand vs listening to defend How can I find and reflect the light in you? Hal Gregersen Links:halgregersen.comTwitterDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more to get 3 cups free in your first box. Visit www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you enjoyed this conversation with Hal Gregersen, you might also enjoy these other episodes!John ZertaskySkip PrichardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss… How he separates “mind” and “brain” ADHD in Adults Impulsivity and Hyperactivity Inattention and Distractability How people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scans The diagnostic criteria for ADHD The multimodal treatment approach for ADHD His experience with Adderall The lie of “I’ll remember that” Time wisdom The importance of Exercise, Sleep  Separate decision from action The wisdom in flipping a coin A disorder of self-regulation Accountability The anatomy of a to-do list Vision verbing Why cue Life on hard mode – but we can do hard things Eric Tivers Links:ADHDreWired.comTwitterFacebookYouTubeBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss… Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy  That your relationships hold the key to your happiness Interpersonal Psychotherapy The areas of life that trigger a depressive episode Drawing your social circle and asking questions about them How to build your social circle Conversation starters The difference between feelings and moods Questions for emotional enlightenment Getting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things better Paying attention to how you feel  The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome? Linking rigid expectations to happiness How you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needs Cindy Stulberg Links:The Institute of Interpersonal PsychotherapyTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setQuip – Comes in an easy carrying case making it a great portable electric toothbrush – with timed settings to make brushing easy. It starts at just $25. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your first refill pack for freeThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Amy BanksEric MaiselSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss… Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy Her experience of learning to love her bad wolf Keeping her inner house clean The anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achieving The difference between achiever fever and achieving I’ll be happy when… The craving mindset of achieving How every leader in her business has a coach The importance of a coach The questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in them Her inner critic – the judge The left brain interpreter  Checking your thoughts for truth Asking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of law Asking yourself, who would I be without that thought? Cognitive Bias Asking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?” The feeling of worry How she is able to let go of worry Claire Booth Links:www.clairebooth.comTwitterFacebookGoodreadsCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription.Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss… How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years together The role of play and being silly How our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specifically How meditation is the relinquishing of an agenda The way we engage with the mystery of being The curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himself That spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknown The paradox we’re embracing with meditation Start meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside, let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mind When you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, kindly and gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listening Observe your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditation Gratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state  Encountering life attitudes during meditation Spiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment? Chasing a spiritual high Asking “what am I in service to?” Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right action Adyshanti Links:adyashanti.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get your first week free!If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018Adyashanti (2017)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, Eric and Adya talk about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss… His book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life Attention and Intention The inquiry at any given time: Where are we giving our attention to? Considering the question: What is worthwhile orienting your life around? The limitations that come with aging  How the definition of happiness changes as we age Wholeness of being Life as it is rather than the image of life Two interpretations of the fact that sometimes those who are the most unhappy tend to be seeking happiness the most Shooting for meaning rather than happiness How meaning is an experience of being The inquiry: What am I in service to? That we don’t seem to do well as human beings when we live exclusively for ourselves What does it mean to really serve what you realize (rather than trying to realize more and more) The mistaken thinking that an act of service must be grand in scale or scope or must be visible to really count or matter How it’s easy to be noble when you are noticed but in most of our lives that’s not what’s taking place That giving time and attention when someone needs it can make for transformative moments Seeing the importance of the things you do in your life now that are in service That you can’t make yourself awaken but what you do DOES have an impact – it’s just indirect The yearning itself comes from the very thing we’re yearning for (in terms of awakening) Adyshanti Links:adyashanti.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDFabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box – though the box is valued at more than $200. The summer box is valued at over $400! Eric’s girlfriend absolutely loved the box they sent and has already signed up to receive their fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.comPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Donna Hylton is a women’s rights activist and criminal justice reform advocate. Donna speaks publicly about the issues facing incarcerated women and girls and the significant impact the significant increase in the female prison population is having on families, children and our communities.  Her book,  “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” tells the story of the childhood abuse she endured, the spiral of events that lead to her incarceration and how she learned to live, love and trust all over again. In this episode, Donna shares some deeply personal stories of her traumatic past and how she found her voice to help other victims of violence and abuse.   Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Hylton and I Discuss… Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” Navigating the good times and bad times of her early childhood. Finding the courage to ask for help. How she ran track in high school as a way to “run away” How we must talk about these painful stories to get to the root causes. How dealing with trauma does something to our psyche.  Believing we don’t have value can be reinforced by those around you. Dealing with the difficult relationship with her daughter, who was the result of rape  Years of therapy and healing helped find that place of light inside herself.  How talking about the trauma releases the pain instead of holding on to it.   How we need to face the trauma, try to understand it and then try to stop it. When you’re young, you believe that what happens around you is your fault and therefore often make the same mistakes because you don’t know how to rationalize what is happening.    How she became a wounded healer. How she started healing and forgiving herself when she went to prison.   How she became an advocate for the sick women in prison after losing a close friend. Realizing she could no longer stand by or stay silent when something bad happened to others. How she helped bring counseling, educational and other care programs into the prison system. Saying goodbye to the little girl inside who was silent Embracing the little girl inside who found her voice We are not the worst moment in our lives, we’re not our mistakes We are human beings who have been through something Being part of the newly passed Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) which considers alternative sentencing or intervention for those convicted who have been victims of severe abuse. When a body is put under pressure, it’s going to react and do whatever it takes to survive Her source of unconditional love and truth, Sister Mary, who helped her to become the activist she is today. How “we can connect deeply with humanity if we look through the eyes of love and compassion” We were created in love and beauty is all around us if we can just recognize it.   Peloton – Looking for a new way to get in your cardio? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike!The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.