David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big ChallengesThat perfection is not a human optionHow a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been grantedNavigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassionLife is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s lifeThe importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our lifeAccepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensionsHow we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what isHis words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”The ego tries to control the givensThat love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givensHow the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is controlBuilding the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at griefHis words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”Live with the questions and notice where they take usAct with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulnessSpirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassionHappiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishmentDavid Richo Links:davericho.comThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …Trying to meditate with a 4-month-oldHow there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolvesHis training in NLPThe role of control in our livesParentingWhy he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to himThe idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the worldThe thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exerciseThe thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levelsHis books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a MinuteThe NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things upAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)AuthenticityTony Wrighton Links:tonywrighton.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramNetsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfNimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLFPhlur: Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and …The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do?How it’s love that feeds the good wolfHis book, Merton’s Palace of NowhereHis violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize thatThat we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flameHow truth transcends religionsThe True Self and False SelfThe lie that the ego is all that we areIdentity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are.The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identityHis book, The Contemplative HeartTo contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefullyContemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with loveHis book, Christian MeditationTaking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakeningThe welling up of that which sustains us in the brokennessRemoving complexities and distractions to be present in stillnessThe mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self.The true self embraces both solitude and communion with othersThe metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving armsBeing sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdomJames Finley Links:jamesfinley.orgCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionDaily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDFabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and …Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and HealingHer chronic illnessFacing her anger and bitterness30 religions before she turned 30Life being grey when religions answers are often black and whiteThat love is bigger than everythingLove healing us and bringing us togetherHer mothers love through her journeyThat wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found GodHow love and forgiveness have to start in each of usLooking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that existsIf love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happenKindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of loveKindness is love made visibleHer battle with dark, debilitating depressionFeeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to liveUsing kindness to battle depressionHow she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her lifeThe story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression The alchemy of kindness to transform your painCouraging = brave as a verbReba Riley Links:rebariley.comtwitterPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLFThe Great Courses Plus: Learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at  www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and …His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday LifeHow often, we keep our true motives hidden from othersThat we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselvesModularityThe things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious levelThe left brain interpreter being like a press secretaryNeeding to tell a story about our motivesQuestioning whether or not you know the motives of othersThat we have multiple motives for doing thingsUnderstand others and then assume you’re a lot like themCynicism and MisanthropyPerspectiveThe evolution to protect ourselves from each otherThe need to have others like us and think well of usObliviationWhat if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy?That we pay a lot for varietyProximate and distal causesThat evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them?Robin Hanson Links:elephantinthebrain.comovercomingbias.comTwitterTed TalkWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at  www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $65 off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and …His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To DoneHow kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyoneThe Tao Te ChingFocusing on your input and letting go of the resultsWhy finishing is so importantThat we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing themWe don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing themCreative constipation breeds toxicity We’re either creating something or destroying somethingWe don’t do ideas, we do projectsHow it feels good to think about our ideasHow doing our best work is often really hardThe myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easyThat when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get betterThe myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do itDoing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing itThe 5 things that get in the way of doing our best workHead Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or notThe problem with automatically believing our thoughtsHow discipline limits decision fatigueAction expresses priorityBeing sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it mattersThat big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s okCharlie Gilkey Links:productiveflourishing.comTwitterFacebookEverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your testPhlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolfCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionIf you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey on getting things done, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Chris BaileyDavid KadavyTim PychylSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and…The duality of life and deathMental Health and SuicideHis suicidality at 12 years oldThe message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicideThe complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to himHis realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be differentThe myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do itThe right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depressionHow freeing it is to talk about somethingWhen others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depressionHis recovery through a newfound sense of purposeThe healthier relationships he pursuedGetting clear about boundariesThe toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a childNot having the language to express the feelings he hadThe perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable.How depression limits the options you can see Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakeningSomething good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do.His depression and social anxiety disorderThe danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism.Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good.Getting good at re-lapsing with his depressionHis misguided thought that he was failing at getting betterLearning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughtsThe truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass)How depression hates a moving targetMark Henick Links:markhenick.comTed Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide”TwitterFacebookTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and…Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic PainHow it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with painThe good wolf aspect of painFeeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic painHer experience with debilitating painThe many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical componentHow isolating chronic pain can be Chronic emotional painSeeing pain differentlyTurning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?”What you resist persistsBecoming partners with your painThinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healedCreating a different relationship with painWe lock pain in place when we get into a resistant modeGiving pain a lot of spaceBreathing into the painThe messages that pain brought herAsking pain, “What do you need?”How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic painThat she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with painThat being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healingLiving with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking likeSarah Shockley Links:thepaincompanion.comFacebookYouTubeDoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Shockley on living with chronic pain, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Toni BernhardMichael GalinskySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss…How he interacts with his shadow sideThe key to not making a situation worseHis practice of refrain and returnConscious leadershipUnrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spiritWhat someone says they want vs what they needThe courage it takes to say noThe 3 building blocks of our egoic stateThe 3 pillars of being a conscious personWisdom = mistakes + timeWisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obviousThat being wise means being present and awareHow cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom.Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away fromHave the courage to Speak Up, Care, CommitHow sarcasm can be a mask of fearBringing the weirdHow it takes energy to withholdLove is wanting to do well for othersLove is expansive, inclusive, and connectiveThe things that get in the way of loveEric Kaufmann Links:sagatica.comFacebookInstagramYouTubeCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.