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David Kadavy is a best selling author, blogger, podcaster and speaker. Through his blogging and podcasting, he helps people find satisfaction through following their crafts even if it takes them down an unconventional path. His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. If you ever struggle with procrastination, you’ll find this episode helpful, informative, inspiring and empowering. There’s some real, practical wisdom here that will enable you to get started with whatever it is that you want to do in your life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Kadavy and I Discuss… His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating How to get started The things that stand in the way of us starting What it means to be creative, or to create The resistance that comes from the ego surrounding getting started Motivational Judo Tricks to get yourself to just get started Give yourself permission to suck You can’t do good work without doing bad work first Perfection paralysis What happens when the scale of a creative project is too big Fortress fallacy The role of curiosity in getting started Balancing exploitation and exploration Following your curiosities David Kadavy Links:davidkadavy.netFacebookTwitterCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayQuip – looking for a gift for a dad or a grad? Give them the gift of good oral hygiene made automatic, affordable and easy. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf and get your refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Tim PychylTim UrbanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alan Castel, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Psychology at The University of California Los Angeles. His research focuses on how cognition changes with age and how people selectively remember important events. His work has been supported by the National Institute on Aging and has been featured in The New York Times and Time Magazine. In this episode, Eric and Alan discuss his book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Alan Castel, Ph.D. and I Discuss… His book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging How mindset matters in aging Role models in successful aging That life can get better with ageSocio-Emotional Selectivity Theory The realization that time is finite The ways that life can get better the older we get What helps prevent cognitive decline That older adults often have less regret than younger adult How we’re better at focusing on what’s important as we age Walking or getting physical exercise (getting blood flow to the brain) is key in preventing cognitive decline The importance of balance training when it comes to healthy aging How illuminating it is to test your balance How helpful it is to be around people who do the things that we’re looking to do in our lives The challenges that come with retirement – and how to overcome them The middle way as it applies to retirement The two most important things in life Alan Castel, Ph.D. Links:memory & lifespan cognition labgoogle scholarNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial.If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan RauchParker J. PalmerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness, and struggle with ease, well-being, and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats, and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening.Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy.  Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.”Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss… The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yang Dealing with eating problems How what we fight, we empower Creating a relationship with the dark side The impact of the early years of our lives The conditioned self How we are addicted to struggle Being present to life instead of thinking our way through life The “low-grade suffering” that permeates our lives The storyteller in our minds The Four Lets Learning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mind The difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about life The power of curiosity The 8 core spells that we tell ourselves Look to Unhook The power of human attention to heal Sticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slow Watching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let go Learning to be here for whatever life presents The gift of our compulsions Having a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power away Life is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for life Not being the victim of life Having the ability to come back to the heart Mary O’Malley Links:maryomalley.comtwitterfacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ruth Whippman is a regular contributor to radio shows, television, and podcasts, having made appearances on shows including NPR’s Brian Lehrer Show, To the Point, CBS news and Morning Edition amongst many others. She is also a regular speaker and has given talks at Google, Princeton University and UC Berkeley as well as many other venues. Her book is, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks and it is this – along with the flaws of the self help that she and Eric talk about in this episode.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ruth Whippman and I Discuss... Her book, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks How many people in the self-help industry are trying to sell easy answers and life is incredibly complex Sitting with a certain amount of complexity in life The flaws with studies The one thing consistent across all research and people’s experience about happiness The American tradition of self-reliance The victim blaming myth that we’re completely responsible for how we feel That circumstances absolutely play a role in our degree of happiness What’s behind the positive psychology movement How we need to think of well being as a shared responsibility That it’s easy to lose compassion when you go too far down the road of “your happiness is completely within your control and completely your responsibility” The flaws in The Law of Attraction theory How to cope with the anxiety-producing stuff going on in the news The importance of social support, community, and connection The challenges of social media Ruth Whippman Links:ruthwhippman.comtwitterfacebookinstagramThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan RauchPaul DolanMichelle GielanSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Skip Prichard is the fifth president of OCLC, a global library cooperative that supports thousands of libraries in making information more accessible and more useful to people around the world. Among Skip’s many passions is his leadership insights blog where he interviews authors and thought leaders and shares his views on a number of topics. His new book is The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Skip Prichard and I Discuss… His book, The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future How what you focus on grows That he looks at everybody as a teacher The riddle that’s perplexed him throughout his life Success is when you’re filled with ambition and peace in equal measure at the same time The mistake of accepting excuses Built-in personal accountability How nobody but you can work on your healing Ok, that happened – what are you going to do about it The microphone in our mind Allowing temporary setbacks to become permanent failures Having Grit The very real pain of failure How do you keep going through despair, failure, depression – it’s resilience Are you showing up to the people in the room intentionally? Skip Prichard Links:www.skipprichard.comtwitterfacebookCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfQuip – Check out the new kid’s Quip! Now the whole family can brush using an affordable and effective Quip toothbrush Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Sam WeinmanEmma SeppalaCarol DweckSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss… Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety The positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a person That the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathy The neuroscience of social anxiety How if you face your fears you can change your brain The problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety  Overt avoidance Covert avoidance Thinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusion Avoidance means we never see what actually happens The inner critic The buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire Personality Social Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______ The tool, Replace Anxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of? 4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do? The tool, Embrace The role of mindfulness in anxiety Making your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environment Self-compassion Creating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goal Dr. Ellen Hendrisken Links:ellenhendriksen.comtwitterNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann HariMatthew QuickEric MaiselSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss… Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life How words matter That experiences matter Humility as the cornerstone of spirituality The sanctification of the humble spirit Self-superiority in American culture Be who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human race Humility is having an accurate picture of who you are Her take on AA How holiness is the same everywhere That narcissism is a disease in our culture Being willing to face yourself How self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same things Not thinking about yourself all the time The burden of self That we’re looking for freedom Obedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen” How each of us grows into the ability to listen Endurance and Stability That you can’t rush your own development We become to be of service to others How nothing of value spiritually comes overnight The role of community in one’s great breakdowns in life Sister Joan Chittister Links:joanchittister.orgCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayFor Hers makes convenient, affordable access to birth control available for all women. You get access to licensed doctors online who can evaluate you and if appropriate, prescribe you birth control that can be delivered directly to your door. The One You Feed listeners get their first month of For Hers birth control for just $5 (see website for full details) www.forhers.com/wolfTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code WOLF to get your first week freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result. **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss… Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You That incivility is contagious That kindness is contagious Listening for the missed note instead of the music Playing “Gotcha” in the way you look at life The negativity bias The power of kindness The difference between nice and kind Her year of living kindly and blogging about it Quantifying the benefits of kindness Being indifferent and still being nice How you can’t be indifferent and still be kind That it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be nice Extending yourself beyond what is comfortable Caring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in return The chasm between kindness and unkindness Not being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kind Keeping score and being kind That when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something else The health business of kindness How kindness alleviates social anxiety Employing curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?” Various kindness practices Practicing a pause Asking yourself “What is the kind response here?” Receiving graciously as an act of kindness Donna Cameron Links:ayearoflivingkindly.comFacebookTwitterRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann BerlinBarbara BonnerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation.Spiritual Habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Learn more here: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss… His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion That what you practice and repeat is what you get Depression Triggers and Depression Cures Thoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and Behaviors The triangle of awareness Procedural memory The habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry points The way our brain associates things The way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depression Avoidance and depression How naming something gives us a little space and perspective How naming something actually changes the activity in our brain Perspective-making tools The way journaling objectifies your experiences Natural anti-depressants Mindfulness: a state of engaged curiosity Relating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and mastery The growth mindset and the fixed mindset Practicing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindset How a learning mindset is related to a growth mindset The importance of play How to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adult Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links:Mindful Living CollectiveFacebookTwitterYouTube ChannelSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States.  He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss… His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication That we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to moment The three steps to create effective conversation Lead with Presence Come from Curiosity and Care Focus on What Matters How most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another person That you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or not Bringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment) Bodily sensations happen in the present moment The power of pausing How our rate of speech is connected to our nervous system That when we are present, we have a lot more choices That our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communications The intention to understand The intention of kindness and care How you can practice kindness to someone you don’t like Kindness can be about protecting your own heart The phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…” Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need? The difference between needs and strategies The Nonviolent Communication Model Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests Communicating in the workplace Oren Jay Sofer LinksOrenJaySofer.comFacebookTwitterInstagramSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.