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What if the most loving thing you can do... is let go? This episode is a powerful reminder that healing sometimes means detaching—even from the people we love most.In this episode, I’m joined by Kristina Wandzilak & Constance Curry , the mother-daughter duo behind the memoir The Lost Years: Surviving a Mother and Daughter’s Worst Nightmare. Their story is a raw and honest account of Kristina’s battle with addiction and Karen’s journey of learning how to love her daughter without losing herself.Key Takeaways...Detachment is love, not abandonment. Sometimes the most compassionate choice is stepping back and letting loved ones face their own consequences.Healing codependency starts with boundaries. Connie's recovery began when she stopped trying to save her daughter and focused on saving herself.Sobriety is just the beginning. Kristina reminds us that the real healing often starts after getting sober—and it’s a lifelong process.One person’s healing shifts the whole system. Connie's growth rippled through the entire family, proving real change doesn’t require everyone to get on board.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod⚠️Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You’ve probably heard of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs), but do you know how they shape your life—and how to break free from the cycles they create? In this week’s powerful episode, I’m joined by Dr. Nzinga Harrison—psychiatrist, addiction expert, co-founder of Eleanor Health, and all-around badass—as we unpack how childhood trauma, addiction, activism, and healing intersect.Nzinga’s story is one of resilience and radical love:Growing up in a family touched by both substance use disorder and activismNavigating her father’s PTSD and leadership in the Black Panther MilitiaTurning adversity into action through her work in trauma-informed addiction careThis conversation will hit home for anyone navigating the long shadows of childhood trauma, and especially for those of us committed to breaking the cycle for ourselves and future generations.💡 In this episode, we discuss:ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and PCES (Positive Childhood Experiences)—and how both shape your healing journeyThe impact of family dynamics, addiction, and racism on mental healthNzinga’s personal story of injustice: her brother’s wrongful incarceration and her family’s fight for justiceTrauma-informed care and why timing is everything when it comes to addressing traumaHow Nzinga’s work at Eleanor Health is transforming addiction treatment with compassion, equity, and scienceNew YouTube Video - The Many Faces of Functional Freeze: The Over-Functioning Fixer⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shitshow4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Dysfunctional families don’t raise kids—they assign roles. In this powerful episode, three sisters unpack the parts they were forced to play and how they’re breaking free.Andrea sits down with three sisters—Kayla, Mariah, and Jackie—to explore the complex and often unspoken dynamics between siblings raised in the same dysfunctional home. While they shared the same environment, their emotional experiences, survival strategies, and lasting wounds were remarkably different.Whether you’re the scapegoat, the golden child, the lost one, or somewhere in between, this conversation will leave you feeling seen.What you'll hear in this episode:The different “roles” assigned to siblings in dysfunctional families—and how they shape identity and self-worthHow unresolved childhood wounds continue to play out in adult relationshipsWhat it’s like to awaken to the dysfunction as siblings at different timesThe power of individual healing—and the added layer of healing alongside siblingsWhy finding community (like The Shitshow) can be a total game-changer🎧 Tune in now and be reminded: you’re not alone in untangling the past—and healing doesn’t have to be done in isolation.New YouTube Video - The Many Faces of Functional Freeze: Why You Can’t Get Anything Done⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shitshow4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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Blair O'Hara is a Psychotherapist & Reiki Healer specializing in healing inherited generational trauma and clearing mental & emotional blocks to achieve long-lasting health & happiness.We discuss how to heal intergenerational trauma, Family Tree Pyschotherapy, how unresolved trauma manifests as physical pain, and how the ending of his marriage was the catalyst to his inherited trauma to emerge and subsequent healing journey. and his journey of healing the inherited trauma of his great- grandfather's. And his realization that he had inherited his great granfather's trauma, and his healing journey.https://www.blairohara.com/⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shitshow4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

The Role of Humility in HealingHumility in trauma recovery isn’t about shrinking—it’s about softening. It’s the ability to face ourselves and our patterns without defensiveness or shame. So often, we expect healing to mean “getting over” something. But what if healing is about learning how to live with the parts of ourselves we can’t fully change? Some things—the body image issues, the fear of abandonment, the waves of rage or shutdown—don’t vanish completely. And when they resurface, it doesn’t mean we’ve failed. It just means we’re human. Real healing begins when we stop asking, “Why can’t I just let this go?” and start asking, “How can I be with this right now?”That shift takes humility. Not just the humility to say, “I’m hurting,” but also the humility to say, “This might be part of me for a long time—and I can still have a good life.” It’s not weakness. It’s strength. It’s letting go of the illusion that we’ll one day arrive at some perfected state of “healed.” Maybe we never will. Maybe healing is a verb, not a destination. Maybe the work is in allowing space for the mess to still exist without letting it define us. And maybe humility is what lets us stop striving and start accepting—with softness, not surrender.We were taught to strive for perfection, to hide our pain, to “fix” ourselves so we’d finally be worthy. But this path asks something different. It asks us to meet ourselves as we are. To integrate rather than erase. To stop waiting for some future version of us to be lovable. Humility doesn’t mean giving up—it means showing up. Gently. Again and again. Even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts.⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️https://theshitshow.mn.co4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod⚠️Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

You can’t heal what you’re still afraid to look at. This is about confronting what’s been buried—and learning to stop abandoning yourself in the process.In today’s episode, Andrea is diving deep into Steps 4–7 of the ACA program. These ask us to face the pain we’ve been avoiding, break dysfunctional family programming, and peel back the layers of protection to finally get back to you.How Step 4 helps us reclaim our story by facing patterns, wounds, and protective roles through a “blameless inventory” rooted in curiosity—not shameWhy sharing your truth in Step 5 breaks the toxic family rules of “don’t talk, don’t trust, don’t feel”—and opens the door to connection and releaseThe emotional shift that happens in Step 6 when we move from self-blame to readiness for growth—even when change feels unfamiliar or scaryHow Step 7 invites us to surrender old survival strategies with compassion, not criticism—and begin embracing who we were always meant to beAndrea’s reflections on how these steps cracked open her healing in sobriety, and how they continue to shape her recovery today(In case you didn't hear last week's episode on Steps 1-3, you can here --> The Healing Sequence: Denial, Awareness, Acceptance & Action)⬇️DAMN THE JOIN SHITSHOW - ADULT CHILD HEALING COMMUNITY⬇️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shitshow4 weekly zoom support groups (Sun 3: 30 pm EST, Mon 8:30 pm EST, Tues 1 pm EST, & Thurs 8:30 pm EST)Support community at your fingertips with discussion boards and chat📰SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION - ADULT CHILD NEWSLETTER👩HELP A GIRL & CAT EAT🐱  www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild🛍️SHITSHOW MERCH🛍️www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop🎙️NEW TO THE POD🎙️How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 BriansTHE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult ChildFollow Andrea on socialwww.instagram.com/adultchildpodwww.tiktok.com/@adultchildpodhttps://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpodCheck out La Pure and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://www.lapurecosmetics.comOur Sponsors:* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code ADULTCHILD for a great deal: https://happymammoth.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy