Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

This week’s episode was a solo show!!Takeaways from the show: The emotional experience of this past week Hope trust and gratitude Willingness to try something different Choosing to be your best self What it means to have hope Believing you can have what you want Embodying your beliefs Being intentional with your thoughts Manifesting what you want in life Right now is the time to feel connected Changing your inner dialogue so it aligns with what you want Our kids always long for belonging and significance Trusting the process Keeping the faith Being grateful for the challenges in 2020 Focusing on the good coming out of your struggles There is more than one path and narrative your teens will go on For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I am so excited to welcome my guest, Maureen Muldoon.Maureen is a a spiritual Pied Piper, shameless storyteller and speaker who is transforming the way people think of church, sex, spirituality, and creativity. Actress, author, activist, she celebrates the miracles that live beneath the mundane and is devoted to helping others to CREATE their most engaged and unapologetic life. Today we are going to talk about her experience of mothering a transgender son.Takeaways from the show: Raising a transgender child Coping with society’s opinions  A parent’s role in understanding  How acceptance changes your child Kids wanting to be acknowledged for how they seem themselves Self expression Sitting with the suicide rate as a mom of a transgender son Finding a greater peace of mind Letting go of deciding what identifiers you bring forth in your children Becoming aware of the ways you tell your narrative  Things parents without transgender kids don’t understand Being gentle to parents who don’t understand so they can be gentle to your child out in the world Keeping an open mind and an open space to listen to your child How you can be more supportive of families with transgender kids See you next week! :)Find Maureen:Website | SpeakEasy CommunityWhat does joyful courage mean to you?Joyful courage means innocence, where everyone's innocent. No one's guilty. Everyone's allowed to take up as much space as possible.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s podcast is a solo show!!Takeaways from the show: What is a trigger How our histories determine different triggers  Dealing with situations that trigger you Making it right after you get upset Breaking down what it feels like to get triggered Willingness to reflect on your own emotions  Being a good role model for handling emotions to your kids Teen’s moods affecting our own How our teens trigger us like no other Recognizing your experience  The importance of connecting with your kids Having compassion and curiosity while in conversation How crucial it is to stay nonjudgemental  See you next week! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bellamy Shoffner is a single parent, writer, and equity advocate specializing in fostering thoughtful connection and conversation among communities. Shoffner’s Revolutionary Humans produces a magazine, retreats, and free community events. All for parents and educators committed to social justice.This past summer the Joyful Courage community raised $800 in support of Bellamy and her work – I am so honored for the chance to connect with her here on the podcast.Takeaways from the show Social justice Passive reading vs. retaining the information Hold the Line magazine Teaching our kids to be accepting of each other's differences Creating a world where kids can are out of harm’s way based on any part of their identity Acceptance vs tolerance Challenges of being a single parent  How outside help isn’t always appreciated Teasing apart tokenization Putting in the work to understand social justice Key things parents can do to fold racial awareness into parenting their kids Taking people as they are and see what happens Having relationship with vulnerability Dealing with people who have opposing views  Find Bellamy:Website | Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show!!Takeaways from the show Self care matters Surrendering to the things you can’t control How letting go can change your experience The healing of meditation Being in the present moment Anchoring yourself while also being on the edge of your vulnerability Facing the unknown and creating a sense of security Human tendencies getting in the way of being okay with fear Possibilities of the unknown How narratives can be confining Control is an illusion Being with the fact that the future is uncertain The present moment is the only place where change happens Creating a practice of returning to presence Unconsciousness vs. consciousness See you next week! :)For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Connie Fuetz is a clinician with over 35 years of clinical experience who specializes in working with couples and is one of the six original Master Clinicians invited into the Gottman Institute in 2000, John Gottman has called Connie "an extraordinarily-gifted couples counselor" to whom he would send his own family.  After leading the two-day Art and Science of Love workshops in Chicago for years, Connie created her own one-day workshop for couples called the Mindful Couples Workshop, which she led for years in Bellingham WA and Victoria BC. She has expanded that course into a 5-week online course for couples, called A Mindful Love Course. A couple's workshop you can do from the comfort of your own home.Connie feels blessed and honoured in her work alongside couples. A resident of the Northwest for 35 years, she lives in gorgeous Bellingham WA with her family. Takeaways from the show: The depth of couples therapy can be challenging and profound Both parties are responsible for change in therapy Focusing on your relationship with your partner will help your teen Why mindfulness is so important in our intimate relationships Tools to help you choose in to your partner How marathon intensive therapy is helpful Not engaging when flooding Naming the negative interactive cycle that happens when we’re in distress Prompting a healing conversation Having humility and vulnerability in conversations with your partner Making sure the message of love gets through How the pandemic has been causing stress in households Dealing with perpetual issues in a different way because of COVID Setting the context for the spirit of intention How dedicating little bits of time to your relationship will keep it alive Switching from a business type of relationship to a romantic one Using persuasion in a safe way The importance of being on equal ground with your partner Learning your partner’s love language For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show!Takeaways from the show Thoughts about the Social Dilemma movie How big social media platforms are using the users Our attention is the product online Conversation starters around screen use Creating an environment where checking in is a normal thing What to expect from the screens and teens summit The mixed feelings around social media Juggling the things life throws at us How do we make room to fall apart Crying releases stress The trauma of the pandemic Having compassion for your teens All problems are relative, no matter how “small” Giving yourself space to grieve and release energy Taking time to care for yourself In order to change your experience, you have to recognize what’s happening The normality of struggle right now Recognize your wallowing  Being in the practice of moving forward See you next week!For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ned Johnson is president & founder PrepMatters, an educational company providing academic tutoring, educational planning, and standardized test preparation.A battle-tested veteran in the fields of test preparation, anxiety management, and student performance, Ned has been a professional “tutor-geek” since 1993, with more than 40,000 one-on-one hours helping students conquer an alphabet of standardized tests and reach their full potential.In 2018, Ned co-authored, With Dr. William Stixrude, The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives. Their book explores how fostering children’s autonomy can help solve two challenges endemic to kids today: facing anxiety and developing intrinsic motivation. Ned is a sought-after speaker and teen coach on study skills, sleep deprivation, parent-teen dynamics, and test anxiety, and his work is featured in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, BBC, and many others.Takeaways from the show Supporting our kids in stepping into their autonomy How to let go of control and have faith our teens know what to do Teaching your kids to be resilient and able to tolerate stress Leading your kids to intrinsic motivation What is a healthy sense of control The brain’s experience with stress Releasing the expectation of competency all the time How autonomy looks in a pandemic Alternate routes of education How passionately pursuing pastimes is most major contributor to intrinsic motivation Being sympathetic to our kids and ourselves The time it takes teen’s brains to fully develop varys Going through hard things gives us strength The teenage experience overlapping with the pandemic Teens crave relatedness Connect with your kids through what they love Reminding yourself as a parent, your job isn’t to make your kids care Having sympathetic conversations with your kids Being able to just be with our kids when they’re having a hard time For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show straight from my journal!Thank you to the patrons who were watching the livestream with me - I love speaking to a live audience!Takeaways from the show: Our experiences with the state of the world Thoughts from Casey’s journal Personal transformations through the world’s disarray  Choosing self time when you’re moody What you’re feeling now is valid and you have a choice to how you show up with it Being worried about the future because kids don’t have as much motivation for school Shifting your mindset when worry shows up How traditional schooling can change False illusions that you can plan your child’s future Conversations around nurturing motivation How we respond to events and experiences in our life is the only thing we have control over The divine nature of the parent-child relationship  Spirituality fitting into the parenting conversation Life is happening for you Considering the human you are continuing to become Internal experiences can influence the outside experience Our soul is calling for growth Trying on the lens of self-reflection  For more shownotes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Michelle Bowen is a parent empowerment coach, entrepreneur and mother to a child who she gave birth to at the early stages of her awakening. The only way for Michelle to continue to further expand in her awakening was to utilize her relationship with her child. Your Child is Your Guide was birthed from her own process with her child that brought about an enormous transformation in her own life. In her practice, she specializes in guiding you to the realization of the divinity of your child and your relationship with them which initiates a level of accountability that aids in the acceleration of both your healing and actualization. Michelle learned that her child was her guide and provides you with guidance and applicable practices that allow you to see the same. The courses created by Michelle along with her other offerings show you how to achieve the actualization of the unconditionally loving relationship you want with your children. Michelle's story of coming into motherhood Spiritual teachers that influenced Michelle How her baby brought up places for Michelle to grow Michelle explains what “being awakened” means to her Learning how to unconditionally love ourselves as we parent our children How our relationships with our children are divine “co-creations” How parenthood highlights our conditioning The difference between resistance vs being open to learning about yourself on the parenting journey The messiness of the practice Trying something new can feel uncomfortable and awkward  Shifting from our children’s behavior triggering us to our children’s behavior triggers our CONDITIONING and places we still have yet to heal Michelle talks a bit about current racial unrest and her experience of being raised by immigrant parents The message of unity Speaking up speaking out even when it is uncomfortable For more shownotes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices