The Modern Phoenix
Gervase Kolmos
The Modern Phoenix (formerly “It’s All Me”)
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul.
Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start.
That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom.
This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life.
So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
Episodes
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Sep 5, 2023 • 52min
105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story}
We are back from a summer break that was more like a summer smackdown for G. In this solo episode, she’s giving you the play-by-play of her daughter’s recent health challenges and how through her own advocacy, resilience and spiritual attunement, she held herself through her own personal dark night of the soul and every mother’s nightmare and used the It’s All Me framework as her hope, her guiding light and her tuning fork. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: PANDAS — https://www.pandasppn.org Victoria Washington — https://instagram.com/iamvictoriawashington?igshid=MWZjMTM2ODFkZg== Daily Harvest food poisoning that G was a victim of — https://www.npr.org/2022/06/22/1106650999/daily-harvest-lentils-leek-food-poisoning-recall-instagram-statement The Dabble Co. : Let's Talk PANDAS -- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7F2LP2E3uvoWQnydA2cbBa?si=cmXSJ9nMTcqxSB33gjfa3A Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Work with Gervase: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive
Jul 31, 2023 • 58min
104: Breaking up with Your Good Girl with Stephanie Jiroch
What does it look like to own your story? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast Gervase introduces us to her former client and longtime community member Stephanie Jiroch, an expert on helping others craft stories that stand out while being true to themselves. Listen in as they discuss how they each broke up with their own ‘good girl’ complex on the path to radical authenticity, through pain, grief, mistakes and an it’s all me mindset. Stephanie Jiroch is the founder and CEO of Story Leadership Institute, a company dedicated to supporting emerging leaders and purpose-driven companies communicate their big ideas through the power of story. Stephanie is pursuing her Ph.D. in Brand Psychology with an emphasis on digital identity development, investigating the self-presentation habits of mothers on Instagram. Want more of Stephanie? Check her out here: Story Leadership Institute Story Leadership Inst. | Brand Story & Leader Training (@leadwithstory) | Instagram Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Jul 24, 2023 • 1h 15min
103: A Cross-Cultural, Multi-Layered Approach to Healing with Mandy Burstein
It’s not uncommon to hear people talking about ‘unleashing the wild woman,’ but the next question is - then what? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mandy Burstein to discuss their journeys of finding safe and healthy ways to express generationally suppressed emotions, the healing experience of embracing the duality of death and grief, and what has been healing for them as mothers rewriting their own traumas and triggers while simultaneously being the blueprint for their children. Listen in for a behind the scenes look at the experiences provided at their previous retreat held in Sayulita, Mexico. Mandy Burstein is a teacher of yoga, mindfulness and transformational breathwork who is passionate about lovingly pushing people beyond their comfort zones to discover how strong, beautiful and powerful they truly are. Since 2010, she has led group classes, spiritual self-discovery workshops and week-long yoga retreats, and was a guest teacher at Gervase’s Sayulita retreat. Want more of Mandy? Check her out here: MANDY BURSTEIN (@zengirlmandy) | Instagram Mandy Burstein | Website Doors closing on July 26th for Higher—The Mastermind to help you set new standards and maintain a higher sense of Self Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources and Related Episodes: Making our kids our excuse and using Covid as our Phoenix moment - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify Joy is a Really Good Reason - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify
Jul 17, 2023 • 20min
102: My Intuition Called Me Out and I Chose to Listen
Ever had that moment when you’re just… fed up? Today’s solo episode is a quick, relatable personal story about a recent parenting moment when my intuition interfered on behalf of my 10yo and I chose to listen. The result? Instant alignment and nervous system regulation and a new opportunity to bridge the gap between who I intend to be as a modern woman and who I actually am. Enrollment for the Maintenance Mastermind is open til July 27th and this is an intuitive group coaching space to come for 90 days of soulful coherence, on-the-spot coaching and deep connection with other conscious women. Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind *VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/ *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to speak, facilitate coaching or a powerful conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Jul 3, 2023 • 53min
101: Divorce Redefined - From Needless to Expressed & Empowered with Jasmine Chanelle
So. Many. Truthbombs. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mom2Mogul creator and recent divorcee, Jasmine Chanelle. Together they discuss the ripple effects of and the path back from self-abandonment in relationships, boundaries and standards with the people around us (including our children), and Jasmine’s personal experience of outgrowing feeling needless and wantless in a marriage to feeling like a wildly expressed woman and mother in her power. A mom of 3, Jasmine Chanelle is an entrepreneur and host of the Mom2Mogul podcast. She brings 10 plus years of marketing and branding experience to the online space as a personal brand coach for mompreneurs. She specializes in turning everyday moms into business moguls by helping them master their mindset and messaging and creates content that inspires millennial moms to have it all by sharing her life on Instagram and TikTok. Want more of Jasmine? Check her out here: Jasmine Chanelle (@_jasminechanelle) | Instagram Home | Jasmine Chanelle *NEW* Join the Maintenance Mastermind: Monthly group coaching to attune to your Highest Self Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Jun 26, 2023 • 55min
100: Inside My Marriage Pt 2: a dreamer and a realist, an empowered wife, and how we upleveled our communication
What happens when a dreamer and a realist get married? Join Gervase and her husband Kevin in this Part 2 episode, where they open up about how they choose to grow and move beyond their challenges instead of resorting to putting up walls. Listen in for a behind the scenes look at the work that goes into a marriage focused on giving each other space to be their truest selves (aka Gervase continually burning the patriarchal marriage dynamic to ash), insights on better communication, solution-based conversations, and why ego could be holding you back from your best partnership. Get instant access to the free It’s All Me Masterclass Gain insight on the It’s All Me framework, the delicious complexity of womanhood and life, along with a step-by-step walkthrough of the new IAM workbook. Access the masterclass audio here: 92. The IAM Mindset Edition: Free Masterclass Download the free workbook here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/sign-up-its-all-me-framework Join the Maintenance Mastermind: Monthly group coaching to attune to your Highest Self Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Pre-sale pricing (save $600) ends June 26th and 10/12 spots available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources and Related Episodes: Inside Gervase & Kevin’s Marriage: Fighting Better and Setting Intentions as a Couple - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify G and Kevin’s wonderful couples coach, Jolenny Piedra, was a guest on the following ep of the IAM podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-all-me/id1540636816?i=1000575622922 Find her on IG: @sacredsoulliving
Jun 19, 2023 • 1h 20min
99: Female Friendships (Pt 2) and What’s Holding Women Back from Feeling Safe in Their Sisterhoods with Stephanie Burg
Back in 2021, Gervase invited Stephanie Burg on the podcast to talk about the new paradigm of female friendships - and it was a hit! Back to add to that amazing convo, Stephanie joins Gervase in this podcast episode to discuss what’s holding women back from feeling safe in their sisterhoods, how to move a traumatic friend experience into empowered ownership, and how this topic led Gervase to create the It’s All Me framework. After transitioning out of a decade of being a professional ballerina, Stephanie is now a trauma-informed certified Integrative Health and Transformational Life coach, breathwork facilitator, somatic healing and embodiment guide, steward to plant medicines and sacred circle facilitator. Want more of Stephanie? Check her out here: Stephanie Burg | Guiding Women towards Soul Healing (stephanieburgcoaching.com) Somatic + Soul Healing Guide (@stephaniemburg) • Instagram photos and videos Join the Maintenance Mastermind: Monthly group coaching to attune to your Highest Self Learn more and join: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/maintenance-mastermind VIP option to add two 1:1 sessions and Voxer coaching with G available Pre-sale pricing (save $600) ends June 26th and 10/12 spots available Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources and Related Episodes: The New Paradigm of Female Friendships - It's All Me | Podcast on Spotify The Man Enough Podcast on Apple Podcasts White Women: Everything You Already Know About Your Own Racism and How to Do Better: Jackson, Regina, Rao, Saira: 9780143136439: Amazon.com: Books
Jun 12, 2023 • 30min
98: A Hypnosis for Trusting Your Body
For all our hypno-curious listeners, we made this week’s episode for you! It’s a custom self-hypnosis track by G that was inspired by and designed to accompany ep 96, “Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is "Focalizing. Listening to this track every day for 21 days will support you in: Connecting to, trusting and working in collaboration with the body Releasing pressure around the way your body looks and functions Being kinder and gentler to your body Releasing pain, stress, and trauma from the body Relaxing and calming the body Mind, body and soul alignment Feeling safe in your body Giving your body permission to slow down. Please note: Do NOT listen to this track while driving or operating heavy machinery. Please consult Gervase and your medical professional before listening to this track if you have experienced any type of serious trauma in the body or if you’ve been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. The creator of this track is not liable for any injury that happens while listening. This track uses binaural beats: Binaural beats work by “connecting” with each of your brain’s own hemispheres (binaural in fact refers to a different sound or frequency/wave in each ear), which our brains then mix together to create the illusion of a third. Binaural beats have been known to induce deep states of relaxation, meditation and sleep. When people are in more relaxed and meditative states, improved mood, memory, brain function, body awareness, and cognition follow. It is important to avoid using binaural beats therapy while undertaking tasks that require alertness and full attention, such as driving. Want custom hypnosis for your unique needs? This is included in Gervase’s private coaching packages. The first step to inquire is to book below: Book a 90-minute Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to hire Gervase to facilitate coaching or hypnotherapy for your team, company, group program, etc, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
Jun 5, 2023 • 1h 5min
97: How Niceness Fails Us with Shaniequa Washington - Diversity. Inclusivity. Authentic Community.
Inclusivity. Diversity. Niceness. Wisdom. Duality. When it comes to building true community and belonging, what buzzwords are failing us and what is actually moving us forward? Join Gervase on this episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she sits down with her newest friend, Shaniequa L. Washington, and discusses ingrained behaviors that are failing us, how wisdom honors the complexity of community, and what we can do to not only further these much needed, difficult conversations but to also take action to create better communities for ourselves and our children. Shaniequa is a New York City native, now living in the roots of Gullah Geechee Heritage in Charleston, SC. A self-taught designer and seamstress, her lifelong passion was born from her desire to find a style that highlighted her vibrant personality. Her passion pieces include dusters and kimonos, which she believes to be examples of priestly robes, reminding every queen to wear their crown. Want more of Shaniequa? Check her out here: Content Creator|Beauty|Fashion|She/Her (@shaniequalwashington) | Instagram Zuriel Kingdom Collections | Facebook Would you like a 1:1 session with Gervase? Book a 90-minute Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Get instant access to the free It’s All Me Masterclass Gain insight on the It’s All Me framework, the delicious complexity of womanhood and life, along with a step-by-step walkthrough of the new IAM workbook. Access the masterclass audio here: 92. The IAM Mindset Edition: Free Masterclass Download the free workbook here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/sign-up-its-all-me-framework Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com
May 29, 2023 • 26min
96: Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is "Focalizing"
We’ve been brainwashed to doubt our body, but it’s time to remember her innate power. Join Gervase on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she discusses why this narrative of body disempowerment - that goes much (much) deeper than body image - recently surfaced for her on a personal level, how we can learn to trust our bodies, and how her training in focalizing has helped her and her clients reconnect to the body’s natural intelligence and healing abilities. Would you like a 1:1 session with Gervase? Book a 90-minute Soul Shift Intensive: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/the-soul-shift-intensive Get instant access to the free It’s All Me Masterclass Gain insight on the It’s All Me framework, the delicious complexity of womanhood and life, along with a step-by-step walkthrough of the new IAM workbook. Access the masterclass audio here: 92. The IAM Mindset Edition: Free Masterclass Download the free workbook here: https://www.gervasekolmos.com/sign-up-its-all-me-framework Follow Gervase Connect with Gervase on Instagram: www.instagram.com/gervasekolmos Visit her website: Gervase Kolmos *If you'd like to invite Gervase into your company to facilitate coaching or conversation to shift company culture, please email us at hi@gervasekolmos.com Resources and Related Episodes: Book: The Body Keeps the Score Nick Werber | Embodiment Coach (@nwerber) | Instagram Jo Miller | Somatic Teacher & Mentor (@joannamiller_healing) | Instagram What is Focalizing? — The Focalizing Institute (theinstitute.org)
