Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Amy Lang from the Sex Ed for Parents of Teens Mini Summit in the spring of 2020.Amy has been a guest on the podcast and is a super great friend of mine. She is my go to person when I have questions about my teen’s sexual development.Amy has been a sex health educator for over 20 years and helps parents of all beliefs talk with their kids of any age about the birds and bees. She is the author of an award-winning book, Birds and Bees and your kids- a guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love, and relationship. As well as Dating Smarts- what every teen needs to know to date, relate, or wait. Takeaways from the show Family values Your kids are going to have sex The importance of communication with your teens Sex safety Stop filtering for your kids Broader ways of looking at sexuality Have conversations about values Don’t be afraid to prepare before a conversation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. Dr. Lockhart is a pediatric psychologist and board-certified in clinical child and adolescent psychology. You may know her from her amazing content and reels she puts out daily on Instagram.Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart is passionate about serving families in her local community in the state of Texas and beyond. Takeaways from the show: How ADHD shows up in the teen years ADHD in boys vs. girls Rejection sensitive dysphoria Diagnosis of ADHD Task initiation Choose the relationship with your teen Openings for talking about tools and strategies For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show! Takeaways from the show The adventure of parenting teens Brain development in teen years Private logic Nurturing teen relationships Influence around how we show up for our kids Fiercely committed, lovingly detached Looking for solutions Communicate with your child Privilege and responsibility The importance of individuation For more show notes, including full transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Liza Blas.Lisa is the host of the Very Happy Stories podcast. She brings hope, empowerment, and inspiration to her audience by shining light on complex topics impacting many families today. Liza’s stories are inspired by her own experiences raising two kids, both suffering from conditions like depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD and even Lyme disease. Takeaways from the show: Liza’s family story of Lyme disease Struggles of your kids get you where you need to be Being in difficult times with peace and acceptance Speaking to acceptance Ways to use gratitude Forgiveness Self care as a non-negotiable For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Sarah MacLaughlin. Sarah is a social worker, parent educator, and author of the award winning best-selling book: What Not to Say: Tools for Talking with Young Children.She is a writer, trainer, and content expert for Zero to Three, a national nonprofit dedicated to ensuring that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life. Sarah maintains a blog, writes the parenting toolbox column for Portland Main’s Parent and Family, and has been featured many places online including the Huffington Post and this podcast: eps 30 & eps 52 Her latest book is called Raising Humans with Heart and is an invaluable resource for moms, dads, and caregivers everywhere. Takeaways from the show: Sarah’s new book Getting curious about behavior Parenting manual we all have Trusting maturity will come around Mistakes are the primary learning tool for humans Stay current with your own emotional process Fiercely committed and lovingly detached  Being supportive without being suffocating Separating our regrets from our kid’s lives You have control over the narrative Willingness vs. willfulness  Conflict is a relationship builder For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show!Takeaways from the show: PNW heatwave Moving into July Unsettled energy Feelings around covid regulations being lifted Stress with going back to normal 4 questions to support in creating the experience you want Creating ease For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Leslie Priscilla. Leslie is a first generation non-Black Chicana mother to three biracial children ages 8, 3, and 2.She is a descendant of Indigenous Tarahumara Rarámuri and Spanish lineages who has resided on occupied Tongva (ton-va) and Acjachemen (hash-i-men) land, also known as Orange County, CA, all of her life.Leslie shares her medicine by offering coaching, workshops, support and advocacy for Latinx/Chicanx families locally, nationally, and internationally both in-person and online via the Latinx Parenting organization.Formerly an early childhood teacher and 1:1 behavioral coach, Leslie has worked with children and families for over 13 years. She has a dual degree in Child Development & Family Studies as well as Family Life Education from CSULB, and attended the Masters in Social Work program at Cal State Fullerton before pausing to focus on her babies and the Latinx Parenting movement.Leslie is trained as a facilitator in various parent education curricula including Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Parenting, Positive Discipline, Supporting Fatherhood Involvement (SFI), Community Parent Education (C.O.P.E) and others. She has facilitated groups in both Spanish and English for hundreds of parents in schools, transitional homes, teen shelters, drug rehabilitation centers, and family resource centers throughout Orange County, CA.Over the years, Leslie has long worked within mental health agencies in positions serving as Interim Director of Parent Education for the Child Abuse Prevention Center in Orange County, Youth & Professional Programs Manager for NAMI Orange County, and as a Consultant for the Dads Matter Program of Children's Bureau.Takeaways from the show: La chancla culture History of oppression showing up in parenting Treating children with the same respect as adults How conditioning shows up in parenting Parenting for the long term Awareness in your relationship with your children Decolonization Patriarchal value in latinx culture Dealing with negative opinions on Instagram Respect is valuable You cannot parent your children without reparenting yourself For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s episode is a SOLO show!Takeaways from the show Making agreements with your kids Creating a win win Brainstorming solutions that are related, reasonable, respectful, and HELPFUL Keeping things simple and concise Iceberg metaphor Handling peer pressure Letting go of your kids having the same priorities as you Reign in your criticism Take a break when things get heated For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Jessica Lahey.Jessica is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed and The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. Over twenty years, Jess has taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools, and spent five years teaching in a drug and alcohol rehab for adolescents in Vermont. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, New York Times, and The Atlantic, is a book critic for Air Mail, and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ award-winning The Stinky and Dirty Show. She co-hosts the #AmWriting podcast with bestselling authors K.J. Dell’Antonia and Sarina Bowen from her house in Vermont, where she lives with her husband, two sons and a lot of dogs.Takeaways from the show Secrecy and shame around substance abuse Jessica’s story The process of recovery The normalization of adult drinking Pluralistic ignorance Authoritative parenting Knowledge about raising kids and substances Teaching kids why they shouldn’t be using substances Knowing risk factors of substance abuse can help you protect your kids Understanding the teen brain Scripts to give your kids to get out of situations Relationship matters For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s podcast is a SOLO show!!Takeaways from the show: Life updates The power of the tension of life Getting out of the way so your kids can feel the tension of life Pushback against traditional education Get curious about what’s important to your kids Being an unconditional parent Kids who have the opportunity to decide for themselves are the kids that thrive Teens need to have space to feel out what they want Resources:Dr. Hina Talib | Brave New World Summit See you next week!! :):::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices