Embracing All of Me

Ever wish you had a personal coach cheering you on when dating gets complicated? Meet Coach Danny Morales—a dynamic relationship mentor for gay and bisexual men. In this candid interview, Coach Danny unpacks everything from setting boundaries and navigating fear to surviving breakups and coming out on your own terms. Learn why “dating yourself first” isn’t just a cute slogan, but the key to building genuinely healthy relationships—both with partners and with yourself. If you’ve ever felt stuck or misunderstood in your love life, Coach Danny’s fresh insights on communication, self-validation, and community can help you embrace your identity and own your worth. Tune in for a conversation that just might shift your entire approach to dating and relationships. Learn more about Coach Danny at https://www.thecoachdanny.com/Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the ⁠Interest Form⁠ for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ Men, so you don't miss it. Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠

In a media landscape obsessed with spectacle, DL (down-low) men are often punchlines, predators, or shadows. But what if we stopped moralizing and started listening?In this episode, Ross peels back the layers of DL discourse to explore the survival strategies behind the silence. Through the story of Adam, a bisexual man from Ghana denied asylum in the UK, and his own reflections growing up bisexual in Los Angeles, Ross examines how fear, safety, and structural oppression shape disclosure. With sharp clarity and deep compassion, It exposes how bi+ men of color often become collateral damage in conversations not actually about them.We map out common concerns, especially from women, around intimacy and betrayal, and invite everyone into a more honest, informed dialogue.Whether you're DL, closeted, bi, pan, queer, questioning, or a witness to the growth and transformation of others navigating society, this episode honors your survival and your right to choose.Adam's Story referenced in the episodehttps://www.rainbowmigration.org.uk/stories/adams-story/

What happens when “I love you” is answered with a plate of perfectly sliced pears? In this tender, laugh‑out‑loud episode, Ross sits down with Chinese‑Canadian spoken‑word powerhouse Anto Chan to trace the messy alchemy that turns generational pain into punchlines.Together they unpack:​Ancestral wounds, intergenerational trauma, and the model‑minority cage​Queerness, masculinity, and why love languages can feel like different dialects​Art as a mentor—how Anto’s poems run five years ahead of his healed perspective​Transforming grief into stand‑up comedy without erasing the ache​The radical courage of saying “I love you” first (even if the reply is fruit)​This conversation is equal parts heart‑hug and gut‑check, a soft yet radical invitation to speak your truth, risk being seen, and dare to find comedy in the cracks of sorrow. If you’ve ever wondered how to reunite with your inner child, honor your ancestors, or laugh while the room shakes, press play!Anto Chan on IGInnergenerational Website

In this gentle guided meditation, listeners are invited to reconnect with yourself as a living archive, a breathing, evolving, record of memory, emotion, and becoming.Through a somatic journey of the body and a inner visualization, you’ll explore the stories stored in your chest, shoulders, stomach, throat, and beyond. You’ll step inside a quiet room within, a sacred inner archive, where a moment awaits: the opportunity to witness and embrace a forgotten version of yourself with curiosity and care.This meditation is for anyone navigating identity, healing, or transformation. No need to fix or perform, only to return to a truth already living inside you.Affirmation:“I am a living archive. Layered. Sacred. Whole.I honor every version of me and choose to continue living my story.”

What if your name was the gateway to the highest version of yourself? In this episode, host Ross Victory sits down with Zamokuhle Zulu, a South African scholar-activist, lecturer, artist, and writer whose work spans African feminism, decolonial psychology, and building Pan-African LGBTQ+ networks.Zamo shares how reclaiming his bisexual identity meant reconciling personal truth with collective cultural responsibilities, in a society where family and community remain central to survival. He speaks candidly about growing up in a township, moving to Cape Town, confronting generational trauma, and why “coming out” isn’t always the safest form of queer expression in the diaspora.Together, they unpack how African feminism became a liberating framework for Zamo to find his voice, and why some Black Americans believe queerness is a colonial import, despite rich pre-colonial histories of fluid identity across the continent.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt torn between tradition and truth, duty and desire. Zamo offers a path toward embracing oneself that resists erasure and reclaims belonging across borders by realizing you don't have to be anything. You get to sit down, be you, and do what you do!Marginalized Experiences of Black Bisexual Men in South Africa: Voices of Resilience: Centre for Human Rights University of PretoriaZamo on InstagramEmail Zamo: zamokuhle.zulu@outlook.com

What does it truly mean to belong, especially when your experiences and identity feel like an anomaly, fragmented and caught between worlds? In this solo episode, host Ross Victory unpacks the complexities of belonging beyond corporate slogans. Through reflections on history, culture, and ancestry, Ross challenges the notion that belonging is a fixed destination. Instead, he offers belonging and the sense of "home" as an active practice, a rhythm of returning to oneself over and over again. If you’ve ever felt not queer enough, not bisexual enough, not something enough, this episode offers insight, grounding, and prioritizes self-reunion over performance.For deeper discovery, download the Worksheet: Self-Inquiry on Belonging, Place, and RootednessAre you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the ⁠Interest Form⁠ for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ & Pan Men," so you don't miss it. Follow us on ⁠Instagram⁠.

In this moving episode, Pastor Xavier shares his journey from growing up in 1960s South Central Los Angeles to relocating to Altadena/Pasadena area, where he faced the devastating 2025 Eaton Fires that destroyed over 9,000 structures and claimed at least 18 lives. He discusses how spoken word poetry became a lifeline for processing trauma in the face of mass destruction and loss.Raised in conservative evangelical Christian churches, Pastor Xavier reflects on surviving abuse and the decades long struggle to understand his bisexual identity. He examines how rigid traditions within some Christian institutions can deter critical thinking and hinder personal growth.Drawing from over 30 years of ministry, he offers insights into identifying affirming Christian churches that uphold both biblical integrity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. With his mother as his biggest advocate and a renewed connection to scripture, Pastor Xavier reimagines his faith as a source of healing, justice, and service to youth at large.This conversation invites listeners to reflect: Who shaped our beliefs? Can faith and identity coexist? How does questioning authority lead to self-discovery?And above all, Pastor Xavier reminds us: who we are is God’s greatest gift.Resources from Pastor Xavier:​Kathy Baldock – Author of "Walking the Bridgeless Canyon," and former evangelical who explores how cultural and political forces shaped anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and theology. Recommended for: unpacking myths, observing social, political, scientific, cultural timelines, and reclaiming inclusive faith.​Father Richard Rohr – Catholic priest and author. Quote: “Sin is being complicit in the suffering of the world.” Recommended for: reframing sin through compassion and justice. Suggested Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprahs-super-soul/id1264843400?i=1000415592929​The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron – A book on creative recovery through journaling and reflection. Recommended for: healing trauma, reclaiming joy, and nurturing inner creativity.​Queerfully and Wonderfully Made by Leigh Finke​The Gospel of Inclusion - Brandan J Robertson​Outside the Lines - Mihee Kim-Kort​Changing Our Mind - David P GusheeAffirming Faith Communities & Organizations◦The New Evangelicals – Jesus-centered, inclusive, and justice-focused◦The Reformation Project – Bible-based LGBTQ+ inclusion https://reformationproject.org/◦Q Christian Fellowship – Community for LGBTQ+ believers seeking truth and belonging - https://www.qchristian.org/◦Post-Evangelical Collective - https://www.postevangelicalcollective.org/◦https://www.gaychurch.org/Biblical References from Pastor Xavier:◦Matthew 22 – Misuse of scripture and Jesus’ correction of religious leaders◦1 Corinthians 13:4–8 – The nature of God’s love◦Jeremiah 1 :4-8– Affirmation of calling and worth◦Luke 10:25-37, Parable of the Good Samaritan – Radical inclusion◦Galatians 1:1-2:10 - Gospel of Uncircumcision = Inclusion for those excluded by the Law ◦Matthew 5-7 - Sermon on the Mount – Reinterpreting law through love

How do you reconcile family expectations, cultural traditions, and queer identity—especially when you’re growing up in rural China? Join host Ross Victory as he sits down with Dr. Chongzheng Wei, a Chinese clinical psychologist and bisexual activist whose extraordinary path spans rural southern China, Thailand, France, and the United States. Hear how Chongzheng navigated stigma, internalized shame, and family obligations to find empowerment through personal and professional advocacy. Discover how geography and cultural factors influence the mental health needs of bisexual individuals and why tailored support networks, online and in-person, are crucial for overcoming isolation. If you’ve ever struggled to honor your heritage without erasing who you are, or wondered how to find a community that embraces every facet of your identity, this deeply personal conversation offers keen insights and practical steps for claiming your full self. Holding onto our roots doesn’t mean letting go of our truths.Are you interested in using the art of writing for personal development? Fill out the Interest Form for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ & Pan Men," so you don't miss it. Follow us on Instagram.

In this guided meditation from Embracing All of Me, host Ross Victory invites you to release shame, silence, and the inherited weight of stigma. Through breath, visualization, and affirmations, you’ll reconnect with your inner light and remember that you are not broken, in-between, or too much—you are whole. This episode is designed for anyone navigating layered identities, especially those in the bisexual, pansexual, fluid, and queer communities who’ve been required to shrink, split, compartmentalize, cover or conceal to survive. Return to your body. Root yourself in your truth. Carry forward only what is yours.

Free worksheet download link included!In this episode, we explore the “paradox of visibility” within the LGBTQ+ community—especially for those of us who are bisexual/bi+/pan and feel misrepresented in the world at large. Visibility is be a powerful statement of existence and self-worth. Yet it also comes with risks: being seen can make you a target and a political scapegoat, while being erased and overlooked can lead to feels of despair and unworthiness.Drawing on personal reflections, Ross introduces a companion to visibility: embodiment. Rather than asking to be acknowledged, embodiment asks us to discover ourselves from the inside out to take inventory of what we need. He discusses how institutions and mainstream narratives weren’t built with our particular life experiences in mind, why external validation alone falls short, and how cultivating a sense of wholeness and "glow" can transform both our lives and the people around us. Tune in to learn practical questions for distinguishing whether you’re acting to “be seen” or to “feel more like yourself."For deeper discovery, download our worksheet "Visibility & Embodiment" here.If you are interested in using the power of writing for personal development and self inquiry - Fill out the Interest Form for the upcoming book "Embracing All of Me: Identity-focused Writing & Self Discovery for Bi+ Men, so you don't miss it. Follow us on Instagram.