Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

My guest today is Jayson Gaddis.Jayson is an author, a relationship coach, a relationship expert who teaches people the one class they didn’t get in school, which is how to do relationships. Jayson leads one of the most in-depth and comprehensive relationship education programs and trains relationship coaches all over the world. He has thousands of fans and followers across multiple channels and is the host of the Relationship School podcast with over 5 million downloads and over 330 episodes.He is the visionary behind The Relationship School. His first book, Getting to Zero, will be out in October.Takeaways from the show: Jayson’s story The inspiration for Getting to Zero High stakes relationships 4 categories conflicts that come up in relationships “Standing for 3” Having control over your expectations Being willing vs willful Becoming a deeper human What “getting to zero” means The relational blueprint Broadening your perspective Making a safe space at home What does Joyful Courage mean to you?I picture myself being more upright and expanding my chest to meet all the challenges of my life. That feels like a really good feeling in my body right now and a good inspiration for meWhere to find Jayson:Book: Getting to zero | Instagram | Podcast | Website  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

COMMUNITY IS EVERYTHING!Join the Joyful Courage Tribe in our community Facebook groups: Live and Love with Joyful CourageJoyful Courage for Parents of Teens::::My guest today is Alana Carvalho.Alana is a licensed mental health counselor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns and becoming more authentic.  She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life. Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island. Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting is now available on amazon.com. Alana maintains her private practice in Midtown Manhattan and is currently seeing clients virtually. You can connect with her through her website, Instagram, podcast or you can email her at alana@alanacarvalho.comTakeaways from the show: Alana’s story Codependency in the context of parenting Developing community outside of family members Being supportive vs controlling Creating a safe space for your kids Validation and support coming into play Empowering your children by asking if they want your help Being in relationship with kids who are in resistance Example moving through hard things for your child How you respond is where your influence lies Building resilience What does Joyful Courage mean to you?For me it’s exactly what we’re talking about. It’s pushing yourself to grow in these uncomfortable ways and doing it knowing that’s what brings joy into life and relationships, by pushing out of your comfort zone and taking a look at yourself.Where to find Alana: Instagram | Book | WebsiteSee you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a live coaching session!Takeaways from the show: Challenges in the sibling dynamic Owning your peace Learning about relationships Remembering our kids are still developing their skills Flexing resiliency muscles during conflict Belonging and significance Becoming more secure in relationships = more easy going Practice asking if your kids need help Highlight tools your kids use in the heat of the moment What does Joyful Courage mean to you?(Giselle) Joyful courage is riding out the journey, being open to the ups and downs and understanding that there is a meaning to everything that happens to us. Only when we show up and we lean into those challenges is where we become courageous.See you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s guest is DJ Johnson. DeAntwann “DJ” Johnson is a husband, father, author, mentor, coach, counselor, and sports statistician. He grew up in the Indiana foster care system and yet despite that, has gone on to lead a successful, and fulfilling life. Before spending nine years in the foster care system, DJ suffered child abuse, domestic abuse, and emotional trauma. At one point, he wanted to end his life, but he realized that he was on this earth for a purpose.DJ fulfills that purpose by using his experiences not only to help establish relationships with the students he serves, but he helps parents better connect with their teenagers. DJ specializes in helping parents bridge the communication gap between them and their child to ensure that their child has room to be the best versions of themselves.Takeaways from the show DJ’s story Adverse childhood experience Using your experience to help others Old school parenting way going out the window Getting the hang of the new school parenting Balancing being kind and firm Different parenting styles fit different children Foundation of respect and dignity with your kids Conditioning coming to the surface Let teens learn through experiences Repairing relationships For more show notes, including transcripts, visit our website here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a SOLO show!!Takeaways from the show: Parenting group School trouble The uncertainty of COVID Feeling powerless Questioning traditional school system Emotional honesty Getting to the root of your fears Getting curious with your kids Notice when you become dysregulated You get to set boundaries Letting your kids feel the tension of life Love, accept, and be available Eps 242 with Ned Johnson | Eps 21 with Jessica LaheySee you next week!! :) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest this week is Julia Glowinski. Julia is a registered social worker, a certified sleep consultant, and a cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia clinician. She’s an expert in all things related to sleep and how to achieve optimal sleep. Julia is passionate about working with individuals and families experiencing sleep difficulties. Her focus is on building a strong foundation for healthy sleep to promote long lasting sleep improvements.Julia uses an integrative approach to uncovering the many factors that affect sleep quality. This includes paying close attention to emotional well being, diet, physical activity, sleep hygiene, stress and overall mental health.As the relationship between mental health and sleep is significant, Julia’s strategies incorporate mindfulness and relaxation techniques to help quiet the mind.Takeaways from the show: Julia’s journey of becoming a sleep specialist Sleep quality affecting mental health Healthy sleep analytics Sleep science in the adolescent brain Circadian rhythms Challenges of getting good sleep The root of sleep deprivation Routines before bed Strategies for getting optimal sleep Healthy screen habits during the pandemic Resources from Julia:Website | Clinic | Instagram  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Parenting for The Season You’re InParenting for The Season You’re In is a program for parents who are looking for deeper understanding of the challenges they are facing, how they may be contributing to the challenges, and tools and strategies for not only problem solving, but also experiencing more joy on the parenting journey. It’s a funky season of parenting. You may be still anticipating the change you know is coming in your child, or perhaps you are witnessing it, and at a loss for how to be there in a way that is helpful and forwarding.Screen time drama takes on a new intensity, peer influence increases, the mood swings that show up when our kids are trying to figure out who it is they are…. Everything is SUCH A BIG DEAL.And we are on the sidelines, unsure of what boundaries to hold - when to be flexible, when to be firm…. Feeling so connected and confident one minute, only to spiral into worries and “what ifs” the next.Sign up now at www.joyfulcourage.com/seasonsThe six sessions start Thursday, September 23rd and run Thursdays for 6 weeks from 5:30-7:30pm PDT:::::The Book, The CoachingJoyful Courage is so much more than a podcast! I know that you love listening every week AND I want to encourage you to dig deeper into the learning with me, INVEST in your parenting journey.READ THE BOOK - Joyful Courage, Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey is all about how to show up as a Joyful Courage parent so that you have better access to the tools you need in hot parenting moments – tools that are helpful and maintain connection with your child. Available both in book and audio book form → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/bookCONSIDER ONE ON ONE COACHING - The most POWERFUL of investments offered by Joyful Courage, one on one coaching allows for parents to really tease apart the current issues they are having with their child, while also developing a clear compass for guiding them in the direction they want to be going in. Coaching happens every other week, and is open for parents with kids 4 years old through the teen years. Go to my coaching page to book a free exploratory call and see if we are the right fit. → http://www.joyfulcourage.com/jccoaching::::: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Traci Baxley from the Parenting for a Brave New World Mini Summit that went live January of 2021.Dr. Baxley is a mother, cultural coach for parents, she’s a speaker, an educator, and a diversity inclusion and equity consultant. She is passionate about supporting families with intentional parenting.Traci is the founder of Social Justice Parenting, a philosophy that is rooted in radical love and activism. In her work with parents, Dr. Baxley discusses new ideas in parenting for our current social climate that moves families away from fear-based parenting styles.  Social Justice Parenting guides parents in raising independent, compassionate, and socially conscious children.Takeaways from the show: Belonging advocate Social justice parenting Breaking down anti-racism Performative social justice vs. active social justice ROCKS acronym Sitting with being uncomfortable Start at home Normalize black excellence Looking at privilege from multiple identities Radical love Seeing humanness in others Resources from Traci: Social Justice Parenting TedX | Instagram | Website | LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Dr. Elizabeth Milovidov from the Teens and Screens Mini Summit that went live in the fall of 2020.Dr. Milovidov is an internationally known digital parenting coach, author, lawyer, and law professor.She is the founder of DigitalParentingCoach.com and provides information and support to caregivers, parents, and anyone who is looking for the best practices when it comes to social media, internet laws, and the internet at large.Elizabeth’s publications include: The Parent’s Guide to Parenting in the Digital Age, The Parent’s Guide to Youtube and Youtube Kids, and The Parent’s Guide to Digital Detox and Disconnect.Takeaways from the show: Elizabeth’s story Recommendations for screen time App limits Mistakes parents make with phones Children’s right to privacy Parenting common sense Curiosity is natural Handling uncomfortable conversations Family media agreements Privilege without responsibility is entitlement  Cyberbullying Resources from Elizabeth:CyberBully Research Center | FaceBook Group | Website  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I am revisiting my conversation with Alyson Schafer from the Risky Behavior and Teens Mini Summit that went live in the summer of 2020.Alyson is one of Canada’s most notable parenting experts. She’s a family counselor with a private practice in Toronto and has presented to audiences all around the world. She has regular media sports, is the author of three best selling books; Breaking the Good Mom Myth, Honey I Wrecked the Kids, and Ain’t Misbehavin’. All three of these books have been translated to multiple languages.Alyson recently launched a podcast called Parenting the Adlerian Way, which you can find on most major podcast platforms.Takeaways from the show: Fear around risky behaviors Framework for the teen years Children’s behavior doesn’t reflect how you’re doing as a parent Holding a safe place for mistakes Non-attachment to outcome Allowing teens to have compassion for our experience Acknowledge your kids might need space from you How risky behavior looks in boys vs girls Letting go of the reins Winning cooperation vs forcing compliance Motivational interviewing Resources from Alyson: Brainstorm by Dan Siegel | Website | Podcast | Instagram | FaceBook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices