The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Intentional love isn’t just a goal—it’s a daily practice. Ling and Lamb, married content creators, beloved influencers, and authors, exemplify this through their blend of playful pranks and honest conversations.  In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell chats with Ling and Lamb about how they’ve mastered the art of blending humor, culture, extreme differences in upbringing, and deep connection. He grew up in Nigeria. She grew up in Connecticut. They have had to learn SO MUCH about one another in order to enjoy a vibrant intimate marriage. Now their Nigerian-American marriage is a beacon for couples wanting an intentional, fun, mutually respectful, awesome relationship. This conversation offers practical advice for couples from different cultures as well as couples who merely come from different families, because each of us grows up with different reference points and assumptions. Ling and Lamb also share evocative insights from their new book, Beautiful Foolishness which is their story plus guidance on how to nurture a joyful, lasting bond.   This episode breaks down: Playfulness & Peace: How fun moments and emotional calm strengthen a marriage. Intentional Love: Why supporting each other’s growth matters in a strong relationship. Cultural Connection: How honoring each of their Nigerian and American backgrounds enriches their bond. Real Communication: The role of honesty and patience in resolving conflict. Beautiful Foolishness: Key takeaways from their book on love, growth, and intentional living.     About The Guests: Taccara Lawanson (aka Ling) and Yinka Lawanson (aka Lamb) are married content creators sharing their antics, pranks, everyday moments, and honest conversations online. With Taccara being American and Yinka originally from Lagos, Nigeria, Ling and Lamb's content is concentrated on the complexities and rewards of their intercultural relationship. They tackle the peaks and valleys of sharing each other’s roots, all with a generous dose of humor. Yinka is a well known Afrobeats dancehall recording artist in Nigeria, performing under the stage name Lamboginny and using his music to create awareness for humanitarian causes. In 2023 he released the single "God Is Not Done.” Ling is an actress and model, having studied at Strasberg and Weist Barron.   Connect with Ling and Lamb: https://www.lingandlamb.com/ https://www.instagram.com/lingandlamb/   Check out their​ book “Beautiful Foolishness" https://amzn.to/4jqBpk6 Favorite Positions reel:​ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Akl-KCgHcwE     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact    

Craving more presence, passion, and real connection in your relationship? This episode is your gentle nudge to slow down, truly show up, and deepen intimacy in a meaningful way. In today’s episode, Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD dives into the issue of modern technology and other common distractions that pull us away from meaningful moments—and shares simple but powerful tools like deep breathing and emotional honesty to bring you back. Learn how being fully present can transform your intimate experiences and help you shift from feeling distracted to deeply connected.   In this episode: Technology often disrupts intimacy—awareness is the first step. Deep connection happens when partners are fully present. Breathing, physical awareness, and emotional honesty enhance intimacy. Authentic emotional presence strengthens physical closeness. Explore private coaching to deepen intimacy.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact  

AI offers surprising insights on a whole range of topics, and in this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell describes how to use the principles of AI to improve communication and connection in your marriage.  Dr. Alexandra suggests that talking to your partner the way you need to in order to get the best results from AI—with clarity, specificity, and enough details to make the response useful–leads to clear, kind, honest, and connecting communication with your spouse. This results in more emotional closeness and erotic fulfillment.  This episode provides effective tips to communicate in a way that will build the intimate, passionate relationship you desire!   In this episode: Clear, direct talk is key—exactly what works with AI. Don’t assume—ask what your partner needs. Kind words build deeper, sexier bonds. Mindful talk matters in all areas of love.     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

What happens when a couple navigates libido mismatch—and how can they reconnect without feeling broken or disconnected? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with somatic sex therapist Susan Morgan Taylor, MA about overcoming desire differences and reigniting sexual intimacy in marriage. Drawing from her own suffering in a sexless marriage, Susan shares how emotional awareness, communication, and tension release can unlock deeper pleasure and connection. Whether you're navigating mismatched sex drives or simply craving more closeness, this conversation offers real, practical tools for building a more fulfilling and sensual partnership.   Also in this episode: Libido Mismatch: How to navigate different sex drives with open communication and mutual understanding. Tension Blocks Pleasure: Learn how stress—mental, emotional, or physical—affects intimacy and how to relax into connection. Feel It to Heal It: Embrace your emotions to create space for real intimacy and erotic energy. Let Go of Goals: Discover the power of being present during intimacy, without pressure or expectations. Susan’s Story: A personal journey of self-awareness, pleasure, and deep relationship growth. About The Guest: Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina.   Connect with Susan Morgan Taylor, MA: www.pleasurekeys.com  www.pleasurekeysretreat.com  www.pathwaytopleasure.com  IG: @susanmorgantaylor  FB @susantaylorma     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

Whose needs should you prioritize for a lasting marriage—yours or your spouse's? What if there’s a "third" that matters even more? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell shares personal reflections on the occasion of her daughter’s wedding, while detailing the powerful concept of “the third”—viewing the marriage itself as a living entity, distinct from each person in it. By prioritizing the relationship over individual needs, couples will deepen intimacy, prevent resentment, and build a lasting partnership. Whether you're newly engaged or decades into marriage, this episode offers timeless wisdom for anyone wanting a lasting marriage and emotionally healthy legacy.   Tips in this episode: "The Third" in Marriage: How viewing the relationship as its own entity strengthens your bond. Balancing Needs: Nourish the marriage by prioritizing both shared and individual desires. Open Communication: Share personal needs to maintain individuality and harmony. Honor the Relationship: Foster intimacy and avoid resentment by valuing the marriage itself.     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

Is altering your state of mind the key to deeper connection and high performance? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell talks with the “Father of Biohacking” and Founder of Bulletproof Coffee, Dave Asprey, about how meditation, biohacking, and consciousness boost personal growth and improve relationships. Drawing from his new book Heavily Meditated, Dave shares tools like the “reset process” to clear emotional triggers, and explores how sexual energy deepens intimacy. He also explains how brief moments of discomfort can boost motivation. This conversation is full of practical tips to help you heal, connect, and perform better (in the bedroom and in your life).   Also in this episode: Biohacking & Mindfulness – How meditation and awareness boost your success and growth. Heavily Meditated – Dave Asprey's new book on using altered states for personal transformation. The Reset Process – A simple method to clear emotional triggers using gratitude and forgiveness. Sexual Energy & Intimacy – How desire and vulnerability deepen connection and expand consciousness. Short Bursts of Discomfort – The use of brief, intentional pain to boost motivation and mental strength.     About The Guest: Dave Asprey is the founder of Bulletproof Coffee, The Bulletproof Diet, the entire biohacking movement, and is often referred to as “The Father of Biohacking.” Dave is a four-time New York Times bestselling author, and author of the forthcoming book, Heavily Meditated: The Fast Path to Remove Your Triggers, Dissolve Stress, and Activate Inner Peace (Harper Collins, May 2025). He is the CEO of Upgrade Labs, and host of an award-winning top 100 podcast, The Human Upgrade (formerly Bulletproof Radio). A renowned leader in furthering the longevity movement, Dave’s vision and collaborative work with renowned medical professionals, researchers, and innovative trailblazers has paved the way for groundbreaking ideas, techniques, and consumer products to improve mental and physical performance. Dave has been featured on hundreds of media outlets including: The New York Times, ABC/Nightline, Fox News, Real Simple, Inc., Fast Company, Vogue, PopSugar, Refinery29, New York Post, GQ, First for Women, Newsweek, Mashable, Financial Times, Forbes, AskMen, TODAY , CNN, Wired, Good Morning America, Bloomberg, and more.   Get his book, Heavily Meditated here: https://amzn.to/4kRtii9 Learn More about Dave Asprey: https://daveasprey.com/     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

Are you experiencing true sexual fulfillment—or are you just rushing to the finish line? In this episode, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell teaches you to slow down and savor each moment, in order to enjoy more pleasure and connection during intimacy. Using the analogy of enjoying delicious chocolate cake, she explores the power of anticipation, mindfulness, and prolonged arousal.  Dr. Alexandra shares actionable tips to enhance intimacy, extend build-up, and shift your focus from quick gratification to a more fulfilling, connected sensual experience.   Tips in this episode: Anticipate and savor each moment to significantly enhance sexual pleasure. Emphasize a mindful approach to sexual intimacy, focusing on the journey rather than the destination. For heightened pleasure, experiment with extending arousal and postponing climax. Adjust touch and pace to maintain an enjoyable and exciting connection.     Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

Porn addiction among high-performing men is more common—and more misunderstood—than most people realize.  In this eye-opening episode of the Intimate Marriage podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell welcomes back expert Roland Cochrun to discuss his new book, 'The High Achiever’s Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery'. Known for his groundbreaking insights into sex and porn addiction, Roland breaks down the crucial difference between substance and process addiction—where individuals become hooked not on external substances but on internal thought patterns and behaviors. Together, Dr. Alexandra and Roland explore why high achievers are especially vulnerable to these compulsions, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and why many of these behaviors are deeply misunderstood. Roland offers powerful guidance for healing, challenges societal norms around sex and desire, and encourages a new narrative of recovery, responsibility, and reconnection.   Also in this episode: What Process Addiction Is: Being hooked on mental patterns and habits, not substances like drugs or alcohol. How It Affects Relationships: A partner’s porn addiction can feel like betrayal and cause emotional pain. Challenging Norms: Society’s views on sex and porn aren’t always healthy—it's important to question them. The Role of Self-Awareness: Recognizing your own patterns is key to breaking free from addiction. Moral and Legal Questions: Roland challenges the ethics of porn and strip clubs, comparing them to modern slavery.   About The Guest: Roland Cochrun is the founder of The Successful Addict, a sex addiction recovery group designed specifically for high-achievers, executives, and entrepreneurs. As a recovering sex addict himself, Roland found blind spots in the treatment of process addiction, especially as it applies to successful men. Roland hopes to shine a light on a preventable issue that is destroying couples and families all over the world.   Connect with Roland: Get his latest book: The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction  Website: The Successful Addict YouTube: The Successful Addict   Listen to the previous interview with Roland Cochrun: “Sex and Success”: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/the-hidden-addictions-of-high-performers/   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact  

Are you and your partner drifting apart, despite loving each other deeply? In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores how planning and scheduling "intimacy dates" can save your relationship (and totally uplevel it!) by fostering deeper connection and closeness, especially for busy couples juggling work, family, and other responsibilities. Emphasizing that intimacy should be prioritized like any other essential activity, Dr. Alexandra shares practical strategies and insights. With decades of experience, personally and professionally, she’ll show you how “intimacy dates” can revitalize your relationship, and bring back spontaneity and joy. Dispelling the myth that scheduled intimacy lacks romance, this episode shares creative ways to blend structure with spontaneity, to help you reconnect emotionally, sensually, and playfully. By keeping intimacy high on your priority list, and sharing responsibilities to reduce stress, couples can overcome disconnection and discover what fun and meaningful intimacy looks like in their unique dynamic and phase of life.   Also in this episode: Scheduling "intimacy dates" is crucial for nurturing emotional, sensual, and erotic intimacy in a relationship, particularly for busy couples. Flexibility within scheduled times allows for spontaneity and enhances enjoyment, without the pressure of obligatory sex. Setting up intimacy dates during times when both partners are relaxed and energized leads to more meaningful connections. Assigning responsibilities, such as household tasks, to allow space for relaxation and self-connection facilitates a better atmosphere for intimacy. Personalizing “intimacy date”s to include activities like games, dancing, or creative expression stokes intimacy and rekindles fun in a relationship.   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact

Do you ever feel like a third wheel in your marriage, after the birth of your children? You are not alone. In this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, Dr. Alexandra Stockwell explores the common phenomenon where fathers, sometimes mothers, struggle with the change in relationship dynamics that occur when parental responsibilities take center stage; she sheds light on how to navigate these challenging times with grace and leadership. Emphasizing the importance of communication, self-awareness, and leadership in maintaining a strong marital connection amidst the demands of parenting, Dr. Alexandra advises on the steps to take to support your spouse while also ensuring your own needs are met. She provides strategies for creating emotional and physical intimacy, even when life's demands seem overwhelming.  Tips in this episode: Understand that feeling like a third wheel after the birth of children is a common phase. It's essential to address the dynamic, rather than ignoring it. Adopt a leadership role in the family by focusing on the needs of both children and your spouse, fostering a supportive and loving environment for all. Engage in meaningful conversations with your spouse about how to sustain and deepen your marital connection amidst the demands of parenting young children. Use the opportunity to exemplify a loving, collaborative, and passionate relationship for your children.   Apply for Coaching: https://alexandrastockwell.com/apply-for-coaching/   Subscribe To The Intimate Marriage Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With Alexandra Stockwell, MD: Website | Linkedin | Instagram   Get your copy of “Uncompromising Intimacy” by Dr. Alexandra Stockwell here: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Download the first chapter of Dr Alexandra’s bestselling book, “Uncompromising Intimacy,” here:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/book Cultivate your intimacy skills (without compromise) in Aligned & Hot Marriage, Dr. Alexandra’s proven method for smart couples ready to love more fully:  www.alignedhotmarriage.com Join Dr. Alexandra’s email list to stay connected. She shares inspiring stories, her latest insights and opportunities to learn with her:  https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/subscribe   This Podcast Is Produced, Engineered & Edited By:  Simplified Impact