Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss…His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and AnxietyHow subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering fromHis resistance to taking depression medicationHow he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed himHis resistance to taking help from othersHis experience in therapyThe metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shoreThe components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleepHow fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well beingDoing small and manageable things when you’re depressedHow the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressedHow it took him a while to find the right therapist The potential danger of meditating when depressedThat mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him mostThe impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the timeThat sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing themLooking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeingDepression showing up as irritability in menBrent Williams Links:outofthewoods.co.nz **Special Offer** for The One You Feed listeners! Buy 1 Book, Get 1 Free to give to a friend, family member or a community center!FacebookTwitterPhlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolfFabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Eric’s girlfriend is honestly obsessed because the items in this box are just so good. Give yourself this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship.   Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss… Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love The wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples. Relationships are often stuck in fear and anger Emotional disconnection causes distress in relationships. Humans are wired for close connection with others. Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships. Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”. Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”. “Freeze and Flee” means one person gives up on the relationship.  “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, "It’s not me, it’s you”  Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in. Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other.   The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship. Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection. Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond “ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement. Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding. Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength. Dr. Sue Johnson Links: drsuejohnson.com Twitter Facebook TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month. DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLF Westin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss…His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other ObservationsWhat bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his lifeHis compelling storyThe myth that people with mental illness come from bad familiesWhen he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughtsHow he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorderThe 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illnessHow you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes timeThe role of medication in the treatment of mental illnessHow it stings when your body lets you downEric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depressionWhole health wellnessSuicideDon’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problemHow suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone elseGabe Howard Links:gabehoward.comTwitterFacebookSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi Everyone!Here is a mini episode that was made for our Patreon members called A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem (and sometimes a bad joke!)Teaching: We Can Always Grow and ChangePoem: The Trees- Philip LarkinSong: Tomorrow- James If you'd like to get one of these every week, you can become a member of our community by going to oneyoufeed.net/joinBy supporting and joining The One You Feed Community, you'll get access to:A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem mini episodesPost Show ConversationsAd Free Episodesand more!Your support is greatly appreciated!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss...Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourselfHer life-changing moment at 19How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogueThe strategist in your headThat over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day beforeThe chicken, the brat, the weather reporterKeeping promises to yourselfIntegrity and spiritualityConsequencesAccountability Lauren Zander Links:handelgroup.comTwitterFacebookFabFitFun: FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box - though the box is valued at more than $200. Eric's girlfriend is honestly obsessed. You don't want to miss the upcoming fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box www.fabfitfun.comWestin - their reason for being is to help you travel well - eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss…His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and BelieveWhat the word “Christ” means for himHow God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with themThat a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone elseThe notion of God IN all things vs God IS all thingsHow Christ is a stand-in for everythingFocusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of ChristWhen God hides his faceThe difference between spiritual darkness and depressionA loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in GodHow distraction doesn’t make you happyGod uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beautyLife doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderfulHow God uses evil for your transformationThat Jesus punishes nobodyWhen you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragonThe 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honestyFather Richard Rohr Links:Center for Action and ContemplationTwitterFacebookWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setDoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFIf you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews:Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017)Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction  In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss…Her book,  Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding AddictionThat your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomesHow addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addictionThe problems with discussion about addiction as a diseaseArguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failingAddiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisionsAddiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequencesHow illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequencesThe complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timingThe developmental history that gets you to addictionHow the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solutionAddiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishmentThe problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop.What the motivation is that turns people to recoveryHow addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other wayRecovery begins when you start to see that there are other optionsPeople with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessnessThe role of hope and other ways of managing their lifeAddiction as a coping mechanismThe pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feastWanting vs LikingDifferent motivational statesAddiction as escalating wantingStimulants and chasing that satisfactionThe effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step ProgramsThe role of medicine in a developmental disorderLooking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent.Maia Szalavitz Links:maiasz.comTwitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionPeloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike.  Westin – Westin resorts have wellness offerings that are curated just for you to help you eat, move and sleep well. Explore at westin.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes!Dr. Gabor Mate’Judson BrewerSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss…His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in LifeThat whether we know it or not, we’re all living questionsKeystone questionsShadow questionsHow he discovered his questionsThe heart attack that changed his lifeHis shadow questionsAsking better questionsCompeting CommitmentsUnderlying assumptionsAlexander PapaderosHow if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questionsThat if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong questionBrainstorming questions without answering themWhy we don’t ask good questionsCatalytic questions that challenge false assumptionsHow wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questionsWhat if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today?That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enoughThe danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being rightActively seeking passive data – observing and listeningThe power of the pauseListening to understand vs listening to defendHow can I find and reflect the light in you?Hal Gregersen Links:halgregersen.comTwitterDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more to get 3 cups free in your first box. Visit www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you enjoyed this conversation with Hal Gregersen, you might also enjoy these other episodes!John ZertaskySkip PrichardSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss…How he separates “mind” and “brain”ADHD in AdultsImpulsivity and HyperactivityInattention and DistractabilityHow people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scansThe diagnostic criteria for ADHDThe multimodal treatment approach for ADHDHis experience with AdderallThe lie of “I’ll remember that”Time wisdomThe importance of Exercise, Sleep Separate decision from actionThe wisdom in flipping a coinA disorder of self-regulationAccountabilityThe anatomy of a to-do listVision verbingWhy cueLife on hard mode – but we can do hard thingsEric Tivers Links:ADHDreWired.comTwitterFacebookYouTubeBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss…Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy That your relationships hold the key to your happinessInterpersonal PsychotherapyThe areas of life that trigger a depressive episodeDrawing your social circle and asking questions about themHow to build your social circleConversation startersThe difference between feelings and moodsQuestions for emotional enlightenmentGetting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things betterPaying attention to how you feel The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome?Linking rigid expectations to happinessHow you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needsCindy Stulberg Links:The Institute of Interpersonal PsychotherapyTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setQuip – Comes in an easy carrying case making it a great portable electric toothbrush – with timed settings to make brushing easy. It starts at just $25. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your first refill pack for freeThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Amy BanksEric MaiselSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.