Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Rae McDaniel.Rae is a non-binary gender and sex therapist-turned-coach who works with transgender/non-binary/questioning folks feeling lost while transitioning their gender identity. They are the creator of GenderFck: The Club, a one-of-a-kind, research-based online group coaching community of transgender/non-binary/questioning folks who are on a mission to transition with less suffering and more ease. Rae is the founder of Practical Audacity, a gender and sex therapy practice in Chicago. They also provide training for medical and mental health professionals wishing to uplevel their knowledge in trans-affirming care. Rae holds a Master's of Education in community counseling.Takeaways from the show: Ray’s story Gender spectrum Expanding and exploring gender Deep dive into pronouns Gender shakes people’s fundamental ideas of the world How parents can support their kids coming out Gender dysphoria Tips for parents to support and accept their child in a scary world Safety within the trans/non binary world Celebrating gender expression The world needs people who are their most authentic selves For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Michele Borba.Dr. Borba is the author of Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World, and is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting, bullying, and character development. She is a regular NBC contributor who appears regularly on Today, and has been a featured expert on Dateline, the View, Dr Phil, NBC Nightly News, Fox and Friends, Dr. Oz, and the Early Show, among many others. She lives in Palm Springs California with her husband and is the mother of three growns sons.Dr. Borba was a guest wayyyy back in 2016 on the podcast, eps 46, and I am thrilled to have her back to talk about her NEW book: Thrivers: the surprising Reasons why some kids struggle and others shine.Takeaways from the show: Nature vs nurture Addressing parenting guilt Helping your teens find coping skills Resilience skills Mental health always comes first Using the “too” phrase to check in on your kids Hitting the covid wall Kids need hobbies Reengaging with your teens What does Joyful Courage mean to you?It means having that brave, brave inner sense to go for it. As soon as I do it I get so excited with myself because it’s like as soon as I get to the other side, there is joy. I love that term.Where to find Dr. Michele Borba: Thrivers the book | Twitter | InstagramSee you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s show should have been a solo show BUT I had the amazing opportunity to be a part of a book launch event last week, and was interviewed by Mindy Duff - one of the authors of the new book, Motherhood diaries. We had such a good time during the interview that I asked Mindy if she would share it with me so that I could turn it into a podcast! Mindy Duff is a certified holistic health and nutrition coach, speaker and published author. Her mission is to help individuals uncover their best selves through the power of nutrition, self care and self love. Takeaways from the show: Evolution is endless The gifts of hard situations Practicing not taking it personal Navigating the teen world Holding space for self-expression How we are holding learning and public education What self care looks like Your kids are NOT a projection of you Important things to remember when parenting teens Relationship is always first  See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alyssa “Twist” Light is a professional speaker who helps businesses grow by utilizing the power of storytelling in every aspect of their operations, especially marketing. Twist believes it’s her responsibility to make event planners look like superheroes and the attendees feel like rockstars. Despite not having her own children, Twist happens to have fostered children, loves to be a field trip “mom” for local schools, and was the executive director of a camp that supported more than 400 underprivileged / at-risk kids. She believes that the toughest moments are the biggest learning opportunities, especially for teens.  Takeaways from the show: Fostering and mentoring teens Being open to the foster system Love doesn’t cure everything Having difficult, deep conversations can be impactful Support systems Tip of the iceberg Asking for help How kids change in the environment they’re in Reminding your partner you’re on the same team Meet kids where they’re at, not where you want them to be Being a parent Having healthy adults for kids to open up to Being unconditional and non judgemental  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

::::This week’s episode is a solo show!Takeaways from the show: Grounding meditation Awareness of what’s happening in the world Ways to support dismantling systemic racism Support your kids on how to make a difference Living in an anti-racist society Armoured vs. daring parenting Parenting from the heart See you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Dr. Aprile Andelle!Dr. Andelle is a black woman licensed psychotherapist with over 9 years and 10,000+ hours of experience in "deep dive healing" work with amazing clients all around the world. She hosts the ‘Do I Need Therapy™? Podcast Show available on Apple and Google Podcasts, Spotify, and Stitcher, and speaks to her community openly, loudly, and proudly about mental health, love and life, PLUS the process of therapy, and the strength found in asking for help. She teaches amazing, highly ambitious women, and women of color, the skills of *long-lasting* positive mental health in overcoming stress, overwhelm, anxiety, depression, and trauma, including her "Every April" psychological spring cleaning course offered every springtime, in April to support the fierce, yet sensitive woman achieve positive mental health all year long. She specializes in online and virtual therapy and offers mental wellness support for all through her mental health masterclasses, courses, and meditations.She is a world traveler currently based in Miami, loves all things declutter and minimal lifestyle---except plants… She says, "you can never have too many plants and green stuff" --- is described as "that unique kind of person who makes lifelong friends in 24 hours or less", and can often be found on Instagram watching endless reels of laugh-out-loud, therapy memes and reenactments or enjoying a "deep, campfire-style" conversation on Clubhouse.Takeaways from the show: Aprile’s journey to becoming a therapist Psychological cleaning program Maintaining a positive, steady state of mental health Feelings are temporary Think before you speak Responsive vs. reactive Inner voice Being inside of possibility vs. drowning in uncertainty 3 steps of psychological spring cleaning Vulnerability is what makes you brave Marie Kondo your mind Recommit to your goals For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week is a solo show!Takeaways from the show: Mistaken goals Belonging and significance feelings live under the surface Learn to pay attention to your inner experience Review of undue attention, misguided power, and revenge Assumed inadequacy Belief behind inadequacy Teens long for connection Ways to restore your child’s adequacy Being vulnerable pays off Take time to own your behavior with your child Previous shows about mistaken goals:Eps 261 | Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Eps 267 | Mistaken Goal ChartSee you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guests today are Ted Bunch and Anna Marie Johnson Teague.  Ted and Anna Marie are friends, parents, and anti-violence educators. They work for A Call to Men, helping men and boys promote healthy manhood and prevent violence and discrimination.  Ted works with professional athletes, business leaders, activists, and boys just like the ones you have.  Anna Marie is a storyteller at heart and a devoted boy mom. She is nationally recognized for creating and executing award-winning, multi-platform campaigns to advance critical social issues like improving education and ending violence against women. Takeaways from the show: Prevention of violence and discrimination against women and girls How the book of dares are changing people’s lives Making an effort to talk about emotions with your boys Socialization of masculinity Being vulnerable is a strength How to support the men and boys in your life Messages men are getting from society Peer influence in middle school Developing a critical lens on how women are treated What healthy manhood looks like The danger women/people are in because of the ways we are raising our boys Treat your kids like an adult Having conversations with your boys that aren’t always in your face Raise boys to value girl’s experiences just as much as they value their own Where to find Ted and Anna Marie: The Book of Dares | Website | FaceBook | Twitter | Instagram | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is a solo show!Takeaways from the show: Beliefs about belonging and significance Overview of mistaken goals Third mistaken goal: Revenge Tune into your experience as a parent Signs your child’s mistaken goal is revenge How adults contribute to our child’s belief of not belonging The coded message behind revenge Uncertainty of the world right now playing a part in our kid’s lives Revenge isn’t lashing out, it's passing on the hurt Tools to support you and your child in their mistaken goals Your job as parents to make your kids feel like they belong Let your child know you see them Eps 263 | Eps 265 | Mistaken Goal ChartSee you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jud Brewer.Dr. Jud is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the “science of self-mastery”, having combined over 20 years of experience with mindfulness training with his scientific research therein. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in Behavioral and Social Sciences and Psychiatry at the Schools of Public Health & Medicine at Brown University. He is also the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare Inc. and a research affiliate at MIT.A psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for addictions, Brewer has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety.Takeaways from the show: Jud’s journey with anxiety Number needed to treat Where anxiety comes from Why anxiety has increased in the past year Tools to help parents stay calm The benefits of mapping habit loops How our brains are wired for reward value The power of fear and worry in parents Becoming disenchanted by your behaviors Bigger better offer The reward value of worrying vs. being curious Mindfulness of emotions Cause and effect relationship For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices