Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Today’s guest is Jamie Glowacki, a social worker who worked with dual diagnosis moms, transitioned to owning a children’s store and then became a potty trainer. We are discussing potty training. Join us! “I don’t really have a method. You have to take off the diapers.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The elimination communication movement Timing of potty training readiness “Pull-ups” and potty training – mixing old and new behaviors. Potty training and instant gratification – the role of patience in the process The myths of potty training Gender and potty training The role of social learning and praise Potty location and using the tool for the task The influence of Dr. Spock and the history of potty training Developmental milestones – should they be child-led? The myth of “readiness” - potty training as a skill that needs to be attended to rather than something that happens naturally in time without intervention The “magic window” of potty training – prior to individuation Potty training as a power struggle “Fear of release” – how to overcome it Managing expectations around developmental milestones and the danger of comparison How potty training challenges vary based on the age of the child Performance anxiety and potty training The best potty and ergonomic angle for potty training specifically for encouraging poop How to modify your potty or reposition your child to improve poop likelihood Rewards and consequences – their role in potty training Potty training power struggles as relationship challenges Potty training regressions – change in routines, the honeymoon period Using blocks of learning to solve regressions “Baby love” as a tool to help kids adjust to new siblings Location specific potty training challenges – how to unpack them Night time training strategies Developmental phases of bladder development   Resources:Squatty potty unicorn ice cream videoIs Night Training Really Necessary – blog post Oh Crap Potty Training BookOh Crap Potty Training video conferences  Where to find Jamie:WebsiteTwitterFacebook  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves...:::::So totally honored to have my friend and mentor, Tamara Azar, trainer and coach from Momentum Education on to talk about the important work that Momentum is doing to change the world.Listen in to the very end to hear about the incredibly generous offer to all the Joyful Courage Tribe!Find out more about Momentum Education, including upcoming trainings in Seattle, LA, Washington DC and NYC, by visiting www.momentumeducation.com.:::::March GIVEAWAY!The last few months I have been encouraging you all to share the shows by holding giveaways - everything from mantra bracelets to coaching has gone out to members of the community who have been willing to join in the work of #impact1millionkids - this month is no exception!!Simply by posting a podcast link, and tagging me (Casey O'Roarty) or Joyful Courage, you are entered to win!! This month I am giving away a spot in the Living Joyful Courage Membership program - WOOHOO!! AND, you can enter as many times as you WANT! Yes!:::::Weekly FB Lives are happening!!Join me every Tuesday at 10am pst on the Joyful Courage FB page to hear about a new Positive Discipline tool that you can begin using ASAP. Even if you are well versed in parenting with PD, you will take a way a renewed commitment and perhaps a deeper understanding of the tool.:::::Living Joyful Courage Membership ProgramJoin the LIVING JOYFUL COURAGE information list TODAY and enjoy freebies and reminders for when it is time to REGISTER for the membership program!!:::::Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves...:::::Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Shawn Fink, also known as Abundant Mama. She is a mom of eleven-year-old twin girls. We are discussing living a life of abundance in our parenting. Join us! “For me, being awake is being engaged, being thoughtful, being very purposeful, living my values but also being present.”“Mistakes are opportunities to learn.”“Abundance is looking at your life and being grateful that you have enough, that you are enough and you do enough – but it’s much more than that. It’s become a lifestyle.”“There is enough happiness, joy and love in the world for everybody.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Moving from scarcity to abundance mindsets – from jealousy to gratitude Abundance as a way to mother yourself, be authentic and be aware of what’s around and within you Being awesomely awake: paying attention to your life, being mindful and living intentionally Self-care vs Soul-care – what’s the difference and how can it change your life and the way you see it? Being present and discomfort – learning to navigate it vs as being a way to eliminate it How to exercise self-compassion when you haven’t showed up in the way that you’ve hoped to Modelling asking for forgiveness for your kids The joys and challenges of raising tweens Motherhood as self-invention Learning to connect with your children as they grow – navigating relationship change The value in letting kids fail when they need to – leaving room for life lessons and learning how to handle discomfort The power of injecting playfulness into your routine and how it can be productive Finding joy in obligation Building habits for effectiveness in your parenting life  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful Courage is the joyful ability to completely show up as yourself and be you, as a mom, it’s really hard because we are trying so hard to keep everyone else happy. There is nothing better for our kids than for them to see us being fully ourselves. Resources:Insight timerThe Playful Family E-bookThe Abundant Mama online program10 Habits of Highly Effective Mamas Where to find Shawn:FacebookInstagramTwitterPinterestWebsite Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Kim Muench, a mother of five, parenting writer, a certified parenting coach and lover of parents of adolescents. We are discussing navigating decisions around technology with our kids. Join us! “Instead of looking at it as a tool of potential destruction, we are looking at it as a vehicle for us to build a circle of trust and communicate even better.”“Conscious parenting: being mindful and walking the tight rope between giving them autonomy and knowing when to step in and help them see the potential consequences of choices” What you’ll hear in this episode: Balancing your need for control and desire to protect your kids with providing access to benefits of smart phones Building trust, letting go of our own experiences and not projecting our own mischief (which can lead to friction) Navigating the tightrope: being honest, open and self-aware as you work through technology use with your kids Negotiating smart phone boundaries within your family Scaffolding social media communication – building progressively Adolescent boundary pushing as learning Falling off the tight rope – learning as a practice and getting back up Creating an agreement around technology usage – a collaborative approach subject to revision as needed initiated by either party Limits as helping Why you need open conversation about social media including topics such as safeguards and kindness Technology as distraction and disconnection Reassessing agreements on technology without blame and shame The value of eye contact and being fully present in resolving conflict How to address reigning in technology use under the umbrella of conscious parenting – identifying the source Working collaboratively vs exerting control – what are the outcomes of these approaches? What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful Courage is embracing your authentic self with enthusiasm and being brave enough to share that with the world – it is an every day practice.Resources:Screenagers documentary Where to find Kim:WebsiteTwitterFacebookLinkedInFacebook Group Real Life Parenting Community Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's guest is Melissa Benaroya. Melissa is a licensed clinical social worker with 20 years of experience working with children and families. Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and is trained in Positive Discipline. She is also a Certified Gottman Educator offering the Bringing Baby Home Program for families with young children and workshops on Emotion Coaching. Melissa practices as a parenting consultant, coach and speaker to groups and individuals by blending her clinical training with her knowledge of child development and discipline. In 2011 she co-authored the book The Childproof Parent.Melissa lives in Seattle with her husband and two children and keeps her sanity with an active lifestyle of running and Crossfit!“Empathy is the ability to feel and understand what another person may be feeling but ultimately … it means connection … and feeling understood.”What you’ll hear in this episode:·     Learning to use empathy as a first response and a parenting tool·     Empathy as reflecting your child’s feeling back to them versus owning their feelings or relating our own personal experiences·     How using personal experiences in place of empathy can escalate conflict·     How to use empathy to help your child build emotional resilience·     Using empathy effectively to help your child feel heard·     Empathy as a practice and a gradual learning process·     Childhood developmental milestones in empathy·     How to model empathy for your kids·     Using the “Fake It Til You Become It” approach to empathy in your parenting·     Being mindful of your physical self in how you demonstrate and model empathy·     Parenting from the couch as a barrier to empathy·     Echoing, mirroring and repetition as empathy·     The power of validation in feeling heard – when looking on the bright side gets in the way·     Empathy as a transferrable skill. What does Joyful Courage mean to you?It takes courage to take risks and try new things and that’s where joy exists. It’s what parenting requires of us – taking risks and trying new things. Empathy might be taking a risk because it doesn’t feel natural and we are going to have to take lots of risks and try new things throughout our parenting journey. It not only makes us a better parent but it also helps us to grow as an individual and that’s where the joy exists.Resources:The Child-proof Parent Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest ChallengesWhere to find Melissa:Website Child-proof Parenting website Facebook Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves...:::::Today’s guest is Rachel Macy Stafford, founder of Handsfree Mama, best selling author and special education teacher. We are discussing letting go of distractions so you can focus on what really matters. Join us!“There is no space for perfection in parenting and living boldly. I want to live bravely, boldly, flawed and full of hope.” What you’ll hear in this episode:  Parenting and opportunities to choose to be mindful Avoiding getting caught up in the moment as a practice Making a “presence” pledge to yourself Surrendering and learning to let go of control and expectations of mastery or of a certain outcome Raising future adults and allowing space for practice Self-care and the importance of “do nothing” moments The value of physical self-care Resources:Only Love Today – pre-order until March 7Where to find Rachel:Website l Facebook l Twitter::::::::::FEED 3,000LET'S FEED SOME PEOPLE!!I would love to invite you to join me in making 3,000 snack sacks over the next three months and take them to organizations that serve the hungry!!Not one of us can make all those lunches ourselves - BUT ALL OF US TOGETHER SURE CAN!!So here is the plan, host a gathering at your house and invite other families over. Have each family bring some supplies and together make as many snack sacks as you can!!Click here for the Feed 3,000 Facebook Event LinkClick her to go donate to the Feeding America page.::::::::::Join the Joyful CourageTribe in our community Facebook group - Live and Love with Joyful Courage. Raising our children while growing ourselves...::::::::::Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Joyful Courage Podcast on iTunes to get the latest shows STRAIGHT to your device!! AND PLEASE rate and review the Joyful Courage Parenting Podcast on iTunes to help me spread the show to an ever larger audience!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to DAY THREE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Molly Knight Forde (Episode 7) meditation teacher and guide at the Awareness School.Listen in to learn: What is a meditation practice? How to create a practice that works for you? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Molly.Happy Meditating!!Click here to check out the newest online offer from Molly!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to DAY TWO of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Sara Harvey Yao (Episode 68) author of Drop In: Lead With Deeper Presence and Influence.Listen in to learn: Who is meditation for? What are the benefits of meditation? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation guided by Sara.Happy Meditating!!Join me tomorrow as I finish up the mini-summit with a conversation with Molly Knight Forde about creating a lasting meditation practice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to DAY ONE of the Mindfulness Mini Summit brought to you by Joyful Courage! I am thrilled to be talking today with Jiovann Carrasco (Episode 43) from the Austin Mindfulness Center.Listen in to learn: What is meditation? What isn't meditation? And enjoy a 10 minute guided meditation Jiovann designed just for parents like YOU!Happy Meditating!!Join me tomorrow as I talk with Sara Harvey Yao about the benefits and possibilities of meditation for parents. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Mary Jo, a coach who focuses on relationships and connections. We are discussing love, romance and intimacy after becoming parents. Join us!“It’s less about the action you take. We look for the action. There’s so many different actions you can take, it doesn’t really matter. The experience is about the connection to your heart. It’s about being connected to what really matters. The actions won’t sustain you or your relationship. Listen to your heart and let that inspire you.”What you’ll hear in this episode:•   Finding time for intimacy •   The importance of intimacy – finding your why •   Intimacy as parenting: part of role modeling healthy relationships •   Creating an invitation to intimacy: first steps •   Masculine and feminine energy – what’s the difference and why they are both in all of us •   Balancing energy to promote your child’s autonomy •   Vulnerability, touch and exploring connection •   Vulnerability as strength •   Relationships take two people, but relating takes one. •   Putting up a screen to filter inputs vs putting up a shield •   Distinguishing sex and intimacy – moving beyond euphemism •   Connecting to “adjust the volume” vs “turning from off to on” – making smooth transitions to intimacy through ongoing mindfulness and connection •   Reminding our partner and ourselves of what we appreciate about each other •   Resolving disconnection through self-celebration and self-care •   How to be curious about identifying and problem solving barriers to intimacy •   Engaging universal parenting skills that we practice with our kids •   The power of “I’ve Missed You” and remembering the intention •   Improving the likelihood of successful connection through celebration and reverence vs. complaint •   Letting go of expectations to leave space for what comes naturally     What does Joyful Courage mean to you?The fun in being courageous is getting on that super big rollercoaster. It’s not just about death defying acts of meeting demons. It’s really fun to be courageous because it brings amazing results. Connecting those two words is so important because it takes courage to be joyful and how amazing is courage when it has joy in it. It means to be inspired.Where to find MaryJo:Maryjolorei.com Boldly embody life Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices