If you are trying to make a difference – with whatever you are doing at this moment in your life – do you see age as an advantage or a disadvantage? Today, in our western society, a common belief is that as we age, our opportunities to make a difference diminish. Often we rationalize our inertia. We feel we are too old to make a deep impact in the world. We want to make a difference, but can we really make it happen? We listen to the amazing stories of Steve Jobs or Bill Gates. They started working in their garages as teenagers and changed the way we live, with companies they founded before they reached their thirties. If we are over thirty, it’s easy to think that we missed our chance. Many of us still keep trying to make a difference – yet, we “shrink" our goals, because we think that it’s too late to aim higher. It’s so easy to accept this fixed mindset that justifies not thinking big. Even worse, we give up, we surrender to regret. This is a common trend: "As we age and we start to see this disconnect between what we aspire to be, and what we aspire to do, and what we're accomplishing, and what we were told we can't accomplish, regret builds, picking up in the late forties. There is that pressure, and human nature says that we have to look for a way to relieve that pressure. So we look for a source of information that tells us that we really can’t accomplish. We go back to that idea that society presents that it’s the young that matter. To relive that pressure, to give up, we find those sources of information. In fact we give up, that relieves the pressure, regret goes away, we lose our opportunity, we lose our drive."- Jonathan Sackner-Bernstein’s TEDx Talk However, if we look at the facts, they can surprise us. For instance: Nobel Prize winners of the last decades are in their mid-to-upper fortiesA significant number of founders of successful companies are in their forties or fifties And, if you keep looking, you will find many examples of people that make a huge difference at an even later age. Instead of seeing age as a sign of decline and narrowing opportunities, why not to challenge yourself to see age as an opportunity to ramp up our efforts, stretch ourselves, expand our abilities, and make a deep difference in this world. [Tweet "Age is an opportunity to ramp up our efforts, stretch ourselves, expand our abilities, and make a deep difference in this world"] It’s our choice. We can start to talk back to our fixed mindset voice, and start to take growth mindset actions. Begin by seeing the full TEDx Talk from Jonathan Sackner-Bernstein. Here is another snippet: “Age is an advantage. Those of us who are over thirty-five, over forty, even over fifty, are the people who can make a difference, who have the skills to make the difference, who must step up to make the difference."- Jonathan Sackner-Bernstein’s TEDx Talk jQLeadBrite("#leadplayer_video_element_548A853C9D7D2").leadplayer(false, "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"); Note: I became aware of this TEDx Talk via Seth Godin's Blog - I really recommend t...

Take a minute to do this awareness exercise: Look around the room and count how many red objects you see. Write that number down. Now that you know how many red objects you saw, do you have any idea how many blue objects were there? If you are like most of us, you didn’t notice the blue objects. So look around one more time and count the blue objects around you. Quite amazing! It’s similar to when we buy a new car and suddenly we are more aware of a particular brand or color. If our mind is focused on one thing, we often will see more of it around us. Think about this. Is your mind more focused on negative or positive emotions? As I mentioned in Episode 8, it’s difficult to ignore the negative. Negativity screams at us. When we bite a really hot chile pepper – we feel it! Positive emotions are like eating a comfort food. We enjoy it, but we are not always fully aware of that positive feeling. It’s more difficult to focus on positive emotions. Our body is wired to notice the negative, and we have to train ourselves to counteract this tendency. Sonja Lyubomirsky, in her book, The How of Happiness, explains that our well-being is determined by: - 50% – a genetic set point - 10% – life circumstances - 40% – intentional activity (what we think and what we do) This is essential to keep in mind – scientific research shows that 40% of what determines our well-being has to do with our mindset – what we think and do daily. This means that we can train ourselves to see more positivity around us. We can train ourselves to focus on what bring us: Joy | Gratitude | Serenity | Interest | Hope | Pride | Amusement | Inspiration | Awe | Love This reminds of the old story, adapted by the Positive Psychology researcher and author, Barbara Fredrickson: One evening, an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people.He said:- My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside us all.One is Negativity. It’s anger, sadness, stress, contempt, disgust, fear, embarrassment, guilt, shame and hate.The other is Positivity. It’s joy, gratitude, serenity, interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspirations, awe, and above all, love.The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather:- Which wolf wins?The old Cherokee simply replied:- The one you feed. Everyday, every moment we have to decide what wolf to feed – negativity or positivity. [Tweet "Everyday, every moment we have to decide what wolf to feed."] Think of the possibilities.

Why do we spend so long to decide about a name? The name of our children, the name of our pets, the name of our business. I spent a long time thinking about how to name this podcast. If you followed me from the inception of this show, you know that I started as the "Self-Employed Professional Making a Difference” Podcast. Yet, I decided to rebrand it as the Mindset Zone. I explained my reasoning in the new reloaded Episode 1 (click here to listen it). I now understand better some Native American Traditions on naming. From a Western perspective, we see a name as something we are given at birth, and will remain forever– just as the brand that the cowboys used to burn on their cattle - it cannot be changed. Within some Native American Traditions: names usually change over an individual’s lifetime to reflect milestones, accomplishments, and actions. * Since one of the goals I had for this podcast was to expand our possibilities - why not rename it as the MindSet Zone. My invitation to you is: "Unlock possibilities by changing your mindsets. You will expand what's possible - for you, for the ones around you, for the world. You're moving into a land of both blind spots and learning, of things and ideas. You've just crossed over into the MindSet Zone." [Tweet "Unlock possibilities by changing your mindsets."]

Most people agree how important it is to be grateful. Research in Psychology also supports the power of gratitude. In her book–The How of Happiness–Sonja Lyubomirsky, dedicates a full chapter to this topic. She uses a definition from a world’s leading expert on gratitude–Robert Emmons:  Gratitude is “a felt sense of wonder, thankfulness, and appreciation for life." [Tweet "Gratitude is a felt sense of wonder, thankfulness, and appreciation for life. - R. Emmons"] In her book, she shares the multiple benefits that Positive Psychology Research supports. To practice and express gratitude to yourself and others: - Promotes the savoring of positive life experiences - Boosts self-esteem - Helps cope with stress - Inspires kind and caring behavior - Helps build social bonds, and strengthen relationships - Counteracts the effects of negative emotions How does this apply to Self-Employed Professionals? Most Self-Employed Professionals who want to make a difference in others lives recognize the power of gratitude. Yet, many don't know how to cultivate this as an habit in their daily lives. As we refer to in Episode 8 of this podcast, it’s easier to focus on the negative emotions–they are strong and designed to capture our attention. While we are stuck on a negative reactivity cycle it’s difficult to be grateful. I suggest that you try the following simple exercise as suggested in the book The How of Happiness: 1. Start by picking a specific time to do this exercise (before going to bed works great for me, some people love to do this first thing in the morning) 2. Think about 3 to 5 things for which you are grateful.  Be specific, and focus on unique experiences that happened recently. They can be mundane happenings – for instance, “I enjoy the smell and taste of the coffee this morning.”, ”It was nice to receive that email thanking me for…”). Or they can be extraordinary – for instance, “I was there when my child gave her first step by herself.”, “So happy to see my niece graduate from high school." 3. Write these 3 to 5 items in your journal or even as a note in your calendar 4. Do this activity for a week and experience the effects. Maybe you will be positively surprised with some of the results of this practice. 5. After the first week, adapt this activity as seems fit for you. Some people decide just to write one thing they are grateful for on their calendar. Others journal about  experiences they are grateful for once a week. Others, continue to write 3 to 5 things a day. Whatever works for you. And read The How of Happiness book if you are looking for more ideas on how to cultivate positivity in your live. Love to hear you comments and learn about your experiences.

Think about a time when you lost your car keys, and you are already running late. You know that they have to be somewhere in your house, and you almost sure that you left them in the kitchen, but you can't see them anywhere. You feel the stress build and know that doesn’t help, but it’s seems impossible to stop all your negative thoughts and emotions. Negative emotions are very strong and our body is wired for a quick response to negativity. This happens because negative emotions have a survival value. Think about our ancestors, tens of thousands years ago somewhere in the African continent. If they saw a lion they had to react fast. This response saved their lives. Nowadays, we don’t have to run away from lions. However, if we cross the road, and see a car coming fast, we are thankful that we are wired to react and move away just in time to not be hurt. Negative emotions can be good. They can save our lives. They can signal danger. The problem is not negative emotions–the problem is that we stay stuck on them. Think about driving a car. When we touch the accelerator we want to feel something happen. Our nervous system is wired to quickly activate us for a fight or flight response. It’s as if we have a sports car accelerator within us. Small touch–big reaction. Thankfully, we also have a brake system. We are also wired to relax. This system slows us down like the brakes of an old car– it takes time. The challenge that many of us face is that we stay stuck with our feet on the accelerator - even after the danger is over. It’s difficult to release the accelerator and start to activate the brakes. In other words, we cannot avoid negative emotions and sometimes they be life savers.The problem is staying stuck in the negativity. [Tweet "The problem is staying stuck in the negativity"] It’s also true, that some people tend to stay stuck more than others. For some people it’s easy to become like a mouse on the treadmill–running, and running, and not going anywhere. Putting fires out all day long. Feeling stress and anxiety. This is a reactive mode, and it’s so easy to stay stuck there. Other people are more like cats. They can relax easily after running very fast. They enjoy the adrenaline and they know how to enjoy the rest time too. The tendency to be more like a mouse or a cat, has a lot to do with our genes. Positive Psychology research shows that our general well being is determined: 50% by a genetic set point10% by life circumstances40% by intentional activity, what we do and what we think This 40% is the silver lining. We can learn to become more like cats. Think about this quote that Stephen Covey attributes to Viktor Frankl: “Between stimulus and response there is a space.In that space is our power to choose our response.In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I love this quote because, we usually see a stimulus as something that activates a response almost automatically. There Frankl sees a space. A brief space where we have the power to choose our response. A brief space where we can learn to be creators of our lives and not just be reactors. Try this: Write the word “reactivity.” Move that “c” to the beginning of the word. What word do you read now? Quite amazing! Small changes can produce big changes. Some of us have to work harder than others to slow down and to stop reactivity cycle. Yet, we can learn to relax and create a more intentional outcome. If you fell like the mouse on the wheel, it's wonderful to realize that you can learn to be more like a cat. [Tweet "We can learn to become more like cats"] Think about the possibilities, and how this helps you to make a bigger difference as a self-employed professional. Love to read your comments :) Links: About Viktor Frankl - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Viktor_Frankl Previous episode where I spoke about Viktor Frankl ...

One of my favorite books is Viktor Frankl’s “Man’s Search For Meaning.” It’s a powerful book, divided into two parts. Part One is an account of Frankl’s experiences as a prisoner in several concentration camps during the Second Word War. His recollections are sad, moving, and inspiring. One of my favorite passages: “... any attempt to restore a man’s inner strength in the camp has first to succeed in showing him some future goal. Nietzsche’s words, “He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how,”…Whenever there was an opportunity for it, one had to give them a why–an aim–for their lives, in order to strengthen them to bear the terrible how of their existence. ” [Tweet "He who has a why to live for, can bear with almost any how –Nietzsche"] Part Two – Frankl summarizes his therapeutic model, Logotherapy – meaning-centered psychotherapy. In his words: “Let me explain why I have employed the term “Logotherapy” as the name for my theory. Logos is a Greek word which denotes “meaning.” Logotherapy… focuses on the meaning of human existence as well as on man’s search for such a meaning. According to logotherapy, this striving to find meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in man.” [Tweet "Striving to find meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in man –Frankl"] Following with his words: “Thus it can be seen that mental health is based on a certain degree of tension, the tension between what one has already achieved and what one still ought to accomplish, or the gap between what one is and what ones should become.” I hope these excerpts, and this podcast episode, stirs your curiosity to read this book, and learn more about this great man – Viktor Frankl. Listen to this recording of a lecture he gave at a conference in Toronto: jQLeadBrite("#leadplayer_video_element_5409").leadplayer(false, "eyJnYSI6dHJ1ZSwib3ZlcmxheSI6ZmFsc2UsInBvd2VyZWRfYnkiOmZhbHNlLCJwb3dlcmVkX2J5X2xpbmsiOiJodHRwczpcL1wvYXZlbnVlODEuaW5mdXNpb25zb2Z0LmNvbVwvZ29cL2xwXC9hMTU2OVwvIiwiY29sb3IxIjoiI0Y1QkIwQyIsImNvbG9yMiI6IiMxNzk4Q0QiLCJjb2xvcjMiOiIjRjVCQjBDIiwidHh0X3N1Ym1pdCI6IlNVQk1JVCIsInR4dF9wbGF5IjoiUExBWSIsInR4dF9lbWwiOiJZb3VyIEVtYWlsIEFkZHJlc3MiLCJ0eHRfbmFtZSI6IllvdXIgTmFtZSIsInR4dF9pbnZhbGlkX2VtbCI6IlBsZWFzZSBlbnRlciBhIHZhbGlkIGVtYWlsIiwidHh0X2ludmFsaWRfbmFtZSI6IlBsZWFzZSBlbnRlciB5b3VyIG5hbWUiLCJscF9zb3VyY2UiOiJXUCBQbHVnaW4gMS40LjIuMSBVbmxpbWl0ZWQiLCJpZCI6IjU0MDlGOEVBNkY1REUiLCJ3aWR0aCI6NjQwLCJoZWlnaHQiOjM2MCwidGh1bWJuYWlsIjoiIiwidGl0bGUiOiJTZWFyY2ggZm9yIG1lYW5pbmcgfCBWaWt0b3IgRnJhbmtsIiwiZGVzY3JpcHRpb24iOiIiLCJhdXRvcGxheSI6ZmFsc2UsInNob3dfdGltZWxpbmUiOnRydWUsImVuYWJsZV9oZCI6ZmFsc2UsIm9wdCI6ZmFsc2UsImN0YSI6ZmFsc2UsInltIjoiZkQxNTEyX1hKRXcifQ=="); So, what does this imply for Self-Employed Professionals? Let’s start with what Frankl learned from his experiences: “This striving to find meaning in one’s life is the primary motivational force in man." This is important for psychotherapy, personal growth, and for Self-Employed Professionals. In order to Self-Employed Professionals to be resilient and overcome the challenges on the road to a successful business –that really makes a difference– they must connect with their WHY. Another quote from Frankl: “...mental health is based on a certain degree of tension, the tension between what one has already achieved and what one still ought to accomplish, or the gap between what one is and what ones should become.” Life and Business Coaching aims to close this gap. Coaches strive to support their clients to go from where they are now to where they want to be. This is also crucial to keep in mind for our own businesses – the gap between where one is, and where one want to be. From the video and paraphrasing some of Frankl's ideas: ONE: "They wish to make a lot of money… Really? Only 16% said their goal or concern was to make lots of money."“78% were concern to find meaning and purpose in their lives.

I received touching comments from Episode 4 where I focused on Carol Dweck's book, “Mindset: The New Psychology of Success." Here are a few: "If you ever wanted to make a difference in the world, you certainly did change my world with this podcast." "What a great topic, Ana. I've read Dr. Dweck's book and it really had a positive impact in my life." "I started believing something very different, that this is a skill set that I can build with practice and intention." Learning about Growth and Fixed Mindset makes a difference, mainly when we realize that we have a growth mindset overall, yet a fixed mindset in certain critical areas. These fixed mindsets, of which we are usually unaware, stop us from being “So Good They Can't Ignore You" (could not resist the plug to Episode 5 about this other wonderful book ;). All of us have these blind spots. That’s normal. We are not aware of them until someone, or something forces us to see what we don’t see them. Did you know that you have a visual blind spot in your eye? To experience this is powerful. Look at the image below (on the screen or print it out). You can also draw it on a piece of paper: a small dot on the left side separated by about 6-8 inches from a small + on the right side. Then: 1. Close your right eye (you can cover it with your hand.) 2. Look at the small dot and small + (about 20 inches away from the image.) 3. Without moving your head, look at the + with your left eye. 4. Slowly move your head closer while looking at the +. At a certain point, the dot will disappear from your eyesight. Amazing! This is where you blind spot is. You can reverse the process. Close your left eye and look at the dot with your right eye. Adjust your distance until the + disappears. You can find different variations of this experiment at https://faculty.washington.edu/chudler/chvision.html The blind spot is the area on the retina without receptors. Therefore, we can not see any images that fall on that spot. We are not aware of this phenomenon because: 1- We usually view with both eyes (so one eye sees the information that falls into to the other eye's blind spot) 2- Even when we look at something only with one eye, our brain fills in the missing information – our brain tricks us to see what is supposed to be there. In other words, we are able to see things that are not really there. [Tweet "We are able to see things that are not really there."] Think of the implications of this for our fixed mindset blind spots. A fixed mindset is the belief that certain talents or skills are set, and cannot be changed. Holding this fixed mindset leads our brain to interpret certain experiences to support that belief - therefore, we are not aware of that blind spot. So, what does this imply for a Self-Employed Professional? Most Self-Employed work alone, at least most of the time, so they cannot rely on the other eye – another person – to see what falls within their blind spots. So it becomes, even more essential to become ware of our blind spots and understand how we fill the missing information in with our own beliefs. Probably you never thought about this before. I hope that you start to look for situations that challenge you, to become aware of your own bias. This is the first step in the process to move from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset. Love to hear your comments about this :)

Not long ago, I read a book entitled: So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love The author, Cal Newport, argues that “follow your passion” is bad advice. So often, we hear this advice “follow your passion”, that we don't question its validity. What I love about Cal Newport’s book is that it’s truly thought provoking, and questions that assumption that so many people have that “follow your passion” is the most effective way to find the work we love. It’s easy to find examples of people who took this advice to heart. They left their paying jobs, followed their passion, and started their own businesses. However, a great number of these people failed in their small business adventures. Many wonder what they have done wrong. They followed their passion. They tried hard, but… What was missing? Probably many ingredients. For instance: - Lack of business skills (in this case the Book Yourself Solid® System can be a life saver.) - Lack of time and finances to keep going during the start-up stages of the business. - The belief that ”follow your passion” is the secret ingredient to love every minute of your work. Let’s focus for a moment on this quote from the book: "If you want to love what you do, abandon the passion mindset (“what can the world offer me?”) And instead adopt the craftsman mindset (“what can I offer the world?”)."- Cal Newport This quote reminds me of what I spoke about in Episode 4 of this podcast: The Growth Mindset versus the Fixed Mindset. The craftsman mindset is totally in line with the growth mindset - this is why I find it so appealing. If you read the book "So Good They Can’t Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love” you soon realize that the focus is on career advice, yet there are clear applications for any self-employed professional. It opens new possibilities to combine Cal’s ideas with the Book Yourself Solid® System perspective. For instance: 1- Start by defining your ideal clients. Those people who energize and inspire you. This is easier and more effective than to begin by defining your passion. 2- Define a specific interest and target your market. Aim to make your services remarkable, so people remark about it to others. An ideal target market has communication networks in place that will spread your services' remarkability. 3- It’s important to articulate your why and what you stand for. This is the core of your personal brand. As Michael Port, Book Yourself Solid®’s author, reminds us, ‘Rome wasn't build in a day,’ nor are most personal brands.  As a self-employed professional, patience is one of your most important skills. 4- Work to be an expert in a specific field and become recognized. However, before you go all out, be sure to check that people will pay for your expertise. If so, create a deliberate practice to improve your skills, and become “So Good They Can't Ignore You." You are then in a position to leverage your services to build the lifestyle you desire. Be realistic—don’t expect to love every minute of your work. Moreover, as Michael Port always tells us, "to succeed in business you have to learn to be comfortable with discomfort." [Tweet ""To succeed in business you have to learn to be comfortable with discomfort." Michael Port"] Or using Cal’s words: This is what you should experience in your own pursuit of “good.” If you’re not uncomfortable, then you’re probably stuck at an "acceptable level." And you will probably never become "So Good They Can't Ignore You."

The secret of success for self-employed professionals is developing a growth mindset. What does that mean? Let me define the opposite - fixed mindset. In a fixed mindset, we believe our basic qualities, such as intelligence or talents are set. We believe that we were born with certain talents that determine who we are and what we can achieve in our lives. In a growth mindset, we believe that through dedication and hard work we can develop our talents and skills sets. We are open to learning and more resilient. For instance, many of us believe that we are born with a fixed artistic talent. We believe that some people are born with that ability and other don't have that gift. Our minds are blown away when we see some people grab a pencil and sketch beautiful images that inspire and amaze us. However, our minds can be blown away even more, when we discover that we can also learn to draw well. I know it's hard to believe, but just visit this website - http://drawright.com/gallery.htm - and see  the before and after drawings collected from 5-day intensive drawing classes that follow the Drawing on the Right Side of the Brain method. How this applies to self-employed professionals? Many of us are very open to learning. We even consider ourselves life long learners. So, we have a growth mindset in many areas of our lives. Yet, we also carry some fixed mindsets in other areas that can prevent us from being successful in our businesses. For instance, think about sales. Very few service professionals see themselves with a gift for sales, and they believe that they will never be good sales people. Yet, if we challenge this belief as a fixed mindset and embrace a growth mindset, we can learn how to become more successful and helping more people as we sell our services. Remember: Mindsets are beliefs—beliefs about ourselves and our most basic qualities. If we believe that our qualities are fixed, they will remain unchanged. If we believe that our abilities can be changed and improved, we will increase our potential exponentially. Yes, we have to have dedication, focus, and effort. With passionate practice and learning, we can achieve our goals. [Tweet "With passionate practice and learning, we can achieve our goals"] And, these concepts are backed-up by many research studies. If you want to learn more, read the book Mindset. The author, Carol Dweck, a Stanford University psychologist, describes decades of research on why people succeed or fail, and how the fixed and growth mindsets play a role in this process. Other links referenced in the podcast: How to change from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset  (UPDATE 2019: the site mindsetonline.com no longer exists) To Sell Is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others by Daniel H. Pink Book Yourself Solid® ... Even if You Hate Marketing and Selling by Michael Port

Last week I spoke about the Art of Repurposing and a new perspective from the Icarus Myth I learned from one of my favorite authors: Seth Godin. During that episode, I said: If we want to succeed, we may fail many times. Now, I want to correct myself: If we want to succeed, we must fail many times. We must build a strong failure resilience if we want success. It took me a long time to internalize this maximum, and I have to admit it’s not always comfortable to follow. Two resources that help me build my failure resilience are: ONE- Sara Blakely: "What did I fail at today?” See the video below and ask yourself: - "What did I fail at today?” TWO- The other resource is a book titled:Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There The author Richard Fenton and Andrea Waltz create a compelling story to show us how our image of a fork in the road where one option is failure and the other option is success, is a misleading one. A better and more realistic visualization is to see failures are the stepping stones to success. What are you waiting for: Just take the risk, do it, fail, learn and try again. Repeat this, as many time as you need, to succeed.