Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Casey takes listeners through real scenarios shared by our parenting community. She takes us through the process of connecting before correcting, so that we can create solutions with our kids. She invites listeners to recognize the tools we are using that aren't helpful, and shares how to replace them with tools that help us connect. while also guiding them to work together and find solutions that empower them.What you’ll hear in this episode: How to show up and hold space for problem solving with your kids Becoming aware of the rigidity and resistance when disciplining their kids Recognize that often the best solutions come directly from our kids Becoming aware of non-judgment and non-attachment and understand how this can positively influence the parent/child relationships What does it look like to surrender and how this can become a practice of modeling Understanding their developmentally appropriate behavior is not against parents – it’s their developmental phase. Brain development plays a major role in behaviors.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Yup. I interviewed my family. Really it was all in celebration of my husband for Father's Day. Listen in as we talk about a range of things from our birth story, to how AWESOME it is to be married to a parent educator, and advice for moms on how to talk to dads about parenting.Also, special guests appearances by my kids, who talk about what they love about their dad - from the early years to now.Let me know what you think!!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Casey invites fellow Positive Discipline Coach, Melissa Benaroya, to discuss surviving Summer Break. In this episode they offer practical tools and solutions to set you and your family up for a successful summer. Two to three months is a long time to keep your kids occupied and stimulated. Get an insight into the importance of boredom and why you don’t have to plan every single second of your children’s vacation. Tune in and learn how routine and summer coexist to help you have fun too! Melissa is a neighbor here in the Pacific Northwest. In addition to being a mother of two, Melissa has a Masters degree in Social Work, is a Credentialed School Counselor and a Certified Gottman Educator. You can find more about Melissa at melissabenaroya.com.What you’ll hear in this episode: The value in creating a summer consistency so your family knows what to expect. Why routines are not confining but an invitation to freedom. How consistency helps encourages children to manage themselves. Why moments of boredom are necessary and the benefits it offers growing kids! How to use mindfulness when creating a summer schedule. Tools are discussed to set up family agreements on everything from daily schedules to screen time use! You’ll learn how to involve your kids in creating a fun summer everyone will enjoy!  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?I think when I hear those two words side by side I think of having the courage to take risks and the joy that can result. Take some risks this summer and encourage your kids to do the same!Where to find Melissa:Facebook l TwitterHer book, “The Childproof Parent” is available on Amazon MELISSA'S WRITING HAS BEEN FEATURED IN: HUFFINGTON POST, PARENTMAP MAGAZINE, & NORTH STATE PARENT MAGAZINE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The first thing that stuck out about our next guest, Jeanne-Marie Paynel is her passion for lifelong learning. In addition to raising two beautiful children, Jeanne-Marie holds a Masters in Education, is the founder and CEO of Voila Montessori and is a Positive Discipline trainer. After reading Dr. Montessori’s work “The Secret of Childhood” she discovered a passion for guiding children and families in healthy parenting approaches. She wanted parents to appreciate the true importance of their role – not as servants or teachers, but as supporters and guides of their children’s natural development. This need in the global community prompted her to launch Voila Montessori, an accessible resources to guide parents in the Montesorri tradition and the Positive Discipline approach.What you’ll hear in this episode: It’s important to empower our children not enable them Setting up a prepared environment for your children’s learning The Montessori philosophy and how it helps children and families today Ways Positive Discipline and the Montessori method merge to provide support The benefits of a child’s freedom of movement and choice in their own environment Tools to help families nurture their child’s potential How to access Montessori methods and find an appropriate educational environment for your child.  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful Courage – to me for one what comes to mind is being aware of how lucky we are – the practice of gratitude is what brings me great joy. In the context of Montessori, being in awe of what your children are going through, their evolution, their adaptation to the world. Courage is speaking up for what is, and accepting at times that we might be wrong. That we might of not interacted with our child the way that would’ve felt better and to be okay with going to your child and saying “I didn’t like the way I did that” “I’m going to better next time”- It’s courageous for adults to say to a child that “I did something wrong”. Being aware that we are not perfect and we are learning next to them.Quotes:“We are not our children’s servants. We are here to empower them to do things for themselves”.“My child was going to be my guide in my parenting journey”. (a realization)“A child is an adult in the making”.Where to find Jeanne-Marie:Voila Montessori - http://www.voilamontessori.com/en/Pinterest l Facebook l YouTube l VimeoEbooks and Resources from Jeanne-Marie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meet Julie Stubblefield, founder of Fit Mom Revolution. She’s a mother, wife, fitness professional and all around inspiration of strength and confidence in how we care for our bodies. After years of struggling through the all too common yoyo game, Julie found that changing her attitude and perception around nourishing and moving her body she realized her body was whole, not broken. She’s bringing this “aha moment” and sharing it with moms everywhere inspiring a Fit Mom Revolution!What you’ll hear in this episode: The importance of stepping away from the diet cycle How changing the perception of our bodies will change how we approach the care we give our whole self Having a life you enjoy in a body you love Nourishment and movement are a family practice Giving gratitude around nourishment There is no “one size fits all”, must work for your family Instilling healthy meal time habits for all family members A healthy attitude towards nutrition does not have to be complicated Giving our kids space to share their perception of their body image, and let them explore these feelings  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful courage means taking the approach of curiosity and hope to create a beautiful experience for you and your family. It’s worth going out on a limb for.  Where to find Julie:– Love Your Bodcast Podcast - subscribe on iTunes and Stitcher Radiohttp://www.fitmomrevolution.com/Pinterest l Facebook l Twitter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Meet Carly Mentlik, tween whisperer. Carly’s vast education and experiences have led her to craft The Inner Rainbow Project. She coaches parents and caregivers “to help our tween daughters grow up to be the confident, emotionally healthy, self-aware women that they deserve to be”. Nine through pre-teen can be a very challenging time for parents and tweens to navigate. Carly’s passion and guiding light gives parents and caregivers the tools to help navigate this extremely important development phase with ample support. The world is changing faster and faster every day. We need our girls to have the confidence to speak their truth and live in their authenticity! Carly holds a Masters in Clinical Counseling, dual Bachelors in Special and Elementary Education all from NYU. She is a single mom, Yoga instructor and all around inspiration.What you’ll hear in this episode: Challenges tween girls navigate Elementary to Middle School transition. Importance of cultivating a strong foundation for girls at this developmental stage. How feelings and emotions are changing and affect your tween and their experience. Tools for helping your tween find self-awareness, acceptance and discovery in a safe and healthy environment. How to address body image and help tweens feel confidence and compassion in/for themselves. The importance of your tweens voice and how to support their expression. How to use creativity and have fun to build connection with your tween. Practical lessons and rituals that help both you and your tween put tools into daily practice. What you can expect from working with Carly. Special introduction to The Chakra Girls! What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Being a mom and being blessed to follow my passion, it is gratitude. It’s terrifying to embark on these things and you need that courage, but it’s with such joy because I am so grateful to have this opportunity to do this work.Where to find Carly:https://www.betterhelp.com/carly-mentlik/ https://www.innerrainbowproject.com/Facebook l Instagram l Pinterest Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Jenna Phillips Ballard, a certified personal trainer and life coach for celebrities, previously featured on Dr. Phil and The Doctors. She is on a mission to motivate and inspire leaders to make the world a better place through self-love.After waking up from a coma in the year 2000, she recovered from brain damage and learned about the power of self-love. Her commitment to recovery depended on how she felt about herself and she realized her purpose was to inspire others to break through their limiting beliefs and create an unforgettable life.She cofounded Ascension Leadership Academy with her husband and together they have coached hundreds of people into their greatness. She’s also the founder of Unicorn University, an online membership community where women never spend another day of being beige, broken or behaved.We are discussing emotional intelligence – reframing the stories we tell about the experiences in our life and engaging with our children. Join us!“I believe that being a parent, being a mom or a dad or a parental figure is the most important job in the entire world because of our world, our planet depends upon how our children today are going to take on that responsibility when they become adults. It’s incredibly important that people get the opportunity to look at their life through a different lens. You can’t change the past, but you can absolutely change the story you tell about your past and that’s how you can re-write history”What you’ll hear in this episode:·     Compassion as a mindset·     Finding the lesson, learning and opportunity in parenting struggles·     How Fear limits mindset and fulfillment·     Managing Fear and operating in its presence·     Finding our worthiness beneath all the preconceptions we have about ourselves·     Selfishness and setting examples for self care – modeling and cycle breaking·     How to shift your mindset around time, busyness and abundance – reframing how we see time and capacityRef·     Being an interruption to your own thought patterns that don’t move you forward·     How to be a “meaning making machine”·     Reframing typical mom complaints as invitations to conversation·     Reframing as a practice, shifting your mindset around abundance and asking for support to stretch your plate·     How to get out of your own wayResources:The Power of NowWhere to find Jenna:Website l Ascension Leadership Academy l (Ascension Facebook, Ascension instagram)Jenna’s FB Live every Thursday night at 7 PSTFacebook l Instagram l Twitter l Unicorn University  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SO EXCITED ABOUT THIS BONUS EPISODE!! Omg. I have been bugging my guests to come and talk to me since meeting them LAST May at the Mom 2.0 conference.Alicia Ybarbo and Mary Ann Zoellner are both producers at the Today Show, bestselling authors, and mamas to two kids. Their life is BUSY, and they find humor, compassion and forgiveness around every corner.They came on the show to talk about their book, Shitty Moms, and the sequel, Shitty Moms for All Seasons. Alicia and Mary Ann keep it real. Their honesty, insights, and willingness to laugh and say what so many of us only dare to think will hook you right from the start.Please listen in.Where to find Alicia and Maryann's books:Today's Moms: Essentials for Surviving Baby's First YearShitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of UsShitty Mom For All Seasons: Half Assing it All Year Long Where to find Shitty Mom:Shitty Mom on Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Janet Allison, a Waldorf teacher and family coach. We are discussing boys and how they learn. Join us!“Be aware of his need to move his body. It’s absolutely critical that he have some time before school to move his body.”What you’ll hear in this episode: ​​​​​​​ Gender-based differences in learning styles – the value of kinetic learning when teaching boys How modern teaching methods set our boys up to fail Maturity and developmental differences between genders Expulsion rates of boys vs girls in pre-k Impacts of the learning environment on boys’ self-esteem Optimal learning environments for boys Best age for starting school and the disconnect between intellectual and emotional development Managing expectations of practice vs. mastery Releasing physical energy to support emotional regulation Finding ways to accommodate “wriggly kids” in the classroom Building relationships with your son’s teacher – what questions to ask How to encourage independence and service to others Supporting your child in remembering things Relevance/meaning and learning by doing: educational approaches that work for boys The value of trades education The benefits of mentorship – how to find a mentor for your child and be intentional in your relationship building What does Joyful Courage mean to you?Joyful courage means being willing to step out of complacency, out of the box, and follow that inner voice that you have saying “Yes!” even when you are in doubt or fear say “Yes!” anyways and I strive to do this in everything I do is bring joy to it. Go to the grocery store and find some joy. I have a friend who buys flowers every Tuesday during her grocery shopping and her goal is to give those flowers away by the time she gets back to her house….Stepping out of our boxes and our little narrow lanes and our busy-ness or overwhelm in our own life but just stepping out a little bit to see there’s this world out there and what can I do to bring joy into the world – and we need it.For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Larissa Dann, a Parent Effectiveness Training (P.E.T.) trainer. We are discussing parenting without rewards and punishments. Join us! “Children don’t misbehave, they behave to meet a need.”What you’ll hear in this episode: Being assertive without alienating our children Using “I messages” to communicate needs Trusting our child’s desire to be helpful vs. presenting requests in a way that is prescriptive Using active listening to gain cooperation The limitations of contingent rewards The impact of rewards on motivation for cooperation – who are they cooperating for Omitting rewards to foster self-discipline and an inner locus of control Preparing children for adulthood by making them less dependent on the judgment of others Using relationship skills to help your child develop a moral compass The power of natural consequences in building resilience and developing internal judgments about right and wrong Trusting children to care and problem solve to find mutual solutions How children’s behavior is impacted by unmet needs Avoiding the temptation to attribute intent or take behavior personally The gift of imperfection and modeling accountability The benefit of modeling alternate skills to teach solutions instead of using punishments The impact we have on the world through our own parenting practices in the way we raise our kids Parenting as imparting soft skills Brainstorming solutions to discomfort when the activity is non-negotiable Creating routines and agreements, doing with vs doing to and communicating expectations in a way that is an invitation to relationship Conflict as competing needs Shifting language around what “works” to what is “helpful” – moving from control to partnership  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?This is what it takes to be a child growing up in an adult’s world and it’s something we so often forget. Children so often are powerless and it takes courage for them to say no when we are the huge person in their life and when they think they might get into trouble and yet they are the most joyful beings on the planet. In the face of the most dire situations, children can somehow find that spark of joy that they can bring out from terrible situations. As a parent, it takes the courage of conviction, to parent against the flow of accepted parenting opinion and practice and the joy comes when you see your children flower and grow sometimes despite your many mistakes.Resources: Parent Effectiveness TrainingWhere to find Larissa:Website l Facebook l Twitter l Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices