In this moving episode, Pastor Xavier shares his journey from growing up in 1960s South Central Los Angeles to relocating to Altadena/Pasadena area, where he faced the devastating 2025 Eaton Fires that destroyed over 9,000 structures and claimed at least 18 lives. He discusses how spoken word poetry became a lifeline for processing trauma in the face of mass destruction and loss.

Raised in conservative evangelical Christian churches, Pastor Xavier reflects on surviving abuse and the decades long struggle to understand his bisexual identity. He examines how rigid traditions within some Christian institutions can deter critical thinking and hinder personal growth.

Drawing from over 30 years of ministry, he offers insights into identifying affirming Christian churches that uphold both biblical integrity and LGBTQ+ inclusion. With his mother as his biggest advocate and a renewed connection to scripture, Pastor Xavier reimagines his faith as a source of healing, justice, and service to youth at large.

This conversation invites listeners to reflect: Who shaped our beliefs? Can faith and identity coexist? How does questioning authority lead to self-discovery?

And above all, Pastor Xavier reminds us: who we are is God’s greatest gift.

Resources from Pastor Xavier:

Kathy Baldock – Author of "Walking the Bridgeless Canyon," and former evangelical who explores how cultural and political forces shaped anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric and theology. Recommended for: unpacking myths, observing social, political, scientific, cultural timelines, and reclaiming inclusive faith.

Father Richard Rohr – Catholic priest and author. Quote: “Sin is being complicit in the suffering of the world.” Recommended for: reframing sin through compassion and justice. Suggested Listening: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oprahs-super-soul/id1264843400?i=1000415592929

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron – A book on creative recovery through journaling and reflection. Recommended for: healing trauma, reclaiming joy, and nurturing inner creativity.
Queerfully and Wonderfully Made by Leigh Finke

The Gospel of Inclusion - Brandan J Robertson

Outside the Lines - Mihee Kim-Kort

Changing Our Mind - David P Gushee

Affirming Faith Communities & Organizations

◦The New Evangelicals – Jesus-centered, inclusive, and justice-focused

◦The Reformation Project – Bible-based LGBTQ+ inclusion https://reformationproject.org/

◦Q Christian Fellowship – Community for LGBTQ+ believers seeking truth and belonging - https://www.qchristian.org/

◦Post-Evangelical Collective - https://www.postevangelicalcollective.org/

◦https://www.gaychurch.org/

Biblical References from Pastor Xavier:

◦Matthew 22 – Misuse of scripture and Jesus’ correction of religious leaders

◦1 Corinthians 13:4–8 – The nature of God’s love

◦Jeremiah 1 :4-8– Affirmation of calling and worth

◦Luke 10:25-37, Parable of the Good Samaritan – Radical inclusion

◦Galatians 1:1-2:10 - Gospel of Uncircumcision = Inclusion for those excluded by the Law

◦Matthew 5-7 - Sermon on the Mount – Reinterpreting law through love

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