
The Modern Phoenix
The Modern Phoenix (formerly “It’s All Me”)
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
Latest episodes

Oct 30, 2023 • 23min
111: I Went to Church and This is What I Prayed For
Lately it feels like my lifeforce and bandwidth have been tested to the max. So when a friend invited me to church with free childcare, I went. In this week’s solo episode, I dive into how leaning into my latest church experience with deep curiosity (despite my thoughts on organized religion) led to a full-bodied realization about prayer, parenting, and control, and dropped me into peace and my sacred knowing. The next cohort of The Higher Mastermind begins the first week of November: Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for the Phoenix Sessions Retreat in January 🙌 VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Join the Phoenix Session Retreat Happening January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan’s Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of other truth-minded women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat Connect with or Work with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources: 105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story} - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify

Oct 16, 2023 • 1h 6min
110: Focalizing: Creating Islands of Safety Within Yourself and Your Children with Jo Miller
Life is one big initiation. Join Gervase and her Focalizing teacher, Jo Miller, as they discuss what it would look like to have ‘enough’ in the face of trauma, the ways in which we’ve been lied to as women, and how we can resource somatics and focalizing to create a fuller, more robust sense of self in ourselves and our children. Jo Miller is a somatic teacher and mentor who helps the big-hearted helpers, overthinkers, and creatives in the world to live an empowered life with compassionate boundaries, free from trauma and shame. Joe is a member of the SNR leadership team of the Focalizing Institute and also works within her own private practice. Connect with Jo: Somatic Therapy | Joanna Miller | Margate (joanna-miller.com) Jo Miller | Somatic Teacher & Mentor (@joannamiller_healing) • Instagram The next cohort of The Higher Mastermind begins the first week of November: Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for the Phoenix Sessions Retreat in January 🙌 VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Join the Phoenix Session Retreat Happening January 27th, 2024 in Sullivan’s Island, SC—experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of other truth-minded women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat Connect with or Work with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Oct 9, 2023 • 38min
109: A Peek Inside Our Family’s New (Food) Normal
From triage to coasting: Join Gervase on this episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she opens up about her personal journey through her daughter’s diagnosis and the changes they’ve made to carve out a healthier path for their entire family. Listen in as she discusses quieting her inner teenager during moments of meal planning overwhelm, how granola bars are the devil, and how she and her husband walk the tightrope of healthier food choices while keeping it fun for the kids. Keep listening for additional resources to dig into if you’re interested in carving out your own path of nutritional wellness. Join the Phoenix Session Retreat Happening January 27th, 2024 in Charleston, NC, experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of other truth-minded women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat The Higher Mastermind has arrived: Stop burning through life’s challenges and initiations and rise. Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Includes access to everything in the Gateway and deep discount for the Phoenix Sessions Retreat in January 🙌 VIP upgrade for 1:1 coaching with G available Connect with or Work with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources Mentioned: 105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story} | Podcast on Spotify A Mind of Your Own: The Truth About Depression and How Women Can Heal Their Bodies to Reclaim Their Lives: Brogan M.D., Kelly, Loberg, Kristin 𝐿𝒶𝓊𝓇𝒶 (@lauracarmencoaching) • Instagram LAURA S ALLEN (@lauraallenwellness) • Instagram Recipe Resources: Danielle Walker Recipe Books PlantYou - Plant-based made easy! Minimalist Baker - Simple Recipes That Make You Feel Good Dairy/Gluten/Soy/Sugar-Free Recipes - Cookie and Kate 200+ Gluten-Free and Dairy-Free Recipes - Mama Knows Gluten Free Healthy Recipes - Gluten Free, Sugar Free, Dairy Free - Live Love Nourish

Oct 2, 2023 • 60min
108: Cultivating Mind, Body, and Spirit via Float Therapy (and More) with Maxwell Casa
Do you float tank? This episode of the It’s All Me podcast features Maxwell Casa, an accomplished martial artist, performance coach, and the creator of Max Vitality, an amazing company sharing the transformative power of float therapy and magnesium to cultivate mind-body harmony and transcend dis-ease. Join Gervase and Maxwell as they discuss their personal experiences with float tanks (spoiler alert: G and her hubby had wildly different experiences), the interconnectedness of energy, hypnosis, and minerals, and how the practice of floating in a saltwater tank can help strengthen your mind, body, and spirit. More on Maxwell Casa: Instagram | Max Casa (@maxxcasa) Website | Max Vitality Join the Phoenix Session Retreat Happening October 15th, 2023 in Charleston, NC, experience a 2-day, intimate journey designed to connect you to your body and soul wisdom with a small circle of other truth-minded women https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-phoenix-sessions-retreat The Higher Mastermind has arrived: Stop burning through life’s challenges and initiations and rise. Find more info on this intimate, 3 month season of becoming here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/higher Connect with or Work with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Sep 25, 2023 • 30min
107: When a Woman Has Her Own Back
On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase breaks down the signs of a woman’s self-abandonment, and how reconnecting to inner trust and embracing emotion can shift the culture of the workplace and our lives. Listen in to hear how you can start solving problems from the place of a woman who has her own back, leaving shame, drama, and resentment behind. Upcoming (FREE) Events Join the next virtual Phoenix Session (totally free)! https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-sessions-online Catch G as a speaker at the Sacred Living Audio Summit, Hosted by Marissa Lawton – https://www.rootedfeminine.com/sacred Connect with or Work with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive The Gateway Membership: *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Sep 18, 2023 • 1h 1min
106: Balancing your masculine and feminine energies with Marissa Lawton
On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Marissa Lawton to discuss how masculine and feminine energies are woven into our every lives. Listen in as they discuss the true definitions of masculine and feminine energies and the key to finding your particular balance. Continue listening to hear the low down on periods, accessing your archetypes, and the ancient wisdom that exists within all women. A former licensed therapist, Marissa left behind the medical model of mental health care to help women reconnect to nature's rhythms. She now serves as a conduit for ancient women's wisdom, guiding feminine seekers to reclaim their divine power. Join us for Marissa’s Sacred Living Audio Summit (FREE) – https://www.rootedfeminine.com/sacred *Interviews drop 10.2 and G is one of them! Join the next virtual Phoenix Session totally free! https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-sessions-online Connect with Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Book a Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Sep 5, 2023 • 52min
105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story}
We are back from a summer break that was more like a summer smackdown for G. In this solo episode, she’s giving you the play-by-play of her daughter’s recent health challenges and how through her own advocacy, resilience and spiritual attunement, she held herself through her own personal dark night of the soul and every mother’s nightmare and used the It’s All Me framework as her hope, her guiding light and her tuning fork. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: PANDAS — https://www.pandasppn.org Victoria Washington — https://instagram.com/iamvictoriawashington?igshid=MWZjMTM2ODFkZg== Daily Harvest food poisoning that G was a victim of — https://www.npr.org/2022/06/22/1106650999/daily-harvest-lentils-leek-food-poisoning-recall-instagram-statement The Dabble Co. : Let's Talk PANDAS -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7F2LP2E3uvoWQnydA2cbBa?si=cmXSJ9nMTcqxSB33gjfa3A Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Work with Gervase: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive

Jul 31, 2023 • 58min
104: Breaking up with Your Good Girl with Stephanie Jiroch
What does it look like to own your story? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast Gervase introduces us to her former client and longtime community member Stephanie Jiroch, an expert on helping others craft stories that stand out while being true to themselves. Listen in as they discuss how they each broke up with their own ‘good girl’ complex on the path to radical authenticity, through pain, grief, mistakes and an it’s all me mindset. Stephanie Jiroch is the founder and CEO of Story Leadership Institute, a company dedicated to supporting emerging leaders and purpose-driven companies communicate their big ideas through the power of story. Stephanie is pursuing her Ph.D. in Brand Psychology with an emphasis on digital identity development, investigating the self-presentation habits of mothers on Instagram. Want more of Stephanie? Check her out here: Story Leadership Institute Story Leadership Inst. | Brand Story & Leader Training (@leadwithstory) | Instagram Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com

Jul 24, 2023 • 1h 15min
103: A Cross-Cultural, Multi-Layered Approach to Healing with Mandy Burstein
It’s not uncommon to hear people talking about ‘unleashing the wild woman,’ but the next question is - then what? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mandy Burstein to discuss their journeys of finding safe and healthy ways to express generationally suppressed emotions, the healing experience of embracing the duality of death and grief, and what has been healing for them as mothers rewriting their own traumas and triggers while simultaneously being the blueprint for their children. Listen in for a behind the scenes look at the experiences provided at their previous retreat held in Sayulita, Mexico. Mandy Burstein is a teacher of yoga, mindfulness and transformational breathwork who is passionate about lovingly pushing people beyond their comfort zones to discover how strong, beautiful and powerful they truly are. Since 2010, she has led group classes, spiritual self-discovery workshops and week-long yoga retreats, and was a guest teacher at Gervase’s Sayulita retreat. Want more of Mandy? Check her out here: MANDY BURSTEIN (@zengirlmandy) | Instagram Mandy Burstein | Website Doors closing on July 26th for Higher—The Mastermind to help you set new standards and maintain a higher sense of Self Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources and Related Episodes: Making our kids our excuse and using Covid as our Phoenix moment - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify Joy is a Really Good Reason - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify

Jul 17, 2023 • 20min
102: My Intuition Called Me Out and I Chose to Listen
Ever had that moment when you’re just… fed up? Today’s solo episode is a quick, relatable personal story about a recent parenting moment when my intuition interfered on behalf of my 10yo and I chose to listen. The result? Instant alignment and nervous system regulation and a new opportunity to bridge the gap between who I intend to be as a modern woman and who I actually am. Enrollment for the Maintenance Mastermind is open til July 27th and this is an intuitive group coaching space to come for 90 days of soulful coherence, on-the-spot coaching and deep connection with other conscious women. Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind *VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to speak, facilitate coaching or a powerful conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com