Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

 ** This podcast is marked explicit for a reason!**So happy to have my friend Rebecca Gallagher, from frugalistablog.com on this bonus episode to dig into the popular and controversial Netflix series 13 Reasons Why. Rebecca is raising teens, and like me, watched the show and had powerful discussions about the themes that show up with her daughter.Rowan and I actually watched the show together.The themes that show up in 13 Reasons Why, created by Brian Yorkey and based on a book of the same name by Jay Ashor, are heavy, and intense. Some parents are unsure about whether it is something they want their kids to see.Rebecca and I don't claim to have answers, but we do discuss our own opinions and experiences we had with sharing the show with our kids and the conversation that showed up because of it.Topics include sexual assault, bullying, sexual harassment, rape and suicide. Like I said, intense. AND important to be talking about with the young people in our life.Let me know what you think! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest, Noha Alshugairi, is a “citizen of the world,” a licensed marriage and family therapist who practices in Newport Beach, California and positive discipline trainer. We are discussing positive discipline in the Muslim home. Join us!“I don’t need to be preaching what Islam says to us in order to be teaching Positive Discipline.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Diversity within the Muslim community (80 groups, with differing faith) How Muslim teachings align with Positive Discipline principles (building social interest, fostering belonging and contribution, understanding the belief behind the behavior, encouragement, mutual respect, kindness and firmness at the same time, short-term vs long-term and focus on solutions) How does Islam promote mutual respect? The concept of obedience as it relates to both Islam and Positive Discipline Doing the best you can with the tools you have – how excellence at 3 or 4 looks difference than excellence in adolescence The impacts of hanging onto childhood hurt in adulthood What non-Muslims are most surprised to learn about Muslim families Concerns of Muslim parents – how to protect children from Islamophobia & how to build a cultural identity they can be proud of? Finding peace through focus on your circle of influence and stepping away from victimhood How to broaden your understanding and support for the Muslim community Connecting with larger groups as minority group members to move past stereotypes  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Having joy while you are facing life. It’s difficult because life is not smooth sailing. Resources: Positive Parenting in the Muslim Home7 Habits of Highly Effective People  Where to find Nosha: Website – Sakina CounsellingWebsite – Positive Parenting in the Muslim HomeFacebookl Youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Angela Pruess, a child and family therapist and special needs mom of 3 on a mission to support and empower parents of behaviorally challenging and special needs kids. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! What you’ll hear in this episode: Gentle parenting defined – intentionality, connection Attachment theory and gentle parenting Avoiding slipping into extremes with gentle parenting Optimal attachment parenting – responsive and nurturing while setting limits and boundaries How to get perspective when you feel “stuck” in parenting patterns that aren’t working Focussing on the long view of what values you are wanting to raise your child with Understanding the “why” behind your child’s behavior – physiologically speaking particularly for special needs kids Interventions that focus on the root of behavior versus the surface level behaviors Backing up and zooming out as a practice to respond more effectively to challenging behaviors Intentionality and mindfulness as parenting techniques to reduce overwhelm in parenting special needs kids Moving from victimhood and blame to becoming influencers of parenting experiences Grief in special needs parenting and unpacking those complicated feelings Techniques for working through tough feelings and heavy thoughts to create space for something different The need for self-care in special needs parenting, and being mindful about what activities are most helpful The freedom of self-compassion and intentionality of gratitude Asking for help: not a sign of weakness, an invitation to community Lagging skills vs undesirable behavior – learning to focus on the right area to improve outcomes  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Through a parenting with confidence lens, having the courage to boldly walk this path that’s challenging and unexpected, to move forward feeling confident and feeling like you’re giving your child your best self. Also, being able to do so with joy and having this genuine acceptance of our story – who our child is and who we are. They were given to us and we were woven together for a reason. Having courage and finding joy through the struggles and unexpected challenges. Resources:Aha parenting website The Explosive Child – Ross Greene Positive Discipline for Children With Special Needs Where to find Angela:WebsiteFacebookTwitterPinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Leanne Kabat is on the show today talking about her vision of a world where mamas come together to love, support and CELEBRATE all parts of themselves!!Leanne is the Head Mama of Mamacon, an annual conference for moms in the Pacific Northwest. She shares her story, her inspiration, and her desire to connect mamas not only to themselves, but also to each other.Join us at Mamacon, April 29th from 2-10pm. Get your tickets here!! BOGO sale is happening through midnight, Friday, April 14. GET ON IT - bring a friend, TREAT yourself!!Where to follow Leanne and Mamacon:Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Lisa Fuller. Lisa Fuller, M.S.W., Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, Certified Professional Coach and a Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator, has been working with parents since 2005 to help them find joy and moment of peace even in the midst of chaos. Lisa’s a compassionate listener whose committed to empowering parents through Positive Discipline’s common sense principles. Having three children ages 21, 17 and 10, Lisa’s steeped in the challenges and joys of parenting. Lisa also offers one on one coaching for parenting and life! She believes the world is a better place when we—adults and children—strive to treat each other with respect and love.Today we are talking about developing shame resilience.“Shame is something that we all have. It’s universal. Every human being experiences shame – those who don’t usually have some significant problems. It’s not a bad thing. That’s one good thing about shame – it means you are a caring human being.” What you’ll hear in this episode: What is shame and why should we talk about it? How positive discipline relates to shame Shame and guilt – what’s the difference? How do they connect to humiliation and embarrassment? The physical sensations of shame The individual personal nature of shame Practicing critical awareness – how to reality check the messages that are driving your shame The value of having someone to talk through shame with What makes a good person to talk shame with How to encourage shame resilience in children Reducing shame by normalizing experiences Creating opportunities for belonging What it means to lead with the message with love How to connect without trying to fix Empathy and shame – how to support when you can’t relate to the experience Cultivating relationships that allow us to speak to our shame How to show up in your relationships that shows you are a safe place to talk shame Doing vs Being – their roles in building shame resilience Personal practices for finding joy within instead of looking to our children to complete us  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Taking risks with heart. The courage is taking the risks and moving ahead and doing it but doing it with your full being. The last couple years I’ve had some very significant deaths in my life and I think in so many ways it’s been a gift – it does highlight joy, the simple joy of being alive and how I’m able to be more grateful that I have this gift of life which isn’t going to last forever. Losing people who are close to us that’s the upside is that we go “Wow, this is temporary, this life, it really is.” I think when we get caught in the swirl of parenting we can ‘beam in’ – these other, bigger issues help us beam out. Joy helps with shame and getting perspective. Resources: The Daring Way Daring GreatlyMonthly Support Group (With Marcillie Smith Boyle and Lisa Fuller) Where to find Lisa:Website l Twitter l Facebook l LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Cheryl Erwin, a therapist and parenting educator who began teaching parenting after her marriage broke down. We are discussing single parenting today. Join us!  What you’ll hear in this episode: The biggest challenges facing single parenting – finances, housing, misconceptions/stereotypes Asking for help as a single parent Making time for special time and relationship building when you’re outnumbered Using connection to build resilience Self-care and self-compassion after divorce and separation Finding joy vs creating joy – finding happy after separation The blessings and gifts of being a single parent The two kinds of special time The power of routine in single parenthood The value of spontaneity and choosing into lightness Lessons in delayed gratification, hard work and problem solving Learning to grow from mistakes Positive discipline as a single parenting tool Learning to let go after raising kids as a single parent Strength that comes from adversity – a gift of single parenthood Choosing to go high when others go low – child-centered co-parenting Being honest about co-parenting challenge while still being respectful and giving space for relationships to be maintained Single parenting by numbers – 70% of American kids spend some of their time in a single parent household Step parents as blessings to your children The importance of facilitating communication between parents and children during the other parent’s parenting times  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?To take each day as it comes and look for what’s right about it not what’s wrong with it and to not be afraid of risk – I’ve never been a good risk taker but as a single mom I learned I have to take some. As someone who now travels the world teaching positive discipline I’ve gotten comfortable with getting on planes and flying off to Egypt by myself when I don’t know anybody there and some of the greatest joy and blessings of my life have been when I found the joy and courage to take an appropriate risk. You don’t have to fly to China or Egypt to do that. You can do it right in your own backyard. Certainly the single parents who are listening know that life can be risky on a pretty regular basis and being able to embrace that and learn the skills you need to be able to do that well will bring you joy in your kids, joy in your grandparents and joy in your own life. At the end of it, my son goes off into the horizon and I’m left with my life and what I make of it and I’m trying to do something with my life that I can be proud of and that’s what joyful courage means to me. It’s taken me all of these 60 years to figure that out.Resources: Positive Discipline for Single Parents Where to find Cheryl:Website l Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Yipee - one more day of the 0-5 Mini Summit with Julietta!! Today Julie and I dig into questions from the community surrounding self care. We KNOW it is important, and yet so many of us struggle to get it in! Listen in as Jules and I discuss chores, having the courage to seek out mental health, and how self care tips that help us keep calm during those epic meltdowns.Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5. She has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators.Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.Find more about Sproutable at:http://www.besproutable.com/ Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Julietta is BACK ON to dig into the challenges brought to us by the Joyful Courage community. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5.Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators.Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.Find Sproutable at:http://www.besproutable.com/ Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You all know that I love me some Julietta Skoog! She is a dear friend and a WEALTH of information. Julietta is the cofounder of Sproutable, an online learning experience for parents, focused on development and years 0-5.Julietta has a Masters Degree in School Counseling and Ed.S Degree in School Psychology from Seattle University. As a Certified Positive Discipline Trainer, she teaches Positive Discipline parenting classes and provides Positive Discipline trainings for teachers and parent educators. Julietta led the Seattle Public Schools Childfind preschool assessment screening team from 2007-2014. She is currently the school counselor at Queen Anne Elementary. She is the proud mother of two daughters ages 7 and 4. She understands the parenting challenges as well as the importance of early intervention and child development.Yup. She's amazing.Listen in to todays show as we break down Eric Ericksons model of psychosocial development and what WE as parents can do to ensure that our children are developing trust, autonomy, initiative and industry during their early years.Join us tomorrow as Julie and I dig into challenges sent in from the Joyful Courage community. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Kim Estes, a speaker and coach who talks to parents of kids from pre-school to adolescents about safety concerns. We are discussing free-range parenting. Join us!“Our kids are wanting to explore their world and it’s our job to teach them to do it safely.” What you’ll hear in this episode: Misconceptions about free-range parenting Boundaries in free-range parenting: subject to change based on individual children and age-level Assessing age and individual capacity specific boundaries – the value of checking in for safety Free-range parenting as giving kids space to practice intuition Fear of judgment and free-range parenting Risk assessment and safety – likelihood of concerns relating to traffic safety and abduction Assessing risk tolerance as parents Stranger safety vs Stranger danger Free-range parenting as freedom within structure Finding the happy medium: learning new skills with appropriate boundaries Being consistent about expectations and boundaries Mistakes as learning experiences – handling situations where things don’t go as planned Being available and non-judgmental when negotiating boundaries – dropping into curiosity to keep communication lines open No questions asked, do-overs on both sides and owning failure Exercising self-compassion and forgiveness when you don’t realize you’re being called to “the big show” What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful courage means to me to be able to parent courageously even if it’s uncomfortable, but at the end of the day, having something that feels good for everybody even if it’s the smallest success.Where to find Kim:Website l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices